Coaching Session Structure & Guideline
1. Create Rapport: [Time: approx. 1-2 minutes]
A. Welcome your client and profoundly relate.
B. Acknowledge the client.
C. State your intention for the session (if appropriate).
2. Centering Exercise: [Time: approx. 3-4 minutes]
A. Take a moment to get quiet with your client, using the centering exercise from the
session outline to assist them in getting centered and focused for the session.
B. If appropriate, guide your client to identify and state their intention for the session,
or answer any questions that may have been raised during the centering.
3. Client Prep Sheet Review and Accountability: [Time: approx. 10-20 minutes]
(During Coaching Session 1, use this time to go over their Objectives worksheet, discuss
their experience of filling out the form, and get a better sense of what the client would like to
accomplish during this coaching relationship.)
A. Highlight your client’s primary objectives or the topic from the previous week.
B. Review their progress (or obstacles) with the previous week’s action steps.
C. Validate successes (accomplishments/wins) for the week.
D. Acknowledge and explore breakdowns or obstacles to completing their actions
E. Review anything pertinent that might have come up for them during the week. If it
was a challenge, check and see what, if any, meaning they attached to it and their
feeling underneath it. If it was an insight or achievement, reinforce and acknowledge it
– also look at their feelings.
4. Conversation & Distinction: [Time: approx. 10 -12 minutes]
A. In a natural and conversational way, deliver the appropriate written Distinction from
the Session Outline. Ensure the client has their Spiritual Divorce Coaching Workbook
and the corresponding Session Worksheet.
B. Take any notes that you might find insightful from the conversation.
5. Internal Exercise: [Time: approx. 15-18 minutes]
A. Guide the client through the Internal Exercise from the appropriate Session Outline.
Pause at appropriate times to allow the client to journal about their answers and
wisdom, using the corresponding Client Session Worksheet.
B. Take any notes you might find useful for review. Be sure to note the client action
steps, so you can review them with the client at the end of the exercise.
6. Exercise Sharing and Discussion: [Time: approx. 3-5 minutes]
A. Ask the client to share anything else about their internal exercise.
B. Define specific action steps with the client if they were vague during the exercise.
C. Ask powerful and clarifying questions, if necessary, for completeness.
D. If the client does not wish to share out loud during the internal exercise, then the
process summary is very important. Be sure the process summary is complete – that
the client has shared their major insights, what they were most aware of, what really
struck them, and that their action step(s) is clearly defined and measurable, so that
you are able to hold them accountable.
7. Client Completion: [Time: approx. 2-3 minutes]
A. Be in the listening of the client, where they are, and what would be in their highest.
If they are in a space of emotion or process, it might be best to gently end the call and
leave them in their process. If it feels appropriate to do a summary, then:
A. Briefly summarize the session.
B. Review the action steps and any homework the client has committed to doing.
C. Ask the client to look at their calendar, so they can plan, and reserve, time to
schedule their actions and assignments. Make of note of these for accountability.
D. Check in with the client to see if there is anything that will get in the way of them
completing their weekly action steps.
E. Ask the client if there is anything else they need to say or do to be complete.
F. Confirm the day, date and time of the next session.
8. Client Acknowledgment: [Time: approx. 1-2 minutes]
A. Direct your client to pause and acknowledge themselves for the work they’ve done.
B. You always want to leave the client in a place of possibilities. Have the client
present their vision of what would be possible when their heart is healed. Ask a
powerful question, such as: If you continue to do this work and heal your heart, what
do you see is possible for you as a result of today’s conversation?
C. End the call.
A. Take a few moments to reflect on the coaching session. Note for yourself what you
learned, what you loved about it, what you’d like to do differently another time.
B. Note anything else that you specifically want to remember, or anything you want to
address with the client, via e-mail or in the next session.
10. Record Keeping / Follow Up:
A. File your client prep form, along with this form or any of your own notes into the
B. Make sure you’ve entered your next session into your calendar or appointment