CUNNINGHAM UNITED METHODIST CHURCH
A caring church family expressing Christ’s love to all
The authors of Amish Grace acknowledge these
From the Pastor’s Desk questions. They point out, however, that Amish
Remembering forgiveness did not mean ignoring that a tragedy
occurred in their community—the Amish struggled, as
Sometimes, remembering is a great gift. you would expect, with the searing memories of the day
My Dad lives in the joy of his memories of of violence. It did not mean ―pardoning‖ the offender,
the sixty-two years of marriage he shared acting as though no wrong had been committed. The
with my Mom. It was tough for him when Amish fully accept that the civil authorities have
she died—those memories often brought responsibilities to protect the community and to punish
tears—but those tears were reminders of offenders.
how special their relationship was.
Instead, the Amish made a conscious decision not to
Sometimes, however, remembering makes us relive react in revenge, but rather to act in grace. This decision
events that we would rather forget. was not easy. It was not a onetime event, but had to be
It is hard to believe that ten years have passed since made over and over again. The pain was still present,
civilian jets were transformed into weapons of war but the decision to act in love, grace and forgiveness was
against our country. September 11th will be a day for made with the faith that in time—in God’s time—healing
many of us that is seared into our memories—we can would occur and emotional forgiveness would take place.
remember exactly where we were when we heard the Not all bad events are as horrific as were the events of
awful news. Our memories have been reinforced by the September 11th. But the wrongs done to us cause real
constant replay of videos showing airplanes flying into pain nonetheless. We or those we love are hurt by
the World Trade Center. We would like to forget, but we someone or something. We feel the impulse to lash out
can’t. and take action, even when we feel the tug in our souls
What can we, as Christians, do about those memories? that God has different way for us to respond.
We read the words of Jesus telling us that ―if you do not The way of the Amish is not easy. It has been ingrained
forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your in Amish culture through hundreds of years of teaching
trespasses‖ (Matthew 6:15). But try as we might, there and preaching, in the wake of scores of Amish who were
are some things that we just can’t forget. Sometimes, I martyred. I don’t believe that we can snap our fingers
wish that I had a ―DELETE‖ button in my brain that and make the pain go away. I do believe, however, that
would let me highlight and remove the unwanted through God’s help we can choose not to let the evil of
memories. this world control us. God can transform us so that in
I suspect that we sometimes confuse ―forgiving‖ and our remembering, we will ―not be overcome by evil, but
―forgetting.‖ Our efforts to drive a memory from our will overcome evil with good‖ (Romans 12:2, 21).
mind may actually lead to repression. The memory still ~ Pastor Tom
is there, exercising control over us, causing much more
damage to our emotional life and to our souls than if we
had just left it out in the open.
A number of our United Methodist Women recently read
a book called Amish Grace: How Forgiveness Bobby Stanley 1 Delfin Baker 16
Transcended Tragedy. The book describes the response Beryle Pullinger 2 Gene Benvenutti 19
of the Amish community in Nickel Mines, Pennsylvania, Ben Kozerski 6 Ron Comfort 19
when a depressed neighbor invaded an Amish Sara Miles 6 Zachary Kent 19
schoolhouse, killed five young girls and seriously
Melanie Ann Lambert 8 Mabel Powell 21
wounded several others before he turned his gun on
himself. To the shock and disbelief of the rest of the Jane Onimus 8 Lisa Berman 22
country, the family and friends of the victims went to the Puna Baker 10 Anna Nichols 23
family of the shooter to express their forgiveness and to Nichole Ward 10 Amy Reese 23
comfort them in their own loss. Most observers praised Samuel Craun 12 Steve Parrish 29
the Amish community for its response, but others
Tara Garcia 12 Kenneth Nickerson 30
criticized them for ignoring reality, for living in a
fatalistic mindset that accepts the presence of evil in this Ellie Grace Miles 14
world and suppresses legitimate anger.
Our annual Charge Conference has
(as of Sept. 1, 2011) been scheduled early this year. It
will be held on Thursday, September
Current Requests 15th at 7:00 pm. Please plan to attend this important
Joe Berman Evelyn Gibson Rena Powell meeting of our church leadership.
Ken Berryman Haywood Harold Riva
Wayne Bettinger Hand Lois Shaub
Bev Bill Harrison Jane Shell
Blankenbeckler Dr. Stephen Edward Shiflett
Yako Bowman Haynes Charles & Anne Rebecca Parsons
Grayson Brooklyn Southworth The Congregation was blessed by Rebecca Parsons, who
Brightwell Michelle Madison Stenson visited and gave the message on Sunday, August 7. The
Bill Bull Jefferson Barry Stump ministry she offers is a blessing to many. She received a
Debbie Cale Barbara Kacer Steve Suder trunk full of school supplies from CUMC, and there were
Susan Davis Linda Kay Barbara so many that she also filled her back seat!
Alyssa Divers Ross & Georgia Hendershott
Bill Eubank Kirby Tafuni
Frances Kay Carly Koch Sheri & Russell
Ferguson Andre Logan Wilkins
John Flynn Betsy Peter Willis
Chuck Fretterd McDonald Bernadine Woods
Nancy Fretterd Fred O’Connor Jimmy Wood
Diane Onimus Jasper Youmans
Long Term Requests
C. R. Baird Liliane Grant Matthew Rigsby
Michael Dech, Hank Luniewski Teresa Shifflett
Sr. Sophia Pace & Family
Ray Frost Mary Ann Natalie
Claude Gianniny Parrish Simmons
Lorraine Powell Carson Tucker
Cunningham Homebound and Shut-ins
Reva Bishop Mary Frances Charles
Carola Bright Matteson
Blankenbeckler Katherine Helen Parrish
Dennis Gianniny Pam Smith
Blankenbeckler Antha Hallman
We remember Claude Gianniny and Fred Sadler, who
passed away last month.
Those suffering job losses.
Our troops, including Joe Brogan (brother of Rose Brogan);
Mark Buell (brother of Adam Buell); Ryan Decato (married to
David & Jane Onimus’s granddaughter); Dustin Haney
(grandson of David Haney); Richard Harry (friend of Adam
and Heather Perry); Jeff Pullinger (grandson of Beryle
Pullinger); Stan Jacukowicz, Jr. (brother of Theresa
Simmons); Thomas Yancey (friend of the Shiflett family);
Chris Williams, and Bridget O’Neil.
For peace in our world.
Reminder: If you wish to add a name to the
printed prayer list, please submit a new request in
writing. Please be sure to include your name.
Acolytes LONG RANGE PLANNING: Reviewed the committees
of our church and their functions. Next meeting will
If you are willing to serve as an begin discussing 12 Keys to an Effective Church for use
Acolyte, please sign up on the as a potential framework for determining the future of
sheet on the bulletin board in our church. The committee feels that as long as we offer
the Narthex. Thank you! hope our church will survive.
WORSHIP: Need additional large print hymnals. Old
___________________________________ Farm Day – would like to see an increased use of bubbles
to get the kids interested in CUMC and also are looking
Fellowship Together into offering children Christian story books. Ron
Join us each Sunday morning Comfort will be our speaker for Homecoming. The
following worship and Sunday Pastor will brief the congregation on what the
School, as we gather to enjoy Discretionary Fund is, how much is in it and what type
coffee, lemonade, and snacks of circumstances it is used for.
under the Old Oak Tree.
PASTOR TOM: September 15, 2011 – Annual Charge
____________________________ Conference. Commends ―Long Range Planning
Committee‖ on their thoughtful considerations in trying
to find where we should be in the future. Vesper
program is still in the forming process. To commemorate
the 911 anniversary in the county, the Pastor would like
to offer our church for a community service and to
If you would like to provide a floral combine our 175th Anniversary in September 2012 with
arrangement (15’ high and 15‖ wide) on Homecoming.
the alter in memory of or in honor of
someone, you may call Jefferson Flower
Shoppe (996-4087). Delivery is free on July Money Matters
Saturday to the Church. Please also give Budget $9,424
Edna the information (996-7607) to be noted in the
bulletin and the church calendar. Regular Offerings $10,029
Church Council Meeting Total Deposits $11,602.30
Highlights Mo. Expenses $7,608.57
AUGUST 9, 2011
YTD Reg. $69,190
TREASURER: Income for July - $11,602.30 Expenses Offerings
for July - $7,608.57.
YTD Expenses $66,557
FINANCE: Increase in apportionment of $10,000.00
which means an increase in our monthly budget.
Discussion followed as to the possibility of changing
budget in different areas. All of the changes must be
accomplished by Sept.15, 2011, the date of the annual
Charge Conference. Next meeting of the Finance
Committee will be Aug. 11, 2011.
Sunday, September 18th
OUTREACH: Charleene and Doug Frazier opened their Sunday, September 25th - Fluvanna Christian Youth at
home to Becky Parsons, for her overnight stay. She left Slate Hill Baptist - with rock wall, games and the movie
with her trunk and back seat filled with school supplies "Soul Surfer"
thanks to members of CUMC. Frances Coffey will be Sunday, October 2nd
here on Sept. 11, 2011 – she is in charge of Mary’s Cradle Sunday, October 16th
in Bluefield, WV. Fluvanna County also is in dire need Sunday, October 23rd Fluvanna Christian Youth at Byrd
of school supplies. Wal-Mart is allowing the County to Chapel – Movie Night - Movie TBA...
fill a school bus with supplies. Volunteers will be needed
for this along with helping to fill backpacks. A check We will need volunteers to provide dinner for all the
from the church from the Discretionary Fund will be sent dates of our regular meetings. Time from 6 - 7:30 pm.
to the organizers of this event.
All 6th - 12th graders welcome!!!
U.M.M.: On August 16, 2011, Scholarship Fund checks
will be presented to four high school graduates.
Hand chime rehearsals are at 5:00 pm on Sunday Parents’ Night Out will start again this
evenings. We will ring in church about once a month. fall on September 10, from 5:30 pm –
Please let Carol Frost know if you are able to participate 9:30 pm. Bring your children to church
at 434-589-8423. for dinner and fellowship while you
enjoy a night out! Make your
reservation by Wed., Sept. 7 to Joyce
Black at 589-8608.
Youth Bake Sale on Aug. 28
Bible Study will resume Tuesday Sept. 6 at 2:00 pm and
The Youth Bake Sale raised $106 - $53 to the YSF and
Thursday Sept. 8 at 7:00 pm. There will be a Fellowship
$53 to the Allie Buck fund. We donated a little over $76
Supper before the Thursday Bible Study at 6:15 pm.
total to the YSF Fund.
Please RSVP to Carol Frost, 434-589-8423 or
firstname.lastname@example.org if you are able to attend the Supper.
UMM Scholarship Dinner
Frances Coffey to
Frances Coffey, one of our two
Covenant Missionaries, is
planning to visit Cunningham on
September 11, 2011. Francis Coffey is a Church and
Community Worker at Mary’s Cradle in Bluefield, West
Virginia. Join us as Francis shares with us about her ministry
to children in need in Bluefield.
mailbag Dear United Methodist Men’s Group,
I would just like to thank you for the lovely
I would like to express my
dinner you had for me and the rest of the graduates. The
appreciation to the
dinner was fabulous and so was the devotion that Pastor
members of our church
Tom gave. Thank you for the scholarship money as well.
family for all of your
You all did not have to do that, and I really appreciate
support during the recent
illness and death of my
I have had a wonderful time being a part of
Mother, Bernadine Woods. Your prayers helped get me
Cunningham United Methodist Church. I look forward
through and continue to keep me going through a very
to coming back whenever I am home from JMU. Thank
difficult time. I have felt your love and willingness to
you for all you have done to help me out with college. It
help and know that I could call upon you if I needed
really means a lot.
help. Pastor Tom has faithfully been there at all
times. The Cunningham United Methodist Church is Best regards,
truly blessed with his leadership and presence. Rachel Liles
With Christian Love, Dear United Methodist Men’s Club,
Karen Dorsey I just wanted to thank you for inviting my family
Thanks for your help in sending all of the youth to camp. and I to the delicious dinner you made for us. Pastor
Because of your help I went to the best camp for the Tom, your inspiring words and open heart will stay with
third year! It was an amazing experience to make new me throughout my college years. Thank you for making
friends and learn more about God. me feel welcome at the United Methodist Church. The
gift received was greatly appreciated and will go straight
Thank you so much,
for my books for school.
Thank you again!
Thank you so much for helping to send us to camp. The Courtney Brown
Appalachian Trail is an amazing and pure place to
experience life and God.
Thank you for helping send us to camp. I had an
amazing time because of your help.
The Messenger by email
Thanks, We are sending The Messenger by email to everyone for
Emily whom we have an email address. If you would like to add
your email to our distribution list, please send an email
Thank you for helping to send me to camp. I had a lot of to Carol Frost, email@example.com. If you would prefer a
fun. I also got closer to nature and God. paper copy, send an email or call Carol at 434-589-8423.
Thank you for helping to send us to Westview and for all
of the hard work that you do throughout the year. I had
a great time at Westview this summer and in the past. I A Service of Remembrance
thank you because I may not have been able to have all
of these great times at camp without you! On September 11th at 5:00 pm, we
Thanks, will gather as a community to
Nicole Kent remember the events of ten years
ago. We need to remember - not
Thank you for sending me to camp. I had fun hiking the only the tragedies, but we need
Appalachian Trail. I feel closer to God and I made new also to remember God’s grace that
friends. has sustained us, and our hope for
Thank you, the day when God’s kingdom will prevail over all the
Maggie Benvenutti earth. Come and let us remember.
Dear Friends and Neighbors,
It’s Homecoming time at
It’s time to come back home, to
remember, to reconnect. It’s time
to see the great things that God is
doing in and through Cunningham United Methodist
On behalf of the people of Cunningham United
Methodist Church, I invite you to come home to attend
our Homecoming Celebration on September 25,
2011 at 11:00 a.m.
I am delighted that Mr. Ron Comfort, lay speaker for
the Charlottesville District and long-time friend of
Cunningham, will be our featured speaker during our
Worship Service. For more than five years, Ron was one
of Cunningham’s regular lay speakers. For thirty years,
Ron taught graduate studies at the University of
Virginia in the School of Education. Ron and his wife
Marilyn have been members of the First United
Methodist Church in Charlottesville for almost thirty
years. For our Homecoming Celebration, Ron will be
speaking on the theme ―Reunion.‖
His theme is timely, indeed. The past year has been a
busy one at Cunningham. We have welcomed new
friends and we have said good-bye to old friends. We
have worshipped, prayed and served together. In the
words of John Wesley, ―the best of all is, God is with us!‖
We hope you will come home to Cunningham on
September 25th to renew old friendships and to see first
hand the great things that God is doing in our church!
We still are located on Route 53 in Palmyra, 3.2 miles
west of Route 15, and adjacent to the former
Cunningham Deli. Worship will begin at 11:00.
Following the worship service, a brief time of
remembrance will be held in the cemetery, followed by
one of those potluck luncheons that Cunningham is
famous for. We look forward to seeing you!
In Christ’s love,
Thomas E. Frost, Pastor
Our Youth participated in
a Youth Rally with the
Here are some pictures of
the event. Please turn in articles and pictures
for the October newsletter by Thursday,
September 22 to Carol Frost at
Cunningham United Methodist Church
~ September 2011 ~
Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat
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4 5 Labor Day 6 7 8 9 10
9:30a Children's Sun. 10a UMW Work Day 7:30p Choir Practice 6:15p Fellowship Supper 5:30p Parents' Night Out
2p Bible Study 7p Bible Study
9:30a Worship Service
7p U M Men
10:45a Adult Sun. Sch.
7p Hand Chime
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9:30a Children's Sun. 7p Long Range Planning 9:30a UMW Meeting 1p Men's Luncheon 7p Charge Conference 7p Single's Group
1p Bible Study 7:30p Choir Practice
9:30a Worship Service 7p PPR Committee
7p Church Council
10:45a Adult Sun. Sch.
3p District Conference
5p Community Service
7p Leadership &
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Special Offering for 10a UMW Work Day 7:30p Choir Practice 6:15p Fellowship Supper
Habitat for Humanity
1p Bible Study 7p Bible Study
9:30a Worship Service
9:30a Children's Sun.
10:45a Adult Sun. Sch.
5p Hand Chime
6p Youth Group
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Homecoming 10a UMW Work Day 7:30p Choir Practice 10a Prayer Shawl
9:30a Worship Service 1p Bible Study
6:15p Fellowship Supper
9:30a Children's Sun.
Sch. 7p Bible Study
10:45a Adult Sun. Sch.
5p Hand Chimes
6p Youth Group with
Fluvanna Christian Youth
CUNNINGHAM UNITED METHODIST CHURCH
c/o The Rev. Thomas E. Frost
5436 Ruritan Lake Road
Palmyra, VA 22963-9516
Parsonage Phone: 434-589-8423
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Comfort and Joy
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Nursery Care for Infants &
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