Parenting Challenges: Dealing With Special Children
Parents of children with special needs often get confronted with problems
ranging from settlement of child in school, financial burdens, medical urgencies,
social acceptance etc. No doubt it is rightly said that, children with special needs
have parents with special needs too.
Besides, taking care of child’s requirements and ensuring his well being; parents
also need to learn to cope up with feelings of multitude uncomfortable emotions
such as helplessness, anger, fear, guilt, depression, confusion, sadness, jealousy
and shame etc.
Increased stress – Handling so much can definitely give you stress. It is vital for
parents to take care of themselves by arranging regular breaks and respites from
their daily hectic routine. If you are overwhelmed with stress and responsibility,
you might pass it on to your child.
Dealing with child care and feelings of inadequacy- Parents must try as much as
possible to treat their child normally, in order to not make him feel positive and
self-assured. Plan special activities with him and seek his involvement. If required
get professional help and counseling.
Financial burdens – Parents must look forward to medical waiver programs,
which can assist them in tackling monetary shortages.
Problems of dealing with regular appointments with doctors, tackling medical
staff, nursing agencies, community organizations etc –Maintain an updated
calendar of appointments with doctors and therapist; align and inform all family
members in advance.
Keep organized with a “Things-To-Do” list- Make a checklist of critical errands
and medical supplies. Do a weekly inventory and also when travelling keep along
all necessary stuff.
Speak up: Don’t hesitate or get embarrassed about asking questions or asking for
help, when required.
Medical urgencies – Keep a contact with experienced pediatrician, who can
coordinate with you in your child’s care and other medical needs. Along with that,
do your own homework regarding your child’s condition. Do not presume that the
medical professionals know best for your child or they have all the answers.
Always remember, when in doubt get a second opinion.
Sibling anger, jealousy and resentment- Allow and encourage siblings to express
their feelings. Spend time with them and help them develop bond with their
special sibling.
Social isolation - Your child may be teased or may feel different from other
children. Join a local support network group and talk to other parents dealing
with similar issues.
Discrimination toward people with disabilities - Take initiative and educate the
public about children with special needs to help lessen ignorance and
discrimination.