4 Easy Strategies to Ease the Pain of a Breakup

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					    4 Easy Strategies to Ease the Pain of a Breakup

                                              My ex and I recently broke up and I'm in a lot of
                                              emotional pain right now. How can I ease the pain
                                              that's tearing me apart from the inside?


                                              Going through a breakup is never easy especially if
                                              you've been together for a while and invested lots of
                                              emotional time and energy into the relationship.

Sadly, most people around you won't really know what to say to ease your pain so they'll say
something like:" there are plenty of fish in the sea." But why does it seem that everybody feels
the need to share that old saying with you after you have ended a relationship? I know it's their
way of easing the pain of a breakup and while it may be true, it never has the desired effect.

Now despite what your family and friends say about your relationship status, there are some
things you can do to brighten your day and move forward with your life.

But before you move on, I think that it's important to address some of the feelings that you’re
experiencing right now. Don't kid yourself. After a split, feelings get hurt, tears flow, anger
surges through us and the thought of ever being loved like that again seems like it will never
happen again in our lifetime.

The reason that I feel it's important to identify your emotions at this point after a break up is
because it's completely normal to feel sad, angry or hurt. So if you're feeling this way, it's not
that you're nuts and off your rocker, it's because your human and it's natural to love and want to
be loved.

Is Time The Only Thing That Heals The Pain After A Breakup?

Aside from time, the main thing that will help you heal from the pain and hurt of a breakup is to
accept the situation for what it is, even if you don't like it. After you've accepted the situation,
easing the pain of a break up becomes a lot easier.

But don't get your hopes up right away when it comes to accepting the break up. The truth is it
may take some time before you accept things for what they are, so give yourself some time
when it comes to this stage of the break up.

In the meantime, here are 4 things you can do to help ease the pain of a break up.

1. Get a life. Shutting yourself out from the rest of the world is one of the worst things that you
can do when it comes to dealing with a break up. Now don't misunderstand me here, I'm not
saying that it's not alright to be alone and take some time for yourself. If you need to take some
time to collect your thoughts and mourn the relationship that's fine, but don't overdo it.

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Get out and do something that takes your mind off your troubles, but start out small. Avoid going
to any of the old hangouts that you and your ex frequented as this will only cause you more pain
and heartache. Instead, get out there and do things that bring you joy and make you happy.

2. Keep busy. Don't totally ignore your feelings after the break up. That's not fair to you and it
will damage the healing process. But don't dwell on it either because that will do just as much
damage if not more.

This is the perfect time to pick up a new hobby or get back into doing something that you love.
Go to the gym or go out with friends. Do something that boosts your confidence and gets you
out there. Also, don't shut the door to meeting new people and experiencing new things if the
opportunity arises.

3. Laugh. It might seem like a totally impossible task right now, but allow yourself to laugh with
your family and friends. Laughter releases 'happy' chemicals from your brain which makes you
feel good. These are the same chemicals that get released whenever you exercise or do
something that releases stress from your life.

So naturally the more you laugh, the better you will feel. Easing the pain of a breakup is never a
simple thing to do, but if you can smile and laugh you are well on the way to better days.

4. Reach out. What if everything you're doing doesn't seem to be working? When this happens,
it's not a bad idea to reach out to someone who can help. Therapists and counselors are there
to help and they're specifically trained to deal with your issues better than the average person

The advantage in reaching out to someone like this is that they are trained to listen and offer
advice as an independent third party and what's better is that they may be able to offer you a
unique perspective on your situation that you may not have thought about before.

What If You Want To Get Back Together?

Have you thought about getting back together after the break up? Don't worry if you have, it's
completely normal. Believe it or not, many couples often get back together after some time apart
and have more fulfilling and satisfying relationships with each other because they both have a
little more perspective on things and a greater appreciation for each other.

So if you find yourself in this situation, use your time apart to become a better and more well
rounded person because you'll be that much more appealing to your ex the second time around.

The Bottom Line

Breaking up with someone you love is never easy, especially when you're close and have a
history together. There's certainly nothing wrong with being down in the dumps for a while, but
at some point you've got to pick yourself up and move on. In the end, you’ll find that being pro
active will help ease the pain of a break up and using the 4 methods outlined above will help
you to get started.

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