Some girls can't help but flirt. It doesn't matter who they're talking to
or how they like the looks of him, get them talking to any guy and their
eyelashes will start to flutter.
You can't really blame them. If all it took for me to get my own way was
to giggle and thrust my chest out, I don't think I'd ever stop.
But it's not much help to us men.
We've all read articles about female body language. We know how to spot
if a girl is flirting with us and we've been told that means that she
fancies us. Now it turns out that that isn't necessarily true.
So how do you go about recognizing which are the compulsive flirts and
which girls are genuinely hot for you?
Well, I'm about to tell you.
The first thing to remember is that some body language cannot be faked.
Sure, she can twirl her hair and hold your gaze, but there are certain
signals which only genuinely interested girls give out.
Start by looking into her eyes. If she likes the looks of you her
eyebrows will twitch momentarily upwards in greeting and her pupils will
quickly dilate. Her focus will begin darting between your left and right
eyes and occasionally down to your lips.
Check her skin. If her blood's pumping excitedly, her neck and chest will
become slightly flushed and she may be more prone to blushing. You might
also notice she's stroking her own chest, arm or face slowly and
seductively - any rhythmic caressing of herself is an absolute give away
that this girl is really into you.
Finally, look for mirroring. If you've both turned your shoulders and
legs so you're facing each other, you know you've made a connection. You
are also likely to start reaching for your drinks at the same time, or
simultaneously sorting your hair.
Now let's go beyond body language and look at her behavior.
You see, while compulsively flirty girls are after your attention,
they're also after the attention of every other man in the room. A woman
who is genuinely into you, on the other hand, only needs you notice her
and will focus all of her energies on making sure that happens.
There are various ways in which girls try to get your attention. She may
ask you to dance. If you insist that she dances without you, she will
spend the whole song glancing your way to check that you're watching. She
may pull out a few extra sexy moves designed to get your heart thumping.
Try talking to another girl, whether a friend or the bartender. If the
flirty girl suddenly appears at your side or you notice her watching
intently, you can be sure that she's feeling jealous. She's trying her
best to impress you tonight and won't want to share your attention with
anyone.
On the other hand, if you catch her giggling and whispering with your guy
friends, don't assume the worst. Girls know they need your mates' seal of
approval so by doing her best to get them to like her, she's trying to
ensure that you will, too.
And finally, if she leans in close and starts telling you her secrets,
you know that you've scored. By creating an aura of intimacy between you
she is allowing herself to relax - and nothing is more important than
that if you're planning on taking her home.