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					    Magazine Editor: Angela Harbottle, Old House, The Broadway, Great Dunmow,
   Essex CM6 3BH tel 01371 872894 fax 872370 e-mail:

 The February issue of The Five Parishes Magazine contains
 the following editorial content. For various reasons we are
    unable to publish the names, telephone numbers etc of
     private individuals. However if you require further
 information about any of the events mentioned, the Editor,
  Angela, will be happy to help you. Her contact details are
                         shown above.

   Canon Ivy’s contact details: The Rectory, Park Road, Little Easton 01371

Dear People of the Five Parishes

As Canon Ivy has a busy work schedule in the coming months, she has asked the
churchwardens to help with some of the letters for the Magazine and this will be the
first one written by a churchwarden.

As I write this letter, it is the end of a busy Christmas season and we thank everybody
involved in all the extra services, especially as we had to contend with such adverse
weather conditions. The Christingle Service at Great Easton on the 30th January will
mark the end of this special time in the church calendar.

February is the month that bridges the gap between winter and spring, with aconites
and snowdrops appearing in gardens and woodlands. It is a busy month for those
involved in the administration of the parish, with annual accounts and reports being
prepared for the Annual Parochial Church Meeting which will be at the end of March.

Marriage Week UK runs from the 7th to 14th February and so includes St Valentine‟s
Day which will be celebrated in the Five Parishes at the service at Broxted on the
13th February. The aim of Marriage Week is to celebrate marriage as the basis for
family life in the UK. It seems that marriage is still very popular – more than 90% of
young people in the UK hope to be married at some point in the future, and the large
majority will achieve this. Two out of every three first marriages will last until one
partner dies, and one in two second or subsequent marriages will also last a lifetime.
In the Five Parishes in 2010 twelve marriages were celebrated, equaling our highest
number in the last ten years. Marriage is supported by The Mothers‟ Union both
nationally and in the Five Parishes and from the meeting on the 16th February their
meetings will take place at the Thaxted Centre for the Disabled.

So far for 2011 six marriages have been booked and we hope that this trend will
continue. Couples wishing to get married should contact Claire Squibb in the first
instance, she will take basic details and send you a copy of the very useful Getting
Married booklet.     Her contact details appear on the inside front cover of the

The end of February sees the start of Fairtrade Fortnight on the 28th February. These
days most of the supermarkets have a range of Fairtrade goods and there is now a
specialist shop in Saffron Walden selling all the other products.

With every blessing from the Churchwardens.


In 2010, the airport handled 143,335 commercial flights compared to 146,500 in
2000. The number of passengers handled dropped 7% last year to 18.6 million
passengers compared to 20.0 million passengers in 2009. At its peak in 2006/07 just
over 24 million passengers passed through the airport. There were some unusual
circumstances last year, including the Icelandic volcano problem in April and adverse
weather both at the start and at the end of the year. BAA has told its investors that it
expects a further decline at Stansted during the current year by another million
travellers, with throughput falling to 17.6 million passengers in 2011 – half the level
permitted on the airport‟s single runway.

Action on noise
While the NATS consultation on the proposed airspace changes has been postponed
pending a more wide-reaching review of flight paths across southern and eastern
England, noise from current airport operations continues to be an issue of serious
concern to many.

Please complain to BAA when you are disturbed by noisy or off-track aircraft so that
a record is made.               If this is done through SSE‟s website (using the Complain About Noise link) its noise
experts can follow up and use the complaints as leverage to press for improvements.
Alternatively, call SSE on 01279 870558 for a copy of their explanatory leaflet about
other ways to register complaints.

Your complaints will also be invaluable when it comes to registering concerns over
night flights in the forthcoming Night Flying Restrictions consultation which is
expected in 2011 and will cover the period 2012 to 2017.

New Managing Director for Stansted
In December BAA confirmed the appointment of Nick Barton as Stansted‟s
managing director. Mr Barton has been performing the role on an interim basis since
the departure of former boss David Johnston at the end of November. He has six
years experience at the west Essex hub, most recently as commercial and
development director.

SSE Booksales
SSE will hold another booksale on Saturday 2nd April and all books in good
condition will be gratefully received. The sale in November was a huge success,
raising nearly £900 for campaign funds, so please help them to repeat this success.
Contact SSE on 01279 870558 or to make
arrangements for handover.

Broxted Quiz Night and Supper
One of the staple events in the SSE programme, the well-established supper quiz
takes place on Saturday 5th March, 7pm for 7.30 pm in Broxted Village Hall. Ticket
price has been held at £10 per head to include supper, but please bring your own
drinks. To book for a table of 8 or individually, please contact in the first instance the
editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.



The Bishop‟s Lent Appeal this year will focus on Northern Kenya‟s Marsabit Mission
Area. This is a huge area, mainly desert, about the size of England. Until 2010 there
were no tarmac roads, but a new one is now snaking its way North. Resources are
scarce and there is much insecurity among the people who struggle to survive. Rains
have been poor in the past few years, with a major drought in 2009, when most of the
livestock died. The late rains in 2010 have also been poor, and it is feared famine
will again stalk the land. More details will appear in the March issue.


Meetings will resume on Monday 14th March for the York Lent Course. This year‟s
course booklet is RICH INHERITANCE – Jesus’ legacy of love written by Bishop
Stephen Cottrell. For information about the meetings, please contact in the first
instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894. New members will be made most


Members will meet at 2.30 pm on Wednesday 16th February at their new meeting
venue. This will now be at the Thaxted Disabled Centre and this time it will be a
“settling-in” meeting with no speaker. There will be the usual short service, a bring-
and-buy and a cup of tea plus a friendly chat. For more information please contact in
the first instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.


Plans are well under way for the 2011 show on Sunday/Bank Holiday Monday
28th/28th August. Anyone wishing to enquire about booking a stall should visit

The profit from the 2010 show was split between the four churches of The Five
Parishes, each church receiving £5,000. The churchwardens send their very deep
gratitude to the show team for this magnificent contribution. It means so much to
them as they face the building maintenance that has to be undertaken during the
coming year.

The January meeting of the Executive Committee took place after this issue went to
press, so details about events in 2011 will be given in a later issue.


The Club continues to grow and it is not too late to join. From February there are still
seven chances to win. Just send a cheque for £7 to Fran Woodrow, 11 Emblems,
Great Dunmow, CM6 2AG. Please make cheques payable to „The Friends of the Five
Parishes 50% Club‟. The winner last month was Lesley Holt. The money raised helps
to maintain the churches in The Five Parishes.


The February meeting of the Eastons & Tilty WI will be on Thursday 10th February,
in Great Easton Village Hall at 12.30 for 1pm as the afternoon will be started with a
soup lunch. After lunch there will be the usual business of the day followed by a talk
by Mr S Lester about auctioneering. He would be pleased to see any SMALL items
you may wish to bring along. The afternoon promises to be very interesting and, as
usual, visitors are welcome. For any further information please contact in the first
instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.


Liz Craig is proud to have been selected to attend the 22nd World Scout Jamboree in
Sweden later this year as a member of the International Service Team. This is a
volunteer staff team who make the Jamboree happen for the 40,000 young people
from around the world.

In order to attend, each volunteer has to raise over £1,000. Liz‟s latest effort to help
with this is a Quiz Night on Saturday 5th February at 7.30 pm in Great Easton Village
Hall. Teams of 6, £10 a head to include chilli and jacket supper. There will be a
raffle, but bring your own drinks. For more information or to book a team, please
contact in the first instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.


Are you a skilled coach, mentor, work consultant, reviewer, counsellor, group
facilitator, supervisor? Ivy‟s group is seeking to build a team of skilled people to
contribute to the development and well-being of Clergy. If you believe you have the
skills and motivation to work with them, or you know someone who does, please
speak to Ivy.

There is an open evening at Chelmsford Diocesan Office on Wednesday 16th
February from 7.30 to 9.15 pm. If you would like to attend, please confirm this by
contacting Mary Kersys on 01245 294455.


On Tuesday 1st February Nick Grounds‟ demonstration will be on the theme From
Potting to Potter. The Club meets at the Thaxted Centre for the Disabled at 7.30 pm
and visitors are always welcome.

The Dunmow Day Centre provides snacks and hot lunches on four days a week for
those less able to cook or who would benefit from the social contact. This service is
in danger of closing due to lack of support. Numbers have dwindled alarmingly in
recent months and the service will soon run out of money.

If this service is for you, please do use it and tell your friends and anyone you know
who would benefit from it. A home cooked two-course lunch costs £5 and is
available on Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. Booking, before 10am on
the day, is necessary to 01371 872874.


The concert on Saturday 12th March at 7.30 pm in St John‟s Church, Stansted will be
given by harpist Catrin Finch. Her programme will include amongst others Italian
Concerto by Bach, Two Arabesques by Debussy, Hindemith‟s Sonata for harp,
Liszt‟s Le Rossignol arranged by Renie and Faure‟s Impromptu.

Tickets at £12 for adults and £1 for children are available from Stansted Carpets,
Chapel Hill, Stansted; Nockolds Solicitors, Market Square, Bishop‟s Stortford; Sonia
Levy, 31 Chapel Hill, Stansted (01279 815282) and at the door. Also see website


Sir Alan Haselhurst MP holds surgeries throughout his constituency that can be
attended by anyone who wishes to have time with Sir Alan to discuss issues which
they have and with which they feel that he may be able to offer assistance. The next
surgery in Dunmow will be on Friday 4th February at Foakes House, Town Council
Office, 47 Stortford Road from 6.30 to 7.15 pm. No appointment necessary but if
you require any assistance please ring 01799 506349.


Accuro is a registered charity providing a range of services to support families who
have a child or an adult with a disability. Schemes included are Shared Care (family
based short term breaks for children); Family Support Work/Sitting Service (care
within the local community and the child‟s home); Holiday Scheme (individual and
group activities for children); Saturday Club (for children aged 6–16, runs 42 weeks
per year); Under 19s Leisure Scheme (weekly social clubs, befriending & group
outings); Parenting Support (individual and group support) and Adult Friendship
Scheme (individual and group activities).

They have opportunities for paid and/or voluntary work within their schemes
according to experience, availability etc. If you have any time that you could spare or
if you know of anyone who would benefit from these services, then please contact
them on 01279 433117 or 01279 433667, e-mail at or go on
line at


Essex Fire and Rescue Service representatives are available to provide a home fire
safety visit to your house. They give advice on safety and your emergency exit
options and will fit free ten-year smoke detectors. Call 01376 349339 to make an

Crossroads Care Uttlesford is a charity which helps relieve the stress of people,
whatever their age, providing help and support to their partner, child, relative, friend
or neighbour. Caring may be a full-time activity or just keeping a regular eye on
someone. Crossroads Care is dedicated to the carer and provides paid, fully trained
care support workers to give carers a break.

The care is provided in the client‟s home, always by the same support worker, and
can include personal care, assistance with meals, shopping, or whatever is needed.
This not only provides respite for the carer, but also avoids the need for admission to
hospital or other caring institution.

For enquiries contact Heather Eldred, Scheme Manager on 01799 513496 or e-mail, or go online to


This very easy dish may be served as a starter or as a light lunch with salad and crusty

Mushroom Pâté

To fill 4 ramekins, you will need:
1 small onion, finely chopped
8oz (225g) mushrooms, chopped
5oz (150g) butter
1oz (25g) white breadcrumbs
4oz (125g) full fat cream cheese
1tsp (5ml) lemon juice
Pinch of nutmeg
Salt and freshly ground black pepper

Soften the finely chopped onion in butter, add the mushrooms for around a minute.
Cool. Add all the other ingredients and mix, then turn into the ramekin dishes and
chill before serving. This will keep for several days in the fridge.

If you have a favourite recipe, seasonal or otherwise, which you would like to share,
please contact in the first instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.


During February Canon Ivy and Rev‟d Cilla will be leading assemblies about
„Thanking God for Parties‟ and „Making Choices‟. Traditionally the February
assembly rota also includes discussions about Shrove Tuesday and Lent. However,
after some research and investigation, my assemblies will be based around the 4 day
Shrovetide period. As well as pancakes, Lent and Ash Wednesday, I will also be
talking to the children about Egg Saturday and Collop Monday! (If these terms are
new to you, a simple Google search will uncover the lesser known days during

The children are now working hard on their new topics. Our youngest class
(Foundation Stage) are really enjoying their dinosaur work and to help them bring
their topic to life we will be visiting the Natural History Museum‟s dinosaur gallery.
This will be the budding paleontologist‟s first ever school trip and what better way to
start than with a day in London with the diplodocus, stegosaurus and, of course,
tyrannosaurus rex.

Meanwhile our lower school children (Years 1, 2 and 3) are working on their local
study. During the next few weeks they will often be seen out and about in Great
Easton village looking at the landscape, buildings and other key features. They are
also interested in talking to any people with local knowledge of Great Easton and its
history. If there are any David Starkeys or Simon Schamas reading this Magazine
who live in or around Great Easton and would be willing to share their local
knowledge with our children, please contact me at the school.

Finally our upper school children (Years 4, 5 and 6) are studying the theatre and
during the term they will be looking at the work of William Shakespeare, including
his play A Midsummer Night’s Dream. February also features St Valentine‟s Day and
I will leave you this month with one of the most famous quotes from A Midsummer
Night’s Dream:

“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is wing’d Cupid
painted blind.”

Damian Pye


A report on the January meeting will appear in the next edition. Meanwhile, the new
Community Speedwatch Group will be carrying out speed monitoring on a regular
basis in Duck Street.

The next meetings are on Wednesday 23rd February and Wednesday 30th March,
8pm in the Memorial Hall. Please call Jackie, the Clerk, on 01371 87005 for any
Parish Council enquiries including grit bins and street lights.


There was no meeting in January but everyone looks forward to entertaining their
hostesses at their “Christmas” lunch in February at The Stag as usual at 12 noon for
12.30 pm.


Photographic/Art Exhibition
A last reminder about the exhibition Little Easton through the Seasons on Saturday
26th February between 11am and 3pm. The organisers would like people to enter
their photos and artwork of seasonal interest, for display in the Hall, and anyone
interested please contact in the first instance the editor, Angela, on 01371 872894.
Children‟s artwork would be particularly welcome. Light refreshments will be


It is with concern, and dismay, that we have had some incidents of vandalism
reported by residents in the village, one of which was a vehicle being sprayed with
graffiti. The person(s) responsible for this totally unacceptable behaviour should be
aware that the Police have been informed and they are now being closely watched.
Any further incidents of the nature will result in firm action being taken in the Courts
against those responsible.


This service will be at Warwick Close in Little Easton on Friday 4th and 18th
February arriving at 10.55 am, departing at 11.15 am.


Monday             8.00 pm to 10.15 pm     Carpet Bowls
Tuesday            6.45 and 7.45 pm        Dog Training
First Wednesdays   7.30 to 9.30 pm         Tai Chi Chuan
Thursday           10.00 am to 12 noon     Art Club
                   7.30 to 9.30 pm         Tai Chi Chuan
Last Friday        8.00 pm to 11.30 pm     Social Dance Evenings (contact Jayne
                                           on 01371 870000 or Jackie on 852148)


The Council would like to thank all residents who spread salt/grit on the roads during
the icy spell and again our thanks to Chris Askew for refilling the salt bins.

The February meeting of the Council will be on Thursday 24th February at 7.30 pm
in Great Easton Village Hall. Minutes of the meetings can be viewed on the notice
boards in Great Easton, Duton Hill and Tilty.


The January Ivy Club was a visit to Foakes Hall, Dunmow to see Babes in the Wood.
It was an excellent, fun-filled production, the best so far! The February meeting is on
Thursday 3rd February at 7.30 pm at the Village Hall. The speaker will be a Scout
Leader of over 35 years and who will have many interesting tales to tell.


See News for All Parishes for details of Liz Craig‟s Quiz Night, on Saturday 5th
February. This is to help raise the £1,000 she needs to attend the 22nd World Scout
Jamboree in Sweden later this year, as a member of the International Service Team.
Do go along and support her.


Dear Neighbours
We hope you‟re all defrosting after the very chilly winter we‟ve experienced to date.
The temperature on site at The Moat House, Great Easton plummeted to minus 13
degrees Centigrade on the Monday before Christmas. By midday it had only „risen‟
to minus nine degrees, which is when we took the decision to send the workers home
for an extended Christmas break. The site wasn‟t due to be locked up until 23rd
December but we had to consider safety above everything.

The weeks in the run up to Christmas had also been very chilly and snow and ice had
caused a lot of delays to our work. We were hoping to have the roof of the new 60
bed care home in place by December but, unfortunately, that schedule fell foul of the
weather. By the return to work on the 4th January we were some five weeks behind
our timetable.

However, our intention is still to meet the finish deadline in the early summer and so
we now have plans in place to double the workforce on site. The off-site parking
provision we already have will remain in use so it will still be people, rather than
vehicles, you see heading in and out of the site at either end of the working day.
After the initial delivery of the steel for the roof and the cranes to lift it into place,
there should be a drop in the number of construction vehicles going to and from site.

We have kept a close eye on the roads around The Moat House during the bad
weather to ensure they are kept mud free – and this will continue over the coming

With the building work now past the half way mark, we‟d just like to say a big thank
you for the co-operation we have received from you, our neighbours, during the
project. We hope this will continue as it heads towards the finishing line! As ever, if
you have any concerns or queries please don‟t hesitate to contact Gerry on his mobile.

Best wishes
Jami Puckering, Development Director, Retirement Villages Ltd
Gerry Roseblade, Senior Site Manager, ISG Jackson Tel: 07791 151016.


This service will be at Great Easton Village Hall on Friday 4th and 18th February at
11.25 departing at 11.45 am.


Monday             6.30 to 9.30 pm           Dog Training
Tuesday            6.15 pm                   Keep Fit
                   7.30 pm                   Circuit Training
Wednesday          10.00 am to 12 noon       Great Easton Mother and Toddler Group
                   7.30 to10.30 pm           Carpet Bowls
Friday             9.30 to 12 noon           Upholstery class


3rd – 24th February               Cecile Down and Jackie Dawson
March (9th = Ash Wed)             Jean Duke and Molly Warboys


A fantastic time was had by all the over sixties who attended the annual Duton Hill
Senior Citizens‟ Christmas Dinner on the 21st December. 32 residents sat down and,
after grace said by Canon Ivy, tucked into a delicious three-course meal. Thanks go
to chefs, also to the waitresses and kitchen staff.

A Panto Quiz caused much laughter and one thing everyone learnt was that the goose
in Mother Goose was called Priscilla. A free raffle followed and the lucky winners
went home with luxury Christmas gifts. The wine flowed, the talk never ceased and,
although the snow lay deep outside, the friendship and warmth in the room was

Special thanks to those who provided the turkeys, the fresh fruit salad, the table wine,
and to the landlord for the use of the function room. Also many thanks to the folk
who throughout the year put money in the bottle on the bar in the pub raising £250 for
the party.


Once again, the Three Horseshoes was packed for the ever-popular evening of carol
singing, held on the 23rd December. The singing was led by the Five Parishes
musical director on keyboard with members of the Five Parishes Choir. Everyone
enjoyed having the chance to sing all the old favourite carols. Sausage rolls and
mince pies were passed round in the interval – many thanks to those who provided


This service will visit Duton Hill Three Horseshoes on Friday 4th and 18th February
at 11.55 departing at 12.10 pm. It will be at Church Cottages, Tilty on the same day
at 1.20 until 1.35 pm.


The next meeting of the Council will be on Thursday 10th February at 8.15 pm in the
Village Hall. Members of the public are always welcome at the Council‟s meetings.
Minutes of the meetings can be viewed on the notice boards and on the Council‟s
web-site at Much more information about the village
can be found on the village web-site,


Children’s Christmas Party
The party on the 12th December was a great success with over 30 children enjoying
games, a magician and a splendid tea. As ever, Father Christmas made an appearance
at the end of the afternoon with a present for every child who had managed to be
good throughout the year. Being Broxted, of course, that was every child! Many
thanks to those who organised the party and to the mums who provided the tea.

Pensioners’ Parcels
Once again the Community Association provided a small parcel of groceries to the
older members of our community at Christmas. Many expressions of thanks have
been received, including one which sums them all up. “The „oldies‟ of Broxted
would like to thank the Community Association for again delivering very welcome
gifts of groceries. These gifts are very much appreciated.” Our thanks too to those
intrepid souls who delivered the parcels in the treacherous weather we suffered just
before Christmas.


The new co-ordinator of the Children‟s Society for Broxted has taken over and the
annual box opening will take place on Tuesday 15th March. Please bring along your
box for coffee and biscuits - please contact in the first instance the editor, Angela, on
01371 872894. If you are unable to bring your box, (or need directions), please call
her and she will arrange for it to be collected. Any volunteers to count on the
morning will be appreciated

During the carol singing evening at the Prince of Wales, £50 was collected for the
Society and grateful thanks go to Cliff and Jackie for allowing the collection to be
made and for their warm welcome and hospitality.


An old Broxted boy reminisces about his early life and remembers his wonderful
“mum” who cared for him from age 5 to 11.

Not many people will remember me living in Oakmeads, Brick End, Broxted with the
late Lizzie Smith from January 1937 to October 1942. Ron Carr of Mole Hill Green
will, as will Cyril Monk of Dunmow. However, this is not about me but to remind
folk of the Five Parishes what a unique and wonderful lady Lizzie Smith was.

I have to say first of all that I, Robert George Winter, a Dr Barnardo‟s boy, was sent
to Broxted with another lad called Philip Hills to live with our new mum on 8th
January 1937. According to Barnardo‟s records, Lizzie was foster mum to at least
twelve Barnardo children during her lifetime. Some were babes in arms and some,
like me, a little older. Most of the children stayed until they were 14 years old and
then Barnardo‟s took the child away to be trained or sent for further education. Some
were shipped to the colonies to start a new life in places like Canada or Australia.
Philip Hills and I left mum on 8th October 1942 because I had passed the 11 plus
exam and needed to be placed in a grammar school. Philip was sent to Barnardo‟s
Naval School as mum had apparently reached retirement age. I was taken to
Barnardo‟s HQ in Stepney Causeway, London. World War II was raging and I had to
wait to be accepted into a grammar school. Eventually, after being homed in several
other London homes, including Boys‟ Garden City, Woodford, I was taken to
Moreton-in-Marsh and enrolled in Chipping Camden Grammar School. My presence
there did not last long for fate took over in that I had a bow and arrow accident
resulting in the loss of an eye. I attended two different boarding schools until I was
20 and ready to be trained for adult employment.

As I grew older I often thought about my early life in Broxted and in particular
wondered how my mum felt each time someone came to her home and took away the
child she had fostered, nursed, loved and cared for. She must have been a very
special lady to cope with that time and time again. She was a fine lady, a church
goer, kind, patient and a real mum.

I remember visiting her when I was about 19, arriving at lunchtime. She ushered me
in and insisted that I tuck into the food she was preparing for her own lunch. That
was typical of her.

On numerous visits to Broxted I have enjoyed telling folk about one of the nicest
people I have known. Everyone agreed that she must have been a special lady to
bring up so many children and lose them all. All of us must have wondered why we
were being taken from the only real home we had ever known. Broxted should feel
proud to have raised such a fine lady and as a tribute to her, albeit belatedly, I would
like to include this note in the Five Parishes Magazine.

From a very grateful Barnardo’s boy


This service will visit Broxted on Wednesday 2nd and 16th February, arriving at
Cranham Road at 10.40 am, departing 11.00 am and arriving at the Prince of Wales at
11.05 am, departing at 11.25 am. It will be at Molehill Green Post Office on Friday
4th and 18th February at 1.50 departing at 2.05 pm.


Monday    7.30 to 8.30 pm           Country & Western Line Dancing
          8.30 to 9.30 pm           Partner Latin & Ballroom (Beginners)
Tuesday   10.00 to 11.45 am         Broxted Cherubs
          7.00 pm                   Ladies Latin Line Dance Class
Wednesday 2.00 pm                   Walking for Health starts here
Saturday  8.00 am                   Keep Fit Class

              We thought this feature timely to mark St Valentine’s Day
                                 and Marriage Week

Couples wishing to get married in the Five Parishes should contact Claire Squibb in
the first instance. She will refer any special circumstances to Canon Ivy (e.g. a
previous marriage or foreign nationality) but will handle the day-to-day
administration once any issues are settled. From an initial enquiry, she takes basic
details and sends out a Getting Married booklet which gives helpful information and
suggestions. Matters are progressed from there, usually by regular e-mail contact.

All couples are expected to attend a Marriage Preparation course, probably on two
Saturday mornings in the spring. This covers a great deal of ground, including how
to settle differences and to deal with them before they get out of hand. One attendee
on the last course, who had been previously married, told Claire that his first marriage
might have worked out if he‟d had access to such a course first time round!

Couples need not be resident in the Five Parishes but those who are not must qualify
for marriage here. Perhaps one of them was born or baptised here, or they or their
parents have lived in the parish for a period. If there is no other connection, they can
qualify by attending church regularly for at least six months before the banns are
called, i.e. nine months before the wedding. In practice, this needs planning about a
year ahead of the date. Attendance should be at least twice a month.

Unlike some parishes (it‟s up to the priest‟s discretion) Ivy is prepared to consider
marrying people who have been divorced. She will interview them and decide
whether she feels she is able to offer them the full marriage service. If not, they can
still opt for a service of blessing after a civil marriage. Ivy does not, however, offer
blessing services to couples resident outside the parish.

Contact Claire on 01371 870749 or by e-mail at



To my Dear and Loving Husband
If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were loved by wife, then thee;
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare me with ye women if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole mines of gold,
Or all the riches that the East doth hold...
         From a poem by Anne Bradstreet 1612–72


How do you decide whom to marry?
You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she
should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the crisps and dip coming. –
Alan, age 10

Unhappy in love
I think my girlfriend‟s hallucinating. She keeps telling me she‟s seeing other people.

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