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					                                                             Today’s dictionaries often still have     Required Celibacy; not Chastity                    it is unlikely that any of them anticipated that
     Cross-Cultural Worker                          that definition but usually add another                                                               two of every five babies born in the USA
        Singles Issues:                             definition which includes abstaining from                   The “therefore” in the quote from         would be to unmarried mothers.
                                                    sexual intercourse, and they give chastity as a    Encyclopedia Britannica above is what people
     Celibacy and Chastity                          synonym. Encyclopedia Britannica online            in Western cultures used to believe. That is, if
                                                    reads: “celibacy, the state of being unmarried     individuals were unmarried, they would be          Celibacy’s threats to Chastity
         Celibacy and chastity are synonyms,        and, therefore, sexually abstinent.” Rather        sexually abstinent. Making this assumption,
aren’t they? The dictionary seems to have the       than propose a new word meaning                    Legislators in many Western cultures raised                 Three times in 1 Corinthians 7 Paul
same definitions for both. If you look one up in    “unmarried” I am using celibacy in its original    the legal age at which people could marry,         mentioned that remaining unmarried could
a thesaurus, the other one comes up as a            meaning. As you read please remember that          assuming that these young unmarried people         threaten one’s purity.
synonym. That is like stating that something is     celibacy means unmarried, nothing more. I          would abstain from sexual intercourse.              Since there is so much immorality both
redundant, and it says the same thing!              am married, so I am not celibate. If you are                As we well know now, that often is            men and women should marry to have
                                                    unmarried you are celibate.                        not the case. As reported in Public Health             their own spouses (v. 2).
Lost in Translation                                                                                    Reports the National Survey of Family               If people can’t control themselves, it is
                                                    Chastity                                           Growth found in 2002 that by age 18 60% of             better to marry than to burn with passion
         Who would know more about things                                                              the men and 54% of the women reported that             (v. 9).
getting lost in translation than cross-cultural              The word “chaste” is from the Latin       they had experienced premarital sex. These          If a man believes he is acting improperly
workers serving in places other than their          castus which literally means “pure.”               adolescents were nearly all unmarried (not old         toward his fiancé who is getting older, it
passport culture? Such cross-cultural workers       Dictionaries up to the middle of the 20th          enough to legally marry), so they were living          is good for him to marry her (v. 36).
are keenly aware of trying to explain the           century typically defined “chastity” as “not       in celibacy but not chastity.
concepts of Christianity in cultures which may      indulging in illicit sexual intercourse;                    People may not tell the full truth on     What can we do?
not even have such a concept, much less have a      virtuous.”                                         surveys, but other data confirms that many
word for the concept.                                        Today’s dictionaries often define it as   unmarried people have sex. The USA Centers
                                                                                                                                                                   The most important thing single
         Contemporary English has appropriated      purity, but add something about not being          for Disease Control (CDC) reported that in
                                                                                                                                                          cross-cultural workers can do to maintain
two different Latin words with different            married. Again, rather than propose a new          41% of all births in 2008 were to unmarried
                                                                                                                                                          sexual purity is to love God with their whole
meanings and now uses those two words as            word meaning “sexual purity,” I am using           women 15-44 years of age. Those 1,700,000
                                                                                                                                                          beings, their heart, soul, strength, and mind
synonyms. This results in confusion between         chastity in its original meaning. While            women were living in celibacy, but they were
                                                                                                                                                          (Luke 10, Deuteronomy 6). Your
the two related concepts. In requiring vows of      reading this, please remember that is the only     not chaste. They were unmarried, but they
                                                                                                                                                          relationship to God must take top priority
celibacy for priests and nuns, the Roman            meaning of the word. Individuals may live in       had illicit sexual intercourse.
Catholic Church also often got chastity as well.                                                                                                           Have a daily, consistent devotional time
                                                    any of the following four states.                           Sexually transmitted disease rates in
                                                                                                                                                              to maintain your relationship with God.
However, when Western culture required               Neither celibate nor chaste: Married and         the USA are at historic highs. The CDC
celibacy of all adolescents, it did not get                                                                                                                   Include at least reading Scripture,
                                                        engaging in illicit sexual intercourse.        reported the rates of gonorrhea by age and sex
                                                                                                                                                              meditating, and praying. (Bible study for
chastity nearly as often.                            Both celibate and chaste: Single and not         and the highest rates of any group are women
                                                                                                                                                              sermon preparation, writing, teaching
                                                        engaging in sexual intercourse.                15-19 years of age. Many of those cases are
                                                                                                                                                              preparation, and so forth is not enough!)
Celibacy                                             Celibate but not chaste: Single and              gonorrhea of the pharynx contracted by these
                                                                                                                                                           Receive God’s love, experience God’s
                                                        engaging in sexual intercourse.                young women giving oral sex to their male
         The word “celibate” is from the Latin                                                                                                                love, surrender to his love and let him
                                                     Chaste but not celibate: Married and             friends. These thousands of people are living
                                                                                                                                                              love you (as a Single).
celibatus, which literally means “a single life.”       engaging in sexual intercourse only with       in celibacy (illegal for them to marry until at
By definition unmarried persons are celibate.                                                          least age 18) but not in chastity.                  Make a specific commitment to God to
                                                        spouse.                                                                                               live a holy life free of sexual sin. Write
Dictionaries up to the middle of the 20th century                                                               When General Booth and other well-
typically defined “celibacy” as “an unmarried                                                          meaning people campaigned to have the                  this commitment down and place it
state; single life.”                                                                                   minimum legal age of marriages raised to 16,           where you will see it daily (desk, mirror,
                                                                                                                                                              etc.).
    Study, meditate on, memorize, and apply            List sexual things that may be permissible     grabbed his coat and asked for sex, but he left
     scripture on this topic. Note that in the           but not beneficial, things that may master     his coat and ran out of the house. You can
     major passages where the Bible talks about          you as in 1 Corinthians 6. These are           maintain your sexual purity too, but you may
     being holy it is in the context of sexual sin       things not specifically mentioned in           have to run from a person, or your computer!        Cross-Cultural
     (Leviticus 18-20, I Corinthians 5-7).               Scripture, such as certain movies, music,
     Review these on a regular basis.
         The second most important thing single
                                                         TV shows, books, Internet sites, and so
                                                         forth. These are not necessarily sinful, but
                                                                                                                     Ronald Koteskey
                                                                                                                   Member Care Consultant
                                                                                                                                                          Worker Singles
cross-cultural workers can do to maintain sexual
purity is to love others (Luke 10, Leviticus 19).
                                                         they may lead to sinful behavior.
                                                      Concentrate on “renewing your mind” as
                                                                                                                     GO InterNational                     Issues: Celibacy
Your love relationships with others must have a
high priority as well. Relative to sexual purity
                                                         described in Colossians 3 and in
                                                         Ephesians 4. Take every thought captive
                                                                                                                This brochure is one of a series, and
                                                                                                        you are invited to suggest other topics you
                                                                                                                                                             and Chastity
this would include the following.                        to make it obedient to God as described in     would like to know about to the following:
 Learn the cues in your host country that               2 Corinthians 10. Think on the kinds of
     signal sexual purity and sexual availability.       things mentioned in Philippians 4.                           Ronald Koteskey                        Ronald L. Koteskey
     These include such things as dress, eye          Avoid danger zones for you. If you know                        122 Lowry Lane
     contact, posture, gestures, and so forth.           that you are tempted visually, do not                       Wilmore, KY 40390
 Be aware that even within cultures people              watch videos or TV shows that you know
     vary widely on the meaning of touch.                will contain graphic sexual images. If you                 Phone: (859) 858-3436
     Something you consider indicating only              know that you are tempted verbally, do
     friendship may be interpreted as sexual by          not visit Internet chat rooms or read             e-mail: ron@crossculturalworkers.com
     another person. Touch is not improper, but          explicit romance novels.
     be aware that what you mean as “good             Develop an early warning system to                       Visit the following web site to access
     touch” may be interpreted by another as             increase your awareness of problems            other brochures in the series:
     “bad touch” or erotic touch.                        coming. Knowing that you will be talking
 Be especially alert when in “high risk”                with an accountability partner is likely to           www.crossculturalworkers.com
     situations, such as being alone with another        make you more aware of danger zones.
     person, spending prolonged time working          Develop a plan for combating temptations              This brochure may be reproduced
     with another person, and so forth.                  which will occur in spite of your attempts
 Meet weekly an accountability partner (or              to avoid them. If your greatest temptation
     group) to answer specific questions about           is visual images, train your eyes to
     your sexual purity.                                 “bounce” away from such images as soon
     The third most important thing that single          as they appear. If your temptation is
cross-cultural workers can do to maintain sexual         through touch, train yourself to withdraw
purity is to love themselves, to care for                as soon as any touch becomes erotic.
themselves as they care for others.                           Joseph was a handsome, single, young
 Accept your own vulnerability.                     man with hormones raging (just past puberty)
     1 Corinthians 10:12 reminds us that if we       when he was taken to a different culture.
     think we are standing firm, we must be          When his boss’ wife asked him to have sex
                                                     with her, he politely refused and gave her                                                                GO InterNational
     careful or we will fall.
 List (actually write them down) sexual             good reasons for his refusal. He refused her
     things you will not do, such as those found     repeated requests. One time when he went to        without change and in its entirety for non-
     in Leviticus 18-20.                             work and they were alone in the house, she         commercial purposes without permission.

				
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