Recovering from Infidelity
The first step any couple must take in recovering from infidelity is to
determine if the relationship should be or can be salvaged. The following
are seven critical questions you need to ask yourself and your partner to
know if your relationship can survive.
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Infidelity is definitely not a new issue for couples today.
Unfaithfulness seems to be a major problem in many relationships in
today’s society, as it has always been in the history of romance.
The first step any couple must take in recovering from infidelity
is to determine if the relationship should be or can be salvaged. The
following are seven critical questions you need to ask yourself and your
partner to know if your relationship can survive.
1.) Is the situation isolated, or is it a pattern. In other words, has
the unfaithful partner shown patterns of infidelity or unfaithful
behaviors in the past, or is this disloyalty a one-time thing?
2.) Do you feel that your spouse owns up to what they have done, or do
they make excuses?
3.) Do they understand exactly what this has done to you, and how much
they have hurt you? Do they realize the gravity of the situation?
4.) Are they truly sorry for the choice that they made, or are they
just sorry that they were caught?
5.) Is this person willing to clean up the mess, and do what it takes
to mend what they have done? Or, do they just want to forget about it and
move on? Are they willing to give up their freedom to enable you to trust
6.) Is doing this out of character for your partner, or are they
insensitive in other areas of your relationship together? Do they really
care about how you feel or about your well being?
7.) Is infidelity a part of their legacy? Did they grow up like this,
or is this new behavior for them that is not present in their past,
including family and past relationships?
Think about what these questions mean to you and to the survival of your
relationship. Be careful not to lie to yourself about the situation, and
ask yourself these questions honestly. Don’t be afraid to seek out
professional help, and talk to them about the questions above. The
biggest decision for you to make in the road ahead, is whether or not you
should try to save your relationship.