Are you Passive, Assertive, or Aggressive?
1= rarely 2= sometimes 3= always
PASSIVE – Lose/Win
1. I am shy when communicating with others.
2. I tend to withdraw if disagreements arise.
3. I’m reluctant to assert my rights and
privileges.
4. I have a hard time saying no.
5. I let other people make decisions for me.
6. I work very hard to please other people.
7. I don’t think my thoughts or feelings count.
8. I don’t feel strongly about anything.
9. I put my needs last.
10. I say sorry even when I’ve done nothing
wrong.
TOTAL SCORE FOR THIS SECTION
ASSERTIVE – win/win
1. I am confident in my communication with
others.
2. I feel comfortable disagreeing when I feel
I need to.
3. I stand up for my rights and privileges.
4. I am comfortable saying no when I need
to.
5. I make my own decisions.
6. I feel in control of myself and my
decisions.
7. I believe my thoughts and feelings are
valid.
8. I have strong feelings and beliefs.
9. I can balance my own needs and the
needs of others.
10. I respect myself.
TOTAL SCORE FOR THIS SECTION
AGGRESSIVE – lose/lose
1. I am demanding in my communication with
others.
2. I enjoy disagreeing with people.
3. I defend my rights regardless of others’
feelings.
4. When I say no, it sounds like, NO!
5. I make decisions without thinking of their
outcome.
6. I make decisions for other people.
7. My thoughts and feelings are usually right.
8. I share my thoughts and feelings a lot.
9. My needs always come first.
10.I have little respect for most others.
TOTAL SCORE FOR THIS SECTION