The LLL Alumnae Association
Volume 22, No. 3 ~ September - December 2009 _________________________________________________
Alice Martino Roddy became a Leader in 1969 when her oldest son was two-years-old.
She was active until about 1975. After her children were launched into college, she
decided to support breastfeeding and see what had gone on in LLL in the interim. So she
attended a World Walk for Breastfeeding and became more active again. Alice has three
adult children (one is adopted) and five grandchildren (two are adopted). She has been
the New York-West Area Leaders’ Letter Editor and is currently a co-Leader with the
Front Royal, Virginia LLL group and a Communication Skills Instructor (CSI).
Her passion is being available to Leaders to expand their communication and listening
techniques in their daily lives and as they help breastfeeding mothers. Alice shares her
perspective about making peace with anyone and most importantly with oneself.
IIn Thiis IIssue
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1 Make Peace With Anyone
Make Peace With Anyone
2 Where Is the CBI Library?
3 Celebrations and Holidays: Make Peace With Anyone: Breakthrough Strategies to
Staying Connected With Family Quickly End Any Conflict, Feud or Estrangement by
3 Leader Service Pins Available David J. Lieberman, PhD, is a powerful book
from Alums with specific, step-by-step instructions. As I read
4 Risk and Breast Cancer it, I was electrified by Lieberman's insights into
5 Finding Solace in Alumnae human nature. Lieberman believes that when we
Connections make any decision in life we are choosing:
5 Staying Fit As You Age
6 Janet’s New Horizons (1) What makes us feel good?
6 Tributes of Thanks to Janet (2) What makes us look good? or
(3) What is good?
7 Attending LLL Meetings As a
Mother Then…and As a
However it is only by choosing what is good and
right that we can truly feel good about ourselves.
8 Third Generation LLL Leaders
8 Margaret Campbell Receives When we choose to do what is right, we build our self-respect, we feel in control of
Alumnae of the Year our lives and capable of taking care of ourselves.
9 LLL Breastfeeding Helpline-US
9 World Breastfeeding Week in Big Lieberman's basic premise is that feeling in control is a fundamental need of any
Lights human being. We need to feel we can take care of ourselves and meet our own needs
9 Alumnae Council in order to feel capable of survival. A diabetic, who eats a luscious piece of cake at a
10 Taking Time to Learn party because it tastes so good and because she feels closer to the rest of the group
11 From the Mail Bag when she is behaving like them, is likely to feel weak and shameful later because she
11 Past Issues of LLL News Available didn't take care of herself. She jeopardized her own health and her ability to care for
If, when she was about to take a bite of that cake, someone else–her husband, her
Is LAST ISSUE on the back own mother or child–stopped her, her health might be protected but not her self-
respect. It wasn't her control that led to the correct behavior. Another of Lieberman's
page/address section of your issue?
fundamental principles is that human beings need the freedom to make their own
Renew by December 31 to be on
choices in order to feel in control and therefore safe.
the 2010 mailing list. Membership
is $20/year. Remember to ask a When we are motivated by a desire to look right–to wear the right sneakers, drive the
friend to join with you! right car, live in the right neighborhood–there may be nothing inherently wrong with
our choices, but we are still not free because we are still dependent on others.
(continued on p. 2)
Makiing Peace Wiith Anyone
M a k n g P e a c e W th A n y o n e (continued from p. 1)
As I read, I thought about how well for what is lacking in him or herself: So the keys to resolving or preventing
this explains why it is so important to respect. If we don't respect ourselves, conflict are respect and freedom. Make
respond to a baby's cues. It is obvious we don't love ourselves. But we must Peace With Anyone gives very specific
that life is precarious for a newborn. have love. If we don't have it within steps for managing 25 different
We know that his reserves are as small ourselves, we demand it from others. If arguments, feuds and estrangement. All
as he is, that his tummy is tiny, and someone ignores us, bullies us, begin with establishing respect and
that he could dehydrate so quickly. If overpowers us or in any other way include respecting the other person's
someone does not respond promptly, threatens our sense of being able to freedom of action. This meshes
how can he feel safe? If he isn't safe, manage our own lives while we are in beautifully with our work as La Leche
how can he feel good about himself? that state of low-self respect, we are not League Leaders and members.
How paradoxical that in a culture that going to allow them to drain our Listening intently is respectful. Sharing
places a high value on independence, remaining self-respect. We react information without giving advice is
there are many who believe independ- negatively. We may become angry. both respectful and freeing.
ence is promoted by ignoring a little Anger gives one a sense of some power
person's efforts to take care of himself. or control. Although I doubt I'll ever use the
specific strategies Lieberman
Now I know that in writing this to The reality is that no one ever argues prescribes, Making Peace With Anyone
readers who are supportive of LLL, I has deepened the philosophical
over socks on the floor, what color to
am, as the old saying goes, "preaching framework underlying my practice of
to the choir." However, when I was a
paint the kitchen, or where to eat. We
communications skills. My one
new mother in 1967, I was torn argue over the right to be heard, the reservation about the strategies in this
between my desire to breastfeed my right to have our beliefs validated, and book is that someone who wants to
baby and my fear that I would spoil my the right to be who we are. manipulate people for their own ends
baby if I catered to his every need. I could abuse them. Lieberman warns
had Dr. Spock's book in one hand and David J. Lieberman, PhD
repeatedly against this, saying his
La Leche League's blue manual (as The Lieberman uses the example of how we advice should be used only for the
Womanly Art was then known) in the react to a driver who cuts us off on the mutual benefit of everyone involved
other, so to speak. If I had known highway. He could have caused an and that a manipulator will end up in
Lieberman's view of human nature accident. His careless driving is a real big trouble. In all likelihood, most
back then, I would have been quicker threat to our survival. Our feelings run people who read the book will find that
to understand that my baby was just through fear to anger. If we are feeling the greatest benefit is in making peace
trying to survive, not manipulate me. generally good about our lives, we with oneself.
I'm grateful that today, should I have regain our balance quickly. But a
the opportunity to discuss spoiling with person with low self-esteem is a Alice Martino Roddy
a young parent, I'll have Lieberman's candidate for road rage. Interestingly in Linden, Virginia USA
vision to share. this situation, many people would have Reprinted with Alice’s permission, from
a strong need to see the other driver. Harvest, Autumn 2003, Area Leaders’ Letter
What does all this have to do with
Does that driver look like someone for LLL of New York-West.
resolving conflict between people?
who would disrespect us? If it is a little
Well, Lieberman maintains that when
old man, we may feel relieved that no
someone's self-esteem is lowered or
disrespect was intended even though
damaged, that person looks to others
the threat was no less.
W h e r e IIs t h e C B II L iib r a r y ?
Where s the CB L brary?
The Center for copy to me: c/o Pat Young, 10 Ferro will be useful for future planning and
Breastfeeding Drive, Sewell, NJ 08080 or at direction. Send ideas to me at
Information (CBI) firstname.lastname@example.org. Your help is email@example.com or to LLLI
Library previously needed to combine the collections, sort Executive Director, Barbara Emanuel
provided over 50 duplicates and create a database. If you at: BEmanuel@llli.org
services for LLLI. are an active or retired Leader and
Now it is simply a would like to help with these tasks, you There is a list of "books up for grabs"
library of are invited to come to Sewell, a 30- that you can ask for. Contact me to get
breastfeeding-related research articles minute drive southeast of Philadelphia, the list. After you receive the requested
safely stored in my basement. Active to assist with this. Room and board books, donated postage is encouraged,
Leaders may request research articles will be provided. Donations are but not required. These books will all
by contacting a local LLL Area welcome and can be sent directly to be put into the recycling dumpster on
Professional Liaison (APL). Joining the LLLI with the notation that they are January 1, 2010. So contact me while
LLLI collection are the Wellstart specifically marked for the CBI they are available!
International breastfeeding research Library. Suggestions for how the CBI
articles. Articles published since 2005 Library can be useful to Leaders and Pat Young
can be sent in pdf format or in printed health care providers are welcome and Sewell, New Jersey USA
2 _______________________________________________________________ September – December 2009
The holiday season is coming soon. I posed this question on The Leader Connection 2 (TLC2) list for Active Leaders signed on to the
Community Network (CN): How do you connect with family either in person if they live close or at a distance when holidays arrive, especially if
they work on holidays and weekends? I’d like to share these email responses with readers. Fran Dereszynski, Editor
Celebrations and Holidays:
Staying Connected With Family
I have a large family and am the oldest breastfed! When the first one of us chat with me through instant
of seven kids. I will soon be 70 and turned 50, our mother thought a messaging. I also keep up with them by
they never let me forget it. Each of us birthday party would be a good idea. using the Web site Facebook. Calls on
hosts our own birthday in our home So far, I think about half of us have the phone are a special treat but that
and all the other siblings and their kids turned 50 and the parties have been doesn't happen more than every week
come for goodies. We have wine, beer, loads of fun. About half of us live or two. Emails? Rare. Letters in my
munchies like chips and cheese, and of within easy driving distance of each mailbox by postal mail? What's that?
course, kielbasa that my brother makes. other; some of the others who live It's wonderful when they are in town
He provides smoked, unsmoked, hot, farther away have been able to travel and we can have a family meal. We
sweet, more garlic, less garlic kielbasa! home for a party. Now we've begun to rented a beach house for a week and
Last, but not least--cake and ice cream add 60th birthday parties, and my turn that got everyone into gear! They all
with gifts. We also celebrate all of the will be in January 2010. Gasp! For came. The rented beach house was
children's birthdays until they are 16- other special holidays, we also are able near the daughter who had the least
years-old. The same occurs at to get together for other special amount of vacation time. Fortunately
Christmas where each sibling and holidays, again because enough of us for all of us, she lives in Virginia Beach,
immediate family of kids–if they can live within driving distance of our Virginia!
come–has an assignment to bring a hometown. We also have a facility
specific type of food. One year I was that's finally big enough to hold all of When my family is together, there is a
assigned the cheese platter. Having just us–the gathering room of our mother's feeling of enjoying being together
seen a Wallace and Grommett movie, I apartment complex. She and my dad but an awkward pause-- "What should
brought British cheese. Christmas is a had to move out of our childhood we do now?" We sometimes play
food-shared event so the burden doesn't home to finally have enough room for games or cards. It's pretty fun to get a
fall totally on to the host. We all share all the kids, in-laws, grandkids, etc. to cooking project going. For Christmas
a wacko sense of humor, so there are gather for holidays. In the summer dinner, we all worked together to make
plenty of gag gifts. We go home with time, we have big parties in the yard of Indian food. It was really fun and quite
sore muscles from all the laughter than the house where we all grew up in, labor intensive so everyone got
ensued. With each family member because our youngest sister owns it involved in chopping, stirring, calling
working full time (except for my now and it's in the middle of three out the recipes, etc. For example, we
husband and I who are retired), it acres. Those parties often happen when heated up two gallons of milk on the
would be hard to get together other- an out-of-state sibling comes home to stove. That took a lot of stirring so that
wise. Good thing there are lots of us! visit. Many of us also keep in touch via it wouldn't burn. Then we added some
There is a birthday in nearly every email, even our 84-year-old mother! lemon juice and made curds and whey.
month. One sister hosts a Labor Day We ladled it out into a cheesecloth and
event, too. When my birthday comes Peggy Wiedmeyer made "paneer" or Indian cheese. It was
up, we usually have pizza, fresh fruit, Glenbeulah, Wisconsin USA pretty exciting and tasted great, too.
cake and ice cream. My brother will
bring the kielbasa. Of course, we're Kathy Kerr
Polish. My kids are ages 18, 22 and 25. I've Arlington, Virginia USA
found the best way to stay in contact
with them is to learn how to use
Rocky Hill, Connecticut USA technology. The fastest, most sure-fire
way for me to contact them is by text
message from cell phone to cell phone.
They will almost always answer
I have 11 siblings. All 12 of us were quickly. Sometimes I can get them to
L e a d e r S e r v iic e P iin s A v a iilla b lle ffr o m A llu m s
Leader Serv ce P ns Ava ab e rom A ums
Pins for years of service in LLL can be ordered from the Alums! Prices start at $5 per pin with reduced
prices for bulk orders. Available are 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, and 30-year pins. By the end of this year, we plan
to add a basic LLL Leader pin and 35-year pins to our inventory. Contact Susan Geil firstname.lastname@example.org
to place an order or download the order form at: http://alumnae.llli.org
September – December 2009 _____________________________________________________________ 3
Barbara Parker was diagnosed with two breast cancers in 1990 and has been cancer free so far since then–despite ten years of
breastfeeding her three children. Barbara wrote: “What makes me credible is not my diagnoses, but the fact that my diagnoses
motivated me to learn about the language and concepts of scientific research, and that for ten years I interacted and
‘dialogued’ with cancer researchers on the local, state and national level bringing patient perspectives into the research
process. I also wrote an ‘invited’ chapter on how patient advocates can enhance the development of clinical trials in a book for
medical professionals on the subject.” She took time to share her unique perspective with the Alumnae.
Risk and Breast Cancer
Most of us think about things we can Now you can consider “family Dense breasts = the glandular tissue in
do to reduce the risk of breast cancer– history”’ differently. If your family hormonally active women that shows
breastfeeding, avoiding alcohol, history consists of your mother’s or up on film as white and cannot easily
eating a low fat diet, exercise, etc. your sister’s breast cancer on one side be differentiated from cancer that also
Actually these have only a minimal at 62, it does not pose a significant shows up as white.
effect in reducing risk. We focus on increased risk for you because her
these because they give us something cancer likely occurred by random For women who are truly at increased
to do. Did you know that 70% of acquisition of a genetic error as she risk because of an extensive and/or
women with breast cancer have aged. early family history, an alternative of
lifestyles that are associated with the frequent and thorough breast
above “reduced risk” factors? You may have heard that pregnancy examinations is a reasonable one.
is protective and it is–if it is during the Another possibility is breast Magnetic
The two biggest risk factors by far of teen years. That is because breast Resonance Imaging (MRI), a
developing breast cancer are: being development isn’t complete until after radiology scan/test. That is much
female and growing older. Both are a pregnancy. An early pregnancy more effective in finding malignancy
factors we can do nothing about. completes that development early, if it is there, but MRIs produce a lot of
Even family history that is the first minimizing any chance of acquiring false positives (showing malignancy
thought for women to have when gene errors, while a later pregnancy when it is truly not) and it is
thinking about increased risk, has to leaves room to acquire gene errors expensive, so be prepared for the
be a very particular kind of family (mutations) that are replicated as the increased cost and anxiety about the
history to increase risk. One would breasts develop further during possibility of a “diagnosis” and a
have to have several genetically pregnancy, replicating any gene errors follow-up biopsy when there really
related close relatives who had breast as well. If a pregnancy is in the 30s, isn’t any cancer.
cancer when they were young, or had that raises the risk a smidge.
it in both breasts (or both of these Also women who are truly at
circumstances) to be at notable Long-term breastfeeding reduces risk increased risk can do a Web search or
increased risk; and the female for pre-menopausal women by about Google the word FORCE (facing our
relatives could be your father's sisters one third (after menopause, risk of cancer empowered). This is an
or mother! Huh, you think? If you breastfeeding history makes no advocacy group of women who are at
remember any biology, “you” were difference in risk). According to a high risk of breast cancer. I know the
formed half by genetic material from massive new study of 60,000 women who founded this organi-
your father and half from your participants, “among women whose zation and I highly recommend it.
mother, so any mutation you inherit mothers, grandmothers, or sisters had
can come from either parent. breast cancer, those who breastfed Anyone who wishes to pursue genetic
their babies had a 59% reduction in testing should definitely first contact a
Now consider this: Only about 10% of incidence of pre-menopausal breast genetics counselor who will take a
breast cancers are caused by genetic cancer compared to women who thorough family history and tell her if
mutations that are inherited from a bottle fed.” (Aug 10, 2009, Archives of her history makes her a candidate for
parent. Although we generally think Internal Medicine) testing. Also, the genetics counselor
“inherited” when we hear the word will review what she can and cannot
“genetic,” the vast majority of breast For a young woman who is really infer from either a positive or negative
cancer is caused by “errors” uneasy about her risk because of her test. Genetic testing for BRCA1
(mutations) in one’s genes that are mother’s, grandmother’s or sister’s (breast cancer 1, early onset) or
acquired randomly during a lifetime. diagnosis, one suggestion is to have a BRCA2 (Breast Cancer Type 2
Women who inherit a gene error first mammogram about ten years susceptibility protein) is expensive.
(mutation) are more likely to develop earlier than the mother’s age at
breast cancer earlier in their lives (e.g., diagnosis. Remember, though, Barbara Parker
in their 30s) while for most women, mammograms are notoriously Raleigh, North Carolina USA
the age peak for diagnosis of breast uninformative in women with dense
cancer is for women in their late 50s breasts, which most young women
and late 60s. have.
4 _______________________________________________________________ September – December 2009
Finding Solace in Alumnae Connections
My Continuum arrived yesterday. Two of us as retired LLL Leaders finding each and assurance. This instance was with
stories in particular affected me. The other again later on in our lives. Most of my daughter, the last baby I nursed and
article by the widowed Leader from New us found LLL in the first place because who was part of so many meetings. It’s
Zealand was excellent and pertinent. I we were searching for help to take care of sort of a living demonstration of the
already have had two friends who a very special love that had entered our saying, “what comes around goes
become widowed in their 40s or early families–our new baby. We just wanted around” or the other way around, I can
50s. My husband keeps reminding me to be the best moms we could be but it never remember.
that this will probably happen to me and turned out harder than expected–so we
statistically, he is right. Plus he became found LLL, found some help and So, it’s not surprising, that when we are
more aware of mortality after his bypass continued on to be Leaders. now experiencing new challenges in our
surgery two years ago. Thank you for lives, not just losses of our spouses and
raising the issue. I know I need to think The help I received and the help I ended family, but losses like not seeing a
about it even though it could go the other up giving to others as a Leader, turned familiar body in the mirror, knees aching
way. The other article was the one about out to be one of the most gratifying that never did even last year, skin
raising a “shaken baby” grandchild. services I’ve done in my life. Years and hanging under the arm…you get the
What strength Lynne Stone showed and years later, a woman will recognize my picture, that we find solace in hearing
how much she attributed the skills she name and say thank you for helping her from the same people who accompanied
learned in LLL for helping her cope. with her baby. Help for such a precious us on that path of new motherhood
relationship is not forgotten. Meetings where all the “firsts” were encountered.
Kris Dobyns nurtured an emotional safety net where Sharing with each other is like skooching
Richmond, Indiana we shared ways to become a mother that around in your chair until it’s a comfy fit.
just felt right. Years went on by. I I look forward to hearing from all of you:
I had to sit down and write something stopped being a Leader because for me it how did those babies turn out that co-
after receiving the May-August issue of was hard to move on in life without slept in bed with you, that you nursed so
Continuum in early June. In response to babies while being surrounded by them. long that people were sure they would
the article, Traveling Alone: The First Year Now, babies and LLL have returned never grow up, So many, many ways we
of Widowhood, I, too, am a widow since through grandchildren and through can now share with each other. Thank
about five years ago. I was married to Continuum. This time around, my you for being there in the past and thank
Mark for 40 years when he died. I know daughter and I needed help with inverted you for being with me now.
about the physical aching in your heart nipples and breast shields (help so
that the author Jeanette talked about–so wonderfully given by Mary Ann Martin, Joey Latterman
much pain. I could also connect with a Leader here in Lansing, Michigan, who East Lansing, Michigan
many other areas along that journey of had stuck with LLL all these years). LLL
grief, but I want to address the idea of all again came to our rescue offering peace
D r iiv e T o g e tth e r a n d C a ttc h U p W iitth O lld F r iie n d s
Dr ve Toge her and Ca ch Up W h O d Fr ends
I had the neatest experience when I used to be involved in LLL. When they we both served for several years
decided to drive to Indiana with arrived at the meeting point, I found together on the local board of
Wendy Masters, a long-time LLL that the grandmother was an old friend education. The Leader Applicant was,
friend. We were headed for the spring of mine. Both were originally from my of course, at those meetings as a baby.
Area Conference about three hours local community, New Buffalo, What fun we had “catching up” all the
away. We stopped to pick up some Michigan. The Applicant had way down to the Conference and on
Leaders from northwest Indiana. One graduated around the same time as one the drive back from Indianapolis!
Leader who was there thought that I of our daughters. I first met her mother
might like to ride with a Leader when she hosted LLL Series Meetings Pam Oselka
Applicant, her one-year-old, and her in her home in the 1970s. Our paths Union Pier, Michigan USA
mother (the baby’s grandmother) who have also crossed since those days, as
S tta y iin g F iitt A s Y o u A g e
S ay ng F As You Age
I would encourage all of you who are that the “normal” trajectory of aging the decline we assume is “normal”
the least bit concerned or interested in that we assume–gradual and aging can be postponed many years
maintaining fitness as you age to see if increasing physical decline as we for almost everyone. When aging
your library has the book Younger Next approach and after retirement–is not comes, it debilitates us for a lot less
Year: A Guide to Living Like 50 Until inevitable. time. If any of you reads it, I would be
You're 80 and Beyond, by Chris very interested in what you think.
Crowley and Henry S. Lodge, MD. They say that with some effort (one
The book is very readable and hour a day) and thought about how Barbara Parker
explains just what happens in our we eat, how we conduct our email@example.com
bodies as we age and how we can relationships, and with inclusion of Raleigh, North Carolina
change that. The authors maintain activities focused outside ourselves,
September – December 2009 _____________________________________________________________ 5
Janet Jendron, recently took on the position of President of the Board of Directors for Attachment Parenting International (API). She has
been a long-time supporter of API <www.attachmentparenting.org> . She served for eleven years on the LLLI Board of Directors and
many years on the LLL Alumnae Association Council.
J a n e t’ s N e w H o r iz o n s
The decision to have children is to premise that we all want the best for LLL Co-Founders said, "We need to
make an investment of love. Very our children. I'm grateful for the many focus on helping the mother breastfeed,
recently, my mother and my mother-in- years of experience I've been given in and then let the baby teach the
law both passed away unexpectedly. La Leche League, with the hope and mother." My children have certainly
They were both bottle-feeding mothers, prayer that I can use that experience to taught me my critical lessons in life,
and watched my early decision to help API grow in exciting new especially about the importance of
breastfeed, let the babies into our bed, directions. Parent-to-parent support is humility!
and so forth. They embraced our critical to changing our world. As my
choice of attachment parenting with four children and four-year-old
practical, emotional and spiritual granddaughter have grown, I've learned Janet Jendron
passion. They were my mothering soul the importance of giving grace to each Chapin, North
mates. They profoundly influenced my other, while still focusing on our Carolina USA
desire to embrace all the parents I've common goals, and always being open
encountered through the years, with a to learning from each other. One of the
Tributes of Thanks to Janet Jendron!
The competence of Janet led effective Janet always had some very funny
committees and guided complicated stories to entertain us with at Alumnae
discussions. Council meetings. I will miss hearing
The experience of Janet kept us from those, as well as the many words of
wandering dead-end paths. wisdom that she offered to the group.
The honesty of Janet wasn’t afraid to
call up any elephants in the room. Susan Geil
The integrity of Janet anchored us to LLL Alumnae Council
The playfulness of Janet made any Working on anything with Janet is
gathering just plain fun. always fun. There were always many
The tenderness and caring of Janet laughs! I love the fact that I could
Sue Christensen & Janet Jendron always count on Janet to do what she
enveloped our Co-Founders at Alum
events and beyond. said she would do, and to do it well.
Janet played a unique role on The heart and soul of Janet grounded Who can forget all of the stories of "my
the Alum Council us all. new best friend," often a stranger that
The commitment of Janet means she is Janet met on her travels, perhaps
The generosity of Janet gifted the still just an email away. stranded in an airport, due to weather,
Alums with a wealth of virtues. The spirit of Janet always makes us or an airport employee tracking down
The sparkle of Janet brought laughter smile. lost luggage? I think of Janet as the
and carefree abandon to hard- eternal optimist, with a strong faith,
working meetings. Sue Christensen and always a positive attitude, no
The perspective of Janet added years of LLL Alumnae Council matter what the challenge. I loved the
LLL history to deepen our way Janet handled her "mistress of
understanding. During the time I worked with Janet on ceremonies" responsibilities at the LLL
The efficiency of Janet whipped out an LLLI Board Committee years ago Alumnae teas at LLLI Conferences–
detail-filled minutes that actually and as a member of the Alumnae she was so comfortable on stage, so
made sense. Council, she has been a role model of respectful and kind with the LLLI Co-
The friendliness of Janet meant new, grace, understanding, and patience. Founders, and just made these events
interesting acquaintances around Janet, you continue to inspire me! very special for all in attendance.
every corner. Thanks, Janet, for all that you did for
The pragmatism of Janet kept Fran Dereszynski
the LLL Alumnae Association–I know
farfetched ideas within reach of LLL Alumnae Council
that you will bring the same grace and
success. continuing work and dedication to API
Janet lights up the room when she
The grace of Janet accepted our as you have to your many responsibili-
enters; bubbly effervescent; energizes
imperfections. ties through the years for La Leche
those around her; and her fingers fly on
The curiosity of Janet forced us to League. With much gratitude and love,
think about things like whom in
history we’d most like to meet. Pam Oselka
LLL Alumnae Council (continued on p. 7)
Valparaiso, Indiana USA
6 _______________________________________________________________ September – December 2009
T r iib u t e s o f T h a n k s t o J a n e t J e n d r o n !
Tr butes of Thanks to Janet Jendron! (continued from p. 6)
Nancy Franklin & Janet
Janet has an energy that zooms and takes most of us with her. She
brought that energy to the Alumnae Council and setting up of the
Alumnae Web site as well as the other activities of the Alums. Favorite
memories abound. You haven't seen a whirling dervish at work until
you see Janet going from booth to booth to booth to buy items from all It was a pleasure working with Janet. I could always
over the world at the 2005 LLLI Conference World Faire. count on her when things needed to get done.
Nancy Franklin Whether it was unloading my car at 1:00 a.m. at the
San Antonio, Texas USA LLLI Conference or pulling together the program for
the Founders’ Tea. The picture above will forever
could always rely on Janet to be the bubbly personality for any
I remind me of Janet. She helped me unload my car at
occasion and working with her was a joy! Thanks JJ 1:00 a.m. in preparation for the LLLI Conference.
She grabbed a hotel cart and we were sneaking
Helene Scheff, LLLI Conference Pizzazz Team around to avoid having to pay a bellman to move
North Kingstown, Rhode Island USA the boxes for us. Her resourcefulness amazed me.
And, she was a terrific Master of Ceremonies at the
Janet Jendron is synonymous with boundless energy, laughter, Teas. Janet makes friends wherever she goes. The
loyalty, and caring. She is a can-do woman who gets the job done no stories of her travels to the Council meetings always
matter how busy she is. Janet has been helping mothers and babies in added extra entertainment. And no matter what
LLLI as long as I can remember as an LLL Leader, LLLI Board happened on the way, she did not let it keep her
member, Alumnae Council member, and a strong supporter of from staying focused on the business at hand. API is
attachment parenting. Thank you, Janet, for all you have done and fortunate to have her on their board, and I wish
for all you will still do for breastfeeding mothers. Janet the best.
You are the BEST!!!! Sue Steilen
Carol Kolar, Director of Education, LLLI LLL Alumnae Council
A sense of humor can help us overlook the unattractive, tolerate the unpleasant,
cope with the unexpected, and smile through the unbearable. Moshe Waldoks
A t t e n d iin g L L L M e e t iin g s A s a M o t h e r T h e n …
Attend ng LLL Meet ngs As a Mother Then…
and As a Grandmother Now
and As a Grandmother Now
I'm currently a Leader but not very active. I have been attending She told me after the meeting that everything she heard at the
local Group meetings with my daughter-in-law and my first meeting was just like what I had been saying about
grandchild (a little girl). The questions new mothers ask have breastfeeding and babies. I was saying these things ever so
not really changed. The concerns of new mothers have not gently throughout her pregnancy.
really changed. The meeting is not quite as structured as I
remember years ago but the ability to help new mothers has not Janice Pickett
changed. I had to laugh after the first meeting I attended with Black Mountain, North Carolina USA
my daughter-in-law because she was laughing when we left.
September – December 2009 _____________________________________________________________ 7
Third Generation LLL Leaders
At the April 2009 Connecticut Area
Conference, a candlelight ceremony (using
battery-powered candles) was held to
honor all newly accredited LLL Leaders. It
was also an occasion to recognize third
generation LLL Leaders! Shannon Sion
has just become accredited. She is the
daughter of Mary Campbell Hirsch, an
Alumnae Leader, and the granddaughter of
Margaret Campbell, who is also an
Alumnae Leader who lives in Ohio.
Margaret became the AACL for Southern
Ohio (1974-1984), beginning around the
time that Ohio split into two Areas. She
was also a member of the LLLI Board of
Directors and the Area Leaders’ Letter
Administrator (ALLA) for the Eastern
United States. Mary was an active Leader
from 1976-1989. She was the Connecticut
Area Treasurer “pretty much from the
minute she moved from Maine to Three generations of Leaders!
Connecticut.” After that, she was the
AAPL for Connecticut. Mary wrote that Marian Tompson, LLL Co-Founder; Margaret Campbell, Mary Campbell
she fielded Physician’s Desk Reference Hirsch, and Shannon Sion with her three children: Campbell (5); Aiden (3)
questions (the PDR contained details about and Jordan (7 months).
medications that physicians prescribe) and
was a resource for Leaders who spoke to Do you know of any other third generation LLL Leaders?
doctors. She said, “I talked to Mary White If so, contact Harriet Smiley <firstname.lastname@example.org>
and Dr. Gregory White on several Area Alumnae Representative, LLL of Connecticut.
occasions, calling them at home.”
Margaret Campbell Receives Alumna of the Year
On April 25, 2009 the Notre Dame College
Alumni Association honored Margaret
Walsh Campbell '46 as its Alumna of the
Year at its Annual Spring Luncheon and
Annual Business Meeting. This award
recognizes an outstanding alumna or
alumnus of Notre Dame College whose life
reflects the ideals and mission of the
College in church and community
activities, in professional accomplishment,
personal life and service to the College and
Notre Dame College Alumni Association.
In 1946, Margaret graduated from Notre
Dame College in South Euclid, Ohio, with
a degree in chemistry. She and her dearly
departed husband, Regis, have been Comments from LLL Alumnae members:
dedicated supporters of the college and the I attended Notre Dame College and was thrilled to learn that Margaret Campbell,
Alumni Association for many years. my first LLL Leader in Ohio, was to receive an honor this spring…Marti Miller
Margaret most recently served as a Margaret was an active Leader in the 1970s and 1980s as well as an active person
committee member for the campus chapel in the 1980s and 1990s! I saw a photo of her water-skiing just a few years
fundraising campaign. She is also very ago…Barbara Parker
active as a program chair of her local
parish church. (from the Notre Dame College Margaret was with many of us who attended the 2004 LLL Alumnae trip to
Magazine) Savannah, Georgia…Janet Jendron
8 _______________________________________________________________ September – December 2009
L a L e c h e L e a g u e B r e a s t f e e d iin g H e llp lliin e --U S
La Leche League Breastfeed ng He p ne US
The LLL Breastfeeding Helpline-US is while the experienced Leaders share odds of weaning are 2.4 times the odds
a wonderful resource for breastfeeding their personal and helping experiences. of a mother who did not start working
mothers in the United States. It is toll- that month. When working mothers
free and available to mothers 24 hours If a Leader had a question about call the Helpline and receive
a day, 7 days a week. The Helpline something and can't seem to find the information and support, they are then
provides answers to a variety of topics information that she needs, there is also able to explain to their employers why
from pregnant and breastfeeding a way to “flag” calls in the SalesForce breastfeeding not only benefits babies,
mothers, fathers, or health care system. At the click of a button the call but also companies. From their
providers. Many resources are available information will be whisked away and knowledgeable employees, employers
to the volunteer Leaders who assist popped into the email boxes of the are then able to realize the bottom line
with calls. The best resource is Professional Liaison Leaders who benefits of establishing a lactation
SalesForce, the software used for the assist the Helpline. One of them will program. As a result, breastfeeding
call logging system. It provides a contact either the Leader or the mother duration rates for employed mothers
wonderful tool that puts all the with additional information. There is will increase.
information that a Leader might need quite a lot to learn from each other just
right at her fingertips. Included is the by reading the chat! Donations to the Helpline are needed
ability to log calls and find topics. on an ongoing basis. The Helpline Web
There are many links to important LLL Breastfeeding Helpline-US has site lists the LLL Alumnae Association
information on Web sites, including the been approved to do a special project in as a donor/sponsor. Log on to
LLLI Web site and access to a partnership with the Department of http://breastfeedinghelpline.com to
subscription to Dr. Thomas Hale’s Health and Human Services (HHS) donate directly or you can donate
Web site to look up information which recognizes the important work through the Alumnae when you renew
involving medications. of the Helpline. HHS provided The your membership. If you are an active
Business Case for Breastfeeding toolkit to LLL Leader, please think about
In addition to the wonderful online help employers create a breastfeeding volunteering for the Helpline.
resources, there are a variety of human friendly work environment. It is Questions? Contact:
resources available through the estimated that 15% of US mothers who email@example.com
Helpline chat list: LLL Leaders, are planning to return to employment
doctors and lactation consultants. The do not even begin breastfeeding Susan Prado
Helpline chat group is a lively because of the anticipated difficulty of Associate Coordinator
discussion forum where Leaders can combining breastfeeding and LLL Breastfeeding Helpline-US
ask questions of other Leaders. The employment. One study found that in Lombard, Illinois USA
professionals offer medical information the month a mother starts work, her
“Don't ever forget, life doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful." The Nesting Place blog
W o r lld B r e a s t f e e d iin g W e e k iin B iig L iig h t s !
Wor d Breastfeed ng Week n B g L ghts!
One evening in early August, I was sitting outside on the balcony of my apartment building on the 28th
floor. As I drank a glass of sun tea, I was watching the new signage from the nearby Philadelphia
Electric Company building. Along came this message in big letters: WORLD BREASTFEEDING
WEEK. Was I excited! Maybe we have come a long way.
Evy Simon, Philadelphia
L L L A l u m n a e A s s o c ia tio n C o u n c il
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September – December 2009 _____________________________________________________________ 9
T a k in g T im e to L e a r n
Though my children are grown, I brain is less used to soaking up forgotten. Continual reminders, when
recently realized just how the information as it is presented. I’ve appropriate may send a much stronger
concepts I first learned in La Leche discovered that, rather than making message.
League still apply to my life today. If myself endure marathon sessions with
everything goes as planned, the the material and trying to force it to • Learning they are loved. Kids may
newborn latches on instinctively after stick in my head, I learn better when I like big gift-giving sessions, but really,
birth and never has any problems revisit the material again and again isn’t it the day in, day out attention to
breastfeeding. But if there are any over time. When I reread the material their needs that tells them we love
problems, our instincts might be to a second or third (or more) time, the them? Reading to them, hugging and
work until the baby “gets it.” Those material makes more sense. It also kissing them, asking “how was your
marathon sessions of trying to get the gives me time to think over the day?” when we see them again, and
baby to latch on sometimes end up in material between study sessions, and I showing an interest in what interests
a battle of wills. Instead, studies show find myself making connections them can all be the foundation of our
that the baby will catch on faster if the between what I’m learning in school love for our children. Positive
baby has frequent contact with the and my day-to-day life. attention helps them know we value
breast and many opportunities for them as individuals, as well as part of
success. This concept may hold true in many our family. Months ago I got a text
ways–for all of us, in all stages of life. message from my 20+ year-old
Why have I thought about this Think about these examples. Are they daughter that said simply, “Mom, one
concept so much lately, though my better learned in one marathon of my favorite things about you is that
youngest baby is now ten-years-old? session or in small bites over time? you read to us.” Can there be any
The truth is I see this concept in many more payoff than that? I’ve still got
ways in my life now! I’m back in • Learning to drive. Some teens think that text on my phone, and I melt
school again. I’ve been trying to finish they can cram all the learning into one every time I reread it.
school for many years, but between or two long sessions and be good
nurslings and the business of running enough to pass the behind-the-wheel • Learning how to parent. How do
a home and family, the progress was test. Sure, they may be able to get our children learn to be parents?
very slow. their license, but can you really relax Maybe from books like many of us
with them before those habits are did. I love seeing my grown children
I finally got an associate arts degree in ingrained and reliable and they’ve had say or do things that show they’ve
December 2006. I really thought that more experience behind the wheel in absorbed childbirth, breastfeeding,
would be all I could do because many different settings? and parenting ideas from watching
attending classes and leaving children my husband and I parent their family.
at home–plus working fulltime–made • Learning a sport. At first, learning My grown daughters exude more
it very difficult. A couple of years the rules and how they apply in the confidence than I did at their age as
later, the desire was stronger again, game takes so much energy that they talk about birthing and parenting.
and now I’m finishing a bachelor arts there’s not a lot of attention to
degree. I probably have about two strategy. Once the rules are second Next time you are teaching something
more years of school ahead. nature, it is easier to have fun, play to your children or learning
your best, and strategize. something yourself, take it easy.
I’m working as an Independent Study Remember: just like the infant who is
student at the university that I first • Learning about bodies, intimacy, learning to breastfeed, often smaller
attended when I graduated from high drugs, etc. According to experts, as sessions repeated over time are more
school 29 years ago. I study on a kids grow up and ask questions, they useful–probably for both your kids
schedule I create rather than one learn to the level they are able to and you!
made by a professor. understand and no more. So talking
with your children once, giving them Karen Lyons
So far, I’m making good progress. “the talk” may not be as effective as Walnut, California USA
Unfortunately, it seems like my older we would hope. One talk can be
Trust in yourself.
Your perceptions are often far more accurate than you are willing to believe.
Have You Moved?
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forwarding account with the post office, it does not cover forwarding of bulk mail/second-class mail. Remember to include your
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F r o m th e M a il b a g
In early October, I will be doing the In the past couple of years, I
same thing when I go to Kansas City attended memorial services of a
for LLL US Western Council’s Leaders’ husband, father and
Face2Face Place for Area mother. One memorable service
Administrators. recently was for the husband of a
long-time Leader. I witnessed the
I was thrilled to receive comments inspiring stories shared by his three
about the last issue as well as reader’s adult children. He was a dedicated
articles to add to this issue. I’d love LLL supporter. For many years, his
to hear your thoughts after you read business provided storage space for
It’s still summertime…wonderful this one. Let me know what topics Leaders and their children to come
long, hot, lazy days. When there’s you would like to see in the future, by and use for LLL Group supplies. I
absolutely nothing to do but so much too. Here are some starters. heard that he was like a “Dear
to do that the time flies by too Abby” to the men and fathers he
quickly and all of a sudden you find A file on articles about knew–a listener and guidepost in
it’s fall! Many of us gauge our lives grandmothering (nearby or long- their lives. As I introduced myself to
by the seasons. We all have our distance) has been started for a future friends at the service, they already
favorites or perhaps our favorite part issue. What were your grandparents knew about La Leche League and
of each. My favorite part of summer like as you grew up? Their influence what it meant to his family and
used to be what was the same for my on you and your family? What friends.
children: no school, no schedule and wisdom and stories became part of
no homework. Ah, life before your heritage? What is your What astonished me was that these
adulthood is amazing indeed! grandparenting style today? Is there a recollections were similar to those I
competing climate with your heard for the mothers I have known
This summer, a highlight for me was grandchild’s grandparents from the in LLL–how this father’s life touched
attending Kaleidoscope, the Eastern in-law side of the family? the lives of others in a deep way and
US seminar in Philadelphia for LLL as you continue to do for your
Area Administrators. At the Other ideas: Boomerang college families.
Marketplace, I displayed photo students! Not really an empty nest
albums from the 2007 LLLI yet? Or have you been a caregiver Cherish each day. Take time to tell
Conference, San Antonio (2006) and (nearby or long-distance)? Aging and the ones you love how you feel about
Philadelphia (2008) trips and also health issues begin to creep into our them for you never know how many
sold several Alum memberships and lives from time to time. My mother tomorrows you will have.
Leader service pins. Meeting many had mini-strokes that progressed into
Leaders in person was a very dementia. I was her caregiver for five Until next time,
exciting. Now I have a face to put years. She passed away seven years Fran
with names of those who provide key ago. When I see a caregiver in the
support and information to Leaders store with elder in a wheelchair, I Send articles and photos to me by
January 15, 2010. Articles selected for
in their Areas. I also attended flash back to what I must have
publication may be edited for length,
inspiring sessions about publications looked like when I took mom clarity, and adherence to LLL
and conferences/continuing shopping or for a “walk” outside the journalistic guidelines.
education and discovered that many house to see the neighborhood.
Leaders present were Alum Published September 22, 2009
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Plymouth Meeting, Pennsylvania USA
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