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                     Table Of Contents
Coreword

D#a4ter E:
Donfidence Is > Gental >ttitude

D#a4ter H:
>ntici4ations

D#a4ter I:
Je8innin8 Cactors and Su44ositions
                           8oreword

Ly4nosis6 t#an@s to t#e sta8e6 TM6 and a lot of 3ovies6 t#e very word calls
fort# a 4icture of a w#is@ered and devilis# #y4notist swayin8 a 4oc@et watc#
before #is zo3bie li@e sub=ectNs face; Or of individuals w#o are bar@in8 li@e
4u44ies or clac@in8 li@e c#ic@ens6 or actin8 in anot#er unusual 3anner on a
sta8e;

Re8rettable! >s t#e 3isconce4tions induced by t#e false stuff on sta8e and
television #ave scared a lot of 4eo4le away fro3 benefitin8 fro3 t#is fantastic
and 4otent sensory syste3 t#at is si34ly as natural as breat#in8;

<it# @nowled8e co3es 3i8#t; T#e 8oal of t#is e-Joo@ is to #el4 you to
co34re#end w#at is inducin8 you to #ave feelin8s of fear6 doubtfulness6 and
a lac@ of confidence6 and #ow to 8o about substitutin8 t#ese da3a8in8
feelin8s wit# feelin8s of confidence and coura8e;

                       Courage And Confidence 

 Summon the giant within and take control of your destiny. 

                                        
            Chapter 1:
    Confidence Is A Mental Attitude 
 
                            >ynopsis
                                       

     It might sound commonplace, but now is really the 1st day 
                   of the remainder of your life! 

      Confidence is a mental attitude, which will let you have 
     confident, yet honest opinions of yourself and your states 
       of affairs. When you have confidence, you'll believe on 
     your own powers, and have a universal sense of command 
      over your life. You'll think that, within reason, you'll be 
               able to accomplish what you wish to do.

                                Attitude

Donfidence is a 3ental attitude t#atNs learned wit# ex4eriences; Once
you under8o success6 youNll tend to antici4ate bein8 successful; >nd
t#at notion of antici4ation will cause you to #ave a feelin8 of self-
confidence;

Cor instance: > youn8 fellow wis#es to learn #ow to be a boxer6 so #e
acquires lessons6 and acquires a coac#;

Lis coac# wonNt 4ut #i3 into t#e rin8 till #e #as accu3ulated
adequate sta3ina and s@ill; >nd even t#en6 t#e coac# will only 4ut
#i3 u4 a8ainst a rival t#at #e reco8nizes #is fi8#ter 3ay beat; <#en
#is fi8#ter beats t#e adversary6 #eNs successful6 and be8ins to realize
confidence in #is abilities;

<it# every contest6 t#e coac# 4uts #is fi8#ter u4 a8ainst an adversary
w#oNs a sli3ly better fi8#ter t#en t#e last6 but not 8reat enou8# to
trounce #is 3an; Jy t#e finis# of t#e Ird fi8#t6 t#e youn8 boxer starts
to ex4ect to win #is Tt#6 and so #is self-confidence continues to
develo4; T#is scenario 8oes forward to re4eat itself; >nd as lon8 as t#e
fi8#ter succeeds6 #is ex4ectations of success6 and #is feelin8s of
confidence will 8o on to 8row;

Donceive of #ow your life would be better if you felt confident; Cirst of
all6 sit bac@ and ta@e a cou4le of 3inutes to let yourself relax; If you
understand #ow to do 4ro8ressive relaxation6 t#en you ou8#t to 8o
a#ead and do t#at; Or6 you are able to download so3et#in8 off t#e
net;

Or 3erely fantasize a relaxin8 ex4erience; Do you li@e t#e beac#V If
you do6 t#en 3a@e a s#ort illusion of bein8 at t#e beac#; If your t#in8
is t#e 3ountains6 t#en 3a@e an illusion of bein8 t#ere;

<#en you feel deco34ressed6 itNs ti3e for you to start your first
exercise; Ga@e a 3ental 4icture of yourself; In your 4icture I need you
to see yourself loo@in8 to #ave self-assurance; <#at would you li@e
self-assurance to ac#ieve for youV Low would you li@e it to 3a@e your
life 3ore beneficialV T#atNs w#at t#e story of your 3ental 4icture will
be about;




Ga@e your 4icture as trut#ful as 4ossible; To t#e best of your 4ower6
you #ave to 3a@e t#e3: Govin8W colorizedW closeW t#ree-dW centered
s#ar4lyW and ty4ically bri8#t; Try out t#e followin8 4ro4erties of your
3ental 4icture to see w#ic# one 3a@es it feel t#e 3ost credible to
you:

>tte34t 4uttin8 in a borderW atte34t 3a@in8 it borderless Xli@e an
unfra3ed i3a8eYW atte34t 3a@in8 your 4icture into a 4anora3a;

Dorrect your 4icture so t#at it feels as true and believable as 4ossible;
T#e 3ore frequently you watc# t#ese 3ental 4ictures6 t#e 3ore
beneficial; Jedti3e is a fantabulous ti3e to 3a@e t#ese 3ental
4ictures;

Jrief reca4: Self-confidence is a 3ental attitude t#atNs learned wit#
ex4eriences; Once you #ave success6 youNll tend to ex4ect to be
successful; >nd t#at antici4ation will cause you to 8et a feelin8 of self-
assurance;

> 3inute a8o we tal@ed about #ow a coac# could #el4 to build u4 #is
boxerNs confidence;




Zi@ewise6 a 8irl w#oNs afraid of #ei8#ts wis#es to learn to 4lun8e into a
swi33in8 4ool fro3 an elevated divin8 board; So s#e deter3ines a
divin8 coac# w#o as@s #er to lea4 into t#e 4ool fro3 t#e Est ste4 of
t#e ladder u4 to t#e elevated board; T#e Est ste4 of t#e ladder isnNt
really #i8#6 so t#e 8irl feels no fri8#t6 and s#e bounds fro3 t#at ste46
and lands in t#e water unscat#ed;
Collowin86 t#e coac# #as #er lea4 fro3 t#e Hnd ste4 of t#e ladder6 and
so on; I believe t#at youNre be8innin8 to co34re#end; <it# every
additional ste4 u4 t#e ladder6 as t#e youn8 lady was successful on t#e
4rior ste46 and t#is followin8 ste4 is only so3ew#at #i8#er t#en t#e
last6 t#e fri8#t factor is 4altry6 and t#e 3issy ex4ects to be successful;
<#en s#e lea4s in and lands unscat#ed6 t#e 8irlNs self-confidence
8rows6 and #er antici4ation of success on t#e followin8 ste4 u4 t#e
ladder ste4-u4s; If an individual w#o #as a lon8 #istory of success and
notions of self-confidence does bo3b6 t#ey all t#e sa3e tend to ex4ect
success t#e followin8 ti3e out;

Donversely6 w#en an individual w#oNs wea@ in t#e confidence
de4art3ent bo3bs6 t#ey tend to lose self-confidence6 and start to
antici4ate failure6 w#ic# 3ay beco3e a self-fulfillin8 4ro4#ecy;




Lavin8 real self-assurance doesnNt 3ean t#at youNll be able to
acco34lis# everyt#in8; Individuals6 w#o #ave true confidence6
co33only #ave ex4ectations t#at are trut#ful; Even w#en a few of
t#eir ex4ectations are not fulfilled6 t#ey 8o on to be 4ositive and to
acce4t t#e3selves;

Individuals6 w#o lac@ self-confidence6 tend to de4end to a fault on t#e
a44roval of ot#er 4eo4le in order to feel 8ood about t#e3selves; T#ey
tend to 4revent ta@in8 ris@s as t#ey fear failure; T#ey frequently 4ut
t#e3selves down and tend to discount or brus# aside t#e
co34li3ents t#at t#ey do 8et; Does any of t#is sound fa3iliar to youV
    Chapter A:
    Anticipations 
 
                             >ynopsis

 Do you recall the Rubik's Cube that we all had when we were 
 youngsters? It's a block that has many little different colored 
  cubes assembled into it. And you are able to twist and turn 
  every cube so that every side of the block is either one solid 
  color, or it appears like a checkerboard of different colors. 
                                      
                         >ee The Outcome

Est youNd twist t#e cubes so t#at every side of t#e bloc@ loo@ed li@e a
c#ec@erboard of dissi3ilar colors; T#e #urdle of t#e 4uzzle is to
atte34t to twist it all bac@ so t#at every side of t#e bloc@ is one solid
color once a8ain;

Lave you ever used a Rubi@Ns DubeV Do you recall #ow difficult it was
for you to fi8ure out t#e 4uzzle of t#e Rubi@Ns DubeV It a44eared to be
out of t#e question; >nd all t#e sa3e6 t#ere are co34etitions6 and a
few youn8sters can solve t#e 4uzzle in a cou4le of 3inutes;

>ll t#e sa3e6 now #ere is t#e astonis#in8 t#in86 youn8sters 3ay solve
t#ese 4uzzles6 but 8rownu4s find it nearly inconceivable; Now w#y do
you t#in@ t#at isV
I believe t#at itNs because youn8sters donNt understand t#at itNs out of
t#e question to solve t#e 4uzzle6 and as t#ey donNt @now itNs out of t#e
question6 t#eyNre able to resolve it;

Per#a4s t#ey donNt understand itNs out of t#e question as t#ey #avenNt
#ad enou8# ti3e in t#eir little life to 8o t#rou8# 3uc# failure;
Lowever by t#e ti3e youNre a 8rownu46 youNve ex4erienced failure at
assorted co34lex 4uzzles a lot of ti3es6 and so your antici4ations are
really different fro3 t#ose of a youn8ster; >nd as you 8et w#at you
antici4ate;

Do you wis# to find out #ow to be8in ex4ectin8 w#at you wis# so t#at
you are able to really acquire itV T#en youNll wis# to 8o bac@ to
c#a4ter one of t#is e-boo@ and re#earse t#e 3ental exercise t#at I
4rovided you t#ere; Lowever t#is ti3e6 you #ave to 3a@e a sli3
3odification to t#e exercise;

>fter youNve viewed t#e 4icture of yourself be#avin8 and feelin8 li@e
you #ave self-assurance6 rewind t#e 3ovie and 8et inside of it so t#at
t#e ca3era is wit#in of your #ead6 and your eyes are t#e lenses of t#e
ca3era; Put differently6 see w#at youNd see6 fro3 t#e sa3e view as
really bein8 t#ere; >nd youNll wis# to #ear w#at youNd #ear6 and feel
w#at youNd feel if you were really livin8 inside of t#at 4icture;

Envisa8e #ow 3uc# better your life would be if you could feel
4ositive; Bou 3ay 8et t#e lady friend6 or t#e 8uy6 and #ave t#e #o3e
wit# t#e w#ite 4ic@et fence; Or #ow 8ood would you feel if you were
able to acquire a 3ore beneficial line of wor@6 or be8in a business of
your ownV Picture w#at your life will be li@e once you feel totally
confident;
>3on8 t#e 3e3bers of t#e 8y3 t#at I belon8 to is forever @iddin8
around wit# 3e; Le forever as@s 3e if #e 3ay #ire 3e to do #is
wor@outs for #i3; >nd t#at 8ave 3e a t#ou8#t; <#at if you could
4urc#ase self-assuranceV <ould youV >s actually you are able to!

If you truly want to alter your life ra4idly and easily and 8et t#e lady
friend6 or t#e financial success6 or t#e early retire3ent6 t#en youNll
wis# to 8o online and ta@e a 8ood loo@ at ]self-assurance!]

>s we tal@ed about earlier6 individuals6 w#o lac@ self-confidence6 tend
to de4end excessively on t#e a44roval of ot#er 4eo4le in order to feel
8reat about t#e3selves; T#ey tend to 4revent ta@in8 ris@s as t#ey fear
failure; T#ey frequently 4ut t#e3selves down and tend to discount or
brus# aside t#e co34li3ents t#at t#ey do 8et;

Donversely6 w#en youNre a confident individual6 youNll be willin8 to
ris@ t#e disa44roval of ot#er 4eo4le as youNll trust your own abilities;
BouNll be able to acce4t yourselfW and you wonNt feel li@e you #ave to
ada4t in order to be acce4ted;

Si34ly because an individual feels self-assurance in one or 3ore
facets of t#eir life6 doesnNt 3ean t#at t#eyNll feel confident in eac# 4art
of t#eir life; Cor instance6 an individual 3ay feel confident about t#eir
at#letic ability6 but not feel 4ositive w#ere 3e3bers of t#e o44osite
sex are involved6 li@e in a datin8 state of affairs6 or social
relations#i4s; So one 3ay feel confident on t#e one #and6 w#ile
feelin8 ti3id on t#e ot#er;
             Chapter 3:
    Beginning Factors and Suppositions 
 
                            >ynopsis
         How is confidence acJuired at first and what about the 
                             suppositions?  

                                        
                      Dehind The >cenes




> lot of factors bear u4on t#e develo43ent of confidence; ParentsN
3ental attitudes are of t#e essence in t#e way youn8sters feel about
t#e3selves6 es4ecially in t#eir early years; <#en 4arents su44ly
acce4tance6 youn8sters 8et a solid foundation for 8reat feelin8s about
t#e3selves;

If one or bot# 4arents are overly critical or de3andin86 or if t#eyNre
over4rotective and discoura8e 3oves towards inde4endence6
youn8sters 3i8#t co3e to trust t#eyNre inca4able6 inadequate6 or
substandard;
>ll t#e sa3e6 if 4arents 4ro3ote a youn8sters 3oves towards self-
reliance6 and t#eyNre not too critical w#en t#e youn8ster 3a@es errors6
t#e youn8ster will learn to acce4t #erself6 and will be on t#e way to
acquirin8 self-confidence;
> deficiency of self-assurance isnNt inevitably related to a lac@ of
ability; > deficiency of self-assurance is frequently t#e result of
centerin8 too stron8ly on t#e unrealistic ex4ectancies of ot#er 4eo4le6
4articularly 4arents and acquaintances; T#e influence of
acquaintances 3ay be 3ore 4otent t#an t#ose of 4arents in definin8
t#e feelin8s about oneNs self;

In reaction to external influences6 individuals develo4 su44ositionsW a
few of t#ese are constructive and a few are adverse; In t#e next
c#a4ter weNll discuss t#e fact t#at t#ere are a lot of su44ositions t#at
3ay interfere wit# self-confidence and alternate ways of t#in@in8;




I understand t#at you wis# to:

   ! Ceel li@e youNre in co33and of your life

   ! Ceel 8reat about yourself

   ! Jelieve in your own 4owers

   ! Ceel t#e bravery to #ave fres# and excitin8 ex4eriences

   ! Evidence a 4ositive future

   ! ^et to be 3uc# 3ore 4o4ular

   ! Gost of us find confident individuals 3ore 3a8netic
   ! Ceel fantastic self-re8ard

Su44ositions t#at individuals arrive at:

Earlier we tal@ed about t#e difference between individuals w#o #ave
self-assurance6 and t#ose individuals w#o do not; <e li@ewise tal@ed
about #ow self-assurance is initially acquired; Now weNll discuss
4articular su44ositions t#at individuals 3a@e;

In res4onse to outside influences6 individuals develo4 su44ositionsW a
few of t#ese are constructive and so3e are adverse; Gany
4resu34tions t#at 3ay interfere wit# self-assurance and alternate
ways of t#in@in8 are:




Su44osition: I 3ust forever be successful at everyt#in8 t#at I do; T#is
is an alto8et#er unrealistic 4resu34tion; In t#e real world6 eac#
individual #as t#eir stren8t#s6 and t#eir failin8s; <#ile itNs crucial to
learn to do t#e best t#at one 3ay6 itNs 3ore si8nificant to learn to
acce4t t#e self as bein8 #u3an6 and i34erfect; Ceel 8reat about w#at
youNre 8reat at6 and live wit# t#e fact t#at no one @nows everyt#in86 or
is an aut#ority at everyt#in8;
Su44osal: I #ave to be 4erfect6 and loved by everybody6 and satisfy
everybody; Over a8ain6 t#is is an entirely unrealistic su44osition; >ll
#u3an bein8s are fallible; ItNs 3ore beneficial to develo4 4ersonal
criteria and values t#at are not totally de4endent u4on t#e a44roval
of ot#er 4eo4le;

Presu34tion: Everyt#in8 t#at #a44ened to 3e in t#e 4ast is in
co33and of 3y feelin8s and be#aviors in t#e #ere and now;

O4tion: <#ile itNs true t#at your self-confidence was 4articularly
vulnerable to outside influences durin8 your c#ild#ood6 as you 8et
older6 you are able to attain awareness and 4ers4ective on w#at t#ose
influences #ave been; In doin8 so6 you are able to 4ic@ w#ic#
influences youNll continue to let it #ave an effect on your life; Bou do
not #ave to be #el4less in t#e face of 4recedin8 events;

In t#e followin8 c#a4ter weNll tal@ about 3i8#ty tec#niques for
for3ulatin8 self- confidence;

				
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