Love Is Life by amirsiddiqui99


									                                      Love Is Life
A few days ago we ran across a marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll, author of Outside the
Dog Museum. It goes like this:

“You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's
arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.”

We think this is wonderful advice for those “falling in love.” Too often, two people feel the early
signs of a loving relationship only to move too fast and scare away the one they are falling in
love with. Or worse yet, they become so enamored with “being in love” that they become
blinded to the warning signs. They so desperately want to be in love and be loved that they miss
important clues to the real feelings of the one they love.

In our many interviews over the years with individuals who have had a successful and long-term
relationship with somebody, we have repeatedly heard this advice – go slow in the beginning.

You’ve heard the old expression, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” One thing for certain – neither
was love. It develops over time. It requires patience. It requires self-examination. And it most
certainly requires you to run slowly across fields until you find the proper footing, lest you fall

Building confidence in any budding love relationship takes time and commitment. It requires a
level of objectivity about what is going on at a level you may have never reached before. People
falling in love do not lie to each other, but they often lie to themselves about what is happening
to them. They let feelings and emotions get the best of them before they are truly ready to share
their heart with another – before they are ready to make the honest and caring commitment
required to make love last.

Recently, someone sent us a copy of a beautiful essay entitled “Letters To My Son" 
by Kent
Nerburn. Our favorite passage is excerpted below:

Here “is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
without love, they understand love
only as a need. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as
their love cools, they
revert to seeing their love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and
become someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift,
and that it can be made to
grow only by giving it away.”

The message here should be clear – love is a gift you give to someone, and if you are lucky,
they give it back in return. But the real lesson here is that you need to step back and make sure
that you feel good about giving your love away as a gift. And to do this takes time. It takes

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reflection. It requires being honest with yourself about what you are feeling and what you are
giving away to another human being. Rushing to judgment about matters of such profound
importance is never a wise thing to do. Giving love away takes time. Accepting true love takes
courage. And trust. And time.

Recently, we wrote an article about love that captured the attention of many people around the
world. We got many comments about it. Bloggers picked it up. People talked about it. We
entitled our article, How Will I Know I Am In Love?.

Our essential message in that article is that there are clear and telltale signs for love. When you
recognize those seven categories for knowing you are in love, honestly reflect upon them, and
cherishing them as the gift of love that they are, you are in love. But don’t confuse your feelings
of love for another, your gift of love to another, without also truthfully asking yourself, “Have I
also received the gift of love from the one I love?”

When you feel good about giving your love as a gift and that feeling is reciprocated by the one
you love, then you both are in love with each other. As Nerburn tells us, the “secret of love is
that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.”

True and lasting love takes time because true and lasting love is all about the reciprocal gift of
love between two human beings. To be in love is to dash across the field of lilies on a beautiful
spring morning unafraid to fall down as you leap into the arms of the one you love and who
loves you. Go, be in love if you are ready to give the gift of love.

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