Top 10 Geeky Dating Mistakes us Geeks make

Dating for us geeks is better than ever. Geek is chic and we no longer

have to hide the passion for our nerdy habits. We can express ourselves

confidently and still get the girl. However there are some things we tend

to do that turn women off. Here is a list of the top ten dating mistakes

us geeks make.



1 ) Over-Explaining



I remember when a girl asked me how is Bio-Diesel made when I told her I

use it in my car. I think I went on for close to fifteen minutes

explaining from start to finish the process from turning vegetable oil

into Bio-Diesel. She finally stopped me and teased me pretty hard for it.

Your date may not find it as endearing.



2 ) Being Condescending



Just because we know a lot about a lot of things never gives us the

right to make someone feel stupid. Sometimes simply just taking a moment

to ask How familiar are you with it? before explaining it as if they were

five years old will allow you to save face.



3 ) Know-it-all/always being right



It is hard being smarter than everyone around us (at least we think we

are). As soon as I learned to try to see someone elses point of view

fully before explaining my opinion it was a lot more comfortable to be

around me. Try to see someone elses side of things first and relate to

it.



4 ) Fashion Tennis shoes all the time



If you are the guy who wears white tennis shoes in every situation, it

is time to go shopping. Buy yourself some nicer shoes for work or casual

social events. You dont have to go crazy but even some more trendy

sneakers will go a long way. Sketchers make lots of inexpensive shoes

that are as comfortable as tennis shoes but are a little bit more

fashionable. You could even branch out and try some more fashionable

going out shoes or boots. Just make sure they arent too out there if that

is not your personality. Women do notice shoes.



5 ) Fashion Wearing clothes that dont fit



It is time to stop dressing like the clothes were hand-me-downs.

Oversize shirts do not hide your gut or your lack of biceps. The shoulder

seam of your shirts should be within an inch of the corner of your

shoulder, not down on your arm. Pants should not be baggy; while they

shouldnt be skin tight they should fit well without being too

constrictive. Ask a sales woman to help you find sizes that fit and try

going too small and too big to understand what the right fit is.



6 ) Fashion Out of date clothes



Wearing a t-shirt or sweatshirt that was your parting gift from high

school is not a statement of loyalty; its a statement that you are too

lazy to buy new clothes once in a while. Retire your clothes if they are

out of date. I usually try to not wear clothes longer than one to two

years and sometimes three if I dont wear them that often. Subtle changes

over a few years actually show up and while people may not point it out,

it makes you look dated.



7 ) Texting or emailing while talking



I have a bad habit of surfing the web when talking to friends and even

women. If you are having a conversation, put down the game, the phone,

the email, etc. Pay attention and be in the conversation



8 ) Being defensive when teased



Roll with the punches. Go read a bit about the improv idea "yes and,"

and learn how to be more playful and flirty.



9 ) Asking for feedback on a date



This is a big one. Dont ever ask how you are doing on a date. Dont ask

whether she likes you or not or if she is having fun. Nothing shows more

insecurity then checking in frequently on a date. Have fun and enjoy your

time together. If she is not into you, or not having fun, that is her

responsibility to end the date or tell you. It only makes it awkward for

you to ask. If she says no, what are you going to do about it? Getting to

the second date will tell you more than any answer she gives you.



10 ) Self Deprecating



Comedians are great at self deprecating humor. Leave it for them to do.

While you shouldnt be bragging, conversely dont put yourself down. It

shows a lot of insecurity. I mean honestly when a woman tells me she is

fat, I almost want to smack her. It is like fishing for a compliment, I

dont want to pander to her insecurities. You shouldnt make women feel

that way either by putting yourself down.