Why Child Support Is Critical To Your Children's Wellbeing

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                                               Chasing After Child Support
                                                    By Barbara Rose

   Chasing After Child Support               by By Barbara Rose

Child support is often a source of contention between divorced parents of minor children. I understand
this. I have been there. In an ideal situation, the parent who is responsible for paying child support
does so out of love for his or her children.
Unfortunately, many of our post-marital relationships are not ideal. Many parents do not pay child
support. Some because they genuinely cannot afford to do so. Others parents simply are not willing to.
In the latter case, they resent giving money to their former spouse. Bitterness results. Fighting ensues,
and the child support enforcement battles begin.

Every parent knows that the financial resources needed to provide children with all they require and
ask for is tremendous. Most single parents cannot afford to give their children all they wish they could. I
was no different. When I did not receive the child support that was agreed upon during my divorce, my
reaction was quite common. It turned out to be futile, and tragic, at the same time.

I borrowed money from my grandmother, hired an attorney, and went after child support with a
vengeance. I had income deduction orders in effect. My former husband was sent to jail twice for
failure to obey repeated court orders to pay child support. I was consumed with anger, and I justified
my anger by focusing on, and trying to enforce, his responsibilities. However, I could not control his
actions. I could not make him fulfill his responsibilities. At the same time, I wasted thousands of
borrowed dollars on legal fees that got me nowhere. This issue became a raging source of anguish
and hostility between us. What I am about to say may shock you, and yet, I speak from bitter
experience. If the parent refuses to do what is required of them, all you can do is focus on fulfilling that
need for yourself and your children, on your own.

When a parent refuses to take responsibility for their children, you cannot change them. Yes, it is
wrong. Yes, it is not fair. Yes, it is for the children. However, when a parent chooses to do what is right,
fair and just for his or her own child, that is solely their choice. No matter how hard you try, you cannot
force another person to fulfill their obligations. For when you do, retaliation results in the form of

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In my own case, when I could no longer turn to my grandmother for financial help, and still continued to
try to enforce child support payment, the result was that I was sued for custody. The motive was

I did not have money to hire an attorney to represent me throughout the custody litigation process. As
a result, I was railroaded. I unjustly lost primary custody of my children. When this happened, I felt like I
lost my soul.

My advise to you as a single parent is to do all you can to maintain open, cordial, civil communication
with your former spouse. Be grateful for whatever they contribute. Do not seek to get more, for you risk
losing everything.

When you are dependent upon another person for the survival of both yourself and your children, you
remain a victim. A victim of dependency. A victim of revolving your time and energy around the other
person, when you could use that time to better yourself, and your own finances, for your children.

Is this fair? Taking personal responsibility to fulfill your parental obligations is empowering. It leaves
you with a feeling of satisfaction, and pride in watching yourself rise, despite all obstacles. Is it fair that
the other parent “get away” with it all? They cannot get away with their own conscience. If they are not
giving to their children, they will find their children are not willing to give to them in return when they are

What you sew you shall reap. Give to your children. Do the best you can. Let the other parent “get
away” with whatever they choose. In the end, they will find they have lost out on sharing their lives with
their children, while you will have your children through your old age.

Hindsight is 20/20 vision. I wasted time, money and energy chasing after child support. As a result, I
have bi-weekly visitation rights with the children I gave birth to. Is this fair? No. It is a travesty. I hope to
spare you this same injustice and agony. Take whatever your former spouse is willing to give, say
thank you, and leave the rest alone.

In her nationally praised seminars and workshops, Author, public speaker and columnist Barbara Rose
shares the secrets of turning tragedy into triumph. Her books; Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core,
Your Truth, and Your Life; and If God Was Like Man (Publication Date April, 2003) share profound,
inspiring insight. Please visit her website

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                          Why Child Support is So Critical to Your Childrens Wellbeing
                                                        By Jannelle Zawaideh

When it comes to the upbringing and development of a child both parents should be held responsible
as both parents should be playing a role in the life of their children. The standard of living and the
development of a child is another example of what is the responsibility of both parents when it comes
to the upbringing of a child. All of these points are not just the responsibility of both parents but they
also represent basic and fundamental human rights of children.

 The process of a divorce is a hard enough situation to be facing regardless of how long the marriage
lasted. This process is made ten times worse when it involves a child. Decisions need to be made to
ensure that the child is affected as little as possible by the divorce and measures should be put in
place to ensure that the child has a healthy upbringing in which they have access to both of their
parents and have not only the emotional support that they need from a family environment but that they
also have the financial support that a child should have from a family environment. This is where child
support comes into play.

 Child support represents an arm of family law. It is an ongoing obligation of a payment that is made by
a non-custodial parent and is received by the custodial parent or a child support agency. This payment
is used for the care and support of the child. It goes towards providing the child with aspects, which
could range from clothing through to school fees. The overall aim and mission of child support is to
improve the quality of life for your child and it is paid with their best interests in mind.

 The concept of child support came about thanks to the policy that both parents are obligated to
support their children, regardless of custodial arrangements. It is always the non-custodial parent who
is the payer of child support. As well as providing child support payments, a non custodial parent will
also be provided visitation rights to see their child. All of this is decided with the interest of the child in
mind and is done in order to give the child as much of a family upbringing as possible as it is important
in a child’s development to have both of their parents present in their upbringing.

 It is important to everyone involved that when child support is being calculated it is done so that all
parties can cope with the arrangement. There are several ways that can be approached when it comes
to calculating the amount of child support that should be given. Many jurisdictions consider multiple
sources of information when determining how much child support should be paid by the non-custodial
parent such as; the income of the parents, the number and ages of children living in the home, basic
living expenses and school fees. If the child has special needs, or a serious illness/disability, then the
costs for these may also be taken into consideration.

 Once the amount of child support has been calculated it remains static unless reviewed. Either parent
can ask for the payments to be reviewed due to certain circumstances such as a non-custodial parent
facing financial hardship and may request lower payments.

 Child support can make a massive difference to the quality of a child’s life and will help to give your
child a better upbringing, which includes giving them the best shot at some of the top education

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important you call the right attorney. The Law Offices of Jannelle J. Zawaideh has Michigan Child Support
Lawyers who know the law. Call a
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