Emotional Intimacy

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					Emotional Intimacy
Necessary Components to Intimacy

• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to love
      Three Types of Love
• I only want you to meet my needs
• I’ll love you as long as you love
  me
• I’m going to give to you and I
  want you to feel loved by me
         Ephesians 5:29
• Nourish – Give an abundance of
  what they needs to flourish
• Cherish – Tenderly care for,
  support, encourage to hold dear,
  to treat with affection
What Keeps a Couple from Loving?

• Bitterness
• Pride
• Rebellion
Necessary Components to Intimacy

• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to love
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to respect
        Respect Involves:
• Honor – I Peter 3:7, Eph. 5:33
        Respect Involves:
• Honor – I Peter 3:7, Eph. 5:33
• Not self-focused – Phil.2:1-8
             Philippians 2:1-8
• (1)If you have any encouragement from being
  united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if
  any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness
  and compassion, (2)then make my joy complete
  by being like-minded, having the same love,
  being one in spirit and purpose. (3)Do nothing
  out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in
  humility consider others better than yourselves.
  (4)Each of you should look not only to your own
  interests, but also to the interests of others.
            Philippians 2:1-8
• (5)Your attitude should be the same as that of
      Christ Jesus:
  (6)Who, being in very nature God,
      did not consider equality with God something
      to be grasped,
   (7)but made himself nothing,
      taking the very nature of a servant,
      being made in human likeness.
   (8)And being found in appearance as a man,
      he humbled himself
      and became obedient to death—
      even death on a cross!
        Respect Involves:
• Honor – I Peter 3:7, Eph. 5:33
• Not self-focused – Phil.2:1-8
• Moral Purity – I Cor. 6:18
  –Premarital sex leads to
   disrespect
  –Pornography leads to disrespect
  –Adultery leads to loss of respect
Necessary Components to Intimacy

• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to love
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to respect
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to openness or communication
Two Ingredients to Communication
         Ephesians 5:29
• Consideration – sensitive to
  another’s needs
• Understanding – wanting to share
  that person’s feelings and desires
Necessary Components to Intimacy
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to love
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to respect
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to openness or communication
• Intimacy involves a commitment
  to appreciation and gratitude
Necessary Components to Intimacy

• Intimacy involves a commitment to love
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  respect
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  openness or communication
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  appreciation and gratitude
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  submission
Necessary Components to Intimacy
• Intimacy involves a commitment to love
• Intimacy involves a commitment to respect
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  openness or communication
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  appreciation and gratitude
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  submission
• Intimacy involves a commitment to
  cleansing
     Characteristics That Will
        Prevent Intimacy
• Performance/Expectations
     Characteristics That Will
        Prevent Intimacy
• Performance/Expectations
• Dominance/control over your
  spouse
     Characteristics That Will
        Prevent Intimacy
• Performance/Expectations
• Dominance/control over your
  spouse
• Expressive
     Characteristics That Will
        Prevent Intimacy
• Performance/Expectations
• Dominance/control over your
  spouse
• Expressive
• Self-focus
     Characteristics That Will
        Prevent Intimacy
• Performance/Expectations
• Dominance/control over your
  spouse
• Expressive
• Self-focus
• Anger
         Characteristics That Will
             Prevent Intimacy
•   Performance/Expectations
•   Dominance/control over your
    spouse
•   Expressive
•   Self-focus
•   Anger
•   Critical or Judgmental to your
    spouse
        Characteristics That Will
           Prevent Intimacy
•   Performance/Expectations
•   Dominance/control over your spouse
•   Expressive
•   Self-focus
•   Anger
•   Critical or Judgmental to your spouse
•   Not talked to/ignored or shut out
Intimacy Cannot Be Achieved If:
• Pressure patterns are being used
Intimacy Cannot Be Achieved If:
• Pressure patterns are being used
• Touching emotional pain issues
Intimacy Cannot Be Achieved If:
• Pressure patterns are being used
• Touching emotional pain issues
• Unresolved spiritual issues
Intimacy Cannot Be Achieved If:
•   Pressure patterns are being used
•   Touching emotional pain issues
•   Unresolved spiritual issues
•   Pain of past abuse
Keys to Identifying Heart Damage

• Ask Jesus to give you a word
  picture
Keys to Identifying Heart Damage

• Ask Jesus to give you a word
  picture
• Ask Jesus where your heart is
  hiding
Keys to Identifying Heart Damage

• Ask Jesus to give you a word
  picture
• Ask Jesus where your heart is
  hiding
• Ask Jesus to heal your heart
        Adult/Child Chart




                                Feels
                                ignored
                               abandoned
                                 judged
                                  alone
                              unacceptable
Adult         Child (heart)
     How do you understand
      and care for a person
• Accept, understand and care
• Give emotional support
• Caring words

				
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