How_To_Visit_A_New_Mom_And_Have_Her_Love_You_Afterwards by MaggieMills1

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How To Visit A New Mom And Have Her Love You Afterwards

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455

Summary:
Going to visit a new Mother and her tiny baby? As a Mom who has been
there 4 times, I've had great and not-so-great experiences when friends
came to visit postpartum. Make your visit a blessing instead of a
drudgery with these tips.

1) Call beforehand and ask what you can bring her to eat

A new Mom, especially if she's breastfeeding, is hungry! Don't ask if she
wants you to bring her anything. Most new Moms in our culture are
unlikely to ask for help. Tell her that you ...


Keywords:
reflux, babies, breastfeeding, breastfed


Article Body:
Going to visit a new Mother and her tiny baby? As a Mom who has been
there 4 times, I've had great and not-so-great experiences when friends
came to visit postpartum. Make your visit a blessing instead of a
drudgery with these tips.

1) Call beforehand and ask what you can bring her to eat

A new Mom, especially if she's breastfeeding, is hungry! Don't ask if she
wants you to bring her anything. Most new Moms in our culture are
unlikely to ask for help. Tell her that you ARE bringing her lunch and
would she prefer Italian or Chinese? And make sure, if you're preparing
something, that it's not loaded with empty carbs. New Moms have enough
trouble going to the bathroom in those postpartum days! She needs good
nutrition, not junk.

2) When you arrive, don't smell like a bouquet on overdrive

Newborn babies have sensitive skin. Some of them break out when they are
held by someone with a lot of synthetic perfume on. When you go visit a
new baby, don't smell like you've been attacked by Chanel No. 5. Skip the
perfume. You're not on a date, ok?

3) Wash your hands

New Moms are particular about their babies, and neither she nor her
newborn needs your germs. Wash your hands first and then ask if you may
hold the newborn. And for goodness sakes, leave a sneezing, snotty nosed
child at home!

4) Don't hog the baby
The new Mother's job is to rest and bond with her baby. Don't grab the
baby and try to jolly her out of her cries when she obviously wants her
Momma back. Hold the new baby briefly, perhaps while Mom uses the
bathroom or cuddles her toddler, then give baby back. Now.

5) Do something useful

Ask Mom if you can watch her older child for a half hour so she can nap
with the baby. Ask if you can load the dishwasher, or fold a load of
laundry. Insist. Don't say "Is there anything I can do?". Say "What can I
do?" At the very least, bring paper plates and disposable flatware. She
may have forgotten to buy that, but it sure makes those postpartum days a
little easier.

6) Keep your visit brief

Mom is tired, recuperating from childbirth and above all needs to rest
and learn about her new baby. Counting fingers and toes, cooing, crying,
breastfeeding and changing diapers takes all day! A new Mom doesn't need
to play hostess. Don't stay more than about 15 minutes unless you're her
best friend or close relative, and even then, keep it very brief.

If you remember these tips, the new Mom will really appreciate you, and
she'll return the favor the next time you have a baby!

								
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