Understanding Anger and De-Escalation by HC120315014211

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									Why Are These Kids
   So ANGRY?
      Understanding Anger and
Effective De-escalation Techniques

      Anger Management 101
                      Presented by
                 Jim Whitaker
     Safe Schools Consultant; Shelby Co. Public Schools
          Consultant/Trainer; Safe & Civil Schools
                    jimbehave@aol.com
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*Based on the
 Materials of:
Malcolm Smith
The Peaceful Intervention Program

J.K. Mullins
Safe Crisis Management
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      *A Sign of the
               Times
• ________ youths between the ages of 10-17
  has seen or knows someone who has been
  shot. (Children’s Defense Fund)
• At least ______ students skip classes each
  school day because they fear physical harm.
  (NEA)
• Every U.S. school day, _____ teachers are
  threatened with bodily harm. And of those
  about ___ are actually attacked. (NEA) 3
      *A Sign of the
          Times
• More than ______ school age children bring
  a gun to school each day.
 (Children’s Defense Fund)
• More than ___ of children in the U.S. fear
  violent crime against themselves or a family
  member. So Do More Than ___ of Adults).
 (Newsweek)
• Every __________ a crime occurs in a U.S.
  school. (Children’s Defense Fund)       4
      *Statistics from the
Bureau of Tobacco and Firearms
• ___________ students bring a
  dangerous weapon to school each
  day.

• ___________ of these students do
  so for protection.

                                 5
        *The Changing
           Family
• In the last two decades, there has been a
  _____ growth in single parent households.
  (U.S. Bureau of the Census)
• The number of moms leaving home for work each
  morning has risen ___ in the past 20 years.
  (U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics)
• More than ___ of all American children will
  witness their parent’s divorce.
  (U.S. Bureau of the Census)                 6
          *The Changing
             Family
• Nearly _____ children in the U.S. are living
  below the poverty level. (Children’s Defense
  Fund)
• In the last 10 years, the estimated number of
  child abuse victims has risen by nearly ____
                                             .
  (National Committee For the Prevention of Child
  Abuse)
• The average child has watched _____
  televised murders, and _______ acts of
  violence before finishing elementary school.
  (American Psychological Association)              7
*Why are kids lashing out so much
             now…
 Why are they so disrespectful?

            ____
 “The person who gets hurt is the person
    who doesn’t pay homage to____.”
                Malcolm Smith

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             *What are you most
                 Afraid of?
     Study of 500,000 children in grades 5-9 by Kyro Yamamoto at the University of Colorado.
                                  In 1999 added 10-12 graders

                             Top 5 Answers
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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*FEAR and ANGER
“When FEAR or ANGER go
    unchecked in any


   _____
       society…


                    10
     *Expressive
          Anger
• Needs to talk about what caused
  the anger
• Anger is real, but not necessarily
  deep
• Moderate skill level required to
  help child deal with anger
          Peaceful Intervention Program
                                          11
                 Malcolm Smith
        *Expressive
              Anger
•   Wants you to know about their anger
•   Doesn’t seem to care about consequences
•   Overt
•   Easy to recognize
•   Short episodes, not well thought out
•   In control of emotions, NOT behavior
              Peaceful Intervention Program
                     Malcolm Smith            12
          *Passive
           Anger
• Anonymous or indirect expression of
  anger
• Avoids consequences
• Covert
• Sneaky
• Carefully plotted
• In control of emotions AND behavior
           Peaceful Intervention Program   13
                  Malcolm Smith
          *Passive
            Anger
• Needs to acknowledge the anger

• Anger is deep and somewhat difficult to
  admit

• Moderate to high skill level required to
  help child deal with anger
              Peaceful Intervention Program
                     Malcolm Smith            14
*Implosive Anger
•   Hides anger inside
•   Wants consequences
•   Ambivalent
•   Inconsistent
•   Designed for self-destruction
•   Behavior dictated by out-of-control
    emotions
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             Peaceful Intervention Program
                    Malcolm Smith
 *Implosive Anger
• Doesn’t know the magnitude of
  their anger
• Anger is buried and very difficult to
  talk about
• Professional skill level required to
  deal with anger; therapist,
  counselor, or other professional
  should be involved
                Peaceful Intervention   16
                  Malcolm Smith
*Implosives…
“CAN’T
    handle
 _____
 very well.”
 Malcolm Smith; The Peaceful Intervention Program   17
  “The Crisis Cycle”




J.K Mullins
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Safe Crisis
Management
      *Avoid “Combat
          Mode”
     “First you deal with the MOMENT…
      Then you deal with the BEHAVIOR.”
• “Dealing with the BEHAVIOR”…
   – YOU pick the time to discuss the behavior
   – Consequences pre-established?
   – “Practice” the pre-established replacement
     behavior?
   – Talk in terms of “next time”… have the
     student come up with a plan
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               *Curve                 of Explosion
  ____________________                             ______________________
  A time in which logical cognitive                ______________________
 process is impaired and impulsive
           behavior rules
                                                             ______________
____________
                                                             ______________
____________                     Power Behavior                  A time in which
 A time in which the             Activity                      exhaustion and/or
   individual calls                                          defeat occurs, allowing
    upon existing                                              normal behavior to
   coping skills to      Coping Response                           reestablish.
resolve the problem
   presented or to                                Impotent
   reduce anxiety.     Anxiety Experience         Response

J.K Mullins        STIMULUS                        CONTROLLED BEHAVIOR
Safe Crisis             Baseline of Normal Behavior
Management
                                                                                           J.K Mullins
                     Curve of Explosion                                                    Safe Crisis
                                                                                           Management
                        Crisis Cycle
                                                                    Stimulus
                                                 Action
                    Action
                                        Stimulus            Feeling
                             Feeling

                    Stimulus                                          Stimulus

          Action                       Thought            Action                    Thought

                    Feeling                                           Feeling


         Stimulus                                                           Stimulus

Action               Thought                                                                Thought
                                                                   Action

         Feeling                                                                 Feeling
                        *Curve of Explosion
J.K Mullins
Safe Crisis
Management                                           Peak of
    _____________Period                      ______________________
    I messages… Safety Concerns
    Physical Relaxation Prompts
                                                   __________
                                                         Period of
    Avoid Counter Aggression
    Don’t give consequences now                          _____________
                                                                I Messages
Period of _________
                                                            Safety Concerns
I Messages                                                   Physical Relax
Consequence Reminders                                               Prompts
Verbal Redirection      Positive                                  Positive
Correction     Positive                                      Reinforcements
Direction and Limits                                          Allow Isolation
Positive Problem                                                  Resolution
Solving                                                           Comments

              STIMULUS                            CONTROLLED BEHAVIOR
                              Baseline of Normal Behavior
  *Some Things TO DO, and Some
 Things NOT TO DO When Dealing
           with Anger
          DO                           DON’T
• Tell student to breath   •   Give multiple
• Slow movement                requests/commands
  (if any)                 •   Give a detailed list of
• Listen/Paraphrase            things to do or not do
• Give time                •   Blame
• Assist in problem        •   Deny Feelings
  solving (when ready)     •   Touch
• Use open body            •   Make quick movements
  language                 •   Use power body
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                               language

								
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