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                             October, 2010

                                        COUNTRY UPDATES
China – The China Center of Adoption Affairs has most recently matched families with log-in
dates of May 18, 2006. If your dossier is logged in for a regular match and you are getting
discouraged with the wait, please know that you can consider the match of a special needs child
without removing your dossier from your “place in line” at CCAA. If you know you want to do this,
please contact Vickie Truelove at and submit an updated Type of Child
form so that our staff in China can know which child may be a possibility for you. Once a child is
referred to you, you have 48 to 72 hours to consider it and you are able to say No without negative
China/Special Needs – We can now assist families with adoption of children with special needs
from China in two ways, including being matched from the Shared List or being matched to a
child who has been designated “Special Focus” because he or she has waited over a month to be
matched. It is now possible to adopt two children from China at once or successively in the same
year if at least one of them is a Special Focus child.
Haiti – Our hearts and prayers still go out to the people of Haiti as they continue to struggle
with the aftermath of the earthquake there in January. The adoption program has reopened
with the assurance of the Haiti government and U.S. immigration. However, because of the
horrible conditions in Haiti and widespread devastation of government buildings in Haiti, we
are asking adoptive parents to be very patient and understanding that the timeframes are
variable, and wait times may be extended during this time of rebuilding. There are children in
need of homes, and Hand In Hand will do all we can to support the work that must be done in
Haiti for an adoption to be finalized.
Philippines –There continues to be a moratorium on applications for children up to two years of
age. Applications for children over two are still being accepted.
Philippines Special Home Find - There are many Filipino children who are older or who have
special needs or who are a part of a sibling group who need families. They are listed on a
Special Home Find list and families can review the list and apply to adopt a child they think
could fit well into their family. Contact the Indiana office if you want the list emailed to you.
Russia – Families are needed for children between 18 months old and ten years old.

                                 SPECIAL FOCUS CHILDREN
These are children from China who have been waiting for families. We have photos and case
studies on each child. Contact us at to see more about one of these
children. We have three months to try to find each child a family. Once a family identifies a child
they would like to adopt, they have six months to submit a dossier if one is not already in China. A
family may be working on two adoptions in China at the same time, if at least one of them includes
a Special Focus child.
Child A is an almost six-year-old boy with dwarfism. He is an otherwise healthy little boy who is
active, outgoing, can read several poems of the Tang dynasty, and has a ready smile and a good
relationship with his foster mother and friends.
Child B is a handsome 11-year-old boy who is described by his teachers as smart, obedient, and
with good potential. He is healthy except his upper left arm (radius) is dislocated.
Child C is a cute 2 ½ -year-old boy with deformity of his wrists and elbow joints. He receives
physical therapy to improve his upper body strength and ability. His foster mother says he loves
Child F is a four-year-old girl who is rather timid and shy. Her left hand has no fingers. Though
her overall development is fairly normal, it seems she really needs a family to give her a sense of
security and the confidence to grow and thrive.
Child G is almost six years old. He has had surgery for both cleft lip and cleft palate. His physical
and intellectual development is normal. He can ride a bike, likes to play with toys and play games
with other children. He is quick with a smile and especially close to his foster grandparents and
foster sister.
Child I is a three-year-old boy with congenital cleft lip and palate. Under the excellent care of his
nannies, his physical development has been good. (We are seeking an update to see if he has had any
surgeries yet.)
Child J is a cute four-year-old girl. She is blind in both eyes but has normal mental development.
She has a lovely personality, is outgoing, likes to play with other children, loves music and playing
with balls.
Child K is a cute little one-year-old boy with hearing loss in both ears (moderate in one, severe in
the other) whose left auricle (outer ear) is undeveloped. He has an outgoing, active personality,
likes music and being cuddled. He also has a heart murmur; after an ultrasound, no action was
recommended except for a recheck in a year.
Child L is a six-year-old boy who has had successful surgery for hypospadia. He has developed
well with his foster family. He really likes singing and playing with toy cars.
Child M is a two-year-old boy with congenital left elbow joint and wrist deformity and thumb
absence. He is described as lovely, quiet, and amiable but with some delayed development. Child
N is an 11-year-old boy whose right elbow joint is malformed. Despite the malformation, he can
use his right arm and hand for activities such as washing clothes, writing Chinese characters,
sweeping the floor and wiping the table. He likes to play soccer and ride his bicycle. His foster
parents describe him as an active and clever boy.
Child O is an 11-year-old girl who is healthy. Her only special need is her age. She likes to play
with dolls and to play house. She helps the teacher keep the classroom clean and is a good learner
who will study each evening on her own initiative.
Child P is a five-year-old boy. Both his hands and feet “bend inward”. He has had surgery on both
feet and can walk. He can ride a bike alone and manipulate objects with his hands without
difficulty, e.g. feeding and clothing himself and drawing shapes. He likes to play games and is
outgoing in personality.
Child Q is a five-and-a-half-year-old boy with congenital heart disease. He has already had
surgery. His diagnosis is postoperative CHD, deformed right auricle. He has normal development
and gets along well with the teachers and other children.
Child R is a nine-year-old girl with postoperative cleft lip and palate. She is described as clever,
with a ready smile, easy to accept new things, sociable, energetic, gets along with children who
share a room with her, likes to play with toys with sounds, is good at communicating and does
average work in school.
Child T is a six-year-old girl with history of deformity of both feet, but she develops normally in
motor, social, emotional and intellectual areas. She is smiley, likes games and to play with dolls.
Child U is a 4 ½ year old girl with complicated congenital heart disease - Cardianastrophe, VSD,
ASD, mitral atresia, and complete transposition of great arteries. She has developed normally, is a
happy girl who gets along well with others, and likes books and dolls.
Child V is a six-year-old girl with congenital heart disease – ASK, PDA, PAT, and downward
displacement of tricuspid valve. She develops well and is a happy little girl who likes to make
others smile and laugh.
Child W is a three-year-old boy with congenital heart disease, VSD. He is a happy, outgoing little
boy with normal physical and intellectual development.
Child X is a one-year-old boy with syndactaly deformity of both hands and feet. He is able to hold
objects in his right hand. He loves music and musical toys and is described as a happy boy.
                        PHILIPPINE SPECIAL HOME FIND
Families willing to consider older children or siblings or children with special
needs may do so from the Philippines through a process called “Special Home
Find.” We have photos and information on dozens of children, such as those
listed below. Families do not have to already have an application in to Hand In
Hand or the Philippines. If you are interested in seeing information on these or
other children on the list, contact
Brothers 8136, 8137, and 8138 – these boys were orphaned by their parents and
relinquished by their older siblings who could not care for them. One is 10 and
two are 12-year-old twins. They are all well-behaved, intelligent boys who dream
of future occupations of doctor, policeman, and carpenter.
Sisters 8146 and 8147 – These 14- and almost-nine-year-old sisters are
described as creative, willing to learn, friendly, helpful, polite, and willing to
accept correction and adult advice. They yearn for a family.
Boy 8068 (10-0185) – This four-year-old boy has a colostomy with imperforated
anus (it looks like a growth on his upper left abdomen). Though he has been
scheduled for surgery, he has not had it yet; he is physically active, likes playing
with other children, can express his wants and needs, attends to his personal
needs and is a good eater.
Boy 8089 (10-0215) – this eight-year-old boy lives with a foster family, is active,
loves to play with other children, takes care of his own personal needs, and may
be able to pass each grade level given consistent guidance and tutorials. He has
been diagnosed with cerebral palsy, right spastic and left flaccid hemiparesis and
has right mastoiditis and hearing impairment. He can walk and play unaided.

                     “I WISH I WAS HERE FROM THE TIME I WAS A BABY”
We recently received an email from a family with a story we felt worthy of being shared. Here in
Sue’s own words:
I want to share a quick story with you that brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it. One
night Maria was crying and saying "How come our real parents didn't love us, take care of us, etc.,
etc." She does this occasionally and we always tell her that her parents in the Philippines did the
best they could and that they loved the girls but just couldn't take care of them. We also always tell
her that God makes families and that because God made our family it is as real as the family they
had in the Philippines and that we will always be a family. Here's the part that brings the tears to
my eyes - The next day she put her arms around me and was hugging me. She said, "I wish I was
here from the time I was a baby." I asked her why. She said, "Because then you would have
always been my mom." I told her that I wished that she and her sisters had always been with us
too but that we could not love them any more than we do now, if they had been born to us. For me,
this really sums up what adoption is all about - God brings families together through love rather
than through birth and that even though an adoptive family is formed differently, it is every bit as
real and has every bit as much love as any other family.

      Here are two items related to nutrition and growth with adopted children:
    1. Adoptive Families magazine has a new article entitled Beyond Growth Charts. An
       inadequate diet may affect more than height and weight. How can parents assess a
       newly adopted child's nutritional status? Go to to read
       the article.
    2.   Adoption Learning Partners announces a new webinar to be held on Wednesday,
         October 20, 2010, 7-8 PM Central Time called Food for Thought: The impact of
         poor nutrition in early development; Tips and insights for adoptive parents to help
         children catch up and thrive. “We all know the importance of prenatal and early
         nutrition. We also understand that it is likely our internationally adopted children
         have missed out on a fair amount of this key factor of development. Join Dr. Dana
         Johnson, renowned international adoption physician, as he shares the results of his
         research on the common physical, cognitive and behavioral impacts of poor
         nutrition on international adoptees. He will give practical tips of what to look for
         in your child, what to ask your pediatrician to test for and how to help your child
         catch up and thrive both short and long term. This webinar will share strategies
         and tips on: Understanding the impact of early nutritional deprivation; Identifying
         signs of malnutrition in your child; Having your child tested for nutritional
         deficiencies; How to help your child catch up and thrive.” Go to to register. The cost is $15.00.

                              ANOTHER WAITING CHILD
Maria is a beautiful Caucasian four-year-old girl with spina bifida. Here is a description of
Maria is SUPER! She is swinging her legs just because it is nothing to do. One year ago
her legs were immobile! She is just a beauty now. She begins to thrive. She speaks a lot,
but her articulation is not perfect unfortunately. One year ago they couldn't let her keep
vertically as ligaments were too weak. Now they are going to put her in go-cart. And now
Masha says when she wants to the potter! She likes books, puzzles, legos. She is a
communicative person. She is adorable!
To find out more about her or see some photos, contact any Hand In Hand office.

                                       SCHOOL DAYS
The school year is well underway. How can you be sure that your child’s classmates are
getting good information about adoption, culture and families? Get some ideas from this
article from ADOPTIVE FAMILIES Magazine – “Adoption 101 -10 ways to ensure that
adoption is treated accurately and sensitively at school”.
Read it at

Dear Adoptive Parent:
Parents who have adopted one child in the past 12 months are needed to complete a voluntary
online research study, which is being conducted by researchers from Purdue University. Your
responses are very important and will help us better understand risk factors that might be
associated with the depression that some parents experience in the post-adoptive time period.
The survey will take approximately 20-25 minutes to complete, and for every survey that is
completed, we will send Journey to Me one dollar ($1.00) to support their mission. (See editor’s
note about Journey to Me at the end of this article.) Also, we will send you a $10 gift card to the
vendor of your choice: Wal-Mart, Starbucks, or Amazon. Your e-mail address and responses
to the survey will not be linked to the information you provide to receive your gift card.
All of your responses to the survey will remain confidential and stored in a secure
server. Survey study results will be grouped together so that no individual can be identified.
Please remember that you may skip any questions that may make you feel uncomfortable and
you may stop the survey at any time. You can also go back and change a previous answer by
clicking on the back arrow on the survey screen. You can access the survey at: If you should have any
questions, please contact Dr. Karen Foli (; 765-494-4023) or Dr. Susan
South (; 765-494-0119). Thank you in advance for your
Journey to Me ( is a non-profit organization committed to strengthening families
and helping adopted children thrive, by providing quality post-adoption education and comprehensive
resources, through a safe and supportive network.

         If you have never listened to one of the radio podcasts from Creating a Family or
 read their blogs, perhaps this one will interest you. “The addition of a child changes the
family dynamics for everyone and especially for the children already in the home. This is
the case regardless how the new child enters the family, but adoption throws in an added
wrinkle. The adopted child may not be a newborn, the child may have established habits
     and behaviors that complicate sibling relationships, the existing child may be of a
  different race, and there are fewer resources available to help with this transition. And
  let’s face it: adoption isn’t the norm, so you and your existing children often have more
      explaining to do.” To read more, go to

                       A DIFFERENT KIND OF DISCIPLINE
Heart of the Matter Seminars has a new course which will be offered via live
webcast on November 4, 2010 at 7:00pm Central Time. This one-hour live
webinar for parents and professionals is designed to assist participants in
discerning why certain traditional discipline techniques don't work for the child
who waited and identify which techniques are more effective and why.
Participants will be given an opportunity prior to the webinar to submit specific
discipline issues for discussion. Price: $25.00
Go to to register for this course or some of
their other popular and well regarded ones, including: Do Overs - The Gift of
Reparenting to be held on November 16th or these that are recorded and available
for listening any time: Understanding Trauma in Children, and Managing Your
Child’s Bid for Power.

Free Orientation on International Adoption: Thursday, October 28, 2010 at 7 PM – St.
Mark’s Lutheran Church, 210 N. Orange St., Albion, Indiana. RSVP to 260-636-3566.
Saturday Classes: Day 3 – October 16, 2010; Day 4 – November 20, 2010; Day 2 – a date
to be determined in 2011. Classes run from 8:30 AM to 4:00 PM. The classes do not have
to be taken in any certain order. Contact our office if you are not certain whether you have
attended all the classes you need.
Class for Repeat Families: The next class for families working on a second or subsequent
adoption will be held in January, 2011.
HOLIDAY PARTY: Saturday, December 4, 2010 at Central Noble High School, Albion,

                               FINANCING YOUR ADOPTION
If you haven’t checked out the Dave Thomas Foundation website lately, you may want to now.
You will find all in one place information on encouraging your employer to offer adoption benefits
to a comprehensive list of organizations that provide grants and loans for all kinds of adoptions.
Visit them at

We all know the importance of personal referrals when it comes to decisions like, “Which adoption agency
should I choose?” We get frequent inquiries from people who say they were referred to us by another family
that used Hand In Hand. As of May 1, 2010, you can be one of those families and benefit yourself. If you
are already a Hand In Hand family (past or present) and you refer a family to Hand In Hand and they
submit an application any time after May 1, 2010 and indicate on it that you referred them, Hand In Hand
will give you a $200 credit toward your next Hand In Hand payment for either your current adoption
process or your next adoption with Hand In Hand.

                                            CAN YOU HELP?
As a non-profit agency, we are the voice for homeless and abandoned children of the world. Through
these difficult economic times and natural disasters hitting so many countries, the voices of the children
continue to cry out. They beg for their very existence, the most basic of needs, and we, as the most
blessed nation and peoples on earth, need to respond. Please answer their cries. Send your tax
deductible donations to Hand In Hand, c/o MaryLee Lane, Founder and Director, 9520 S.W. 9th
Terrace, Ocala, FL 34476. Blessings, peace and thanks to all of you for your generous help. You will be
blessed as you have blessed others!

Since February 29, 2008 Hand In Hand has had full accreditation by the US Department of State to perform
adoptions under the Hague Convention. This means we are able to assist families with adoptions from any
    other country that is a party to the Hague Convention. The purpose of the Hague Convention is to
    safeguard the rights of children being adopted as well as the rights of the adoptive parents. Being
accredited means we have met such standards as education of adoptive parents, professional qualifications
       and training of staff, ethical practices, maintenance of records, services after an adoption, etc.

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