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    brought to you by

                    Tara Men’s Group Inc.
                                          in partnership with TOMNET
What a good idea!
                                                                    ARTICLES FROM
TARA HOSTS 7th MEN’s MUSTER
The idea of having a Tabloid for our 2011 Men's Muster came         Goondiwindi     2
from Frank Hoghes and the Tara men. As our Muster hosts for
this year we congratulate and thank them for their initiative and   Inglewood       3
hospitality.
                                                                    Oakey           4
The articles are so varied and represent the diversity of the
men‟s groups throughout South West Queensland. Within the           Crow’s Nest     6
over-arching approach of older (and younger) men supporting
one another, each group, while having much in common with           Mitchell        9
others, has its own way of going about its business
                                                                    Toowoomba       9
Articles range from a personal appreciation of a group to other
more general and comprehensive reports. They reflect strength       Roma            10
in a network of men where both their commonality and
individuality coexist. The articles provide information exchange    Tara            11
that may benefit other groups and help them in supporting their
members and serving their local communities.                        Pittsworth      12

                                                                    Dalby           13
Our thanks go to all those busy people who have contributed to
the tabloid. We believe that their efforts will result in a good,
                                                                    Photo Gallery   14
interesting and informative read.
                                                       Enjoy        History of the MUSTER
                                  Written by Kirsty Dowling- Community Worker from Care Goondi-         2
Goondiwindi                       windi Community Centre, and was compiled from information
                                  gathered from the Gundy Grey ’ s men ’ s group members.
In 2006, through community consultation Care          So what have the men gotten out of the Gundy
Goondiwindi, QLD Health and Blue Care                 Grey ’ s over the past 4-5 years? After speaking
identified that a Senior Men ’ s group was            with many of them individually and as a group
needed in the Goondiwindi community. As the           these were the 3 main things they said:
Community Development Coordinator I took on           The Gundy Grey ’ s provide an opportunity to:
the main role of looking into this. After I spent
                                                      *Meet up with new and old ‘ mates ’ - share a
time talking with older men, researching groups
                                                      laugh and talk about the past and future.
around the district and getting in touch with
TOMNET, I organized a community meeting               *Learn new things - through guest speakers,
inviting over 50 men from the town and district. A    other networking, classes and information
group of around 40 men gathered for this              sessions run through Care and also learning
meeting at a local community centre to talk about     things from other men - or ‘ mates ’ .
the possible establishment of a men ’ s group. It     *Visit new and old places of interest and
was agreed to start with lunches & BBQs. One of       experience new things. Trips away to other towns
the first BBQs took place at Care Goondiwindi         were a real highlight for almost all group
with just 8 men in attendance. I specifically         members and meeting up with other groups was
remember the BBQ though, because I was                a definite favourite on our list. The men also
thinking it was a failure due to low numbers but      reflected on how great the monthly BBQs/lunches
one of the men said, “ K irsty this is great You      were and how much they enjoyed it when
know I have a wife at home and children and           TOMNET members or other men ’ s groups
grandchildren in town but what I really miss          joined them. A real highlight at these BBQs and
since selling our farm and moving into town is        meetings is also their ‘ Tell a Joke/Yarn ’
‘ M ateship ’ . I realized then numbers didn ’ t      sessions - these are of course always clean and
matter - if together as a group we can have a         they never bring in any blonde jokes in on my
positive impact on one life then the group is a       behalf! A long discussion took place about the
success.                                              places we have visited, things we have seen and
With this in mind, discussions took place with the    catering/hospitality we ’ ve received. The food
men about what they wanted to organize and            we ’ ve eaten should get a special mention as
how I should go about it. A small core group of       the men remembered eating scones as big as
around 20 men started meeting regularly and The       soccer balls washed down with a big cup of
Gundy Grey ’ s Men ’ s group was named and            coffee and 2 rounds of sandwiches each at the
formed. The group has now been going strong           Moonie Creek. They have also been served a
since 2007. Naturally, numbers have fluctuated        mixed grill big enough to supply a month ’ s
and men have come and gone but generally              consumption of meat to a small village. They still
numbers sit around 15-25 to an event. Not too         remember and talk about the Oakey Men ’ s
bad for a small town really. The group have been      Muster a few years ago where they received up
approached about helping with different projects      to 7 courses of food straight & then it was time to
in the community but as the majority of the group     go home! They always say to me, ‘ Kirsty, you
member are over 70 and some have on-going             just will never let us go hungry will you! ’
health complaints I have found this bunch of men      The Gundy Grey ’ s Men’ s Group is probably
much prefer trips, BBQs and intergenerational         run a little differently from other groups in the
activities that don ’ t necessarily mean ‘ being      region in that there isn ’ t one full-time chair
involved in manual labor’ . It was an assumption      person.
of mine that being involved in work and projects      The men are very good at allocating & sharing
was what the men wanted but really what
                                                      tasks & then Care is responsible for the
motivates this particular group of men is the
                                                      administrative side of their group. They do
opportunity to have a cuppa and a chat with a…
                                                      however make decisions themselves about
‘ M ate ’ !                                           events, places to visit & their meeting schedules.
                                                                             ( c ontinued next page )
 Goondiwindi cont.                                       Inglewood                                        3
This suits our particular group and I don ’ t push
them anymore to be modeled exactly like other            The Inglewood Men‟s Shed – known as „The
                                                         Mates Shed‟ has come a long way during the past
groups in the region. They are respectful of each
                                                         eighteen months. The group has a keen
other and I feel over the years have grown into a        membership of 12 with a number of others in the
great group of ‘ mates ’ who are able to rely on         district showing interest in joining. The word „old‟
each other for advice and support. I most certainly      has been left out of the naming as a number of
feel privileged to have met them all individually        members have stated that they felt they were not
and as a group. The fact I get to be involved with       old enough to be classified as such and there are
them as part of my job is wonderful and I will           also a number of middle aged men who require
certainly cherish the memories I share with them         our help as well.
and I know they all feel the same way about the          Thanks for the availability of our building goes
group also.                                              mainly to the Goondiwindi Regional Council who
                                                         were able to provide us with the old Scouts
What are the negatives or barriers for the group. I      Premises. This building has been amalgamated
wish I had more time allocated to spend                  into the land involving the McIntyre Sports Centre
concentrating on ways to enhance the group with          and thus we only have to pay for services being
them, but unfortunately, as most of you involved         power, water, garbage and sewerage services.
                                                         The building had become an eyesore and a target
in similar groups know, time restraints and funding
                                                         for vandalism. The groups brief is to renovate and
seem to be an on-going barrier to our group              restore the building as the headquarters for “The
developments. Our other main barrier is lack of          Mates Shed‟ and to rid the building of the dozens
transport. We do not having a community bus and          of pigeons using the area.
there are no buses in this community that are            The original area of the building was donated by
suitable either due to accessibility or affordability.   Mr Col Rowlings who had a property „Redbank‟ on
These are not problems that are easily fixed & in        the banks of the McIntyre Brook west of
the 5 years we have been together it has been an         Inglewood.
on-going issue that we don ’ t really have any           The building itself was named “Mygunyah” It was
solution to.                                             opened by the then Queensland Governor Sir
In finishing, I thought I ’ d include in this article    Henry Able Smith who was a cousin the Queen
some key words that kept coming up in my chats           Elizabeth 11. The plaque commemorated this day
                                                         in May 1960 and this plaque will be maintained in
with the men about our group - as you have
                                                         a special area.
probably read the main word mentioned by every
single one of them was…… Mateship.                       The building – “Mygunyah” would have been
                                                         approximately 100 years old when it was shifted
Others included sharing life experience,
                                                         into Inglewood in 1959/1960. Floor boards in the
friendship, on-going support, loneliness, men ’ s        building are original and almost eight inches wide.
business, not too formal, hang out, own place,           Since this time a large room was added to the
non-judgmental, depression, health, socialization,       back which the group is in the process of
referral information, wellbeing, away from family,       renovating to become the reception and meeting
advice, guidance, social isolation, consistent           area.                         Ian Badham
connection, cooking for one.
The men really feel the Gundy Grey ’ s gives             Footnote:
them an environment where their life experiences         The “Mates Shed” is a monument to the founding
can be shared, a forum where they can be                 members who started off in 2010. The “mates” already
                                                         are rejuvenating the premises and this activity has
‘ t hemselves with their mates ’ … an
                                                         joined members and other people of the town and
environment they feel is otherwise not always            district in purposeful endeavour. Working side-by-side
available to them in the wider community. They           has been a large part in the process of men supporting
were unanimous in saying that the group allowed          one another. The early days of the Inglewood group
                                                         are packed with promise for the future. This was
them to connect and share experiences in a safe,
                                                         confirmed at the groups first AGM on 28 July 20911
non-judgmental environment that is thankfully            where the spirit and commitment of its members left no
ongoing- for now. This small but strong group of         doubt in our minds about this.
‘ m ates ’ will be around for a long time to come!
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Oakey
OUR BEGINNING                                           4. In conjunction with Oakey Lions and the Oakey
                                                        Historical Museum Committee we hold an annual
The Oakey branch of TOMNET was born in May
                                                        Foster Carers BBQ day at the museum where we
2004 in St Monica‟s School Hall with Father Kerry
                                                        invite all foster carers and their families to a great
Costigan elected as our first president.
                                                        family day.
So began a journey of seven years that sees the
Oakey group held in the highest esteem in not           FUND RAISING AND AWARENESS DAYS
only Oakey but in all quarters.                         In recent years we have conducted fund raising
This journey could not have been undertaken             and awareness days for other organizations, such
without the teamwork and mateship that evolved          as
in the early days when renovating a demountable         1. Prostate Cancer Awareness and Fund raising
shed that Fr Costigan acquired for our group.              BBQ day which was attended by a cross
Converting the shed from a building with unlined           section of the community – (An all blue day)
walls, poor unsound flooring and no fencing, to a       2. A pink ribbon day to raise funds and
meeting place of quality proved very difficult but         awareness for the Breast Cancer Foundation.
as a team we stuck to the task and did it! The             This day was well attended by a lot of local
fellowship established during all this cemented            ladies and the day was a sea of pink. Following
bonds that still exist. This despite the fact that up      this day the favorable comments from the
to 8 of out original team are no longer with us,           general community raised our profile even
having passed on.                                          more.
WE ARE NOT AN ISLAND                                    A local flood victims BBQ was held to raise funds
In our infancy as a group we saw the need to            for distribution among local residents. Money
expand our wings and embrace other sections of          raised was distributed via food vouchers. This
our community and service groups. We felt if we         was done on a one-to-one personal basis.
remained in our own little circle we would              THE SHED HAS TO GO
eventually shrivel up and become an island on our
                                                        In late 2010 we were advised that we would have
own. Our involvement with the community and
                                                        to vacate our shed situated near St Monica‟s
other service organizations has reached a point
                                                        tennis courts. The school had received a grant to
where we now -
                                                        construct an indoor sport and culture complex and
1. Have a long term partnership with the                this construction would encompass our shed. The
  committee of the Oakey Historical Museum. To          Church and school did all they could to assist us
  date we have painted buildings and assisted           relocate, but red tape and lack of help from other
  with improvements to a BBQ shade and seating          authorities had our secretary banging his head on
  area. Up to 4 BBQs are held each year at the          the wall. We were doomed to be homeless.
  Museum and the Museum committee always
                                                        A MIRACLE HAPPENS
  assists with these days.
2. For several years we have been associated            But out of the blue a miracle happens. A local
                                                        business man, Tony Nixon of TAB Plumbing, read
   with the Dr EAF McDonald Nursing Home in
                                                        of our plight in the Oakey Champion via an article
   Oakey. We take male residents (with the help of
                                                        on our „Farewell to the Shed Breakfast‟ in
   carers) to outings such as BBQs and visits to
                                                        December. He and his wife Denise decided to
   museums and luncheons at country hotels. We
                                                        offer us a shed situated behind his plumbing
   also make items for use by the residents
                                                        works. Thank you Tony and Denise.
   including easels for painting, wooden flowers
   for garden displays, timber birds etc. We also       THE NEW SHED
   have some of the female residents attend             What great news! It is just a shed but boy it is big
   functions and once a year have a ladies only         and it even has a toilet and is wheelchair
   event                                                accessible. But the most pleasing thing about the
3. With the Oakey Lions Club we have a mutual           shed is that it needs a lot of work and our
   friendship and good working relationship. They       members have rallied bit by bit to make it
   gave us much assistance in the early days.           something we can be proud of.



                                                                                (continued next page)
Oakey cont                                                                                                 5
One can see even stronger bonds forming
between some of our long serving members and                Working with the students of Oakey State High
some of our newer members as rewarding                       School for their project team to make
improvements are made. To date, floors have                  improvements to our toilet set up.
been painted, also the toilet. It is planned to          We continue our community involvement in Oakey
surround the toilet with a lattice work privacy          and surrounds to encourage people in need to
screen and to enlarge it making it wheelchair            seek out our support so that we can fulfill our
accessible. Windows are to be installed and walls        vision.
made more friendly along with other on-going             Recently our Foundation President Fr Kerry
improvements.                                            Costigan put forward a new vision for us and we
The memorial garden bed we established at our            list it below:
old shed is to be moved to the side of the new
                                                         OUR VISION
shed with the addition of five more trees, one tree
for the 8 members who have passed on will form           WE ARE A GROUP OF:
our new memorial garden.                                 MEN supporting older men
The important thing with the shed is that it will be     MEN with our gifts and personalities
the result of a team effort.
                                                         MEN who are tolerant and respectful of all others.
OUR CORE AIMS                                            MEN open to the possibility of being criticized
                                                         using positive comments for self development
With all that has been said before we have not
lost sight of our core function that is to help lonely   MEN sometimes “broken” but always human
and isolated men. Because of our standing in the         enough to remain joyful about the future
community men and women with personal issues             MEN continually challenged “to keep the show on
have approached us for moral support and                 the road.”
understanding and thankfully to date we have had         (FR Kerry Costigan, Foundation President)
100% success. Some of these people have joined
our group while others have started new lives for        OUR THANKS
themselves.                                              We must conclude by thanking all who have
OUR MEETING DAYS                                         assisted us over the past seven years, in
                                                         particular the Administration and Members of
We met twice a month with the 2nd Friday in each         TOMNET.
month being a normal meeting at the shed, all
members are invited to take part in this general         WELL DONE
meeting. Guest speakers and talks of interest are        WE are also proud of the fact that for 2009 our
also part of this day.                                   then president Doug Darr was named Oakey and
On the 4th Friday of each month we have our              District Citizen of the Year and for 2010 our
activities or fun time with BBQs, visits to              secretary George Lipman was named Oakey and
museums, pub luncheon, members shed                      District Citizen of the year and Toowoomba
activities, or whatever to maintain interest. Our        Region Citizen of the Year.
members at the McDonald Nursing Home usually
attend these days.
OUR MEMBERSHIP NUMBERS
We currently have 35 members some of whom
are residents at the McDonald Nursing Home.
All take some part in our ongoing commitments.
There is always good fellowship, a helping hand
at activities and an ear when someone needs to
talk.
OUR FUTURE
Our new shed allows us to progress even further
with the following plans on the table:
 A workshop area in our shed to carry out
    woodwork and other activities for the
    community.
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Crow’s Nest
  Albert Einstein once said:                                2. The informal approach was suggested that
  “Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for            offered independence from Government
what purpose he knows not, though he senses               impositions and all that goes with funding
it. But without deeper reflection one knows               restraints as well as endless compliances. It was
from daily life that one exists for other people”         recognized that minimal structure was needed, to
                                                          be accountable to the members. Membership was
  And so the above quote expresses the                    proposed to be on a weekly basis without formality
philosophy of our men‟s group celebrating seven           of annual subscriptions. Leadership was to be
years of existence beginning on the 9th July 2004.        totally flexible and the group would decide on
 BACKGROUND DEVELOPMENTS                                  changes as required on short notice. The intent
                                                          was to pass ownership of the group to members to
  The seeds for a men‟s group in Crows Nest
                                                          contribute as their abilities and wishes dictated,
began some time prior to the inaugural meeting of
                                                          Given that older men and served in many
69 men on the 9th July 2004, at the Crows Nest
                                                          community groups over long time periods,
Catholic Church hall, at which the group was
                                                          informality offered the most success to the fledging
formed. This meeting was instigated by vet, and
                                                          group. This approach has now worked well over
local government Councillor Chris Yeates who
                                                          the past 7 years.
wrote to men in the senior age group demographic
and invited them to attend. The Blue Care                  THE INAUGURAL MEETING
organisation had invested resources to research a          The group was formed at the inaugural meeting
possible platform or a forum for older men to             of 69 men on the 9th July 2004, at the Crows Nest
address improving their physical and mental health        Catholic Church hall.
issues. This research conducted by the writer
indentified through consultation with older men,           Minutes of this meeting highlight the following:
that non-specific social venues could be supported          Chris Yeates spoke about starting an older men’s
which could lead to health improvement through            group in Crows Nest. Members from Toowoomba
socialisation.                                            Older Men’s Network gave a presentation as how
  It must be understood that in 2004, over 80             their group started and donated $500 as seeding
community based organisations in the area offered         money towards starting costs for the Crows Nest
participation to older men. For our purposes the          group. It was decided that at the next meeting on
older man is defined as a man 50 and over.                the 16th July the group would form and over the
However younger men are not excluded from our             next few meetings guest speakers such as Dr Jim
group, it seems the group attracts older men              Cavaye, an eminent Community Development
naturally without any sort of formality.                  Consultant addressed the group with advice as
                                                          how to proceed.
  Many exploratory meetings were held with
interested stakeholders at the Yeates household             After much discussion the group voted
and much rumination followed. At the time there           unanimously to become a committee of council
were many ideas and visions offered to define the         (Crows Nest Council) as an unincorporated
Purpose, Aims, Directions and Governance                  informal group. A committee was elected to
Structure for such a group. It could be said that         manage the group and weekly meetings with fixed
two views were held.                                      budgets for catering authorised. Our original home
                                                          as the Catholic Church hall, but due to church
  1. The formal approach with a Management                needs we moved to the Local Bowls Club and
Committee, Incorporation, Government funding              remain there till this day.
assistance and a building to house this group.
                                                            With many members who are also bowls
  Some research was carried out investigating             members this has become our home that offers all
availability of suitable land, for example the old calf   our requirements and easy access for mobility
saleyards were inspected and Crows Nest Council           issues of some members. The group has as its
was approached as to this possibility of using or         core value the philosophy of total independence,
developing this facility. Further discussions were        self determination and self reliance, and rejects
held as to a suitable “shed” project requiring            external influences or controls. The gesture to
massive funding in the future. This vision held the       return seeding funds back to TOMNET to pass on
belief that a fully equipped workshop style building      to the other groups was done in gratitude and a
would meet the men‟s needs.                               mark of respect to maintain full independence.


                                                                                (continued next page)
Crow’s Nest        Cont                                                                                    7
                                                          Once a month we have a BBQ (classy lunch) and
 The group values our friendship and ties with            use the opportunity to disseminate any formal
TOMNET but does not want to have formalised               information and planned activities.
association with any community group.
 GROUP DEVELOPMENT OVER TIME                              Mainly our group simply engages in conversation,
                                                          that old fashioned idea that people talked over the
The aims and objectives of the group are to foster
                                                          dining table and discussed problems, shared their
friendships and fellowship through genuine
                                                          day and celebrated achievements.
conversation and knowledge of each other. The
group can discuss any topic regardless, and               Our group operates between 8.30am and about
practises respect and tolerance of each others            12.30pm with the members lingering on at their
views and opinions. We support male gender                leisure often. We have about 45 to 50 active
related issues and provide a forum for open and           members and 20 to about 25 attend each week.
friendly debate.                                          We usually have a raffle each week with a major
                                                          prize followed by a multiple draw of 20-25 or more
Our group provides a regular social outlet for
                                                          items such as fresh produce and donated goodies.
mature males in our community in a non-
                                                          Participation is voluntary and many members
competitive or sporting atmosphere. We believe in
                                                          contribute regularly with produce to maintain funds.
shared responsibilities, to utilise our skills, pass on
                                                          Our funds are expended by members‟ votes and
knowledge and skills of the past. We look to the
                                                          activities are subsidized heavily for trips and the
future and are interested in current local and world
                                                          like.
events. Our members are willing to pass on current
skills to our older members regarding technology           GROUP ACTIVITIES & EVENTS
and other subjects. We uphold confidentiality of our      Our group constantly tries to find new and
group discussions, regarding individual views and         interesting venues and destinations for members to
opinions. Our aim is to widen our outlook and to          enjoy that are male interest orientated. However
develop individual networks outside the group in          we also have mixed venues to include partners.
the community to pursue member‟s interests. Our
group is a forum for older men to freely and openly        We have undertaken bus trips to places like:
discuss issues that concern them and others. We            1. Rail Museum at Ipswich
encourage the lighter side of life and we love             2. Botanical Gardens Brisbane
humour. We hope to continue to gain knowledge of
health issues and advancements in men‟s health             3. Maritime Museum
and we pursue speakers in this regard. Our group           4. Oakey Aviation Centre & Museum
tries to counter social isolation of many men in our       5. Wineries
community, and complement other community
                                                           6. Sight seeing venues
groups by assisting when possible.
                                                           7. Supporting and participating with TOMNET
WHAT DOES OUR GROUP ACTUALLY DO?                              trips and events
We jokingly refer to our group as “Men’s Secret            Guest speakers over the years have been:
Business”, given the volume of laughter at our
meetings the whole community can hear us. In fact          1.Wind Farm presentation, both sides of the
all we do is be ourselves. Many of us have spoken            debate
about our life‟s story of who we are, and the              2. Politicians of all parties and Governments
journey travelled, the good, bad and ugly. We              3. Local Council representatives
share interests and explore new interests of our
members. We use our group to develop skills and            4. Bankers
hobbies and learn from other members thus in turn          5. Government agencies presentations –
widening our networks as well as often our                    Centrelink, Public Trust, Health Department
partners. A women‟s friendship group structured on
                                                           6. Superannuation companies & funeral directors
our model has been going for some years now.
                                                           7. Medical and allied professionals
The glue of our group is “food”. The theory is you
chew, you talk, you stay and you interact. A great         8. TOMNET on men‟s issues
morning tea made by members to enjoy at a cost of          9. Members telling their life stores
$4 and this is the membership fee for the day. No
                                                          10. Local industry proprietors and community
subscription no obligation to attend, come when
                                                              group presentations.
and as you need to. Our group operates each and
every Friday throughout the year including Good
Friday.                                                                         (continued over page)
Crow’s Nest        Cont                                                                                 8
 MAJOR GROUP EVENTS                                      I have been influenced by all of them.
 1. Australia Day Landing re-enactment 2007 at           Herb SMITH            Edwin TIGELL
    “Bullocky‟s Rest”. This group even won the           John STEWART          Jerry CARTER
    “Australia Day Local Government event of the         Ted GYLNN             Max VANDERSEE.
    Year Award", a very proud moment in our
    group‟s achievements.                                Jack LANGE            Fred MOCOCK
 2. Fortune Teller readings by the famous                Brian MUNRO           Tony WILKES
   Madame “ZENDA” at TOMNET meetings for
   President Noel Hannant and Tom Clark.                 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
 3. Crows Nest Day celebrations parade, exhibit         No group, however informal, ever runs itself. I
    (our resident member clown Bob Windsor,             acknowledge all past and current committee
    also past president).                               members for their tireless work and belief in the
 4. Mock wedding play by our member thespians           welfare and growth of our group. To all members
    (alter ego cross dressers) star studded cast        past and present, thank you for being you. Your
    show casing the Bride in full gear James            contribution and interest is the very reason for our
    White.                                              existence. The list is too comprehensive to name
                                                        everyone. I would like, however, to name a few
 5. Many honour guards to support members‟              outstanding contributions which laid down our
    funerals.                                           foundations for others to build upon.
 6. Support and assistance to allied community           CHRIS YEATES original catalyst for the group
    groups.
                                                         TOMNET members bringing the concept and
 7. Assisting members‟ families in times of crisis       ideas to explore.
   and need.                                             ALAN GREENWOOD
 8. Catering duties supporting TOMNET events             ALAN MUTCH
   such as Oakey Gathering.                              BILL SNADS
                                                         GRAHAM ROSENGREEN Biographies/recital
 MEMBERSHIP OUTREACH                                     REG BLANCK
 Hospital visits and family support.                     FATHER TERRY HICKLIN
 Assisting to identify older men in social isolation,    MAURIE YOUNG
 illness and frailty.                                    BOB WINDSOR
 Writing up life stories of members, by Graham           HANK BOBILAK
 Rosengreen, a talented man and past president.          VENN SORENSON
                                                         JAMES WHITE
GOING FORWARD
                                                         DISCLAIMER
  The future for the group looks assured as it
fulfils the need of older men. As members pass          The reflection on the development of the Crows
away as is inevitable due to our ageing process,        Nest Men‟s Network is drawn from records and
new members take up the challenge of relevance          recollections of members. It also draws on the
and adapt to change. Our original insistence to         personal experience and participation of the writer
remain independent at all costs has been a              over the past 10 years in the local community. I
proven formula for this group, and the culture of       submit this in good faith as an accurate history of
openness continues to welcome new members.              the group. However omissions are not intentional.
Informality and voluntary service to the group‟s        They are merely the onset of the ageing process.
needs and wishes has worked well over the last 7        I wish to sincerely thank everyone associated with
years and hopefully will continue.                      this group as it has had an incredible positive
                                                        impact on my own life as I am exposed to the
 IN MEMORY OF PAST MEMBERS                              experience, wisdom, goodwill and above all
I wish to remember the passing of some of our           friendships of so many “uncles and father” figures.
original members‟, all were real characters in their                                  Mark Berkovich
own right and have left lasting impressions on the                                    Founding Member
group.
Mitchell                                              Toowoomba                                       9


Patrick Pearce is the man behind the Booringa         Last month we celebrated our 10th anniversary.
Blokes in Mitchell. This small group was formed in    Who would have believed back in 2001 with eight
mid 2009 and originally met in a small hut in the     members, that our membership would have grown
grounds of the local nursing home.                    to 250 today.
More recently there has been a change in venue.     But our growth is not measured in numbers only.
An article in the Bottle Tree Bulletin earlier this It is evident in the number of programs
year sums up the early days of this group.          undertaken, the active participation of members
“The Booringa Blokes is a group of older men who and volunteers in running the organisation, the
meet in the Booringa Action Cottage, at 19          positive changes in the lives of many and the
Liverpool Street on the first Monday and third      recognition and respect accorded to us by the
Tuesday every month. We meet mainly to aid          wider community. They say that „self praise is no
older men suffering from depression and are         recommendation‟. While this is true, Toowoomba
homeless. Come along for a yarn, a coffee, tea      TOMNET can take pride in their achievements
and bickies, the venue is air-conditioned, with     and the manner in which they go about their
comfortable chairs. We meet around 9.30 – 10.00 „business‟. They are essentially quiet achievers;
am and you will, I am sure, develop lasting         not seeking reward except perhaps, for the
friendships. Perhaps you may have some skills       satisfaction of sharing ones experiences with
and good advice to share with us, which would be another and doing a good turn to a mate, no
welcomed. For more information contact Patrick      matter how small. It is this spirit that also prevails
Pearce on Ph 4623 7743 or 0488 123 860.”            in the rural groups – the spirit that links us all
                                                    together.
Patrick Pearce had the privilege of attending the
Carers evening at the Club Hotel Roma. The          Resources are scarce. With ever expanding
evening was an outstanding success, thanks to       demands upon us we are being forced to work
Trish and Amanda, Roma Carers. The food was         smart, to maximise our effectiveness in what we
commendable, and music had the venue jumping. can do and to do it more efficiently. Although we
                                                    have received limited funding for another two
Like many groups that have been established in      years from State and Federal Governments our
rural areas getting them started and into regular   potential is seriously curtailed. As always we are
meetings has been difficult. Members continue       required to do more with less, and so priorities
working and are often away from Mitchell.           have to be given attention while accepting that we
However, the foundation for development in the      cannot respond to all the needs that come to our
future has been laid, much to the credit of Patrick attention.
Pearce.
                                                    We are planning to have some supportive visits to
While the road has been a hard slog, we have        rural groups for mutual benefit so that the interests
every good reason to anticipate a bright future for of older men can be addressed regionally and
the Booringa Blokes.                                locally. We shall continue our home visiting
                                                      program but the number receiving the service will
                                                      be reduced. We will expand our partnerships with
                                                      nursing homes by increasing small groups in
                                                      these facilities. Various meetings continue to
                                                      thrive and an additional “Chew-the-Fat” group has
                                                      been formed because of ever increasing numbers.
                                                      The number of volunteers is increasing and
                                                      participating in training. We have an increase in
                                                      men becoming involved in our mentoring program
                                                      with Flexi-School … and much more could be
                                                      said.
                                                      Like the rural groups, our group is a “work in
                                                      progress,” and it is the quality and calibre of the
                                                      men themselves that makes Toowoomba
                                                      TOMNET what it is today.
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Roma
In May 2007, with Red Cross support, a small           As the original coordinator of RomNet, Don
group of older men concerned by the social             Roberts said, “The best outcome is to see
isolation of local men in their community formed       someone previously isolated from the community
the Roma Men‟s Network. Community                      find their place again”.
consultations conducted in rural and remote            From this engagement with RomNet we know
towns had identified a general concern regarding       that:
the health and wellbeing of older men expressed
by local service providers and community groups.       1. Local change is driven by working in
Of specific concern were older men living alone in     partnership with local people who recognise their
poor housing, on low fixed incomes and with no         own community‟s issues and identify what help
family support or few social connections.              they need.
Key to these concerns was the lack of service          2. Red Cross provided the right support at the
usage by these men many of whom had                    right time (transport, community space, staffing)
unrecognised or poorly treated health conditions       which has kept the project responses directly
and disabilities. These were often compounded by       linked to community needs without the risk of Red
a lack of self care and high rates of substance        Cross taking over. For example it has required us
abuse (predominantly alcohol abuse). Many of           to work with the men, partners and stakeholders
these older men had moved to key regional              when it suits them, not just us.
centres after long employment in mining or stock       3. Employment of a peer builds the skills of the
work. Most have retired (mostly forced) with little    group and at the same time provides direct
income support and few assets. The lack of family      access for the group to the knowledge, resources
and friends also meant many were lonely, alone         and expertise of the broader organisation. It also
and disconnected from the broader community in         supports ownership staying with the community
terms of access to support services as well as         and the group.
social relationship.                                   4. A single response model while benefiting
Initial contact between the men and Red Cross          specific individuals has less impact in terms of
was established through activities aimed at            scale and scope than a multifaceted approach
improving the men‟s health and social wellbeing.       (i.e. one to one friendships, group formation and
A small grant had been secured to run cooking          networking).
classes aimed at educating single men about            5. Areas of sustainability have begun to emerge
good food and nutrition. In addition, a core group     with the group owning more of the processes and
of men had expressed a desire in forming an            the coordinator also „retiring‟ with others willing to
interest group known as the Roma Men‟s Network         step up. Some areas are less likely to become
(RomNet). This group was supported by Red              sustainable such as applying for funds etc. given
Cross and formed as part of the Bridges program        the age and focus of the group, yet this role is one
aimed at improving social connections and              Red Cross is willing to continue.
community access for isolated people. Red Cross
provided direct support in the form of employing a     6. Seeking funding that must „fit‟ with the goals,
local peer coordinator one day a week (one of the      purposes and outcomes of the group avoids the
older men selected by the men themselves), 12-         risk of the project, focus being changed, the group
seater bus, meeting space and staff support.           is clear that any funds complement rather than
Recent funding has contributed to the                  control the project and.
development of a book capturing the memories           7. A little goes a long way when working with
and histories of the older men about their district,   people who are motivated. RomNet is made up of
giving many of the men a sense of legacy.              fewer than 10 volunteers but had made a
Over the past two years RomNet has become a            significant impact on the Roma community well
well recognised part of the Roma community             beyond the 60-70 men who regularly take part on
landscape respected by the local community             the activities organised by the group.
members and service providers. They collaborate                                       Don Roberts
with Primary Health and local GPs in supporting
the improvement of their members‟ health and           Footnote: The RomNet men, under the
have significantly reduced the social disconnect of    leadership of Don Roberts has taken an interest in
many men living alone. Friendships between the         Surat while supporting a group in Injune. Areas
men have grown with 60-70 men participating on         around Roma remain of interest to RomNet who
a monthly basis in activities and new groups being     are keen to develop and support more local
formed in surrounding towns.                           groups within striking distance.
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Tara
Tara Men‟s Group started about seven or eight               Manage “Work for the Dole” program
years ago, at the Tara Lagoon on the hill behind             2009 – 2010
the toilet/shower building. We were all around
the same age at the time - 50 to 70 age group.              Drop in centre open Tuesday – Friday
We had a small sheltered area with only a roof,             Occasional bus trips
all sides were open to the weather and that was          Discuss about what values the Tara Men‟s Group
alright in the warmer weather but not so good in         stands for ranged from serving the community,
the cold. There were times when it was that cold         including the „blockies‟, to having personal needs
during winters, that we could not wait to have a         met, to „being there‟ for their mates. Some
cup of tea or coffee to get warm.                        comments forthcoming were: “This is what we
We were able to use the Tara Community Church            like”; “Fellowship, having friends and their
Hall after this time, sharing the facilities, and that   company”; “Be here for others who need us”;
was a vast improvement as to the weather.                “Keep us off the street!”; „Helping others; a
Then we were able to obtain the use of the shed.         valuable community service”; “Having a place for
We are now on the corner of Day and Fry Streets,         the men out on the blocks and draw them into
Tara. At the time the building belonged to Dave          town”; “ men can talk to men – not to women
Gunther, the owner of Country Rural Traders.             (at the meetings)”.
He believed in what we were trying to do and
gave us the shed to use. Recently the property                                 Graham Hopkins.
has been sold to a young couple who have
started a popular Mexican café and look to be                                         (Secretary)
giving it a good try. They are supportive of our
group and allow us to continue using the shed at
this time.
We have about 30 members and we have been
able to have some representation at almost every
function that has been put on by community
groups and those connected with TOMNET.
This is Tara‟s turn to host the Regional Muster,
and we are looking forward to meeting with all
the people who come to Tara to enjoy our Men‟s
Muster.
We are hoping that you will all have an enjoyable
day and decide that Tara is somewhere to return
to. The Tara men will always be here to welcome
you back with a smile and an out-stretched hand.

This is a very active group of men. Some of their
activities include:
   A monthly BBQ – 3rd Thursday
   Street BBQ – 1st Thursday
   Market Day BBQ – 1st Thursday
   Two Day Camel Races food stall – this year,
    British style cuisine.
   Anzac Day – gunfire breakfast at dawn.
   Mowing lawns
   Working on community bus
   Instigate Men‟s Health Night, and participate
   Hospital visiting
                                                                                                        12
Pittsworth

In April 2004 an invitation was sent to a large       To meet these challenges any verbal input has to
number of the older men of Pittsworth town and        be accompanied by a related display of physical
district asking them to attend a meeting to           objects which can be passed around to groups at
discuss the formation of an older men‟s group.        tables. Even if the verbal input has been heard
The move was initiated by TOMNET in                   only partly, or not at all, the articles themselves
conjunction with representatives of the Pittsworth    provide a table talking point or bring back
community.                                            memories providing further stories and
                                                      discussion. At the afternoon tea which follows
At that meeting, attended by forty or more local      our blokes assist the waiters. The aged men in
men and addressed by the TOMNET men, it was           the lodge have had a welcome change in routine!
decided to form a group called “The Pittsworth        A monthly visit is proposed. The challenge for the
Older Men‟s Network” and to meet fortnightly.         men of our group is to spur themselves to either
Office bearers were elected to perform the            provide an input themselves or to take the
executive functions.                                  responsibility to organise someone to provide a
                                                      short verbal input which is accompanied by a
The executive met shortly afterwards and              display of physical objects which can be
produced a newsletter the main content being a        circulated around the tables.
program of events for the following months.           Our hope is that we have found a way within our
                                                      particular Pittsworth community for older men to
In the early stages meeting attendances varied in     support other older men. Its success will depend
the range of fifteen to twenty. Guest speakers        on the response we get from our blokes to
generally attract the least attendance while          individually play their part.
concerts and bus trips, to which the wives and
girlfriends were invited, attracted the best                                                     Jack Zeller.
response.

Over the years attendance has gradually
declined. Apart from a decrease due to deaths
there has been a drift to other organisations
which have evidently been able to also satisfy
the needs of older men for social interaction.
A Senior Citizens group of mixed gender meeting
weekly has existed in Pittsworth for over 30
years. Another mixed group, The Happy
Wanderers, has gathered momentum in recent
times. It was initially formed to provide bus trips
but later expanded by providing concerts and
other activities. Meanwhile our group‟s meeting
attendance has slipped to fewer than ten. At our
2011 annual meeting the attendance was seven.
Our group‟s 2010 break-up concert was attended
by some visitors from Toowoomba TOMNET as
well as a number of men from the local
Beauaraba Lodge aged care facility.

The nurses from the lodge who accompanied the
men made the suggestion that our members may
be willing to visit the lodge on a regular basis to
socialise with twenty or more aged male
residents.
After further discussion with the Lodge
representatives, this suggestion is being tried. It
has its challenges due in part to the immobility of
some of the aged men but more so to the
hearing loss suffered by many of them and also
by many of the men in our group.
 Dalby                                                                                               13


The Dalby Older Men’s Group is small in number         Life is precious, time is precious. As the years
but large in spirit. This was demonstrated in last     roll by we begin to think about, yes, death! - an
year’s regional Men’s Muster where the Dalby           event which will come to all of us. - the end of our
men hosted the successful event. Mindful that          earthly journey.
our groups are non-political and non-religious, a
diverse range of views and experiences are             Our beliefs and opinions may differ but an
reflected in every group. There is generally true      attitude of compassion, understanding and
tolerance and understanding amongst members,           mutual respect prevails among us. After all, we
even though passion adds an extra edge to              are today as a result of all our yesterdays. We
some issues.                                           need each other. “Listening is an act of love.”
In this article Rob Robinson has expressed a           Recently we enjoyed the company of the dear
very personal view when referring to the Dalby         folk from Blue Care for morning tea. And to listen
men. While some of us may express ourselves            to a good speaker Mr. Bob Wild, past mayor of
somewhat differently from Rob’s words, there           the Wambo Shire Council. Bob‟s visit was
can be no doubt what the Dalby group means to          arranged by Ted – his speech (presentation) was
Rob. The spirit of men caring and sharing for one      most interesting, informal and appreciated by all.
another is important regardless of ones                This took place on Thursday 9th June. (Our
orientation and form of expression.                    thanks to Ted and Jack). It has been my
                                                       pleasure to get to know these older men over the
So let Rob speak for himself.                          past months and also to discover they are decent
Thurs 14th July 2011                                   men (gentlemen) who believe in the Lord and
Dalby Older Men‟s Group                                endeavor to live a life worthy of the title
                                                       CHRISTIAN. I thank God for these men, for such
A warm greeting from the Dalby Older Men‟s             are the salt of the earth.
Group.
                                                       Our kindest regards to all,
Having only attended the meetings for 12 months
or so, regrettably, one is unable to report on the     Yours sincerely, Rob Robinson.
initial first visit by TOMNET Toowoomba to
commence the group in Dalby. (Our thanks to
those men.) At present we have 6 men who
come along regularly on the 1st Thursday of each
month- Paul Daly, Errol Leicht, Jack Callaghan,
Ted Ryan, Rob Purvis and myself. The venue is
the new Myall Youth Community and Network
centre on the corner of Drayton and Nicholson
Sts. This is an excellent place (modern, well
planned and comfortable) to enjoy a cuppa tea or
coffee with freshly made sandwiches, cakes and
biscuits provided by the wonderful (friendly) staff,
Lyn and Judy. A privilege it is to know these
ladies.
 In our times of sharing we have learnt about
each others backgrounds, work experiences,
skills, occupations, and family life, the joys and
blessings. Every life has a story and our respect
and appreciation grows for each other as we
simply listen. Such topics as Multiculturalism,
boat people, the political situation, the
preservation of cropping land, C.S.C.,
earthquakes, volcanoes, the same sex marriage
debate, and local issues of Government are
discussed, plus the daily struggles of the ageing
process.
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15
 The history of the MUSTER
             ~ 2005 ~
    Toowoomba (Jacaranda Room)
             ~ 2006 ~
        Jondaryan Woolshed

             ~ 2007 ~
     Oakey (Historical Museum)

             ~ 2008 ~
    Millmerran (Mill-Inn Tavern)

             ~ 2009 ~
      Pittsworth (Bowls Club)

             ~ 2010 ~
        Dalby (Bowls Club)

             ~ 2011 ~
     Tara (Memorial Civic Hall)



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