4 More Tips on How to Deal With a Breakup

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                                     I've just gone through a really painful breakup
                                     and I don't know what to do. I feel like the
                                     pain will never go away and that I'll never be
                                     loved by anyone the same way again. Will I
                                     ever get through this and if so how?


In my last article, I outlined 4 simple ways for reducing the pain after a breakup. In
this article, I'm going to give you 4 more tools you can use to help you get over a
breakup and put the pieces of your life back together when you feel like you just
can't get over the hump.

I think it's fair to say that unless you've met your soul mate, you've probably
experienced the heartbreak that comes when a relationship ends. So as promised,
here are 4 things you can do to get over the pain and anguish of a breakup:

1) Go easy on yourself

There’s no doubt you're feeling down in the dumps about your relationship and
they way it ended. But just because you're feeling down, doesn't mean you need
to stay there forever. Someone who loves you for who you are could be just
around the corner. So cut yourself some slack after a breakup. Go out and do
those things that you wanted to do but your ex didn't. Go out and see a movie
with friends or go to the gym and start working out. Grab some friends and head
out for the evening. But do something productive that takes your mind off your
past relationship.

2) Don't be desperate:

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Desperation is not attractive to anyone at anytime, so steer clear of it. If your
main goal is to get back with your ex, then you need to show them that the one
thing in their life that's missing is you. Keep your chin up and your spirits high,
because if you're miserable, your ex won't want any part of it.

The reality is your ex wants the person they originally fell in love with. So even
though you're feeling miserable inside, you need to put your best foot forward
whenever you're in public, because perception is everything. Don't go out looking
like a slob. Instead, dress nicely in a way that flatters your body and gets you

Also, don't forget to plaster a huge smile across your face. Even though the pain
you're going through is unbearable right now, try your best not to let it show
because you never know when you're going to run into your ex or a mutual
friend. So be happy on the outside, even if you're not totally happy on the inside.
After you've put on a brave front for the public you can let yourself go when
you're at home alone in your room.

3) Keep living your life:

It's ok to let your emotions out when you're in private, but don't let it consume
your life. Feeling miserable after a breakup is normal, but try not to let it linger or
you'll just end up feeling worse and you'll delay your recovery process even
further. You've got a life to live so get out there and do something fun. You might
have to fake it for the first little while, but as you get out more and experience
more things with more people you'll soon find that you're enjoying yourself and
having fun again.

4) Don't over analyze your past relationship:

It's always a good thing when we learn from our mistakes so take this time to
analyze the relationship, but don't overdo it. Since you're broken up now, it

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doesn't really matter why it happened or who ended things, but you still need to
take into account the role you played.

You can't change your ex or what happened, so use this time to work on yourself
as a person so that when your ex calls you and wants to meet again you're ready.
Don't be hostile during the meeting, instead, be polite and listen to what they
have to say. If they want you back, you'll know. But don't rush into anything,
instead, take it nice and slow.

But what if I ended the relationship? What do I do?

If you ended the relationship with your ex but you now realize that it was a
mistake, take this opportunity and tell them. You may be scared and think they'll
reject you, but more often than not the opposite is true. Chances are they miss
you too but are too nervous to say anything. Also, they're not mind readers so
unless you tell them what you want, you'll never get the results you want.

The Bottom Line

Men and women see relationships differently and it's these differences that
sometimes cause us to get it wrong. Sometimes it takes distance and time to
realize that what we had was really great and true love.

These 4 tips on how to deal with a breakup can help get you out of your post-
breakup slump but they’re only the beginning. There’s a lot more you need to do
if you want to get over the heartbreak of a relationship so if you’re ready to take
the next step and move on with your life, check out the most comprehensive
relationship guide online here which has helped over 50,000 couples heal after a

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