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An uncontested divorce is the most common type of divorce. An uncontested divorce is a divorce
that occurs when there are no disagreements between spouses over divorce related issues like
custody, finances, living arrangements, spousal support, child support, etc. An uncontested
divorce can be an easy way for people to get divorced without the hassles of a legal struggle and
undue wear and tear on emotions.
But, you may not be ready to seriously consider uncontested divorce if you're just thinking about it.
Thinking about an uncontested divorce can mean a variety of things from a psychological
perspective...it could mean that you are really on the brink of divorce.
It could also mean that you're feeling frustrated and just want to end things as fast and quietly as
possible. If this is the case, you may want to make sure that you aren't just being lazy and you
should examine your reasons for divorce first before you go any further.
"Does it mean I am really ready for divorce just because I am starting to think about an
uncontested divorce?"
Maybe, maybe not.
Here's a few things you might want to think about before going onto next steps with regards to an
uncontested divorce, just to make sure that you're really ready to go through with it.
Uncontested divorce situation 1:
You're thinking about an uncontested divorce because you want out but you aren't sure if your
spouse is ready to call it quits.
This can be tough if you aren't careful. The main point of an uncontested divorce is to have both
parties agree on things. If your spouse doesn't even know that you're thinking about getting a
divorce, mentioning an uncontested divorce may result in an explosive discussion.
Uncontested divorce situation 2:
You've both agreed that you'd like a divorce, but haven't really clearly defined why, you just know
you both feel ending the marriage is best.
Maybe there's a chance to make your marriage work! Don't be too hasty. If you can't clearly define
why you and your spouse want to end your marriage, you're acting on emotion rather than a
healthy combination of emotion and logic. Sit down, think it through and have a detailed discussion
around all of the details.
But, be careful...this can be a volatile situation if you haven't talked everything through and
mutually agreed on how you'll actually implement your divorce decision to have an uncontested
divorce.
If one of you is more demonstrative than the other or is usually the person who drives the
decisions, that sense of control may carry over into the discussion of the terms of the uncontested
divorce.
Uncontested divorce situation 3:
You both agreed that you'd like a divorce (and you both know why), and you've successfully talked
about and agreed on all of the details regarding the uncontested divorce.
Although it can be a sad situation most of the time, sometimes a divorce is actually a good thing
unfortunately. If you and your spouse have amicably decided to part ways and can continue on as
responsible happy adults, then an uncontested divorce can be an easy way to sever the
relationship and all legal obligations. This is the best situation to be in if you're looking for an
uncontested divorce...it should be simple to finish from this point.
Lots of people think about uncontested divorces and never go through with getting one because
they actually work things out...and that's a great thing! And, some people think they want an
uncontested divorce but haven't agreed on the details and terms, they're just looking for the fastest
way to end the marriage. If this is the case, the relationship can turn from being amicable (and
each party thinking they want a divorce) to being nasty and a resulting tug of war ensues with
each person striving to get what they feel they deserve out of the divorce...and this can lead to a
drawn out negotiation which certainly is not an uncontested divorce.
Be smart when you're considering an uncontested divorce...make sure that you're really ready to
go through with it. Don't let the term 'uncontested' fool you, an attorney can ethically and legally on
represent one of the married parties. But, if you and your spouse can truly be amicable and
truthful, an uncontested divorce can be easy.
Karl Augustine
"A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce"
An eBook recommended by marriage counselors and relationship coaches to their clients.
Deciding on Divorce
Uncontested Divorce
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