The Importance of Parents in the Education and Formation of Children Educating children is one of the most complex responsibilities that a human being can undertake. We must therefore not leave this task solely to the school. Among other tasks, parents must take care of, protect and maintain their children. But most important is the responsibility of educating them. The Importance of Parents in the Education and Formation of Children Parents have a profound influence over the manner in which each child develops. Parents must stimulate their children from birth because the first three years of life is when there is spectacular brain development. The extent to which your child is stimulated will greatly determine his or her academic abilities. Education in the Family Education is imparted in several environments such as schools. But there also exists a non-scholastic education of vital importance. This education is that which is given in the family. Many students erroneously believe that their children’s studies are the sole responsibility of teachers. Because of this believe, some parents demand positive results from the school without having collaborated with teachers or their children in order to achieve such results. Education in the Family The primary responsibility of educating children belongs to the parents, while it corresponds to teachers to support and complement this education. The school can and must complement the family in its educational endeavors, but never substitute it. Educating by Example Parents are the primary role models for their children. Parents always want the best upbringing for their children; they must therefore be good role models for them. Parents must be conscious of the tremendous power that they have in forming the attitudes of their children. Parents must be very careful with the examples that they provide and the messages that they communicate to their children. Be aware that children are always alert and observant. Educating by Example The coherence between what parents expect of their children and what they expect of themselves gives them prestige and credibility in their children’s eyes. Parents educate much more by their manner of being and the examples they give than with their advice. The lack of interest and effort of the parents with respect to their own formation tends to create difficulties and shortcomings in their children. Remember that no one gives what he or she doesn’t have; no one can teach what he or she does not know or does not possess. Suggestions for Being a Formative Parent Respond to questions with patience, love and sincerity. Take questions and affirmations seriously. Provide children with personal space for their own use. Give responsibilities appropriate to their age and abilities. Teach them that you love them for being themselves, for who they are and not for their successes. Help them to carry out their own projects and make their own decisions. Behaviors that Promote Scholastic Development The following behaviors of the parents will serve as an example for their children so they do well in school. Consistency in finishing what they start, even though finishing may prove a challenge. Effort when attempting to things right despite being difficult. Self-discipline to overcome laziness, complete homework and meet other commitments satisfactorily. Suggestions for Being a Formative Parent Take them to visit places of interest. Help them to do better in the things they do. Determine appropriate and reasonable rules of behavior and work to make sure that they are followed. Don’t compare them unfavorably with their siblings. Provide them with materials and books that are appropriate for their intellectual development. Motivate them to think for themselves. Help them to express themselves well. Encourage them to be as independent as possible.