The Heart of Caregiving, A Guide to Joyful Caring by anamaulida


									Introduction to the Dual Six Principles of CareYou have two hands. One
hand to help yourself, and the second hand is to help others.
~UnknownWhen we place our hands together, we balance the outward flow of
energy, giving care to others with the inner flow energy, of self-
care.Keeping our hands close to our heart and mind, we balance the
energies of our thoughts and spirit, while protecting our bodies.We can
provide safer, more consistently loving care, at the same time. I invite
you to be with each chapter to learn and practice the gems of self-care,
along with the caregiving tips.Nursing, especially my hospice experience,
has taught me that being before doing helps me to have more of what I
want in my life.BEing, Before DOing, Helps me to HAVE more of what I want
in life.When we treat ourselves with respect, as a caregiver, we all
benefit from optimum care.This is the "How To" of forming a secure and
rewarding caregiver-client attachment. I developed a caregiving strategy
that bridges the best of analytic and relational psychology with the
every-day physical needs of clients and families in practice.The art of
caregiving reaches deeper than good communications theory, into the
nitty-gritty of emotional release, safety and connection.Six dual
Principles of self-care and caregiving:FIT-DIGNITY FUN-INDEPENDENCE FREE-
PRIVACYDISCIP-line and the meaning of your Right HandThe principles that
guide the discipline of nursing are held in the right hand. The bottom
line thinking to provide this discipline, consistently, may be spelled
out to help remember them. These bottom line principles of DISCIPline may
be applied to any situation and may be easily remembered. The last four
letters of discipline rest upon the right wrist and the "DISCIP" in the
palm and on each digit of the right hand represent the six principles of
caregiving; dignity, independence, safety, communication, infection
control, and privacy.See the photo of right hand and the video link below
or go to author's website.Dignity is held in the palm of the right hand.
Respect is the center of all caregiving.Independence is represented with
a thumbs-up for what you are able to do for yourself.The pointer finger
represents safety, just like when your teacher or mama may have shaken
that finger in your face; it was a way to caution you and keep you
safe.The middle finger represents a very specific communication in some
cultures. In this instance, it stands for and represents all
communication.The ring finger represents infection control. I
experienced, firsthand, many a hangnail that turned into painful
infections.Last and not least, the pinky finger represents the need to
provide a little privacy.Peace and the meaning of your Left HandYour left
palm holds peace and being FIT.The left pointer finger represents gifting
your time, attention, energy, thinking and being FREE of clutter,
physical and mental.The middle finger represents FAMILY, in the center of
the left hand.The ring finger holds the key to our FINANCES.The pinkie
finger holds and represents the FUTURE.By taking tiny steps daily we can
reach our bigger goals more easily.In my experience, a positive mental
attitude will bring success every time. Freedom from fear is very
liberating and possible. Being present to the reality of the moment helps
to shift away from the monkey mind of distress. Being in the moment,
allows us to be able to take action and separates us from the paralysis
of the negative thinking. Negative thinking examples are what-if and if-
only.An open mind on all subjects and toward all people is worth striving
for. This self-discipline of openness will allow us to grow the wisdom of
understanding people, while being engaged in the labor of love,
caregiving.Often we need to take time to reflect, realize and remember
the strengths we have to offer. The willingness to share these blessings
with others will best guide our actions and build our faith. This faith
will grow our hope of future achievement and provide financial
security.Your caregiving can grow only as much as you do.If you want to
change your results, you need to change your thinking and actions.
According to T. Harv Eker, our thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead
to action, action leads to results.T->F->A->RResults equal
Health, Wealth and WeightWe live in a world of cause and effect, which is
tempered by what we have seen, heard and experienced.Emotions almost
always win over logical thoughts and actions. With awareness,
understanding, and choice we can choose, as many times as it takes to
successfully change behavior.If your motivation for caregiving comes from
fear, anger or needing to prove yourself, your caregiving will not bring
you happiness.Are you ready to choose a new model of caring?Try the
following exercises. Remember a challenging caregiving incident, and
write it down. Do you see how you have a choice now? Release and create
new caring experiences.There are no happy victims.Complaining brings more
to complain about.Practice optimism.With your hand on your heart, say out
loud, with positive energy and zest, these statements:I create my own
level of happiness.I focus on being responsible for my own happiness. I
am an excellent caregiver.I focus on opportunities versus obstacles.I
admire other successful caregivers.What is your willingness to change?Are
you willing to grow bigger than your problems?Be prepared to be an
excellent receiver and you will become an excellent giver.Do not limit
your love.Focus on the results. You can provide excellent care to others
AND care well for yourself.Thoughts are seeds.Actions connect the inner
thoughts to the outer results.Caregiving becomes easier when you are
willing to do what is hard.When you are uncomfortable, you are
growing.¨Four positive T. Harv Eker quotes to post as reminders:"How you
do anything is how you do everything.""Where attention goes, energy flows
and results show.""You can choose to think in ways that will support your
happiness and success, instead of ways that don't.""Training and managing
your own mind is the most important skill you could ever own, in terms of
both happiness and success."The heart of caregiving is a combination of
optimum self-care and the important discipline of nursing. The discipline
of nursing includes caring in a loving and professional way.To harness
our healthy caring we can provide consistent, effective care to our loved
ones. We benefit, greatly, by discovering the balance and focus of
providing optimum self-care.Are You Ready To Grow?We need to treat
ourselves with dignity by providing for our own health, before we are
able to provide care with dignity for our loved ones. To be well balanced
and focused in life, self-care needs to be balanced with caregiving. Both
self-care and caregiving, with awareness, need to be practiced
consistently.To give optimum care to our loved ones, all six dual
principles of self-care and caregiving need to be practiced, regularly.
The more you practice, the more skilled you become.Each chapter includes
dual principles of self-care and the mirror actions for
caregiving.Chapter 1 focuses on the first dual principle of being FIT for
our own self-care and caregiving with DIGNITY. By focusing on our own
mind, spirit and body needs we are more aware and able to assist the
mind, spirit and body needs of the person we are caring for.Having a
system in place for this optimum self-care will save many a headache and
heartache.See the Tips at the end of each chapter for a proven success
system. What works for one caregiver may not work for another. What works
at one time in our lives may not work in another time.Chapter 1 will
begin to share the secrets of successful self-care and caregiving. To be
FIT we need to balance all three parts of ourselves; body, spirit and
mind. Our body, spirit and mind each need three things; fuel, exercise
and rest. When our thinking is correct our success and happiness are
nearby.When we are in balance, our focus and caring are more easily
maintained.Start Your Day (or end your day)Two thumbs up for remembering
to have fun and spend 15 minutes writing, or enough time to fill three
pages, and answer the following questions:What Am I Grateful For?What Do
I Appreciate About Myself?What Do I Appreciate, About My Life?What is my
Focus for Today?How May I Remain Balanced?How Can I Be of Service?Left
Hand: You, truly, hold peace in the palm of your hand exercise.Whenever
you are stressed, simply breath-in peace, with your left hand over your
heart and breath out stress. Repeat this several times and you will find
a moment of peace that you can return to at any time or place. Close your
eyes, if this helps you to focus inside for a moment. Remember to make
choices that feed your spirit.SpiritOur caregiving spirits may be fueled
by special quiet or creative time. Often this refueling time is
represented by creative space and meditative time. Meditative time can be
simply breathing in and out with attentive presence. For some caregivers
this refueling is being in nature and for other caregivers, it is
daydreaming. Expression of our spirit through the art of making things
with our hands can be very fulfilling. Reading something inspirational;
like a story, a poem, a quote, or other inspirational guide, provides
exercise for the spirit.Inspiration may come from listening to music,
watching a video or movie, praying, giving to others and simply being in
community.Sometimes, simply being aware of another person's perspective
can be uplifting. Resting our spirit by letting go, to a greater source,
is healthy. In other words, acceptance can be a balm for the heart and
soul. Spirit may be refilled in many ways; meditation, yoga, song,
prayer, poetry, and nature are just a few examples.In my own experience,
our right hand brings us closer to our Godliness by serving others. Our
left hand gives us strength to face each day, by grounding us with our
own needs met.Below are the words to Debbie Friedmont's song, called The
Angel's Blessing. These words represent some of the ideas from The Heart
of Caregiving."May our right hand bring us closer to our Godliness. May
our left hand give us strength to face each day. And before us may our
visions light our paths ahead. And behind us may well-being heal our way.
All around us is Schechinah. May Michael be at my right hand, Gabriel at
my left. Before me Uriel, behind me Raphael and above my head the divine
Presence."Schechinah is the Hebrew meaning for the presence of God or
'she who dwells within'. Angel Michael is known as the commander of God's
army, a person of authority; someone who can think and do. Gabriel is
God's messenger & has a horn for judgment day. Gabriel is at my left
to assess if I am balanced and focused with my self-care. Uriel carries a
light in his palm or flaming sword to light the way, representing our
awareness. Raphael carries a trumpet and represents healing.

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