"For the ceremony, we go to biology," says [Mark Kingsdorf]. "Who gave birth to them is who walks them down the aisle - divorced or not. If Mom has recently married and the guy has not been part of the bride or groom's life, he might just sit in the first row. But if the stepparent has been part of the bride's or groom's life, he may walk down the aisle with a sibling or a grandparent. That's a nice way to honor the stepparent. It's reaUy about what makes the largest number of people the most comfortable.""Many people go to a wedding showcase and hear a great band, but don't consider whether the band is appropriate for the reception venue," Kingsdorf says. "Different venues have different acoustics. Low ceUings and hard surfaces bounce sound all over the place. For example, I'm doing a wedding at the Academy of Music baUroom for 125 people. I don't need an eight- or 10-piece band. We're doing a five-piece ensemble. I have another wedding for 130 people in a tent in the middle of the afternoon, and a six-piece band is perfect for that.""The final part," [Karen Pecora] says, "is to get everyone who has contributed involved in the planning. You say, 'When we shop for bands, we hope you will join us. When we do the food tasting, we'd love for you to come.' It becomes a positive experience and gives everyone the option to participate. If people don't want to participate, that's fine. But then they can't come back and say that they hate the band. Because they had the option to be involved and didn't exercise it."