SPIRITUAL WARFARE IN THE FAMILY SETTING
The family was God’s first institution – it was before human government, nations, the church and every
other institution. The family is basic to the structure of society and the foundation of almost all essential
things in the world. Charity and morals, education, respect for authority and social responsibility all begin at
home. A delinquent at home is seldom a responsible person in society.
God declared that it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). God sets the solitary in families
(Psalm 68:6). Even today this is still the case.
The devil has never been happy with this divine arrangement and from the very beginning he has tried to
undermine the strength of the family. The family ought to be the place of love, compassion, companionship
and friendship. However the devil has so perverted families that today a man’s enemies are they of his own
household (Micah 7:5,6; Matthew 10:36). Just as God is interested in saving and blessing whole families
(Acts 16:31), the devil is intent on deceiving and destroying whole families (Joshua 7:24-26; Acts 5:1-10; 2
Kings 4:1-7; Matthew 18:23-25).
The family is one of the main targets of the devil today and the heat of spiritual warfare in the family is
constantly on the increase. Every believer needs to fight for the sanity and safety of his family, to lift up a
standard against the sweeping flood of the enemy.
We need to recognize the arrows that the devil is shooting against the family to tear it to pieces. The bombs
he is planting in families to blow them up to bits and pieces. Among them are:
DISAGREEMENT OVER LEGITIMATE THINGS
Amos 3:3; Matthew 18:19; 1 Peter 3:7,8; Philippians 3:16; 1 Corinthians 1:10-13; 14:33; Psalm 133:1-3;
How can two walk together except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3). The devil has used disagreement over
legitimate things to undermine the strength and unity of the family. Consider how this has affected these
areas of family life:
(1) Conjugal relationship between husband and wife
(2) Money management (earning, spending, saving, tithing, etc.)
(3) Helping members of the extended family
(4) Children’s education and upbringing
(5) Location and decoration of residence
(6) Career and working lifestyle
(7) Family association and friendships
Rather than discussing issues, looking at them objectively and seeing from the other’s perspective, each
member of the family stubbornly holds on to his/her own liking irrespective of its absurdity. This can only
generate tension and constant irritation and fighting.
There is tremendous power in agreement (Matthew 18:19; 1 Peter 3:7,8; Philippians 3:16).
DECEPTION AND LOUSY TALK
1 Thessalonians 4:6; 1 Corinthians 6:8; Colossians 4:6; 3:8,9; Ephesians 4:29,15,25; 5:4; 1 Peter 3:15;
Transparency and honesty are essential in the family. Deception destroys mutual trust and undermines the
foundation of the family.
Padding your shopping list in order to save some money for personal expenditure will not strengthen your
family if your husband discovers. Exaggerating how much you have spent for the family when in actual fact
part of it was sent to your mother will not endear you to your wife when she discovers it. Never deceive your
partner for whatever reason (1 Thessalonians 4:6; 1 Corinthians 6:8).
Nagging, abusing and cursing are the easiest ways to sap joy from a family. Grievous words can only stir up
anger (Proverbs 15:1). Consider scriptural examples of grievous words (Judges 12:1-4; 2 Samuel 19:41; 1
Samuel 20:30-34; 2 Chronicles 10:13-16; Job 22:5) as well as examples of gentle words that turned away
wrath (Leviticus 10:16-20; Joshua 22:15-34; Judges 8:1-3; 1 Samuel 1:15-17; 25:23).
God expects that our speech will always be with grace, seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6; 3:8,9; Ephesians
4:29,15,25; 5:4; 1 Peter 3:15).
DISAFFECTION AND LUSTFUL TEMPTATION
2 Timothy 2:22; Ephesians 5:3; Proverbs 5:15-20; 6:24-35; 7:5-27; Romans 13:14; 1 Corinthians 6:18,13;
Sexual temptations are very real and strong especially for the careless who is not watching. Wisdom and
anointing are no substitutes for carefulness and watching if one is not to fall into this devilish trap that
destroys families fast. Solomon was wise but he fell! Samson was anointed but he fell! Remember that
David fell though he was married! (Nehemiah 13:26; Judges 13:1-3; 16:1,4; 2 Samuel 11:1-5).
The grass always looks greener outside your marriage but it is never so in reality. It is an illusion that the
devil tries to paint. The devil will make you to see someone more cultured and soft spoken than your wife,
someone more loving and caring than your husband etc.
Never give in to such temptations. Let your eyes be single. Focus on making your marriage great. Expend
your energy to better your family prospects. Polish the gem in your possession. Bring out the best in your
family. Flee sexual temptations and keep yourself pure! (2 Timothy 2:22; Ephesians 5:3; Proverbs 5:15-20;
6:24-35; 7:5-27; Romans 13:14; 1 Corinthians 6:18,13; James 1:13-15).
DEPRIVATION OF THE LORD’S TABLE
Psalm 23:5; Job 36:16; Philippians 4:19; 2 Corinthians 9:8; Malachi 3:8-12; Proverbs 3:9,10; 21:5,17; Luke
God made enough provision for the sustenance of Adam’s family and so He still does today (Genesis 2:5-
14). In fact, He prepares a table before us in the presence of our enemies (Psalm 23:5; Job 36:16).
This wide-eyed enemy does not like us to enjoy this divine provision. His tactics to nullify this provision are
many. He overturns the table so that the provision is wasted in the following ways:
(1) Swallowed by the devourer for lack of tithing (Malachi 3:8-12; Proverbs 3:9,10)
(2) Wasted through demonic manipulation
(3) Wasted through indulgence and worldliness (Proverbs 21:17; Luke 15:11-24)
(4) Lost through greed and avarice (gambling, get-rich-quick schemes, etc.) (Proverbs 21:5)
(5) Unexplainable loss of a good job
DESTRUCTION OF LOVING TOGETHERNESS
Joshua 23:10; Leviticus 26:8; Deuteronomy 32:30; Ecclesiastes 4:9-12; Proverbs 5:18; Ephesians 5:33;
Marriage is TOGETHER to conquer – one chasing one thousand, two chasing ten thousand (Joshua 23:10;
Leviticus 26:8; Deuteronomy 32:30; Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
The devil’s strategy is to destroy this loving togetherness in the family. There are people who feel more at
home with other people than with their partners. They can spend three hours with friends but cannot stand
twenty minutes in the company of their wives.
Love, affection and closeness can only come through loving fellowship and companionship (Proverbs 5:18).
DECIMATION OF LASTING TOLERANCE
1 Corinthians 13:4; Galatians 5:22,23; Colossians 1:11; 2 Corinthians 6:6; Leviticus 19:18; Proverbs 20:22;
24:29; Matthew 5:39; Romans 12:17; 1 Peter 3:9; 1 Thessalonians 5:15
Longsuffering and tolerance are the pillars of loving relationship in the family. Except we are tolerant, there
will always be things that can and will upset us in the family.
The devil knows this and one of the strategies he employs is to break down our tolerance level so that every
little thing upsets us and starts a quarrel.
Do you possess the ability to overlook mistakes? How short is your temper?