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COnTEnTs







6 Meet our Contributors!

wELCOME MELAnIE, AMY & TInA!!

our newest additions to our stellar team!







8 fresh fashion finds

COzY wInTER wEAR

Searching for some layered pieces?







11 Baby’s 1st Christmas?









21

unCEnsORED MOMMY BLOg

a reality check for mommies and newbies!



14 family Budget

PAREnTIng & CHEquE BOOks

tips all families can use.







19 Green Christmas?









24

HELPFuL HInTs FOR An ECO HOLIDAY

What can you & your family do?



21 Sibling rivalry

CAn YOu suRvIvE IT?

find some helpful parenting tips for the next crisis







24 top toys 2009!

FROM BABY TO gRADEsCHOOL

The must-haves for kids gifts this Christmas!







32 Controlled indulence

FEAsTIng, FInE-TunED

how do you cope with holiday cheer (and treats!)



35 ask Dr. Mom!

CAn AnYOnE BREAsTFEED?

Do you have a burning question for our resident Doctor?









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EDITOR’s LETTER









true to image?

READY FOR MY CLOsEuP









So here We are, almost another year under our belt and PleaSe tell Me that we do not all believe this garbage

i wonder where the time has gone. i glance at my “editor’s is really necessary? i cannot possibly be the only mom who

photo” to the left for the 12th time this year and ponder finds this a little ridiculous?

yet again whether it’s time to redo the glossy photo. not

because i am so vain or that i enjoy having photos taken (i if We really stop and analyze what we spend and why,

don’t) but more because, i know i don’t really look like that don’t you think that many of these cosmetic companies are

Leah ChevaLLier

relaxed, wrinkle free woman anymore! really just over-the-top, unnecessary indulgences? With

eDitor absolutely no payoff other than vanity?

(photo: right-husband another feW Crazy years of 3 kids, 5 stores, a

yannick Chevallier)

husband and a magazine has certainly added a few grey hairs i knoW i would rather spend my hard-earned dollars on a

and “laughable” lines. So do i take the plunge and have our really great meat pie from the local farmer’s Market than to

photographer “do me” again? Do i give them blind faith to promote a blast of botox for my tired looking ring finger. (it

work their magic with photoshop? Can they erase the new isn’t that tired looking anyway, obviously my ring wasn’t

stress and chaos from the last year or so, the stray eyebrow heavy enough?) lol- good thing my husband never reads my

hair (on my chin) or the lovely violet, shaded bags under letters.

my eyes? or do i wear all of those complexities as badges of

honour, as proof that i am mother, mompreneur, keeper- So even thouGh i have grown fond of this photo

and-doer of all? i have to laugh at myself as i think through of my husband and a younger looking me, i probably will

this process. i mean really, reshooting a photograph is noth- reshoot the photo this year. inbetween running my 3 kids

ing compared to what people are doing to “re-do” themselves to elementary, middle and high school, and the piano and

in real life. guitar lessons, and friends houses, while juggling 4 (soon

to be 6 baby stores), 1 shoe store, 1 toy store, 1 magazine,

you have to admit that we live in a pretty bizarre laundry, lunches, grocery shopping and a suburban house

society where people spend small fortunes on teeth whiten- that misses me more and more every year. But in the end,

ing, botox injections, plastic surgery, chemical face peels the photo will be a reflection of who i am and where i am

and more. i was amazed to see on tv that people now at in my life, today. With all its own lines and experience

have teeth whitening parties at each others houses. or etched into it.it will be a little more accurate and true to age,

even better, now there is a procedure similar to botox for and let’s face it; a well photoshopped, editors picture will be

your hanDS! for your hands, i had to stop and do a much less painful than a chemical peel and overall should be

retake when i saw that...your hands, ....really? Why would a heck of a lot cheaper than a botox treatment?

somebody be so complexed about whether their hands look heather, are you ready for my closeup?

20, 30 or 50 years old? Who cares? i know i don’t look at

people’s hands and think, “wow, she’s obviously in her forties

but my gosh, her hands don’t look a day over 30!”.









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MEET THE BOAM COnTRIBuTORs







sarah remmer {diet & NutritioN} registered Dietitian and proud owner of nutrio

nutrition and Wellness Consulting in Calgary, alberta. her favourite areas to counsel in are

Women’s health and prenatal nutrition. She has a true passion for nutrition, wellness, and

fitness and feels very fortunate to be able to share her passion and knowledge with her clients

and the public. She believes in achieving overall health realistically through a balanced lifestyle

pact. We are thrilled to have her on our panel of experts!



dr. roseaNNe PeNNer {dr. mom} our Dr. Penner is a family Doctor with a special interest

in Women’s and Children’s health. after years of specializing in obstetrical care, she now practices

at Salveo Clinic in Calgary, alberta. Dr. Penner is also an associate Clinical Professor at uofC

Medical School. Dr. Penner supports Mothers and their families with a goal of keeping them

healthy and happy. She is also Dr. Mom to a busy, four year old (oliver) and has just welcomed

new addition, lewis, to the family. Congratulations Dr. Penner!





doNNa leBlaNc {FashioNista} Mother of 3, Donna owns a highly successful Women’s

store called “Posh Mommy”. in her past 16 years in business, she has seen the maternity

landscape change from frumpy to hot and stylish! She specializes in working with high end

fashion designers from europe, la, and new york. a true fashionista, Donna believes every

woman deserves to feel fabulous- even with a bump! our own editor made Donna’s shop one

of her fave stops when she was pregnant with her 3rd baby.





JaNet deaN {GreeN mom} Mother of 2, Janet is the Co-founder and editor of the popular

eco site Green Mom finds. She first started thinking more seriously about green issues and the

environment when she became pregnant with her first child. for the past eight years she’s been

slowly greening her family’s life as much as possible and irritating rush limbaugh fans every-

where with her ‘liberal environut’ talk about saving the planet. What a breathe of fresh air!









melaNie GushNowski {educatioNal} B.sc.- Melanie is the founder of Brilliant Begin-

nings educational Centre in Calgary. Melanie has her Masters in applied Psychology with a ma-

jor in human Development & learning. She has a true passion for early childhood development

and has worked with parents and children in the health and education field. Melanie’s desire is

to see parents as “experts” in their child’s development and to realize their important role as their

child’s first teacher! Melanie continues to study, write, and lecture on early childhood develop-

ment and the relationship between environment and brain development.





stacey corBett {wahm} Stacey Corbett is a mother to 5 year old twins and an avid traveler.

her travels led her to create her Calgary based Baby equipment rental company, one tiny Suitcase

in 2006. an entrepreneur and mother, Stacey is a multi-tasking mom-on-a-mission trying to find

the balance between work and family. ready to offer tips, advice and WahM info, Stacey will

inspire many more Work-at-home-Moms! Glad you could fit us into your crazy schedule Stacey!







tiNa & amy {BloGGers} Joined together by common due dates, tina and amy became the

best of friends. These two type a, neurotic chicks researched everything and shared the most private

details of their individual pregnancies and birthing stories. nothing is off limits and humour is

mandatory! realizing many other women would benefit from a healthy dose of uncensored parent-

ing stories, Bloob.ca was born!









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Beaded wonder!

this hand beaded turquoise and brown

burnout blouse by hale Bob is a beautiful

addition to any holiday wardrobe. this

kimono sleeve stretch silk will take you to

the office Christmas dinner to a night out

with hubby. Pair it with black leggings, a

skirt or even your skinny jeans!









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that’s a wrap!

Mia Melon from Splash of fashion has

added gold detail to this baby doll top.

imagine the Christmas lights and soft

candle light shimmering off the detail on

this cute as a button top. Go casual with

a dark jean or glam it up with shinny leg-

gings. Go further and add silver or gold

heels and with the leggings and get the

hot compliments all night long! We also curve hugging!

always love scarves and this Chan Luu Make this stunning and

red hot scarf is no exception for adding unique hale Bob dress your

a touch of colour and warmth. Nothing style statement this year at

says the holidays like red! Dinner and holiday parties

alike. an excellent piece

to transition from day to

night, pair with Bella Band

leggings and boots or pretty

peep toe pumps and wows

any crowd while

feeling great. Don’t

be afraid to show

off your fab belly

and curves! you

have never looked more

feminine...flaunt it!









a star is Born!

Michael Stars’ is always spot on with their

incredibly soft combed cotton dolman sleeve

turtleneck. Paired with Seven for all Mankind

Dojo in the tahiti wash this go anywhere combo

will take you there not only in style but ultimate

comfort.









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chunky vs. chilly!

feeling chilly on a blustering day?

Grab a hot bevy and snuggle up

with this incredible short sleeve

cardigan by Mia Melon. Why

not make it a winter wonder by

layering it with a long sleeve shirt.

Skinny and straight jeans are still

going strong and will continue

to do so. Consider tucking them

in as shown or cuffing it up and

pairing your favouite denim with a

super high heel for that sheik look.

Keep your skinny skinny and go

with a cute ballet. anything goes!









cozy cute For two!

Cozy up this fall in Michael Stars’ luxuriously

casual cashmere blend hooded wrap, with

three different color combinations to choose

from no one will need to go chilly.

Boots! Boots! Boots! everyone is wearing boots

and William rast skinny jeans are perfect

whether you love to cozy up in Uggs or strut

your stuff in Jimmy Choo’s. this out fit marries

fashion and comfort hand and hand and al-

lows you to be in command.









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BABY 101









Baby’s 1st Christmas?

A sATIRICAL LOOk AT MOMMYHOOD ( unCEnsORED)

BY www.BLOOB.CA





Baby’s 1st Christmas... ahh what a wonder- have it we got the most perfect photo! i set out and literally froze our butts off in

ful season, visions of a crackling fire, stock- minus 30 to get that perfect tree. let me tell

ings hung with care, presents under the tree, task #2 the gifts - dum da dummm dum you it was So worth it as it was the perfect

the smell of fresh pine and candles lit on the put on your boxing gloves we are heading tree. Decorate beautifully and do not forget

Christmas tree. The dinner menu is planned to the mall. This task is all about recovering the sentimental “Baby’s first Christmas”

with the picture perfect “organic” turkey and this year’s “it” gift – (Check out Birth of a ornament

all the trimmings. The perfect photo of Baby Mother’s top Gift Picks in this issue). again

naiya and Santa framed sitting in the front we, grandma and i, woke at the crack of task #4 – Christmas Dinner and trimmings

hall and the hottest gifts of the season - This dawn to run to the store. We sat in the car Pre-plan the meal with simple fixings, every-

iS after all “Baby’s 1st Christmas”. What until we saw people coming and jumped out one will love it and it’s all about family and

every mom needs to know are the top 4 to be first in line - little did we know these the kids and of course Baby’s 1st Christmas.

ChriStMaS taSkS to accomplish, focus, people we were competing with were the no need to try to be Martha overwhelming

set a plan in motion and try not to get dis- employees coming to work. an hour in line yourself with complex recipes. in our house

tracted by the yummy treats. let me tell you and we were in! We recommend sitting in the we had another challenge. The oven fan gave

how we accomplished these tasks, this year car until you see the toy store staff arriving to off some sort of toxic fumes so we had been

will only be bigger and better after learning really know it’s time to rush the doors to be waiting for a new one, so needless to say

from last year. it begins in november after first! find the nearest employee and ask for the great 1st Christmas dinner at our house

the halloween Candy rush. directions to the coveted item. Be strong and wasn’t off to a good start. Peter had to cook

hold your ground...its dog eats dog when it the turkey around the corner at his sister’s

This is of course how you envision your comes to our children. This brought back vi- place, no biggie right? Well 45 minutes into

perfect 1st Christmas, there is after all only sions of standing in line with my mom, aunt the cooking, unbeknown to us, his mom de-

one firSt Christmas. and cousins for cabbage patch. Back then cided to pull it out to make dessert. at 7:00

we weren’t left at home with dad but rather when the turkey should have been on the

task #1 - first, Santa arriving from the dragged to the mall to watch our mothers table it was raw and bloody! Peter frantically

north Pole. if you’re not aware Santa has run and start our training early of how to microwaved it and pan-fried what he could

hours and isn’t just sitting there at your beat down, grab and hunt our prey... i mean and brought it over as if nothing was wrong.

convenience. you have to line up! Grandma our toys. This goes to show every mom no one was the wiser.

and i laid out the strategy weeks in advance, goes through this.

surveyed moms with past experience on Baby’s 1st Christmas tasks were all accom-

how to beat the line, which mall had the task #3 Christmas tree and Gifts i face a plished with some chaos but Christmas was

best Santa and how it’s best to pay $40 for a different challenge than some when it comes “perfect”. let me tell all the moms out there

CD with one photo on it! We woke at the to the tree, when you marry a German man my advice for the 1st holidays. Don’t stress

crack of dawn, We being grandma and i, with traditions of the perfect tree with real it, if you don’t get your kodak moments you

while naiya slept like a 5month old would. candles on it there is a whole new set of can remake the event at another time. naiya

When she woke we dressed her in the perfect standards. This was my first real tree ever as had no idea who Santa was, naiya had no

outfit we had picked out and raced to the being Chinese we always had a fake one. yes, idea what a Barbie was, naiya also didn’t eat

mall an hour before Santa jetted in to find i stereotype asians to only have fake trees. turkey at 6 months so the trials and tribula-

we were 20th in line. Who are these people first be sure to wait close to Christmas be- tions of Christmas were simply my own. oh

that think they can be first?? it’s My babies fore buying your tree if you are going for the you can find that “it” toy after Christmas

firSt Christmas and i neeD the perfect “real deal”. They dry out quickly and come and your baby won’t even know it!

shot! an hour later, with Grandma dancing Christmas eve, the last thing you want is to

up a storm for her to smile as luck would be vacuuming up pine needles! Peter and Merry Christmas everyone from tina and

amy – www.bloob.ca





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hopefully, when you decided what busi- after 3 years in business for myself

ness to get into you took into account though, i’m not sure it is always neces-

when the busy periods in your industry sary to totally shut down to enjoy a

would be. for Personal trainers that vacation. i can take 3-4 vacations a year

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overlooking the ocean. The employee i had hired

to run my business while i was away, couldn’t

start until 3 days into my vacation. i decided to

answer customers calls for the first few days of

my vacation rather than postpone it.



With Modern technology i actually processed a

customer order and arranged for a courier from

over 3000 miles away. not every business oper-

ates this way, but there is usually a way to be ‘in’

the business without physically being there.



That won’t always work for every business. i see

lots of Work at home businesses that close for

two week periods, only accept online orders, or

don’t do any shipping in that break.



if you decide to completely turn off and enjoy

a dedicated holiday with your family, you will

have to work a little extra before you leave to

make sure everything is taken care of. Desig-

nate someone you trust and who is experienced

enough to make decisions on your behalf. Make

sure your customers and suppliers are aware of Opting for a reusable diapering system is

your absence.



you can also partner with another business to

easy + environmentally friendly.*

refer clients to while you are away. i’ve had great

success partnering with other local business

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so that we can cover for each other and all get

some vacation time. i would rather the customer

*Reduce your family's garbage by one ton!

receive service from another business than not

at all.



in the end, if you can’t step out of your business

for a minimum of 7 days than, as Michael Ger-

ber of the book The e-Myth would say,

TM

“you’ve created yourself a job, not a Business”



So, enjoy the holidays. Get some rest and spend

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they’re willing to go into debt to make the if you come across a great deal and it isn’t on Clothes $75.00

day special. Some go so far as to hit the pay your list, walk away unless you have plenty allowance $36.00

advance stores to come up with the money of money to spare. With kids growing at

Gifts $50.00

to make Christmas Magic. you would think record speed, it’s unlikely that the clothes you

incidental $25.00

grown-ups would know better. buy will wear out before they are out-grown.

helping kids create expectations you can taking your child’s used clothes to a second-

manage is an important part of learning hand store is a great way to build up credits demi - 12mths $100.00

about how to make the most of what you for when you need to get little Missy a new swimming $25.00

have, as opposed to always wanting more, leotard for dance class.

Clothes $75.00

more, more. Suggest your kids make a list

of four or five things they’d like as gifts. take advantage of What’s free

Make it clear that it isn’t your intent to buy freeing up money you would spend on family

everything on the list, but they’ll get at least entertainment also means you’ll have more There are lots of other expenses that may

one or two things. now your children know available for priorities like tutoring or com- be claimed on your tax return to mitigate

what they can expect and it isn’t the world. petitive dance. There are lots of things you can your kid-costs.

and you can create a shopping list that fits do with your kids that cost little or nothing. • If you’re paying for a babysitter, day-

within your budget. Pass on the high admission prices at local care, nanny, boarding school or camp,

attractions and go exploring neighbourhood you can very likely claim child care

Shopping Smart Saves parks with your family. take advantage of free expenses. The person with the lower net

toys and electronics are often at the top of municipal pools in the summer and the skat- income should make the claim to get the

kids’ lists and tend to be big money-eaters. ing rinks in the winter. visit the local museum biggest benefit. Make sure you have the

But there’s no need to hit a fancy toy store or or art galleries on free admission nights to proper receipts with the business infor-

high-priced electronics store to make magic. introduce your kids to the arts and history. mation or the personal information and

your little mites won’t wonder how much Sin of the child care provider to make

you paid for that bucketful of lego you Be Smart on your taxes this claim.

found at the garage sale. and who cares if Some parents struggle with meeting their kids’ • If your child participates in any fitness

Barbie doesn’t come in a fancy package if she needs while staying afloat financially. if you’re activities – everything from hockey to

does comes with a boxful of clothes, all from a single parent, or your family is living on one soccer, swimming to gymnastics – you

a local toy-trade. Many electronic stores income, make darn sure you’re claiming the can claim the child fitness amount of up

have refurbished options that are a fraction eligible dependant amount on your tax return.









BIRTH OF A MOTHER HOLIDAY 15

to $500 per year per child 16 and under. did, cutting back on the hours i worked,

The activity has to be ongoing for a mini- choosing to work when my children were

mum of eight weeks or a camp that is a asleep, and creating a schedule that let

minimum of five consecutive days. me spend as much time as i could with

• If you buy a bus pass for your eligibly them. We sacrificed fancy furniture and

dependant child, you can claim it on your vacations in those early years. and my

return. Since the bus pass itself is not a entertainment was sitting and watching

receipt, you’ll need the receipt provided at my kids learn about the world. Those

the time of purchase. were some of my happiest years. We had

• Your kids’ medical expenses form part a ball together. i shopped garage sales

of your claim for medical costs and there and second-hand stores, shared what i

is a long list of approved expenses that in- had with friends, and chose one activity

clude things like prescriptions, eye exams at a time for my kids, so they weren’t

and glasses, and dental work. overwhelmed and i didn’t go broke.

• If your kids are away at college or uni- it’s all about the choices we make and

versity, their tuition may be transferred to about figuring out what’s most important

you if they don’t have enough income to so we can prioritize those choices. kids

make the full claim. don’t arrive in designer labels, and they

don’t much care about stuff until some-

now and the future one teaches them to be concerned about

Speaking of college and university, your what other people think. avoid that bul-

kids’ budget should include a regular let, and you can save yourself a fortune!

amount set aside for educational savings.

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kids are expensive, no question. When

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But i could make adaptations. and i









16 BIRTH OF A MOTHER HOLIDAY

Pet Safety & holidays

FROM CHOCOLATE TO TInsEL:

BY BETH BARETT, DvM









Christmas has always been a favorite time have been sprayed thoroughly with these

creatitis is very painful and can be life-

of year for me, and i look forward to so products, so i would not rely upon them

threatening to your pet, often requiring

many things about it- like decorating , to protect my pets from a poisonous

significant time spent in clinics under

entertaining guests, traditional Christ- plant. Christmas potpourri can contain

intensive care. it is imperative that food

mas feasts, and i especially like watching products that are toxic, so i keep these

be kept out of reach, and that partially

my two boys enjoy every minute of the in containers with lids with holes, rather

eaten plates of food are removed im-

season. What i don’t like are emergency than in open bowls on surfaces where

mediately if pets are around. Cooked

trips to the vet clinic (even if you own a they might be eaten or spilled by our

bones from Christmas turkeys are brittle

clinic, you don’t want to spend Christmas pets. We don’t use artificial snow on our

and prone to splintering, which can cause

day there!), cleaning up messes, stress- windows, but if we did i would place it

deadly punctures in the intestinal tract.

ing about a loved pet who is unwell, and only on a top pane where it would be

although we are always careful about

missing out on holiday time because of inaccessible to pets. Christmas always

how we manage food and our pets, we

unplanned crises. like most people, i means chocolate oranges in my family,

are especially vigilant during the holidays,

also worry about money, and an unex- and Golden retrievers think chocolate

since there are often extra cooks in the

pected bill for medical treatment of a pet oranges are edible toy balls. Chocolate

kitchen and more people eating in the

would be difficult to absorb during this contains theobromine, a substance which

house. This translates into more chances

expensive time of the year. can be poisonous to dogs, so i take care

for errors since other people may be less

to make sure that it is well out of range of

in tune to the precautions we take with

My boys and i share our home with five the dogs.

our pets. Garbage containers need to be

Golden retrievers, two cats and a lizard.

securely closed and emptied frequently.

in order to maintain my sanity during the another potentially harmful substance

look out for hazards when decorating

holiday season, i have learned some strat- found around the home during the festive

egies to minimize the chances of injury, season is alcohol. Partially consumed

i love scented candles, but i am very care-

incident, or illness while still enjoying drinks left sitting around may be finished

ful about leaving them out- even when

the festivities. here are some of my top off by a curious critter, and due to their

unlit. The aroma of some candles can be

techniques for preparing for a safe holiday smaller body size a pet can be harmed by

attractive to dogs, and candle wax is not

season with our pets. a relatively small amount of alcohol- a

easily digested by the canine intestinal

avoid potentially toxiC or irritat- standard one ounce drink would contain

tract. if swallowed, this could form a

enough alcohol to induce alcohol poison-

inG prodUCts blockage which might require surgery to

ing in a small dog.

remove it. When lit, the candles can be

Some of the classical Christmas plants can a fire hazard if investigated by a curi-

While not toxic in the classic sense of

be poisonous for pets. Poinsettias, holly, ous pet, so i am extremely careful about

the word, many of the rich foods that we

mistletoe, ivy, hemlock and Christmas where i put these and about making sure

consume during holiday gatherings are

cactus are all toxic or irritating to pets they are never unattended.

high in fat. These can cause vomiting,

in varying degrees if they are eaten. We diar- rhea or pancreati-

avoid these plants, or make sure they are When decorating, we avoid tinsel and

tis in dogs.

located in places where our pets do other foil garlands, as well as ‘angel hair’.

Pan-

not have any access to them. Cats seem to be attracted to these types

Some people use bitter apple of materials, and they can cause severe

sprays on potentially toxic intestinal problems requiring surgical

plants to discourage pets correction. i have also seen tinsel and

from eating them, but garland string become caught around

i have seen pets chew a cat’s tongue when the pet tries to

on bandages which swallow it. This usually requires









BIRTH OF A MOTHER HOLIDAY 17

intervention to remove it, and can be life them in pieces of PvC piping or tape

threatening if a laceration occurs in the them to a wall or floor. of course, one

esophagus. We have also learned to avoid must always be sure that whatever you do

any garlands made with popcorn or other does not pose a fire hazard.

foods, unless they are placed well out of

reach. in my opinion, putting any- When wrapping presents, we keep ribbon,

thing food related on a tree is asking for tape, paper, glue and little decorations out

trouble, because one of the animals will of reach of the pets. These can all pose

want to get at it, and most likely a tree is risks of intestinal obstruction if the critters

going over in the process. i learned this pick them up off the floor, or pull them

the hard way after we were given some off of presents we have already wrapped.

“cookie tree decorations” for my children. our young dogs are not “present-proofed”

i was skeptical, but finally gave in to my and think that every present is probably

son’s requests to hang them on the tree. meant for them, and they don’t believe in

although we placed them high up in the waiting for Christmas morning. for that

tree, the results would have been disas- reason, i often have presents stored out

trous had we not been watching- needless of reach. We put the bulk of the presents

to say we quickly removed them and ate under the tree on Christmas eve. as the

them ourselves. dogs get to be adults they learn the rou-

tine and know that they are only allowed

We try not to put decorations on the to open presents when and if they are

bottom branches of our tree, and we do given to them by us. however, as puppies

not use decorations that might shatter and young adults we don’t trust them to

into dangerous glass shards if they fall differentiate between my son’s electronic

of the tree. Decorations are placed on gadgets and their chew toys, so we avoid

the tree using ribbons rather than metal any potential drama by making sure the

hooks, which pose a serious hazard if goods are out of reach.

swallowed. Some pet owners choose not

to decorate a tree at all, which might be tired pets are Good pets

the safest plan of all. in my family we although things get hectic and over-

opted to continue the Christmas tree whelming during the holidays, it is

tradition, but we don’t leave the dogs near important to remember that one of the

the tree unsupervised, and at night i ken- best ways to prevent problems for a pet is

nel them so that no accidents can occur. to ensure that he or she gets enough at-

tention and exercise. Pets can get stressed

We also sweep up any shed needles daily, by the activity, the extra people, and the

since dogs and cats will eat them occa- disruption of routine- all the things that

sionally. The cats we have now are older cause us holiday stress too! ensuring

and not really interested in the tree, but that my furry friends get lots of play and

when we get a kitten again we will make exercise is one way to help minimize their

sure she is locked away from the tree interest in the tree, the gifts, the decora-

when not under direct supervision. tions and the pace of Christmas. once

they have had a good long run, they are

Strands of lights and extension cords more inclined to snooze than to look for

can provide another hazard to dogs since trouble!

they can become tangled in them. The

chaos that results from a dog pulling Dr Beth Barrett owns and operates

over a decorated tree, dragging it across a Barrett Veterinary Practice just outside

room, and then getting a serious electrical Calgary, Alberta. She can be reached

shock when it bites the cord is the stuff at drbarrettvet@gmail.com

that holiday disasters are made of. i have She celebrates Christmas with her sons

heard of these incidents from clients, so Jeffrey and Mark, and their five Gold-

i try to ensure all our cords are kept well ens, two cats, and one lizard.

out of reach behind our furniture. in

some homes, it would be easier to secure





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gOIng gREEn!









Dreaming of a Green Christmas?

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for those of us to whom organization dangerous for pets and interferes with com has instructions for making adorable

doChristmas is, no doubt, the most recycling. reusable tags.

wonderful time of the year but for Mother

earth-maybe not so much. Christmas is Who doesn’t love the lights at Christmas Millions upon millions of greeting cards

a time of phenomenal consumption of time? They’re such a big part of the holiday are manufactured, bought and shipped

resources. from the oil needed to ship but not very green. There is, however, a all over the world, which equals a lot of

goods around the world right down to the great alternative—leD lights! They are trees and oil. Since trees provide the planet

paper in which we wrap our gifts. safer, use less electricity and last ten times with oxygen and so many are cut down

longer than regular light strands. also, during the holidays, this is a great time to

This doesn’t mean we should just give up if one bulb goes out, the rest will still start sending electronic greeting cards.

on Christmas, though, because there are a work—no more tedious searching for the

lot of little things we can all do that can bad bulb! reduce your carbon-footprint by staying

make a white Christmas green! home this holiday. also, less travel means

When making your shopping list, consider more money in your pocket! if, however,

let’s start with the centerpiece of a tradi- giving more durable higher quality gifts you must travel, consider taking a train.

tional Christmas...the tree. Green experts that will last, experiences instead of mate- no driving, no stress and no airport secu-

say you should not buy an artificial tree. rial things, second-hand items such as rity headaches.

They can contain a variety of toxic chemi- antiques or books, charitable donations

cals, the manufacturing process contributes and edible gifts that you can make or buy and finally, choose dishes and cloth nap-

to greenhouse gases and they are generally locally. oh, and when you go holiday kins over disposable dinnerware at your

not recyclable. shopping, don’t forget your reusable bags! holiday meal and try to source as much

of your food locally. if you can also get it

a real tree complete with roots that can be for your gifts, consider wrapping with organic, so much the better!

replanted after the holidays is ideal but not recycled papers, fabric bags and reusable

practical for most of us so a real cut tree boxes. also look for natural ribbons made These are just a few of the ways you can

is best and if you can get it locally, even from cotton, silk, hemp or bamboo (con- begin to green your Christmas celebra-

better! after the holidays, go to earth911. ventional ribbon is made from petroleum) tion. There are many more things you can

com to find out how to recycle your tree. and use recyclable tape. Some fun ideas for do, depending on your comfort level, be

oh, and please—Don’t use tinsel. it’s wrapping include maps and comics from creative and spread the joy of a Greener

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Sibling rivalry erupting?

suRvIvIng THE CHAOs

BYMELAnIE gusHnOwskI, B.sC.,

www.BRILLIAnTBEgInnIngs.COM









it’S the holiDay season; a joyous how could something so annoying be •Monitor patterns in your children’s

time of peace and quality family time. beneficial to my child’s development? fighting. look for motives behind your

your children play all day in the snow Children learn an important aspect children’s behavior. are they doing

and come inside to warm up with a cup of social development called conflict it because of boredom, attention or

of hot chocolate. you catch up on your resolution when they interact with their frustration? in order to come up with

baking while they play in the playroom siblings. Through conflict, children learn a plan of action it is important to know

with their new toys. everyone enjoys how to negotiate, problem-solve and the underlying cause of the problem.

their time together and you wish their communicate their feelings with their This will help you facilitate the problem-

holiday break from school was just a wee peers. another vital lesson children solving process with your children. if

bit longer. learn is that the world isn’t necessarily you anticipate the problem, you will be

“Mom, amanda’s annoying me”, fair. This is a very important and bitter able to plan for them a lot better.

“Dad, Cole is in my room and lesson to learn because life is full of

i don’t want to play with him”, inequities. Sibling rivalry provides a safe •Give specific DireCtionS. Direc-

“That’s my book…no, it’s mine…no, and supervised haven for children to tions should be different than family

mine…no, Mine!” learn how to resolve their disagreements rules. They should be observable behav-

with others. iours that you expect from your children

argh! you wake up from your pleasant in different situations. an example of

daydream to the sound of your children one of the most effective strate- this would be going to the library. for

bickering yet again. Why can’t they just gies in parenting is prevention! There example “When we are in the library

get along? tis the season to be naughty is a variety of things you can do prevent we use our quiet voice, sit on the chairs,

seems like a more appropriate statement the conflict from starting. to promote a and keep our hands and feet to our-

for the holidays and you find yourself positive family environment you can do selves”. This helps set up your children

substituting the words of Silent night the following: for success because they know what you

with “all WaS calm; then it turned are expecting!

into a fight”. Daily squabbles, tattling, •Model effective ConfliCt resolution

hitting, and whining seem more like strategies for your children. it is impor- • Catch your children being good. Tell

your harsh reality than drinking a cup of tant that you and your partner model your children how much you like how

eggnog around the fireplace. respectful conflict resolution strategies. they’re interacting when they are playing

it is ok for adults to disagree with each nicely. “i really liked when you played

Sounds familiar? if you have more than other and have conflict. however, if you tea party together and took turns pour-

one child you have probably heard these are swearing, shouting and slamming ing the tea”, “Thanks for taking turns

words many times. it can be frustrating doors, it is going to be hard to convince playing computer”. This labels the

and upsetting to watch and hear your your children to do different! behavior that you want to see from them

kids fight with one another and a house- and increases the likelihood you will

hold that’s full of conflict is stressful for •Establish family ruleS. have your see it again. it also sends out a message

everyone. however, rest assured sibling whole family create rules as well as that you still love them when they are

rivalry is not only universal but also consequences that promote respect and fighting and love is not contingent on

normal! Thankfully research has shown common courtesy to each other. This whether they are “good” or not.

us that that sibling rivalry is a sign of a will help your children understand what

healthy family and even beneficial for is acceptable and unacceptable and • Have special time with each of your

your children’s social development. promote taking responsibility for their children. let each of your children

actions.









BIRTH OF A MOTHER HOLIDAY 21

know that they are loved, important, shows them that if they cannot get along,

needed, and safe within the family. there are natural consequences to their

have fun and play with your children behavior.

and ensure there is a positive tone to

your time together. have special play When conflict escalates

dates with each of your children so they When the rivalry progresses to excessive

understand how special they are. physical or verbal violence or when

the number incidents of rivalry seem

in spite of all your efforts to create a excessive, take action. The best way is to

positive family environment, your chil- separate them and follow through with

dren will fight! natural consequences.

The best way to deal with escalating

remember your job as a parent is not conflict is:

to solve your children’s problems, but to

teach them how to solve them. • Take command of the situation. De-

Minor squabbling are the daily inter- scribe the conflict in non-judgmental

actions that drive you crazy but don’t terms and explain what will be done to

necessarily need a referee! The best way stop it and why. remind them they had

to deal with these daily interactions is by a choice and they chose not to resolve the

tuning them out. remind yourself that problem.

this behaviour is normal and that they

need to learn how to resolve these issues • Separate your children and let them

to become confident and competent defuse their anger. Give them quiet time

adults. When they come to you crying to reflect on the conflict and come up

or complaining about the situation, turn with solution.

the problem back to them and encourage

them to figure out the problem. • Follow through with logical conse-

The best way to do deal with the situa- quences. Make sure this is related to the

tion is: behavior! (ex. fighting over videogames

• First acknowledge their anger “I can means turning off the video games for the

see that both of you are angry. you both evening). The purpose is to not punish

want to play the video game at the same them for their behavior, but show them

time”. that their behavior has outcomes.

• Let them know you are confident in

their problem-solving skills “i trust that •Remember if you don’t follow your

you can find a way that both of you can words with actions, they will mean

take turns playing the video game”. if nothing. The focus should be on conflict

necessary, remind them of the family resolution.

rules or specific directions for the activity

they are participating in “remember after the emotions have diffused it is im-

our agreement that when you play video portant that you discuss their feelings and

games you are allowed to complete 2 appropriate way to deal with the conflict.

levels before switching partners”. remember this is a learning opportunity!

• If this doesn’t seem to work you can The purpose it to problem-solve and learn

give them a warning and a choice to effect conflict resolution strategies!

resolve the issue. “if you cannot find

a way to play video games together, i DurinG thiS holiDay season take

will have to shut it off for the rest of the time to enjoy the many opportunities

the evening. it’s your choice. take turns to teach your children effective ways to

playing video games or lose the privilege resolve their differences. With persever-

of playing them”. This gives your chil- ance, one day you will be able to enjoy

dren an opportunity to have control over that eggnog around the fire conflict free!

the outcome of the situation but also



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top

toys

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{BaBy}



Funky Farmyard activity Gym by skip hop

our whimsical, graphic activity mat has soft arches and

matching quilted tummy time pillow. 12 easy-to-hang

loops and 5 hanging toys offer irresistible multi-sensory play

for baby at every stage of development. Plush textures and

squeaky sounds on the mat surface add to the fun!

Polar cuddle cub by cloud B

www.skiphop.com

Made using eco-friendly Soy fibers,

Polar Cuddle Cub’s soft shivers create a

nurturing tactile sensations that warms

the heart and calms the senses. Polar

Cuddle Cub’s soft and unique rhythmic

vibrations will soothe and comfort your

Baby walker by Plan toys

child, creating an ideal read time envi-

the specially designed handle on this funky

ronment. he has vibration device with

walker can be adjusted to different heights

2 gentle rhythmic options, has time and

and stiffness for stability and child safety.

hug activation options , Memory foam

this set comes with coloured and natural

hands and feet. Storybook and adop-

blocks for playtime fun!

tion certificate included. as with any

available at Livingstone and Cavell extraor-

stuffed animal, please do not place in

dinary toys

the crib or leave baby unsupervised.

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shape sorter by dandelion

this is a classic toy with a fresh new design, with

soft textures, and assorted sounds to enchant your

baby while developing fine motor and sensory

skills. all Dandelion products are packaged in recy-

cled paper sleeves and printed with vegetable inks.

the organic cotton Sorter is machine washable

and the shapes are stuffed with corn fibres with no

petroleum polyfill. find at bo bébé stores and

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{BaBy}

monkey tunes window shade

Keep babies entertained and protected from

the sun as they ride in the car with a funny

monkey that spins around as music plays and

lights blink. this shade includes a remote

control that attaches to a car’s visor so that

the driver can control the action--perfect for

soothing a fussy baby. available at Gracie and

Gruff fine toys









rody Pony by ledraplastic

rody is not only fun, colourful and

durable, therapists use the rody

for vestibular stimulation which is

the foundation for developing skills

such as language, memory, jump-

ing, and running. rody is made

in italy by Gymnic and is soft and

sturdy. Simply add more air as your

child grows and rody grows too.

Baby stella still a softy!

available at Livingstone and Cavell

Manhattan toy created this adorable plush baby several

extraordinary toys and rodytoy.com

years ago and she continues to be a hUGe crowd pleaser

for 12mth and up age set. She is uber soft and cuddly, and

copes with her own magnetic soother. there are many ac-

cessories to choose from including the new ballerina outfit,

pyjamas, a rocking horse, a bath tub, high chair, cradle and

stroller! She is a must-have for toddlers who enjoy stuffies

or other babies. our editor has a 6yr old who received her

Baby Stella on her 2nd birthday and she apparently goes ev-

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Babies have

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{toddler} Flip & tip Fred by wow

fred is your friendly recycling truck;

use his bucket to tip waste into the

truck or sort the bins & flip them into

the rear. Drive off using his powerful

friction motor with realistic engine

sounds. Watch the automatic waste

crusher spin then slide open the

clicking door to empty the truck.

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yookidoo discovery Playhouse

hours of stimulating play and a perfect

hide-away! activities on both the inside

and outside encourage physical and

cognitive development through rewarding,

imaginative play. Big and roomy—perfect

for cooperative play between multiple chil- Beginner Patterns Blocks by melissa and doug

dren. Constructed from folding frames with a perfect first manipulative! five two-sided

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Controlled indulgence

FEAsTIng FInE TunED!

BY sARAH REMMER, RD, CDE

REgIsTERED DIETITIAn AnD CERTIFIED DIABETEs EDuCATOR





The holidays are fast approaching… and neeD to have. Don’t waste your calories servings of veggies per day (1 serving being

so are those tasty tempting holiday treats on things that you don’t absolutely love. 1 cup of raw veggies or a ½ cup of cooked

we love so much! The holidays are filled tune into your true hunger cues: Don’t vegetables). to achieve this, make sure that

with family dinners and holiday parties eat for the sake of eating or just because it at either your lunch or supper, half of your

all presenting opportunities to indulge. is in front of you. take small samples of plate is covered with veggies. This is best

as the season approaches, many of us are appetizers and treats for taste, but don’t achieved if you have 1 cooked veggie and

expressing a bit of panic about staying go overboard (after all, you want to save one raw veggie. for example, have steamed

in control over the holidays. “how do i room for dinner!). for bigger meals, take asparagus as well as raw carrots and dip.

avoid gaining weight?” or “how do i stay a smaller portion to begin with and then or, make a big spinach salad and have

on track with my weight loss program?” go back for seconds if you are still hungry. butternut squash soup to start. Be creative

are common questions. There is no doubt eat slowly and enjoy the company around when it comes to veggies. try a new festive

that you will be faced with some difficult you. take time to savour the wonderful recipe each week to ensure variety. Believe

and tempting situations over the holidays. tastes of holiday foods. Pause in between it or not, vegetables can be delicious! try

in response to theses questions, i respond each bite to reflect on how wonderful it something different like grilled eggplant or

“take a break and enjoy yourself!” Think tastes. remember, you can always have roasted turnip, fennel and parsnips. try to

about it this way: The holiday season lasts leftovers (toasted turkey sandwiches) the include at least 3 different colors of veggies

about 2 weeks. There are 52 weeks in a next day. Being uncomfortably full after and fruit per day. This will help you to

year. This is only 3.8% of the year. enjoy! turkey dinner is not fun. eat until you’re receive a variety of nutrients.

This of course does not mean that the comfortable, not stuffed. Create a hunger

holidays should be a free-for-all and that and fullness meter in your head using the have a weight-maintenance goal: above

you should binge on nanaimo bars for number 1 through 10. 1 means that you all, do not set a weight loss goal for over

two weeks; it means that you should allow are absolutely famished and 10 means that the holidays. it won’t happen and it’s an

yourself to indulge in the holiday treats you are stuffed. try to stay around 4-8 unrealistic expectation. let’s be realistic- the

that you love without feeling guilty- in throughout the day. 4 meaning that you holidays are no time to be counting calories

moderation. here are a few tips to stay in are feeling subtle feelings of hunger and 7 or sticking to a rigid diet plan. The holidays

control while indulging over the holidays: being comfortably full. are meant for celebrating with family and

friends (and we all know that food is a big

Be mindful instead of being mindless: Don’t forget your veggies! This healthy part of this). food is not only our fuel,

Continue to be mindful about what you food group often gets tossed aside during but it is also comforting and makes us feel

are eating and how much. remember to the holidays. veggies are packed full of good, and it’s a way to honour tradition

make sure that you’re meals are balanced vitamins and minerals and antioxidants. and custom. There are 52 weeks in a year- 1

(always include a grain or starch, a source They are also full of fibre and therefore or 2 weeks is not going to make or break

of protein and vegetables or fruits). This help to keep us fuller longer. Most people your weight. if you do set a goal for over

will help to control your blood sugar and should be getting a minimum of 4-5 the holiday season, set a maintenance goal.

your cravings throughout the day. for Maintaining your weight over the holidays

dessert, choose one or two things that you is the same as losing a couple of pounds in

my books!









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the PumPkiN Pie swirled BrowNie tart

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2 rolls Pillsbury pie crust, thawed (or use your own pie crust recipe)



2 boxes brownie mix (8×8 inch size)



1 Cup pumpkin, from can like libby’s



1/4 Cup granulated sugar



1/4 Cup evaporated milk



1/2 teaspoon cinnamon



1/4 teaspoon nutmeg



1 egg beaten



4 oz softened cream cheese



1/2 Cup powdered sugar



1 tablespoon milk



1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon







1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees f. unroll pie dough from packaging and

press into 2 tart pans with removable bottoms or 2 pie pans work just

fine too. if you are using a pie pan make sure it’s not a deep dish style,

the brownie mix will not fill to the top. With a fork, poke holes into

the bottom of each crust then bake the pie crusts for 15 minutes then

remove from oven. Prepare each brownie batter according to package

directions. Pour each of the mixes into your tart or pie pan.



2. in a large bowl beat the pumpkin, sugar, milk, cinnamon, nutmeg

and egg until well combined. Divide into 2 equal parts and dollop

spoonfuls over each brownie pie. take a knife and carefully swirl pump-

kin pie into brownie batter without over swirling. you should see swirls.

Be careful not to run your knife too far down tearing the crust. Bake for

35-38 minutes or until a toothpick comes out nearly clean when poked

in the center of the brownie pie. remove and let cool completely before

slicing.



3. in a large bowl mix the cream cheese, powdered sugar, milk and cin-

namon until smooth and creamy. Place dollops over each slice of pie.

Serve with a tall glass of milk, enjoy!

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HOw LOng AFTER THE BIRTH OF in order. i truly thought “the girls” might breast more often and using a breast pump

explode! your breasts feel full, heavy, hard can stimulate supply. also, make sure you

A BABY DO YOu nEED TO wAIT

and often very sore. Thankfully this usu- are eating healthy foods and drinking a lot.

BEFORE COnCEIvIng AgAIn? ally correlates with when your newborn is if your body doesn’t have the stuff to make

starting to be a bit more awake and ready milk, it can’t. although not always within

This depends on whether you had a to help out with this new abundance of our control, minimizing stress improves

vaginal delivery or a Cesarian section. if milk. if you wee one can’t keep up, jump- milk supply too. if those things don’t

it was a vaginal birth, you are good to go ing into a warm shower to help express improve your supply, there are very effec-

as soon as the bleeding stops after your some milk can help. otherwise the above tive and safe medications. They include

delivery – usually about four weeks. and mentioned breast pump can feel like a life fenugreek (an herbal) and Motilium (a

if you are ready to conceive that soon, you saver. Just don’t pump too much or your prescription.) talk to your health care

are a braver woman than i! if you had a C body will think you’ve had twins and will provider about which one would be best

section but want to try a vaginal delivery up the production even more. The key is for you. lastly, a poor latch can decrease

next time, it is best to wait about a year to pump or express enough just to relieve milk supply because the breast doesn’t

following your delivery. The reason for the pressure. get stimulated appropriately. a certified

this is to allow the scar enough time to lactation consultant can be a godsend in

heal well to be able to tolerate the stress this situation. Most hospitals and birthing

of labour. if you are planning to have a

wHAT IF I CAnnOT BREAsTFEED,

centres have lactation consultants available

repeat C section, you don’t need to wait a wHY DOEs THIs HAPPEn, AnD so be sure to chat with them soon after giv-

year. My last comment is that if you are wHAT CAn I TRY? ing birth to get started on the right foot.

breast feeding, you may not be ovulating

regularly so that although you might be first of all, let me say that nearly ev- a final note: if you do try everything and

ready to conceive, it isn’t always as quick as eryone can breastfeed but the road to breastfeeding still doesn’t work, please don’t

that first time. success is bumpier for some. The most beat yourself up. Some of us seemed to

common reason for having difficulty have turned out just fine (eg. Me!) even

wHEn CAn I ExPECT MY MILk breastfeeding is previous breast surgery though we were bottle fed.

– both augments and reductions. This is

TO COME In AnD wHAT CAn I

because sometimes the ducts may have Do you have a burning question for

ExPECT wHEn IT DOEs? been damaged during the surgery. even if our Dr. Mom? email your questions to

you’ve had surgery, please give breastfeed- askdrmom@birthofamother.com

usually milk comes in about 72 hours ing a try. Most women can still have at

after delivery, plus or minus a day. When least some success. other reasons that

it does come in the majority of women breastfeeding may not work include low

will be overwhelmingly aware of it. With milk supply and poor latch. low milk

my first son, i remember walking into the supply can happen for many reasons but

bathroom feeling fine and walking out two usually we don’t figure out what the reason

minutes later declaring to my husband that is. We do however have ways of increasing

an urgent trip to rent a breast pump was that supply. Putting your baby to your







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over the past four years i have talked to can to your wife’s work to get a refill. There are things i have discovered that i really

hundreds of people about my life as a Stay- enjoy that i wouldn’t experience if i wasn’t

at-home Dad (SahD). Most people’s re- early on, i discovered a Dads playgroup, a stay-at-home parent. for instance, i have

sponses are polite, if not positive, although which became a huge support and resource. had the chance to see first smiles, first steps,

sometimes my revelation is met with a our playgroups are pretty much like all and first words. i get a kick from calling my

blank stare, a nod, and an irrelevant ques- playgroups. We talk about the same things: wife at work to brighten her day with a funny

tion about the weather or sports. People naps, eating habits, potty training, “i can’t story about something andrew just said or

joke about Mr. Mom and Daddy Day Care, believe my child said that” stories, and did. i like the proud feeling i get when people

and just last month, someone finally asked product recommendations. We discuss fan- tell me that our children are beautiful, polite

me if i was babysitting (a first in my 4-year tasy baseball and football more than most or smart. and my son says that his favorite

SahD career). moms would. We watch our kids play. part of having me home is when i take him

Some of us are like hawks, others are more places… i do love our little adventures.

however, a vast majority of the comments laidback. although we attract a bit more cu-

people share are positive: from other dads, riosity than most other groups might (“are in addition to the parenting perks, there are

“i wish i could do that” to other at-home you a group of dads?”), just knowing that other benefits, too. i get to watch the olym-

moms, “i wish my husband could do that”. there are other dads doing what i’m doing pics, World Cup, and baseball during the day!

from Gen Xers “That’s awesome!” to the , whether i’m having a ball or ripping my i am living a coupon-cutter’s dream life, and

Greatest Generation, “your kids are so hair out, gives me confidence and an outlet i’ve become an accomplished family bargain

lucky!” The most flattering comment i ever of understanding. shopper and chef. My wardrobe never has to

received was when a former neighbor told be dry-cleaned, and i never hit traffic on my

another parent: “Josh is like my daughters’ Just before andrew turned four, we wel- morning commute.

second mom.” yep, a second mom. i was comed two foster children into our home.

pretty pleased to share that with all my dad over the past eight months we have had every day i am a parent. i just happen to

friends as an “i have arrived” kind of peak four foster children placed with us (two be a dad who stays home. our children

moment in my SahD experience. have returned home to biological families are stressful, wonderful, tiring, imaginative,

already). Currently, we have an eight- cranky, funny, demanding, and loveable. My

i began my SahD career in august 2005 month-old boy and a seven-month-old girl. wife and i are happy with the choice that

when i left my (really awesome) job to We did not always plan on fostering, but we thought was best for our family. and

stay home with my then six-month-old having me home made it a realistic possibil- now i have a really cool job --- whether it’s

son, andrew. he is now four-and-a-half; ity. Working parents can make great foster as andrew’s “Best Dad” or as my neighbor’s

the half is very important these days. i parents, but our family’s transitions and our daughters’ second mother.

was a little nervous about the transition. ability to meet these kids’ needs improved

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