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Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION PART I – The Message Process & Opening
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Chapter 1 – Here’s the Gist Chapter 2 – How to Rule Your MySpace World Chapter 3 – Before You Start Messaging Like a Madman Chapter 4 – Essential Messaging Strategies Chapter 5 – Advanced Browsing Chapter 6 – Eye-Catching Subject Lines Chapter 7 – Powerfully Effective Openers
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PART II – Every Message After the Opener
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Chapter 1 – The Matchbook Method Model Chapter 2 – The 2
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Chapter 3 – Subsequent Messages Chapter 4 – Number Exchange & Meet Up Messages Chapter 5 – Post Number Exchange/Meet Up Messaging Chapter 6 – Reopening The Conversation
PART III – Out of Cyberspace…Into the Real World
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Chapter 1 – Texting & Calling Chapter 2 – The Big Meet Up
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GLOSSARY of TERMS
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It used to be considered taboo to meet someone off the Internet. However,
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nowadays there are dozens of online dating and social networking sites, and Internet dating is now much more accepted in society. Fact: Out of all the dating and social networking sites, MySpace has the largest amount of attractive, high-value women. In the last few years it has grown so much it is now a household name and an influential part of pop culture. " MySpace is currently the world’s fifth most popular website and the third most popular website in the United States. " MySpace has over 225 million registered users, and that number grows by about 300,000 each day! Those mind-blowing numbers are one of the reasons I decided to develop a method specifically tailored for MySpace. To put it in perspective, if you live in a decent size city such as Denver and do a MySpace Advanced Browse for:
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21 year old females Live within a 20 mile radius of the city List themselves as single Have a body type of either slim/slender or athletic
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= Over 800 results.
Of the over 807 results, about 500 will be message-able due to fake profiles and old profiles that aren’t actively being used.
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Now imagine if you walked into a massive social gathering where every girl was 21, single, and fit. And on top of that you were armed with the tools to attract and date these women. That’s exactly what this system gives you. It’s a step-by-step method that took two years to formulate and has been field-tested on thousands of beautiful women.
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MySpace Vs. Internet Dating Sites
There are dozens of “how to” books on Internet dating that promise results. They tell you how easy it is and how their book is so good women will be messaging YOU! This might be true for dating sites, but there is one huge problem… finding gorgeous, high-value women on dating sites is a real challenge. And let’s not forget the expensive monthly membership fees. The down and dirty truth is that Match.com, eHarmony, True.com, Singles.com, Craigslist, etc. don’t have the same high-caliber women as MySpace. It makes sense when you think about it. High-value women don’t have trouble or need help finding dates so why would they spend time on dating sites? They don’t! However, high-value women ARE on MySpace because it’s NOT a dating site. They sign up to network, keep in touch with friends and family, etc. That being said, no woman ever says to herself, “I hope I don’t get a really original, interesting message from a cool guy today.”
MySpace Vs. The “Real World”
Anyone who says meeting hot women through MySpace isn’t the same as the “real world” is completely right! MySpace is MUCH tougher and the women are much less forgiving. At least when you screw up in person she lets you know, whether it’s through body language or verbal communication. Plus, most times you can recover by changing the topic and plowing forward. We don’t have either of these luxuries on MySpace. I have pioneered techniques that allow you to create second chances, but in general we can’t afford to make mistakes. For this reason the method you are about to learn is very detailed, and nothing should be overlooked.
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MySpace Advantages & Logistics
There are many advantages to meeting women on MySpace. You don’t have to worry about freezing up and creating that dreadful awkward silence. You also NEVER have to deal with:
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" Interruptions " Boyfriends " Obstacles (persons that could potentially block your chances with the girl) " AMOGs (Alpha Male Other Guy; male obstacles/interrupters) " Cock Blocks (obstacles that take the girl away from you) " Approach Anxiety (fear of approaching women) " Needing a Wing (using a friend to occupy HER friends) " Isolation (getting alone time with the girl) " The embarrassment of getting blown out or rejected
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On the flip side we have to deal with a few logistical issues. We can create an attractive profile and raise our value through storytelling, photos, etc., but when writing messages we physically can’t display or trigger many of the attraction switches that we can in person. For example: " We can’t make eye contact. " We can’t demonstrate confident body language. " We can’t do any playful touching or escalate physically. " Confidence, enthusiasm, emotion have to be conveyed through text. " Laughing and facial expressions are limited to smiley faces, winks, “lol”, etc.
Don’t fret, I’ll show you specific strategies to fill these vacancies.
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Facebook
If you purchased the Ignition Pack there is a bonus Facebook chapter at the end of this handbook. The Facebook phenomenon is still very new so expect the chapter to be expanded and updated frequently.
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Photo-Rating Sites
With the abundance of beautiful women on MySpace and Facebook you should never have to look anywhere else online to find hot dates. However, if you want to mix things up The Matchbook Method is also applicable to photorating sites like HOTorNOT and FaceTheJury. These sites also have high-value women. They sign up to get their pictures rated to help fulfill external validation needs. In general, the more physically attractive a woman is the more validation she needs. In other words, the hottest girls are also the most insecure. FaceTheJury is free, but there’s a $6 monthly membership fee for HOTorNOT. In my experience, every girl I’ve met off a photo-rating site also has a MySpace profile, which is one more reason why we focus on MySpace.
Final Tips & Thoughts
My primary goal is for you to be conversing, meeting, and dating high-value MySpace women you desire. I will provide you with step-by-step instructions on how to do this. I will give you sample profiles, messages, the secrets I’ve discovered and tested over the past two years. Make damn sure you utilize the entire book to give yourself every advantage over the average frustrated chump (AFC). I can’t guarantee any degree of success if you simply skip to the sample material. This handbook has been updated and improved for 2008 thanks to those of you who have submitted your stories and comments. If you have a suggestion, comment, or testimonial, we’d love to hear it. Please email Vapor, our VP of Operations, at members@matchbookmethod.com. I am originally a student of the M3 dating model created by dating/pickup guru Erik Von Markovik (aka Mystery), but most recently I’ve embraced concepts from Mehow (Polish for Michael), whose “laid back, be social” style better fits my personality. There are terms in this book that I’ve either created or adopted from the two dating methods mentioned above. Terms are
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explained or defined the first time they appear, but there is also a Glossary of Terms in the back of the book. While I’m at it I want to give a quick shout out to Mehow. Check out www.mehow.tv if you get a chance. I am not getting paid to mention his website; he’s a friend of mine and I truly appreciate his laid back style and have personally seen him practice what he preaches to great success. I need to thank all the awesome MySpace women who gave me their honest feedback and really helped me understand why my method works. I have briefed many the girls I’ve met off MySpace about their experience. I ask them why (out of the hundreds of men who message them) I was able to grab their attention and attract them into my life. Additionally, I’ve sent out various survey messages to high-value women to gain statistical information and further understandings.
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One more thing, and THIS IS IMPORTANT! I could have easily called this handbook Pick Up Beautiful Women in Your Underwear While Watching Sitcom Reruns On a Friday Night... because you’ll feel the urge to do just that when you start getting results and realize this shit works. For a few months I let MySpace dominate my dating life. Don’t make the same mistake I did. Going out to public venues and societal gatherings will help keep your social skills in tune. Meeting women off MySpace should be used as a supplement to your regular dating life, not a substitute. Enjoy.
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Part II
EVERY MESSAGE AFTER THE OPENER VERY ESSAGE FTER THE PENER
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In comparing dozens of my MySpace conversations that resulted in number
exchanges and meet ups, I found they all encompassed very similar patterns. I was able to break these patterns down, analyze the hell out of them, and ultimately fine-tune them into one single consistent model.
The Matchbook Method Model
This model is the backbone of the Matchbook Method. Nearly every message you send will follow its blueprint. Even your opening message is a variation of the clockwise formula, the big difference being you “acknowledge her being” instead of her reply. From here on out I’ll use the model to guide you through each stage of the message process.
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This is when the real fun begins. You log in…and voilà!…New Messages!
Applying The MySpace Model She Replies
When a girl replies to your opener we call it a virgin message. Don’t expect a lengthy paragraph from her. It might just be a few words or one sentence. Remember, these girls get tons of messages every day from AFCs, so any reply to your opening message is a good sign. She might not be hooked yet, but she took the time to write you back, which means she’s at least curious. For the first couple messages expect to be writing more than she writes back. This is completely normal. It will balance out as she becomes hooked and the conversation moves into deeper qualification and comfort.
Gauge Her Reply
After the opener, every message you send should be calibrated based on her reply. Whether it’s a virgin message or the 6th message, the first step is ALWAYS gauging her reply.
If you have a Type II profile and she comments about it remember to lightly brush it off by telling her it’s just a humorous hyperbole or inside joke.
Gauging a virgin message is simple. There are 3 possible ways she will reply: 1) Positive & Hooked It’s awesome when you get a Positive & Hooked reply right off the opener, but more often it takes two or three messages. To gauge whether she’s hooked look for one or more of the following:
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She replies with enthusiasm, positive attitude, or an IOI. She reciprocates equal or more value (her reply is as long or longer than yours). She uses winks, smiley faces, “lol”, etc. A couple of these in her reply is a great sign. She asks you a question that is not a shit test.
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2) Neutral This is the most common. It’s plain and simple…she either gives you a short semi-positive response or a polite neutral response, both of which give you a “Now what?” feeling. 3) Negative/Shit Test Just like at bars and clubs, some girls will have negative attitudes or bitch shields that you’ll have to break through. This is especially common with very high-value women who get loads of messages. It’s not their fault they react like they do, they don’t have time to deal with loser guys hitting on them all the time so they believe if they project a harsh attitude low-value needy guys will leave them alone. Shit tests are usually arrogant statements or questions that test the strength of your frame. The ironic thing is deep down inside she really wants you to pass her shit test and prove you’re not a loser like the AFCs. For MySpace every bitch shield response will always be a shit test and never an actual IOD. The universal IOD for MySpace is her not replying to your message. Examples of Shit Tests: " “Men work for my attention, I don’t work for theirs.” " “Is this what you say to all the girls you message?” " “Why do you only have 23 myspace friends?”
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" “LOL you’re funny hun.” (She’s laughing AT you, not with you) Calling you “hun” or “doll” is a bad sign. She’s sub-communicating that you are beneath her, much like a parent talking to a child.
Real examples of virgin messages for the three types:
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Positive & Hooked ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: Thats funny, was she going for the kung fu grip? Yeah I have to say you are right in the assumption that I am not much of the assailant type. Actually I really suck at fighting or any form of confrontation for that matter...I usually cry if people yell at me! Although I have managed to get a black eye in college and punched in the nose by a girl from Girls Gone Wild…
Ending with “…” is MySpace girl code for “I want this conversation to continue.”
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ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: Hey punk! lol .... so we wouldn't get along huh? I'm thinkin two super cool people who love adventure would be a lifetime of happiness, but hey maybe you know somethin I don't...... you read me right, i'm a dork! and yes i laugh probably too much but that's what keeps me sane! u r so funny with your points...only 3 for coolness? I think 5 is more like it! So tell me...do u like concerts, shows, live music ?? If you do, you are right, we wouldn't get along at all! ; )
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ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: I love to have fun and laugh…and I love people who enjoy life like me. lets chat!!!! • This example demonstrates she doesn’t always have to give you a lengthy reply to be hooked.
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Neutral ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: i'm confused but curious. i do tend to wanna fight bitchy girls so it was probably me not my twin. she's out of town for a while. :)
ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: uh ok...we’re similar but wouldn’t get along? interesting.
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Negative/Shit Test ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: no that was not me. so how big are you?
ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: I don’t mean to be a bitch but who are you?
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Acknowledging Her Reply Appropriately
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Positive & Hooked She’s just given you a lengthy reply and probably qualified herself. She deserves to be rewarded with one IOI that relates to what she wrote. Do not give her more than one IOI or a lengthy IOI.
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Here are two examples continuing from our real virgin message examples above. The IOI is highlighted in yellow.
ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: Thats funny, was she going for the kung fu grip? Yeah I have to say you are right in the assumption that I am not much of the assailant type. Actually I really suck at fighting or any form of confrontation for that matter...I usually cry if people yell at me! Although I have managed to get a black eye in college and punched in the nose by a girl from Girls Gone Wild… ME: haha u gotta watch out for those girls gone wild chicks...crazy bitches with serious cases of low self esteem. So you’re a lover not a fighter, I can dig it.
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ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: Hey punk! lol .... so we wouldn't get along huh? I'm thinkin two super cool people who love adventure would be a lifetime of happiness, but hey maybe you know somethin I don't...... you read me right, i'm a dork! and yes i laugh probably too much but that's what keeps me sane! So tell me...do u like concerts, shows, live music ?? If you do, you are right, we wouldn't get along at all! ; ) ME: hey brat! u caught me online changing my profile...the pic of me and my ex had to go! Yes, I love a good show...let me guess...u do too :) I saw she was still online and wanted her to read my next message while her attraction temperature was still high, and because I replied within 20 minutes, I threw in a False Time Constraint. In this particular instance the IOI is answering her question about concerts. Recall that answering a question is a form of qualifying yourself, and you should only qualify yourself if the following criteria are met: 1) She is hooked. 2) She has already qualified herself first. 3) She is asking you a question. • She qualifies herself when she says, “you read me right, i'm a dork! and yes i laugh probably too much but that's what keeps me sane!”
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ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: I love to have fun and laugh…and I love people who enjoy life like me. lets chat!!!! ME: That’s good because I only hang out with positive, upbeat people.
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Neutral For these messages a good strategy is to deliver a playful Push/Pull tease. Push/Pull Techniques
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Get in the habit of incorporating push/pull techniques. By incorporating push/pull into your MySpace conversations and dating life you’ll not only seem less needy, but she’ll become more attracted to you too! When someone pushes us away and withholds what we want from them – attention, affection, intimacy, etc., it increases our desire for them.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” – Maid Marian
There are many different forms of Push/Pull and we’ll utilize them all, but for now we’re only interested in some quick teasing bits. Examples: " haha! you’re totally my new gf. actually, nevermind.
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" That’s awesome! My grandma is the same way. " lol that’s awesome, kind of. " You fucking rock, sort of. " You’re pretty chill…for being from another planet. (Credit Mehow) " Your pictures crack me up, you have like a good girl face but bad girl mannerisms. " You watch Dancing With the Stars?! That’s a shame…I had such high hopes for us :p " Omg you’re a Yankees fan?! that’s it…we're broken up. You can have the Porsche but I'm taking the house in Tuscany.
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Continuing from our real virgin message examples…the Push/Pull bits are highlighted in yellow.
ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: i'm confused but curious. i do tend to wanna fight bitchy girls so it was probably me not my twin. she's out of town for a while. :) ME: You better hope she doesn’t come back, I mean one of you I could handle, but two of you is pushing it!
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ME: (Superpower Value Opener) HER: uh ok...we’re similar but wouldn’t get along? interesting. ME: Now I’m getting more of a big dork vibe from you ;) • Anytime a girl asks a rhetorical question like this ignore it and respond with a general push/pull bit. If you answer it you’ll be qualifying yourself.
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Negative/Shit Test The best way to handle negative replies and shit tests is to deliver a calibrated response that disarms her bitch shield and makes her feel slightly uncomfortable for giving you attitude. The harshness of your response should be calibrated to the harshness of her shit test.
Universal Shit Test Response Examples " Hey! It’s too early in our relationship for you to be bossing me around like this. " You’re cute...you know I like feisty girls so here you are acting like one. " lol you were totally the ME ME ME girl in grade school…too cute!
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" Omg you’re like a little power puff girl…too cute! you know the spiky one with the attitude? the brunette. what was her name? Butternut? " You must have been the cutest hall monitor in middle school. (Credit Mehow) Specific Shit Test Response Examples
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Shit Test: I’ll be the one giving the gold stars out, not you. Response: Don’t bother, we’d never work out. Shit Test: Do you send this message to every girl? Response: Yes, my mother is so proud. Shit Test: Congrats on your amazing ability to read...it's what I find most attractive about you. Response: I know! Hooked on Phonics worked for me! Continuing from our real virgin message examples…the shit test responses are highlighted in yellow. ME: (Go-Cart Hook Story Opener) HER: no that was not me. so how big are you? ME: Seriously hun?…seriously? that’s like me just wanting you for your cute bugs bunny teeth.
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Remember in the movie Swingers when they go to the modeling party in the Hollywood Hills? Mike approaches two girls and one of them replies, “What do you drive?” Mike answers, “A Cavalier…it’s red.” The girls ignore him as if he was never there. Instead of answering her question and qualifying myself like Mike, I disarm her by calling her “hun” and implying her sexiest feature is her Bugs Bunny teeth.
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You can also reply by answering her question with exaggerated humor: ME: dunno. it’s tied around my waist at the moment.
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HER: I don’t mean to be a bitch but who are you? ME: Then don’t be :) omg the funniest thing happened to me today…
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This one is tricky because you really don’t know whether her question is a shit test or genuine. Maybe she’s just not used to getting cool interesting messages from guys. Either way DO NOT answer her question…yet. If you answer now she’ll realize she doesn’t know you and won’t have an open mind while reading the rest of your message. Instead, dodge it and immediately go into a DHV story. At the end of the message you can say, “I’m (Name), nice to meet you (Name/Nickname).” The goal is to spike her attraction temperature so by the end of the message she won’t mind that you don’t know her.
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Give Value to Spike Her Attraction Temperature Once you’ve acknowledged her reply you’re going to start a new Attraction/Value bit. But first, ALWAYS make sure there is a False Disqualifier or Push/Pull bit in the 2nd message. You’re already done with this part if you used one to acknowledge a virgin message that was Neutral or Negative/Shit Test. • Even though you included a False Disqualifier in the opener, it’s important to reassure her you’re not hitting on her, you’re just being social and offering stimulating conversation.
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Now you’re ready create an Attraction/Value bit. Depending on how you gauged her virgin message, spike her attraction temperature using one or a combination of the following: 1) Cold Read (an assumption about someone that could easily be true for any person) 2) Future/Present/Past Projection 3) DHV/Attraction Spiking Story or Bit
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Positive & Hooked – Use any attraction method except a DHV/Attraction story. There is already enough attraction at the moment for a story. Save your stories for later in case her interest starts to dwindle. Neutral – Use any or a combination of all three. Negative/Shit Test – Only use a DHV/Attraction Story. By quickly handling her shit test and then immediately going into a DHV/Attraction Story you are communicating that you live in your own awesome world and are unaffected by her negative attitude. And like a Hook Story Opener, you won’t come off as needy since you aren’t asking her to reply.
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DHV/Attraction Spiking Story Examples
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Entertaining shock-value stories are great for MySpace because they will help put her in a positive emotional state. For a few minutes she’ll be swept into your reality and forget that she’s tired or anxious or having a bad day. These examples also subtly hint that I’m socially connected and aligned with high-value people (I go to private fashion shows), and that I get along with women (I’m with a female friend).
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Combination Examples Cold Read + Push/Pull
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False Disqualifier + Cold Read + Future Projection
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Cold Read + False Disqualifier + Future Projection
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It’s only okay to say something sexual if it’s done playfully and doesn’t convey romantic interest.
Test Her Attraction Through Qualification
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Qualification on MySpace occurs anytime someone complies with a request or reciprocates equal or more value. Remember…do not qualify yourself until she does. When a girl realizes she’s won you over she loses attraction! The bottom line is you’re not like the AFCs who salivate over her physical attractiveness. Her looks are nothing special because you are on the same level as her. Actually, you are on a higher level than her. Therefore, you need a reason to like her beyond her looks. Qualification Questions Qualification questions are a way of testing the level of a woman’s attraction. By asking her a question and gauging her response you can determine how attracted and interested she is. There are three levels of qualification questions. They are categorized by their difficulty, the amount of thought and effort needed to answer them, and how personal they are. To keep things simple we’ll label them Level 1, Level 2, and
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Level 3. As the question level increases so must attraction and willingness to comply. In other words, the three variables (question level, attraction, willingness to comply) are directly proportional to each other. This is why you shouldn’t ask a Level 3 question in the 2nd message when there is not enough attraction and willingness to comply. Qualification Question Levels Level 1 – Can be answered with minimal effort. Playful, hypothetical, and yes/no questions are effective. " Are you adventurous? " If you could live anywhere in the world where would you live? " What's your number one most awesome amazing superpower? " Do your friends have a nickname for you…or should I just keep calling you [insert the playful nickname you gave her]? " I just read this new personality test in GQ, it's one question... " You're walking in a park and you notice a briefcase in the bushes…you open it…it's full of hundreds! You look right, you look left, no one. You close it...still no one around. What do you do?
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o While this question might not be simple, it still falls under Level 1 because of its personality test theme, which girls love answering!
Level 2 – Requires a little bit more thought; questions can begin to become more personal. " What are your three best qualities? " What was the last adventurous thing you did? " What would your best friends say they love most about you? " If during this conversation you could morph into any cartoon character…who would you be, and why? " If you could pick any year out your life to live through again but couldn’t change anything, which year would you choose?
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Level 3 – Thought provoking questions which make her really stop and think. These questions usually come in the comfort stage and clearly show your intent to get to know her personally. " What do you have going for you more than your looks? " What would make me want to get to know you better? " If the entire world were all clones of you, what would the world be like? " If you could live one day of your life over and over again (Groundhog Day style) for as long as you wanted, which day would you pick? Qualification Question Intros Many times you should use an intro before asking a qualification question. Intros help persuade compliance and can also help the flow and congruency of your message. Here are some examples. " So I’m curious…what do you have going for you more than your looks? " Alright I have to know what’s your number one most awesome amazing superpower? " You’ve piqued my curiosity, so tell me…what do you think your best friends would say they love most about you?
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" We would never get along. I mean if the entire world were all clones of you, what would the world be like? " I have an intuition about you, but first…if during this conversation you could morph into any cartoon character…who would you be, and why? Using Qualification Questions Positive & Hooked Since she’s already hooked you can skip the easy questions and move straight to Level 2. Neutral For the 2nd message test her attraction with a Level 1 question.
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Negative/Shit Test For the 2nd message don’t ask her a question. Handle her reply or shit test then immediately dive into a DHV/Attraction story. That’s it. The goal is to show her you don’t put up with bitchy attitudes, you are unaffected by her message because you live in your own awesome world, and you don’t care if she messages you back. This is the best way to find out if her frame is breakable. Unfortunately some MySpace girls have been put on such a high pedestal by AFCs drooling over them that it takes a dozen messages just to crack their high and mighty MySpace frame. There are too many fish in the sea to get involved in a power struggle for 10 messages. So by the 3rd message if she hasn’t lowered the bitch shield we recommend moving on.
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Putting It All Together Her: [Positive & Hooked Reply] You: [Level 2 Qualification Message] Reward her with an IOI False Disqualifier Attraction/Value bit Level 2 Qualification Question
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Continuing from our real virgin message examples…
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