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					       The Santa Barbara                September 2005



       MESSENGER
   HAPPY 60th BIRTHDAY, SANTA BARBARA AA!




Your Central Office invites you to a celebration of our
     fellowship’s sixtieth year in Santa Barbara.

             Date: Sunday, September 25
                   Time: 11:00 a.m.
         Place: Leadbetter Beach Picnic Area

Games Provided by: Santa Barbara Young People’s AA
      Food Provided by: Your Central Office
           Fellowship Provided by: You!
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    Letter: Grave Emotional or Mental Disorders
    Sometimes I look around the halls of A.A. and I wonder            day morning, thinking, “What would my mother say if she
    about my fellow members, and most especially about me.            could see me now?”
    Am I sane today? Will I be sane tomorrow? How can I tell?            What I found at Fellowship Hall was honesty, laughter,
    Is it only about how I think or is it about how I act? Is there   good coffee, lots of cigarette smoke, Richard’s wonderful
    hope for me?                                                      chocolate chip cookies, and the best people in the world,
       The Second Step talks about a “return to sanity” and the       people getting well, one day at a time. They taught me so-
    clear implication is that when I drank, I must have been          briety and compassion and love for my fellow man, regard-
    insane. Can I return to sanity by simply stopping drinking?       less of where they came from or what they looked like. I
    Or must I do something else? Is this true for everyone or         made many friends there who are still friends today.
    only for me?                                                         And when A.A. lost the Fellowship Hall lease because
       What about those poor souls who come into the program          the building was to be renovated, everyone cried a bit. There
    and gain sobriety but are still conflicted by some form of        will be other meeting places, but there will never be an-
    mental illness? Are they welcome in A.A. or are they to be        other Fellowship Hall with those cracked coffee cups and
    shunted off somewhere else because they are tiresome or           those shiny black tables.
    scary or frightening? Because they’re not like me?                   And today, when I see someone acting out, I remember
       Fortunately A.A. in New York has kept up with modern           that it could be me. And it might be me in the future. I pray
    advances in medicine and fully supports “outside help” or         for the person and try to help him or her. I also assist the
    professional medical care by psychiatrists and other medi-        secretary in maintaining reasonable order, while always try-
    cal professionals. This outside help includes the use of ap-      ing not to shut off the alcoholic who is extremely disturbed.
    propriate medications to treat psychiatric illnesses. Our         Sometimes this means walking them outside or just cutting
    founder, Bill W., was widely known to suffer from clinical        in to their monologue in a nice way. In the most extreme
    depression and sought out the best medical assistance avail-      situations, it may involve rewriting the meeting guide. But
    able in his day. Unfortunately science then was not very          for me, that alcoholic has a right to be at the meeting, drunk
    effective and he continued to suffer from depression during       or sober, unless he or she has proven over a long time to be
    much of his sobriety.                                             completely disruptive. I can always buy a new coffee pot
       Today “Dual Diagnosis” meetings help people with both          and start a new meeting somewhere else.
    alcohol and mental health problems. But A.A. meetings help,          And I remember that my Higher Power has a plan for me
    too. I know from personal experience because I am a dual          which I do not understand, nor do I need to understand it.
    diagnosis person. Fortunately my illness can be treated with      And compassion for others and for me is always a worthy
    medications and talk therapy and a rigorous A.A. program.         tool.
       I remember my first meetings at Fellowship Hall years          —Anonymous
    ago. As a relatively high bottom, “white bread” kind of guy,
    I remember especially climbing the front steps one Satur-         Tim’s Manager’s Spot will return next issue.



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     form), reprinted by permission of AA World Services, Inc.
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Step 9: Easy Does It?
I got all the promises that were guar-    my friend for so many years.               Step 9, and the rest of the steps, have
anteed at the Ninth Step. I was truly        I was heading to the Cold Springs       given me that psychic change. My
amazed way before I was halfway           Bridge on the 154 to end it once and       thinking and outlook has changed and
through. This was such a relief and a     for all. I didn’t have money for booze     I have been living in this fourth di-
very powerful spiritual awakening         that day and I just couldn’t imagine       mension of existence most of the time
because for the last two or three years   life with or without alcohol. For what-    ever since.
I had been suicidal on awakening. I       ever reason my car turned to the emer-       My experience of going through the
drank my way into the psychiatric unit    gency room at Cottage and there be-        12 Steps in a short period of time re-
(5 East) on three separate occasions.     gan one more trip to the psych ward.       sulted in one thing—recovery. As long
I was truly losing my sanity. I’d been    What would be different this time?         as I had done the work to the best of
to jail and I was now going to institu-      This time, on leaving the hospital, I   my ability, the promises came true.
tions. Death was not far away and         got a sponsor and worked the 12              Easy does it, but recovery is there
pretty much welcomed. Life was noth-      Steps.                                     as quick as you want it. Life is once
ing more than a living hell. I couldn’t      Two weeks after coming out of this      again brilliant!
believe that alcohol had turned on me     locked-down facility I had recovered       —Darren P
and had become my master. It was          from alcoholism. Making amends on



“Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to
any lengths for victory over alcohol” —Big Book
It was a warm sunny day in Septem-        did something that I didn’t like. In       through the pages looking for the 3rd
ber when my sponsor informed that I       other words, I am a wussy and a            Step prayer in which I could maybe
was now at Step 9, which states,          whimp and I was living in fear of you      pull a little strength from, but to no
“made direct amends to such people        finding out that I wasn’t as cool or       avail. By now the sweat was coming
wherever possible, except when to do      tough as I wanted you to think I was.      to the surface of my forehead, I had
so would injure them or others.” We          One day it was time for me to make      to do something quick! But what? My
read over this step in the Big Book he    this one amends to a man that I was        Third Edition opened to page 79 and
showed how the amends process             really in fear of, I had been past his     there in black and white was my
worked and what I needed to do to         house a couple of times but he wasn’t      strength. It simply but firmly stated,
repair the damage that I had caused       there. On the third and final time I       “we must not shrink at anything...”
in my past through my drinking. We        pulled up in front of his house I knew     This small line of words, so simple,
looked over the list of people and in-    he was there. I swallowed hard. At         gives me a lot of power still to this
stitutions I had harmed. I had only a     this point I was shaking and looking       day. Next thing I knew, I was in the
couple of financial amends; most of       for excuses why I need not make this       guy’s house and I was letting him
mine were emotional. I was always         amends. My shaking hand grabbed            know “that I will never get over drink-
really quick to start mouthing off or     the Big Book which, at that time, I        ing until I do my utmost to straighten
just to start swinging if you said or     was none too familiar with. I fumbled      out my past.” The man was very re-
                                                                                     ceptive to my problem and what I had
                                                                                     to say, just like my sponsor had
                   A Ninth Step Prayer                                               pointed out to me is in the Big Book,
                                                                                     “sometimes the man we are calling
                                                                                     upon admits his own faults, so feuds
                               Higher Power,                                         of years standing melt away in an
            I pray for the right attitude to make my amends,                         hour.” All this had happened on one
         Being ever mindful not to harm others in the process.                       of my most feared amends. I returned
          I ask for Your guidance in making indirect amends.                         to my car and was free of years of
                                                                                     hatred, cussing and torment that used
            Most important, I will continue to make amends
                                                                                     to keep me awake at night. I told my
                 By staying abstinent, helping others &                              sponsor of my experience.
                      Growing in spiritual progress.                                   “Good for you,” he said.
                                                                                       —Fred C.
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                                      Convention Update
    The 21st Annual Convention begins in only a few weeks. They say time flies when you’re
    having fun, so I guess your convention committee is having a
    ball these days! Things are getting a little hectic for everyone
    involved in making sure all the pieces are in place when it’s                       Golf
    time to open the doors and welcome all of you.                         Mulligans? You bet! There will
      The registration forms have been printed, and if you regis- be Mulligans for sale before you
    tered for a past convention, you should have received one in tee off, and some of you (Tim?)
    the mail by now. If you didn’t get a form in the mail, registra- should plan to stock up. There
    tion forms are available at most meetings and at Central Of- will be a raffle, as usual, with
    fice. Online registration is available on the convention’s se- great prizes, and the Golf Chair
                                                                           says this year’s trophies will be
    cure Web site (www.sbaaconvention.com). That’s a quick and
                                                                           something to be proud of. I
    easy way for you to register. It saves the cost of an envelope think he has something like the
    and stamp, too!                                                        PGA Championship’s Wan-
      If all this sounds like we’re ready for you to register, we are! amaker Trophy, but don’t get
    Why should you? Well, for one thing, some of us are just plain your hopes up.
    cheap, and by registering early, you’ll save some money. The
    best deal is the “package,” which gets you everything (except
    golf) the convention has to offer: tee-shirt, mug, BBQ, banquet, and dance. But even if you
                                             just want to attend, you’ll save $5 by registering in ad-
                                             vance rather than waiting to register at the door. Register-
         Al-Anon Participation               ing early helps the committee, too, because there are many
      Al-Anon will have their marathon up front expenses to be paid.
      meetings in the South Coast Inn          Public Information has mailed flyers to more than 120
      again, in a room across from the pool. AA Clubs and Central Offices all over California, as well
      This year is special, too, because
                                             as in Arizona and Nevada. Dave S. and other Santa Bar-
      Santa Barbara has become a new dis-
                                             bara AAs also passed out invitations at the International
      trict, and Al-Anon will celebrate with
      a party in the upstairs room at the Convention in Toronto. Last year more than 50 people
      Elks Lodge. All are welcome and this from outside California registered, from as far away as
      is a good opportunity for AAs to in- New York and Connecticut, and even Hawaii. We hope to
      troduce this fine program to long-suf- see more this year.
      fering friends and spouses.              The mugs have been delivered, and they are beautiful—
                                             big, cobalt blue, with the logo in white. Don’t forget you
                                             get free coffee when you bring this year’s mug to the hos-
    pitality table.
      Tee-shirts and sweatshirts will be delivered in early September. They fabric is heather (light
    gray) and the logo is royal blue and white. Shirts will be for sale at some of the larger meet-
    ings as soon as they come in. There are a limited number of hoodies available, so if you want
    one it might be a good idea to grab it early.
      Once again, the convention is shaping up to be a big, festive party, a celebration of sobriety.
    There is sure to be plenty of fun and laughter to go around, as well as somber moments when
    we all remember where we came from. Come join us. Share a cup of coffee and conversation
    with your friends (old a new). Go to a marathon meeting (you might hear just what you
    need). Heck, win one of the raffles or one of the sober bingo prizes. Whatever you do, be
    there for all three days, October 21, 22, and 23!
    —Your Convention Committee
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                                                            Unbreakable
                                                             Kinship
                                                                         Santa Barbara, California
                                                                         21st Annual Convention
                                                                         October 21-23, 2005
                                                              The Elks Lodge, 150 N Kellogg, Santa Barbara/Goleta
                                                              For more information, or to register online, go to
                                                              www.sbaaconvention.com



             Registrant Information                                                         Event Sign-Up
                                                                     We offer a convention package that includes all events (except
Name                                                                 golf), a mug, and a shirt. You can upgrade to a sweatshirt for
                                                                     $12 more. Individual registrations are $20 after October 1st.
Address
                                                                     Convention package                        x $ 100 =
City                             State          Zip                      Sweatshirt upgrade                    x $ 12 =

Phone                                                                Registration   ($20 after 10/1)           x $ 15 =

                                                                     Friday night BBQ                          x $ 25 =
Email
                                                                     Saturday ice cream social                 x$    5=
Name on badge
                                                                     Saturday night banquet                    x $ 35 =
Home group                                                           Saturday night dance                      x $ 10 =
          AA         Alanon        Alateen         Guest             Friday golf   (includes cart)             x $ 60 =

                                                                     Coffee mug     (with free coffee!)        x $ 10 =
             Additional Registrants
                                                                     T-shirts                                  x $ 18 =
Coming with friends? Each person must register on a seperate
form. You can use this form, however, to reserve registrations       Long-sleeved T-shirts                     x $ 18 =
and event tickets for your guests who will register on-site.
A registration is required to attend the convention!                 Women's tank tops                         x $ 18 =

                                                                     Sweatshirts                               x $ 30 =
               Payment Information
                                                                     Scholarship donation - Pass it on!!
Enclose a check payable to Santa Barbara Convention, or fill out
this form to pay by credit card (Visa and Mastercard only).              Total enclosed:
Mail form to: PO Box 91731, Santa Barbara, CA, 93190-1731.

   My billing address is the same as above.                                                    Shirt Sizes
                                                                     Indicate quantities of each size for the shirts you ordered above.
Name on card                                                         Don't forget the ones that come with your convention packages!
                                                                                                       M   L        XL      XXL
Address
                                                                     T-shirts
City                             State          Zip                  Long-sleeved T-shirts

Card number                                                          Women's tank tops

                                                                     Sweatshirts
Expiration date (MM/YY)
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                                                                      The Messenger is published monthly by:

                                                                  23rd District Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous
                                                                               1213 State Street, Suite H
             AUGUST                                                        Santa Barbara, California 93101

            BIRTHDAYS                                                                 805-962-3332
                                                                                 sbaa@santabarbaraAA.com
    Cleaver ................................... 1
    Marge B .................................. 1
    Stephanie ................................ 1
    Tom F ..................................... 1
    Candee H ................................ 2
    Hillary .................................... 2   Submissions Needed
    Jim B ...................................... 2   The Messenger needs your submissions and letters. We especially seek
    Laura R ................................... 2    submissions on the Step or Tradition associated with the month of the
    Mandy .................................... 2     same number. For the tenth month, October, we need writing on Step 10
    Robert M ................................. 2     and Tradition 10. Send submissions to jimstoic@hotmail.com
    Lorilee .................................... 3   A big thanks also to those of you who have submitted items that have
    Dan ........................................ 8   not yet been used. Those items are on file for when we have space.
    Dave B .................................... 8
    Ernie L .................................... 8
    Michael S ................................ 8
                                                     Central Office Statistics
    Tom P ..................................... 8    During August your Central Office had:
    Amanda .................................. 9      AA information calls ................................................................. 863
    Henry M ................................. 9      Al-Anon referrals ....................................................................... 33
    Andy R ................................. 10      Referrals to other programs ......................................................... 31
    Fred ...................................... 10   12-step via answering service ...................................................... 70
    Chrissy B .............................. 12      Out-of-town visitors ................................................................... 24
    Lisa ...................................... 12   12-step via office ......................................................................... 9
    Kevin B ................................. 13     Office walk-ins ......................................................................... 563
    Denise .................................. 16     Hits on our Web site ................................................................. 798
    Kristen S ............................... 16
    Earl U ................................... 17    Service Meetings
    Dave F .................................. 18     GSRs (Group Service Representatives) meet at 6:00 p.m. the first Mon-
    Mary Michael O ..................... 18          day each month at the Cottage Hospital, Conference Rooms E and F.
    Mary Anne D ........................ 19          IGRs (Intergroup Representatives) meet at 6:00 p.m. the second Tues-
    Linda M ................................ 21      day each month at First Presbyterian Church, 21 E Constance, in Santa
    Nancy ................................... 21     Barbara.
    Dolores ................................. 23     H&I (Hospitals & Institutions) meets at 6:00 p.m. the second Monday
    Elinor H ................................ 23     each month at the Central Office.
    Jack ...................................... 30   PI (Public Information) meets the fourth Saturday of each month. Call
    Tom C ................................... 30     687-7673 for more information.
    Kay H ................................... 33     Santa Barbara Convention Committee meets at 2523 Modoc August
    Rick M .................................. 46     15th at 6 p.m. There are a number of commitments still available.
    George H .............................. 48
    Gardner ................................ 57
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                          August     July      YTD                                     Auust              July             YTD



                                                                                                                                  A
                                                       110 Focus On
001 Sunrisers               0.00     0.00     40.00    Recovery                0.00             0.00             34.17
                                                       111 Carpinteria
003 Eye Opener            560.00     0.00   2,980.00   Canalino                        159.00             0.00        759.00




                                                                                                                                  U
004 Monday At A                                        112
Time                        0.00     0.00    175.00    Montecito/Carpinteria             0.00             0.00        420.00
                                                       113 Sought Through
005 Noon Step Study        50.00     0.00     50.00    Prayer & Meditation               0.00            20.00            63.00
006 Start Your Week




                                                                                                                                  G
Right                      80.00     0.00    180.00    114 Schooner Group              139.00             0.00        369.00
                                                       115 Eleventh Step
007 Sound Off              50.00     0.00    100.00    Meditation                       13.38             0.00        104.38

008 Beginner's Group        0.00    23.47     84.85    117 Way Of Life                 260.00           225.00       1,952.00




                                                                                                                                  U
                                                       120 Sat. Morn. Home
010 Foundation Group       69.00    96.00    517.00    Boys                              0.00           170.00        828.60
                                                       121 Problems And
011 Sundowner Group         0.00    11.00    395.00    Solutions                         0.00            21.00            21.00




                                                                                                                                  S
                                                       130 Saturday Night
013 No Shenanigans         35.00     0.00    136.00    Sobriety                          0.00             0.00        144.00
016 Big Book                                           133 Action
Workshop                    0.00     0.00     32.00    Participation              1,000.00                0.00       1,000.00
021 Summerland                                         139 It's A Hell Of A




                                                                                                                                  T
Monday Group                0.00    90.00    174.00    Deal                              0.00           102.00        522.00
022 There Is A                                         140 Gay Discussion,
Solution                  145.80     0.00    458.60    Sunday                            0.00             0.00            95.05

023 For Women Only          0.00    60.00    300.00    141 Off Center                    0.00           253.80        794.67
026 Carpinteria Study                                  143 Sunday Go To
Group                     100.00     0.00    100.00    Meeting                          70.00             0.00            70.00
                                                       144 Back To Basics,
030 Sisters In Solution     0.00     0.00     15.00    Young People                     54.00             0.00        178.00
034 Women of                                           146 Out Of Town



                                                                                                                                  F
Change                      0.00     0.00    120.00    Speaker, NH II                    0.00            43.45        305.40
035 12 & 12 Study,
Tues.                       0.00     0.00    100.00    148 San Ysidro                    0.00           130.00        130.00
                                                       149 Getting To Know




                                                                                                                                  I
045 Alternative Group       0.00     0.00    179.00    You                               0.00           260.00        404.00
047 Tuesday Men's                                      150 Goleta Sun. Night
Stag                      150.00     0.00    495.00    Speaker                          79.00             0.00            79.00
051 Men's Group At
St. Mary's                  0.00     0.00    306.98    153 Happy Destiny                 0.00             0.00        300.00




                                                                                                                                  N
052 As Bill Sees It,                                   156 Start Your Day
Weds.                       0.00     0.00     30.00    Right                            80.00             0.00            80.00
053 Both Oars In The
Water                      80.00     0.00    180.00    162 No Frills                     0.00             0.00        187.35
                                                       164 Men Who Have



                                                                                                                                  A
055 Staying Alive           0.00    78.00    307.00    Lost Their Legs                 232.00           185.00       1,049.18
056 Women By The
Books                       0.00     0.00     98.40    165 Junkyard Dogs                63.39            91.80        562.63
062 Do The Steps Or




                                                                                                                                  N
Die                        62.29    37.79     385.81   166 Serenity Sisters             30.00             0.00        134.00
064 Women's Serenity
Group                      56.00    70.00    392.00    170 Barefoot Group               28.00             7.00           132.11

067 Rigorous Honesty       12.00   152.00    671.00    177 Key Group                     0.00           600.00       1,200.00




                                                                                                                                  C
                                                       181 Keep Coming
068 Stepping Stones         0.00    22.00    181.64    Back Group                        0.00           370.35        766.74
                                                       183 Summerland,
070 Success roup           60.00     0.00    210.00    Thurs.                            0.00             0.00        823.09




                                                                                                                                  I
071 The Loft                0.00     0.00    135.00    186 Turning Point                 0.00             0.00        123.00

073 Young People's          0.00     0.00    177.08    196 Powerful Cement               0.00            30.00            50.00
                                                       200 Anonymous
076 11th Step              80.00     0.00    180.00    Donations                        21.04             0.00        130.04




                                                                                                                                  L
                                                       201 Birthday
077 Briefly Big Book        0.00     0.00     21.00    Donations                       140.00             0.00        758.00
                                                       202 Supporting
079 Harbor Group          961.12     0.00   3,524.12   Member                     1,065.00         1,977.00          9,065.00
083 Sober Students,



                                                                                                                                  A
Tues Eve                    0.00     0.00    103.00    203 SBYPAA                       53.42             0.00            53.42

089 Here & Now             90.00     0.00    140.00    204 Memorial Fund                60.00             0.00        160.00

091 New Life              240.00     0.00    240.00    205 Refunds                     154.47             0.00        243.27

093 Into Action, Thurs

097 Almost Saints
                            0.00

                          130.28
                                     0.00

                                     0.00
                                              50.00

                                             655.73
                                                       209 Meeting Guide
                                                       210 Convention
                                                       Income
                                                                                       170.00

                                                                                         0.00
                                                                                                         78.00

                                                                                                          0.00
                                                                                                                      670.00

                                                                                                                         811.79
                                                                                                                                  L
                                                                                                                                  S
098 Keep It Simple,                                    211 Central Office
Saturday                    0.00     0.00     66.00    Rent Received                   175.00           145.00       1,312.80

099 Sink Or Swim           80.00     0.00    180.00    212 Special Events                0.00      1,862.50          2,787.50

100 UCSB Discussion         0.00     0.00     55.00    TOTAL                          7138.19          7212.16      44,594.40
Central Office
1213 State Street, Suite H
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
(805) 962-3332

				
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