24th Annual Charity Golf Event a Success
Our 24th annual charity golf event took place on Monday,
August 8th at Rockford Country Club. Despite inclement weather,
PERMIT NO. 524
our golfers were able to golf a few holes and enjoy great food and 4215 Newburg Road
camaraderie. Rockford, Illinois 61108 A publication of Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center Dec. 2011
We were pleased to raise $30,000 to support our care of www.northernillinoishospice.org
the terminally ill. We thank all of our dedicated volunteers,
sponsors, and participants who helped make this such a great R E T U R N S E RV I C E R E Q U E S T E D
We are already preparing for our 25th annual event which
will be held on August 13th, 2012. If you are interested
in participating in any way, please contact Kellie Miller at
815.398.0500 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Videographer/Director David Nevala shoots
Sandra Farnham, LMT, JSD® during the
taping of our new educational video.
LaDeta Layne sits next to a photograph of her family, including her grandmother Vera Morehead,
Golfers participate in the 2011 Annual Golf Charity event on August 8.
Brent Meade of Gruno’s Diamonds takes a swing during the 2011 golf
a former patient of Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center.
New video focuses
Teams played half the course prior to storms rolling in. All foursomes
on hospice families
The supported journey
were given golf raincheck vouchers by Rockford Country Club. event.
A retired gentleman speaks about
Continued from page 1 his wife while holding their wedding
that medical equipment was she worked 10-12 hour days as need anything.” three-hour shifts to be at her side. How hospice fosters family choices picture and a young woman tears up
costly and hard to come by a certified nursing assistant at Because Vera didn’t like taking “Everybody took a shift,” Layne while talking about her grandmother,
“Grandma always taught us to take care
independently, without hospice’s OSF Saint Anthony’s. She was her medicines, she sometimes said. “It was not a choice – and who died just before her wedding.
of your family. She took care of us all our
help. “With hospice, we were only semi-retired when she was would play tricks on the nurses we wouldn’t have had it any other These touching
lives, so this was the least we could do.”
able to do things and had extra diagnosed with cancer in March administering them. Layne and way. People didn’t mind doing it stories are among Check out our
money [because of the Medicare 2010. her family wanted hospice’s for her because she had always When Rockford native LaDeta Layne’s
the few featured
yes, I want to help Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center grandmother was diagnosed with new video in
hospice benefit] to help “She had a bout of chemotherapy guidance with respect to the given back.“ in Northern Illinois
provide compassionate care for terminally ill individuals and grief terminal pancreatic cancer in spring January on
Grandma and we didn’t have that gave her some more time, medication struggle, but they Vera’s giving stretched far and Hospice and
to worry about the expense. but by June 2010, it was time to also wanted to be in control of wide and included dinner, room Your donation to support for children, teens, and adults in the community. 2010, she knew exactly how she wanted
Northern Illinois Hospice offered stop treatment,” Layne said. “We Vera’s treatment. and board, and money, if needed. her grandmother’s last months to be:
Northern Illinois Hospice new community
so many resources,” Layne said, waited to call hospice until she “They were always available, She taught Layne and all of those Enclosed is my check comfortable, surrounded by family, in
“like the medical equipment and was ready.” but they didn’t take over,” she around her to “always treat people education video.
-OR- the hands of those who loved her.
medicine Grandma needed.” It was difficult for Layne and said of the hospice staff. “With right, no matter what.” Layne and and Grief Center helps Vera Morehead holds LaDeta Layne’s daugh- The six-minute film includes a
Please charge $______ to: Even with her large support network ter and her granddaughter, Laniece.
Described as a “jazzy woman” her family to watch such a their help, we didn’t have to deal her family chose hospice because physician and one of our nurses,
D O N AT I O N
to provide care for Account # _____________________________________Expiration Date: _____________ of family and friends, Layne knew that
who participated in Bible study and strong woman like her grandma with the doctor drama that we they thought it was the right thing hospice, but Layne and her family but what is most important are
Signature _______________________________________________________________ bringing in Northern Illinois Hospice and
loved to shop, Vera was married experience anxiety, a common experienced prior to hospice’s to do for Vera. terminally ill patients reminded her that hospice would “help the stories shared by those who
for almost 38 years and wore symptom in end of life diseases. involvement; they were on it [the “I’m not telling what I heard; Grief Center would provide support to
them help her.” experienced our hospice service
high-heels until she was 70. Most “She was antsy, had heavy medication issue] and did what I’m telling what I know,” said help ease the occasional nerve-racking
and grief support for Name __________________________________________________________________ Prior to calling Northern Illinois first-hand.
Sunday afternoons were spent in breathing and didn’t want to take they said they would do. We Layne. “My experience [with experiences caregivers encounter while
Address ____________________________City, State, Zip ________________________ Hospice, the family researched the cost The video was shot on a warm
the company of family and friends. her medication. It was painful were even allowed to administer Northern Illinois Hospice] was children, teens, and helping terminally ill loved ones.
Daytime Phone __________________________________________________________ of a bed, walker, and wheelchair and day in September and included five
“Grandma was a hostess,” Layne to see,” Layne said. “We felt the medication. We totally had wonderful.” Her grandmother, Vera Morehead,
adults in the community. families we have served.
said. ”Her house had a lot of helpless because we had never control.” Since 1985, Northern Illinois was hesitant at first about calling Story continues on page 5
gatherings. Once you are in our seen Grandma like that before. Although the family was offered Hospice has cared for five of Please mail donations to: Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center, Story continues on page 3
family – you’re in. Everyone had The nurses tried hard to make hospice patient volunteers, Vera’s Layne’s family members, and 4215 Newburg Road, Rockford, IL 61108
keys to her house.” things work. They were great. family choose to create a schedule her family served as primary Donations also can be made on our website:www.northernillinoishospice.org IN THIS ISSUE
Vera’s caring nature also was Even if she wasn’t having a good that allowed family, friends and caregivers for all. Vera died in
part of her job. For 20 years, day, they made sure she didn’t fellow church members to take October 2010. From My Corner 2 Volunteers 4
Staff News 2 Remembering 4
Page 5 A Donor’s Story 3 Golf Event 5
AHospice care leads to long-term support
Board of Directors From My Corner Volunteers Direct Care Volunteer Training
Thursdays, 9 am – Noon
At our annual volunteer recognition brunch last Beginning March 1, 2012
Carlos Aguero, MD • Jon Aldrich, CPA, CFP® • Kathi Bouland, month, we highlighted the varied and extensive 4215 Newburg Road, Rockford
RN, BHN • Amy Brewer • Henrietta Dotson-Williams • Scott contributions of two 30-year volunteers, three 15- Ten week training for new volunteers interested in
Eckburg, CIC • Bruce Ewald R. Ph. • Hon. Gerald Grubb (Ret.) year volunteers, and two 10-year volunteers - an providing services to patients and their families,
Dennis Horton • Dick Hynes • Carol Moll, CTFA® • Jerry Paris astounding 125 years of commitment! or for administrative volunteers who wish to
Gary Tiffany, MSFS, CLU, ChFC, LUTCF • Heath Sorenson expand their knowledge of end-of-life care. $25
We are blessed by and grateful to our volunteers. Every year, Ken Beidler makes material fee. For more information or to register,
Their work with our dying patients and their families a donation to Northern Illinois contact Sheila O’Leary at 815.398.0500 or email
Hospice and Grief Center.
Staff News can be difficult - but the bonds they create are strong, the help they
provide is invaluable, and their commitment to our mission of providing
compassionate and loving care to our patients is unwavering.
Like many of our supporters,
Beidler’s connection to us began
when we helped a loved one, in
patients honored on
Every Wednesday, we meet to grieve those his case, his wife. Ten years after Veteran’s day
who died in our care during the past seven her death, Beidler still remembers
Kris Kammerer joined the staff as
the Volunteer Program Associate days. Just this morning one of our volunteers, Volunteers are the how Northern Illinois Hospice
Marilyn, attended and told us how much she only human beings made him feel during that time.
will miss one of her patients. She visited her “I appreciate what they did
every week, sometimes twice a week, for
on the face of the for us,” he said. “I owe them
over a year. They talked, drank coffee, and earth who reflect (Northern Illinois Hospice and
roamed the halls of the nursing home togeth- Grief Center). It’s one of the
this nation’s com-
er. When the patient needed nursing help, few things I donate to and I will
this volunteer made sure someone came to passion, unselfish continue to do so.”
help. Marilyn’s closing comment was, “Thank caring, patience, Beidler and his wife Joan
you for allowing me to do this. I get back (pronounced “Joanne”) met at
and just plain love Rockford Business School in
much more than I give.”
for one another. 1953 and married two years later.
Emalina Vargas, CNA, Nancy Emanuel, CNA, Our hospice volunteers are indeed special They raised three kids while
CHPNA passed the CHPNA passed the people and every day we are humbled by their - Erma Bombeck Beidler worked two jobs and Joan
examination to become examination to become worked as a secretary, and later From Left: Gus Gustafson, Lola Gustafson, Larry Wakefield, Lorna Wakefield, Gladys Williams,
a Certified Hospice and a Certified Hospice and commitment and caring concern. Marcia Shaw and Gloriann Dawson were recognized during the 2011 Volunteer Appreciation Brunch
at City Hall and Bergner’s. Ken Beidler sits at his dining room table with a photo of himself and his wife Joan. Beidler became a supporter of ours after
Palliative Nursing Palliative Nursing
the death of his wife in 2001. on November 12. Others recognized, but not pictured, include Kathy Lundy and Jerry Paris.
Assistant (CHPNA). Assistant (CHPNA).
If you know someone who would like to serve in one of the most mean- “We had our differences when
ingful ways, please invite them to consider becoming part of our hospice we first got married,” he said.
volunteer program. Refer to page 4 for upcoming training dates or con- “She smoked and didn’t stop the doctor said to call hospice. as she walked away. He knew recommended hospice. His
tact Sheila at 815.398.0500 or email@example.com. until she was diagnosed with
cancer. I had polio and figured
With no understanding of what
“hospice” meant, Beidler and
the moment had significance.
“She wasn’t talking that last
brother-in-law Bob, who also
struggled with terminal cancer,
Year-end Charitable Giving Ideas
Live every moment, if she could put up with me, I his wife called Northern Illinois week,” he said, “and she was did not have the same end of life • Make a tax deductible charitable donation.
Carol A. Bennett could put up with her smoking! Hospice. “The nurse explained trying to tell me something. I experience. • Give shares of appreciated stock.
Executive Director We had a good life.” They a lot of things to me,” Beidler didn’t realize it then, but she was “His wife is still angry at the • If you are 70 ½ or older: Make a qualified charitable Volunteer Howard Ballard spent a good part of Veterans
enjoyed their four grandchildren said. “She just knew what was trying to tell me she was ready to doctor,” said Beidler, for not contribution (QCD) of up to $100,000 from an IRA trustee Day delivering gifts to our patients who have served our
Lisa Daughtery, RN, Valerie Hughes-Reuss, country. Here he hands patient Melvin “Bud” Hines a
and seven great-grandchildren, happening and would tell me go.” She died two days later. recommending hospice sooner. directly to a qualified charity. Such distributions may be
handmade lap robe to honor his service. Hines, a resident
BSN, CHPN passed the RN, CHPN passed the
examination to become examination to become and taking trips. why.” Beidler, who had retired Joan waited for her son-in-law, “Bob’s doctor told them there tax free and count toward satisfying any required minimum of Fairview Plaza in Rockford, was a staff sergeant in the
a Certified Hospice and a Certified Hospice and Joan was first diagnosed with four years earlier, served as a soldier who was based in Iraq, was no need for hospice, that distributions (RMDs) that you would otherwise receive from your Army during World War II, and Howie served during the
Palliative Nurse (CHPN). Palliative Nurse (CHPN).
cancer in 1993. After six years Joan’s caregiver. to fly back to be with the family. he could take care of it. He died IRA in 2011. Unless extended, this incentive is scheduled to Korean War.
in remission, the cancer returned He remembers a significant Less than ten minutes after he two days after the doctor finally expire after December 31, 2011.
Other News moment, one he has played over arrived at her bedside, she died. recommended hospice.”
• To continue education in pain management, 6 of our staff
members attended a Pain Resource Nurse Conference in
Rebecca Strong, RN,
and Joan sought answers
regarding how much time she
had. Beidler recalled her doctor
and over in his mind, when Joan
approached him as he stood at
Her hospice nurse, Carol, also
was with them.
Joan was in the care of Northern
Illinois Hospice and Grief Center
• Make an in-kind donation. Current items on our
wish list include baby monitors, extra long twin and fitted
sheets, garden rakes, window squeegees, raffle items, and 8 new 60”x72” off
BSN was featured in
September. Five of the attending staff members are Pain Milestone’s summer simply stating, “I’m not God, I the kitchen sink. She placed her “I was so happy Joan wasn’t for six weeks. “They did a white polyester blend/wrinkle free tablecloths.
Resource Nurses. The staff included Jessica Wulf, RN, 2011 newsletter. can’t tell you long you’ll live - but hand on top of his head and then suffering anymore,” Beidler said. tremendous job,” Beidler said. • Donate unwanted gold, precious metals or stones. Deliver Ruth Wassmann, age 88, Rockford, died in
BSN, CHPN; Sue Fricke, RN; Char Carlson, RN-BC, CHPN;
Pictured with Rebecca I don’t see an expiration date on walked back to bed. “I’ll be in to Beidler also notes how grateful “As long as I am on this earth, I’ll jewelry to Gruno’s Diamonds, 801 N. Perryville Rd., Rockford, who will provide a car accident on September 15, 2011. Ruth
Valerie Hughes-Reuss, RN; Rebecca Strong, RN, BSN and
Linda Loner, RN. is our patient Donna, the bottom of your feet!” Then tuck you in in a minute,“ he said he was for the physician who be writing that check.” a complimentary appraisal using accepted business practices including was a weekly administrative volunteer for the
who has been with us weight, content and fair market value. For more information, contact Gruno’s better part of two decades.
• The Direct Care Volunteer fall training course produced 6 for almost five years. Continued from page 1 at 815.399.1525.
new graduates including Cheryl Davis, Kurt Geiger, Anna Kaye, Donna’s favorite treat Under the direction of (featured on page 1), Dorsey that for the world,” Thompson said. “Northern Illinois Hospice gave • Donate an unwanted vehicle in good running condition.
Jan Mooney, Taucia Pullins, and Betty Steiner. Staff members is a milkshake, which
Ken Follette and Holly Johns also completed training. videographer/director David Thompson and Tara Williams, were Perhaps one of the most touching us a lot of really good memories,” Deliver the vehicle to Midas Auto, 3012 N. Main Street, Rockford. For more
the nurses bring to her
when they visit. Nevala, stories of loved ones interviewed. Since 1985, Northern stories is from Erin Bloom she said. “They helped us make information, contact Midas at 815.877.6096. Charlene Kelly, age 84, Rockford, died
and their hospice experiences Illinois Hospice has helped five of regarding her grandmother those last moments count. They November 30, 2011. Kelly was featured in
For more information, contact us between 8:30 am and
evolved into the perfect piece for
their family members.
“Personally, what hospice has
and the special moments they
experienced in the last few
took great care of my grandma ...”
The community education video
Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center operates as a 501(c)(3) not-for-
profit organization. All donations are tax deductible to the extent allowed by law.
Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center does not provide tax advice. Please
the August edition of Perspective and was
a resident of Provena St. Anne Center.
4:30 pm Monday through Friday at 815.398.0500. The relatives of LaDeta Layne done for our family...I wouldn’t trade months of her grandma’s life. is set to be completed by January. contact your tax advisor to discuss strategies that make sense for your situation.
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