Communication Conflicts by dparashar


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									                        Communication Conflicts.

If you want to help youth then you have to discern their attitudes through a
communication process.

By communicating with youth you discern their attitudes and you discover that the
conflicts they are experiencing is usually a result of a breakdown in relationships
between their mother and their father their brother and their sister or their peers.

You'll notice that these conflicts, everybody's conflicts, originate from three

1. One, between them and God. This is their vertical relationship (a theological
level). If this is misaligned then usually there is a conflict on the horizontal level
which is between man and nature, circumstances or things around them. It could
be the weather but this is getting on a different level- Jesus when asked by a
certain lawyer what the great commandment of the law was said, "Thou shalt love
the lord thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is
the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love
thy neighbor as thyself." Matthew 22:36-39

2. Two, there is conflict between man and man; (this is a sociological level or a
horizontal relationship). "From whence come wars and fighting among you? Come
they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? James 4:1. The
secret for getting along with others is keeping God's law of loving God and our
neighbor as our self but we can't do this unless we have the peace of God which
prevents us from being offended.

As the Psalmist David says, "Great peace have they which love thy law; and
nothing shall offend them." Psalm 119:165. The Hebrew word "offend" is mikshol
and means stumbling block or to entice to sin.

The word "peace" is shalom and refers to complete peace. It conveys harmony,
rest, contentment. Only when we've been justified by the faith of Jesus Christ do
we experience true peace as in Romans 5:1 "Therefore, being justified by faith, we
have PEACE with God through our Lord Jesus Christ." This great peace only resides
in those who love the law of God and will show itself by the same spirit that Jesus
had    that   was     named      "The   Prince    of    Peace"    in   Isaiah    9:6.
Jesus was never enticed to sin nor did he stumble on anybody's words or
communication although many of the Pharisees were offended by Him because they
didn't have this piece of God.
3. Three, there is conflict between man and himself (an inner psychological conflict)
unless men and women love God they cannot truly love their neighbor. The
greatest love we can have for another person is that they experience the "new
birth" of regeneration described in Titus 3:5. Once a person is born again (John
3:3) they enter a new kingdom being translated out of the kingdom of darkness
(Satan) and into the Kingdom of God. They are given a new heart and they become
a new creature or creation. Old things are passed away and all things become new.
2 Cor. 5:17

By discerning where these breakdowns in relationships occur communication
becomes more meaningful. By probing and by asking questions you can discover
these conflicts. Most people's problems are really spiritual in nature. People are at
war with God even religious people who claim to know God often do not follow or
obey God's commandments. Is it any wonder why people get in various kinds of
trouble and commit crime? They do not have a right relationship with God their
Creator. They sometimes act like animals because they've believed the lie of
evolution as taught in the public schools and so they suppress the knowledge of
God in unrighteousness.

This knowledge is wired into us at birth but through subversive education and de-
programming people fight against that God given knowledge, become vain in their
imaginations, and their foolish hearts are darkened. The change the truth of God
into a lie. Romans 1:18-25

Once these above principles are learned then communication becomes more
effective. Youth want encouragement and direction but they must first know their
duties or responsibilities. Action can then be taken after good direction is given to
that individual for re-establishing broken relationships.

Another aspect of effective communication is by looking at illustrations from
scripture, studying the basic principles, the life, the biographies of the children of
God and Biblical characters, through your personal experience and through the
personal experience of other individuals. The details of how this is worked out could
be extensive and detailed but that isn't the purpose of this article.

Basically, if you use the Bible as your authority (as all Christians should) you want
to look for sections of scripture that can be used to relate to each area of conflict.

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