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Child Visitation - Never Miss an Opportunity to see your Children

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You’ve decided to get a divorce or maybe even completed the divorce
procedures – What about child visitation? Have you planned for this
portion of your separation? How are you going to see your children? Or,
how do you feel about the children leaving the house to stay with the
other parent?


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Child Visitation


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You’ve decided to get a divorce or maybe even completed the divorce
procedures – What about child visitation? Have you planned for this
portion of your separation? How are you going to see your children? Or,
how do you feel about the children leaving the house to stay with the
other parent?

You both may have made promises to the children, but now it’s time the
rubber met the road. You must plan for your child’s visitation. Where you
active with your children, before the divorce? What are they expecting
from you? Trips to the amusement park every weekend? Or will it be a
boring time spent watching television?

To be honest it really doesn’t matter, as long as you spend quality time
talking with them and sharing how you are feeling about them. Children
want everything to come out right, but that isn’t always the case. What
you can do more than anything is to let them know that no matter the
situation between you and your ex-spouse that they aren’t at fault for
the two of you breaking up and that you love them unconditionally. Child
visitation should be a happy time for both you and your kids.

If you decide to neglect you child visitation and not honor you schedule
times and places that you promised you will regret it long term. Remember
what you tell you child is the gospel truth to them. If you neglect to
keep a promised visitation time or a scheduled event such as school play
they belief system may become shattered. If the can’t believe their
parents, who can they believe?

Establish your child visitation schedule early on. Outline the times you
plan to spend with the children. Include pickup and drop off times and
locations. In this manner you have defined the expectations of each
parent and given the children something to plan their life around.
Remember this affects them more than you or you ex-spouse, and
communications is the key.
I am a product a divorce and dealt with the child visitation issue
growing up. At 10 my parents separated and I lived with my mom. My dad
had visitation on the weekends. At the time my dad didn’t commit to much
and as a result we, my sister and I, didn’t visit with him much. He would
make a lot of promises that he rarely kept. When I had my child I made a
promise that my ‘Yes’ was yes and my ‘No’ was no; If I made a promise I
was bound to keep it. If I was unsure about a situation; my answer would
be ‘We will see when the time comes’.

As for my dad, he is constantly in and out of the hospital with a number
of ailments. I go and visit and take care of him during his times of
need. The love and admiration for him that should be there isn’t, because
I still remember waiting for him to pick us up and him not showing up for
his scheduled child visitation. That was over 30 years ago. If you are
separated or divorced and have children don’t miss out on this time. They
need you more than ever.

				
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