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									    24th Annual Charity Golf Event a Success
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        Our 24th annual charity golf event took place on Monday,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  ROCKFORD, IL
     August 8th at Rockford Country Club. Despite inclement weather,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 PERMIT NO. 524
     our golfers were able to golf a few holes and enjoy great food and                                                                                                   4215 Newburg Road
     camaraderie.                                                                                                                                                         Rockford, Illinois 61108                                                                                                 A publication of Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center                                                                       Dec. 2011
        We were pleased to raise $30,000 to support our care of                                                                                                 
     the terminally ill. We thank all of our dedicated volunteers,
     sponsors, and participants who helped make this such a great                                                                                                         R E T U R N S E RV I C E R E Q U E S T E D
         We are already preparing for our 25th annual event which
     will be held on August 13th, 2012. If you are interested
     in participating in any way, please contact Kellie Miller at
     815.398.0500 or

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Videographer/Director David Nevala shoots
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sandra Farnham, LMT, JSD® during the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          taping of our new educational video.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     LaDeta Layne sits next to a photograph of her family, including her grandmother Vera Morehead,
    Golfers participate in the 2011 Annual Golf Charity event on August 8.
                                                                               Brent Meade of Gruno’s Diamonds takes a swing during the 2011 golf
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     a former patient of Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          New video focuses
    Teams played half the course prior to storms rolling in. All foursomes
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          on hospice families
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  The supported journey
    were given golf raincheck vouchers by Rockford Country Club.               event.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              A retired gentleman speaks about
Continued from page 1                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     his wife while holding their wedding
that medical equipment was              she worked 10-12 hour days as        need anything.”                        three-hour shifts to be at her side.                                                                                                                                            How hospice fosters family choices                                                                    picture and a young woman tears up
costly and hard to come by              a certified nursing assistant at       Because Vera didn’t like taking         “Everybody took a shift,” Layne                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    while talking about her grandmother,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       “Grandma always taught us to take care
independently, without hospice’s        OSF Saint Anthony’s. She was         her medicines, she sometimes           said. “It was not a choice – and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      who died just before her wedding.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     of your family. She took care of us all our
help. “With hospice, we were            only semi-retired when she was       would play tricks on the nurses        we wouldn’t have had it any other                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        These touching
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     lives, so this was the least we could do.”
able to do things and had extra         diagnosed with cancer in March       administering them. Layne and          way. People didn’t mind doing it                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      stories are among      Check out our
money [because of the Medicare          2010.                                her family wanted hospice’s            for her because she had always                                                                                                                                                      When Rockford native LaDeta Layne’s
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          the few featured

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  yes, I want to help Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center                     grandmother was diagnosed with                                                                                               new video in
hospice      benefit]    to    help       “She had a bout of chemotherapy    guidance with respect to the           given back.“                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          in Northern Illinois
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  provide compassionate care for terminally ill individuals and grief                terminal pancreatic cancer in spring                                                                                         January on
Grandma and we didn’t have              that gave her some more time,        medication struggle, but they             Vera’s giving stretched far and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Hospice and
to worry about the expense.             but by June 2010, it was time to     also wanted to be in control of        wide and included dinner, room             Your donation to                                   support for children, teens, and adults in the community.                          2010, she knew exactly how she wanted
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Grief Center’s
Northern Illinois Hospice offered       stop treatment,” Layne said. “We     Vera’s treatment.                      and board, and money, if needed.                                                                                                                                                 her grandmother’s last months to be:
                                                                                                                                                           Northern Illinois Hospice                                                                                                                                                                                                                      new community
so many resources,” Layne said,         waited to call hospice until she       “They were always available,         She taught Layne and all of those                                                              Enclosed is my check                                                             comfortable, surrounded by family, in
“like the medical equipment and         was ready.”                          but they didn’t take over,” she        around her to “always treat people                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    education video.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  -OR-                                                                               the hands of those who loved her.
medicine Grandma needed.”                  It was difficult for Layne and    said of the hospice staff. “With       right, no matter what.” Layne and       and Grief Center helps                                                                                                                                                                   Vera Morehead holds LaDeta Layne’s daugh-                The six-minute film includes a
                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Please charge $______ to:                                                         Even with her large support network          ter and her granddaughter, Laniece.
   Described as a “jazzy woman”         her family to watch such a           their help, we didn’t have to deal     her family chose hospice because                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      physician and one of our nurses,

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                                                                                                                                                              to provide care for                                 Account # _____________________________________Expiration Date: _____________      of family and friends, Layne knew that
who participated in Bible study and     strong woman like her grandma        with the doctor drama that we          they thought it was the right thing                                                                                                                                                                                              hospice, but Layne and her family                    but what is most important are
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Signature _______________________________________________________________          bringing in Northern Illinois Hospice and
loved to shop, Vera was married         experience anxiety, a common         experienced prior to hospice’s         to do for Vera.                         terminally ill patients                                                                                                                                                                  reminded her that hospice would “help                the stories shared by those who
for almost 38 years and wore            symptom in end of life diseases.     involvement; they were on it [the         “I’m not telling what I heard;                                                                                                                                                Grief Center would provide support to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     them help her.”                                      experienced our hospice service
high-heels until she was 70. Most       “She was antsy, had heavy            medication issue] and did what         I’m telling what I know,” said                                                                                                                                                   help ease the occasional nerve-racking
                                                                                                                                                             and grief support for                                Name __________________________________________________________________                                                              Prior to calling Northern Illinois                 first-hand.
Sunday afternoons were spent in         breathing and didn’t want to take    they said they would do. We            Layne. “My experience [with                                                                                                                                                      experiences caregivers encounter while
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Address ____________________________City, State, Zip ________________________                                                      Hospice, the family researched the cost                  The video was shot on a warm
the company of family and friends.      her medication. It was painful       were even allowed to administer        Northern Illinois Hospice] was           children, teens, and                                                                                                                    helping terminally ill loved ones.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Daytime Phone __________________________________________________________                                                           of a bed, walker, and wheelchair and                 day in September and included five
“Grandma was a hostess,” Layne          to see,” Layne said. “We felt        the medication. We totally had         wonderful.”                                                                                                                                                                         Her grandmother, Vera Morehead,
                                                                                                                                                           adults in the community.                                                                                                                                                                                                                       families we have served.
said. ”Her house had a lot of           helpless because we had never        control.”                                 Since 1985, Northern Illinois                                                                                                                                                 was hesitant at first about calling                             Story continues on page 5
gatherings. Once you are in our         seen Grandma like that before.          Although the family was offered     Hospice has cared for five of                                                                 Please mail donations to: Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center,                                                                                                                                Story continues on page 3
family – you’re in. Everyone had        The nurses tried hard to make        hospice patient volunteers, Vera’s     Layne’s family members, and                                                                                             4215 Newburg Road, Rockford, IL 61108
keys to her house.”                     things work. They were great.        family choose to create a schedule     her family served as primary                                                                  Donations also can be made on our       IN THIS ISSUE
   Vera’s caring nature also was        Even if she wasn’t having a good     that allowed family, friends and       caregivers for all. Vera died in
part of her job. For 20 years,          day, they made sure she didn’t       fellow church members to take          October 2010.                                                                                                                                                                 From My Corner                                 2    Volunteers                                      4
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Board of Directors                                                    From My Corner                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Volunteers                                                                                      Direct Care Volunteer Training
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Thursdays, 9 am – Noon
                                                                                                At our annual volunteer recognition brunch last                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Beginning March 1, 2012
Carlos Aguero, MD • Jon Aldrich, CPA, CFP® • Kathi Bouland,                                     month, we highlighted the varied and extensive                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               4215 Newburg Road, Rockford
RN, BHN • Amy Brewer • Henrietta Dotson-Williams • Scott                                        contributions of two 30-year volunteers, three 15-                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Ten week training for new volunteers interested in
Eckburg, CIC • Bruce Ewald R. Ph. • Hon. Gerald Grubb (Ret.)                                    year volunteers, and two 10-year volunteers - an                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             providing services to patients and their families,
Dennis Horton • Dick Hynes • Carol Moll, CTFA® • Jerry Paris                                    astounding 125 years of commitment!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          or for administrative volunteers who wish to
Gary Tiffany, MSFS, CLU, ChFC, LUTCF • Heath Sorenson                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        expand their knowledge of end-of-life care. $25
                                                                                             We are blessed by and grateful to our volunteers.         Every year, Ken Beidler makes                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         material fee. For more information or to register,
                                                                                             Their work with our dying patients and their families   a donation to Northern Illinois                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         contact Sheila O’Leary at 815.398.0500 or email
                                                                                                                                                     Hospice and Grief Center.
  Staff News                                                           can be difficult - but the bonds they create are strong, the help they
                                                                       provide is invaluable, and their commitment to our mission of providing
                                                                       compassionate and loving care to our patients is unwavering.
                                                                                                                                                       Like many of our supporters,
                                                                                                                                                     Beidler’s connection to us began

                                                                                                                                                     when we helped a loved one, in
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             patients honored on
                                                                       Every Wednesday, we meet to grieve those                                      his case, his wife. Ten years after                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Veteran’s day
                                                                       who died in our care during the past seven                                    her death, Beidler still remembers
                                Kris Kammerer joined the staff as
                                the Volunteer Program Associate        days. Just this morning one of our volunteers,        Volunteers are the      how Northern Illinois Hospice
                                                                       Marilyn, attended and told us how much she            only human beings       made him feel during that time.
                                                                       will miss one of her patients. She visited her                                    “I appreciate what they did
                                                                       every week, sometimes twice a week, for
                                                                                                                              on the face of the     for us,” he said. “I owe them
                                                                       over a year. They talked, drank coffee, and             earth who reflect     (Northern Illinois Hospice and
                                                                       roamed the halls of the nursing home togeth-                                  Grief Center). It’s one of the
                                                                                                                              this nation’s com-
                                                                       er. When the patient needed nursing help,                                     few things I donate to and I will
                                                                       this volunteer made sure someone came to              passion, unselfish      continue to do so.”
                                                                       help. Marilyn’s closing comment was, “Thank             caring, patience,        Beidler and his wife Joan
                                                                       you for allowing me to do this. I get back                                    (pronounced “Joanne”) met at
                                                                                                                             and just plain love     Rockford Business School in
                                                                       much more than I give.”
                                                                                                                               for one another.      1953 and married two years later.
     Emalina Vargas, CNA,                  Nancy Emanuel, CNA,         Our hospice volunteers are indeed special                                     They raised three kids while
     CHPNA passed the                      CHPNA passed the            people and every day we are humbled by their             - Erma Bombeck       Beidler worked two jobs and Joan
     examination to become                 examination to become                                                                                     worked as a secretary, and later                                                                                                                                        From Left: Gus Gustafson, Lola Gustafson, Larry Wakefield, Lorna Wakefield, Gladys Williams,
     a Certified Hospice and               a Certified Hospice and     commitment and caring concern.                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Marcia Shaw and Gloriann Dawson were recognized during the 2011 Volunteer Appreciation Brunch
                                                                                                                                                     at City Hall and Bergner’s.             Ken Beidler sits at his dining room table with a photo of himself and his wife Joan. Beidler became a supporter of ours after
     Palliative Nursing                    Palliative Nursing
                                                                                                                                                                                             the death of his wife in 2001.                                                                                                  on November 12. Others recognized, but not pictured, include Kathy Lundy and Jerry Paris.
     Assistant (CHPNA).                    Assistant (CHPNA).
                                                                       If you know someone who would like to serve in one of the most mean-             “We had our differences when
                                                                       ingful ways, please invite them to consider becoming part of our hospice      we first got married,” he said.
                                                                       volunteer program. Refer to page 4 for upcoming training dates or con-        “She smoked and didn’t stop             the doctor said to call hospice.           as she walked away. He knew                recommended hospice.             His
                                                                       tact Sheila at 815.398.0500 or           until she was diagnosed with
                                                                                                                                                     cancer. I had polio and figured
                                                                                                                                                                                             With no understanding of what
                                                                                                                                                                                             “hospice” meant, Beidler and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        the moment had significance.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          “She wasn’t talking that last
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   brother-in-law Bob, who also
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   struggled with terminal cancer,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Year-end Charitable Giving Ideas
                                                                       Live every moment,                                                            if she could put up with me, I          his wife called Northern Illinois          week,” he said, “and she was               did not have the same end of life                                 • Make a tax deductible charitable donation.
                                                                       Carol A. Bennett                                                              could put up with her smoking!          Hospice. “The nurse explained              trying to tell me something. I             experience.                                                       • Give shares of appreciated stock.
                                                                       Executive Director                                                            We had a good life.” They               a lot of things to me,” Beidler            didn’t realize it then, but she was             “His wife is still angry at the                              • If you are 70 ½ or older: Make a qualified charitable                 Volunteer Howard Ballard spent a good part of Veterans
                                                                                                                                                     enjoyed their four grandchildren        said. “She just knew what was              trying to tell me she was ready to         doctor,” said Beidler, for not                                    contribution (QCD) of up to $100,000 from an IRA trustee                Day delivering gifts to our patients who have served our
     Lisa Daughtery, RN,                   Valerie Hughes-Reuss,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             country. Here he hands patient Melvin “Bud” Hines a
                                                                                                                                                     and seven great-grandchildren,          happening and would tell me                go.” She died two days later.              recommending hospice sooner.                                      directly to a qualified charity. Such distributions may be
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             handmade lap robe to honor his service. Hines, a resident
     BSN, CHPN passed the                  RN, CHPN passed the
     examination to become                 examination to become                                                                                     and taking trips.                       why.” Beidler, who had retired                Joan waited for her son-in-law,         “Bob’s doctor told them there                                     tax free and count toward satisfying any required minimum               of Fairview Plaza in Rockford, was a staff sergeant in the
     a Certified Hospice and               a Certified Hospice and                                                                                      Joan was first diagnosed with        four years earlier, served as              a soldier who was based in Iraq,           was no need for hospice, that                                     distributions (RMDs) that you would otherwise receive from your         Army during World War II, and Howie served during the
     Palliative Nurse (CHPN).              Palliative Nurse (CHPN).
                                                                                                                                                     cancer in 1993. After six years         Joan’s caregiver.                          to fly back to be with the family.         he could take care of it. He died                                 IRA in 2011. Unless extended, this incentive is scheduled to            Korean War.
                                                                                                                                                     in remission, the cancer returned         He remembers a significant               Less than ten minutes after he             two days after the doctor finally                                 expire after December 31, 2011.
  Other News                                                                                                                                                                                 moment, one he has played over             arrived at her bedside, she died.          recommended hospice.”
   • To continue education in pain management, 6 of our staff
   members attended a Pain Resource Nurse Conference in
                                                                      Rebecca Strong, RN,
                                                                                                                                                     and Joan sought answers
                                                                                                                                                     regarding how much time she
                                                                                                                                                     had. Beidler recalled her doctor
                                                                                                                                                                                             and over in his mind, when Joan
                                                                                                                                                                                             approached him as he stood at
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Her hospice nurse, Carol, also
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        was with them.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Joan was in the care of Northern
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Illinois Hospice and Grief Center
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     • Make an in-kind donation. Current items on our
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     wish list include baby monitors, extra long twin and fitted
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              sheets, garden rakes, window squeegees, raffle items, and 8 new 60”x72” off
                                                                      BSN was featured in
   September. Five of the attending staff members are Pain            Milestone’s summer                                                             simply stating, “I’m not God, I         the kitchen sink. She placed her              “I was so happy Joan wasn’t             for six weeks.         “They did a         white polyester blend/wrinkle free tablecloths.
   Resource Nurses. The staff included Jessica Wulf, RN,              2011 newsletter.                                                               can’t tell you long you’ll live - but   hand on top of his head and then           suffering anymore,” Beidler said.          tremendous job,” Beidler said.                       • Donate unwanted gold, precious metals or stones. Deliver                                        Ruth Wassmann, age 88, Rockford, died in
   BSN, CHPN; Sue Fricke, RN; Char Carlson, RN-BC, CHPN;
                                                                      Pictured with Rebecca                                                          I don’t see an expiration date on       walked back to bed. “I’ll be in to            Beidler also notes how grateful         “As long as I am on this earth, I’ll       jewelry to Gruno’s Diamonds, 801 N. Perryville Rd., Rockford, who will provide                              a car accident on September 15, 2011. Ruth
   Valerie Hughes-Reuss, RN; Rebecca Strong, RN, BSN and
   Linda Loner, RN.                                                   is our patient Donna,                                                          the bottom of your feet!” Then          tuck you in in a minute,“ he said          he was for the physician who               be writing that check.”                    a complimentary appraisal using accepted business practices including                                       was a weekly administrative volunteer for the
                                                                      who has been with us                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    weight, content and fair market value. For more information, contact Gruno’s                                better part of two decades.
   • The Direct Care Volunteer fall training course produced 6        for almost five years.                                                         Continued from page 1                                                                                                                                                    at 815.399.1525.
   new graduates including Cheryl Davis, Kurt Geiger, Anna Kaye,      Donna’s favorite treat                                                            Under the direction of               (featured on page 1), Dorsey               that for the world,” Thompson said.            “Northern Illinois Hospice gave                  • Donate an unwanted vehicle in good running condition.
   Jan Mooney, Taucia Pullins, and Betty Steiner. Staff members       is a milkshake, which
   Ken Follette and Holly Johns also completed training.                                                                                             videographer/director       David       Thompson and Tara Williams, were            Perhaps one of the most touching          us a lot of really good memories,”         Deliver the vehicle to Midas Auto, 3012 N. Main Street, Rockford. For more
                                                                      the nurses bring to her
                                                                      when they visit.                                                               Nevala, stories of loved ones           interviewed. Since 1985, Northern          stories is from Erin Bloom                 she said. “They helped us make             information, contact Midas at 815.877.6096.                                                                 Charlene Kelly, age 84, Rockford, died
                                                                                                                                                     and their hospice experiences           Illinois Hospice has helped five of        regarding      her     grandmother         those last moments count. They                                                                                                                         November 30, 2011. Kelly was featured in
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                                                                                                                                                     evolved into the perfect piece for
                                                                                                                                                     community education.
                                                                                                                                                                                             their family members.
                                                                                                                                                                                                 “Personally, what hospice has
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        and the special moments they
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        experienced in the last few
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   took great care of my grandma ...”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     The community education video
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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              profit organization. All donations are tax deductible to the extent allowed by law.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Northern Illinois Hospice and Grief Center does not provide tax advice. Please
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          the August edition of Perspective and was
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          a resident of Provena St. Anne Center.
4:30 pm Monday through Friday at 815.398.0500.                                                                                                          The relatives of LaDeta Layne        done for our family...I wouldn’t trade     months of her grandma’s life.              is set to be completed by January.         contact your tax advisor to discuss strategies that make sense for your situation.

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