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									"Who's the Boss?" 10 ways to start taking control (time management, goal setting,
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At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder
(ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop
negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and
frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even
harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and
accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us
to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The
following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into
more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting
enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding
yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and
appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know
what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a
friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your
co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and
ask them. Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have
proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You
NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes
the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain
people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice
yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it.

6. Squash the "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about
"ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually
reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The
boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that
they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin', Touchin' & Squeezin' (Your Friends and Family)
You don't have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical
contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research
study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she
handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from
the ones she didn't touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy,
happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your
resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will
receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and
force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus
on something negative. It's never productive, because it's not rational or
solution-oriented, it's just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment -
go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on
some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know
the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a
steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem
to work well even under pressure, but they're uncommon ones and we are human and
imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won't solve our
problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we're turning to be
workaholics than tell ourselves that we're not doing our best.


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