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Can The Feeling Of Guilt Destroy Your Relationship?

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Summary:
When the mind allows guilt to take over, it will tear down relationships,
especially if the partner fails to come to terms and agreement with self.
To determine if your mind is full of guilt you must ask your self-
questions. What did you do so wrong that would offend your partner that
cannot be forgiving?

Guilt can break the mind down to the point of no return. Guilt is more
than a mistake made; rather it is a violation against rights, humanity,
belief, tradition, standar...


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When the mind allows guilt to take over, it will tear down relationships,
especially if the partner fails to come to terms and agreement with self.
To determine if your mind is full of guilt you must ask your self-
questions. What did you do so wrong that would offend your partner that
cannot be forgiving?

Guilt can break the mind down to the point of no return. Guilt is more
than a mistake made; rather it is a violation against rights, humanity,
belief, tradition, standards, and love.

When a person fails in a relationship, they may feel a measure of guilt.
Thus, confronting the problem now can remove the guilt and make the
relationship work. When people confront their problems, it often leads to
workable agreements. When procrastination, or else lying to cover the
wrong continues the mind consumes itself with emotions based on guilt.

Guilt occurs when conscious actions or thoughts interfere with someone
else’s rights, or else against the own person’s beliefs. Mistakes leading
to guilt depend on the situation, but for the most part wrongs can lead
to right if humanity exists.

If a person commits adultery, thus the problem is solvable if the person
acted out of emotion, rather than thought and commits to restoring trust.
Of course, actions, effort, behaviors and habits must show the mate that
the mistake will never occur again. It depends on the mate but some will
forgive, while others may take the insult of the partner letting them
know their worth in the relationship to heart and may decide separation
and/or divorce is the way out. Adultery is stating to the mate that you
have no worth. If the mate decides to forgive, thus you must do your part
and allow the guilt to turn into effort to restore trust. You will need
consideration, loyalty, compassion, honesty, and may even need to tell
your every move for a while during the course of restore. A person with
true remorse will work hard, regardless of what he/she needs to do to
restore trust.

If a person violates the right of the partner, thus, it depends on the
magnitude of violation, but in most instances, it is workable. People act
out of emotions and impulses at times, and will often act out of lust
occasionally. When the emotions, impulses and desires take control
(depending on the length of time control is enforced), the person may do
things he or she ordinarily would not do.

Thus, adultery is a justifiable reason to divorce or separate from the
spouse, but looking at the entirety of the circumstance can help a person
decide. Was the spouse enticed by another individual to commit the act,
while the spouse was feeling vulnerable? Still, vulnerability is no
excuse on the spouse’s part, but if enticement is the case, then two
people wronged you. Was the other person in the act deceived? Did your
mate lead the person to believe that he/she was not in a commitment?

Examining the entirety of the act can help the mate determine the
direction the relationship is heading, and help the other partner decide
what he/she needs to do to make things right again.

Divorce is an attack on the emotions, since a trigger hits the heart and
emotions and creates pain, sorrow, hurt, sadness, et cetera. Divorce is
showing a disregard for the marriage arrangement unless true reasons for
divorce are evident. Thus, divorce should only be considered if the mate
commits adultery, abuses the partner, or fails to commit in the
relationship arrangement, and/or if death occurs.

If you are in a relationship and your mate committed an insulting act
against you, such as adultery. Thus, considering the entirety will help
you make a wise decision. If another person enticed your mate on
vulnerable grounds, thus consider your partner by asking what were, you
thinking at the time. If your mate responds by saying I wasn’t thinking,
thus you can ask, what makes me think it won’t happen again? If your mate
is sincerely sorry, he/she will let you know by words, action, emotions,
thoughts, and tone spoken.

				
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