ADULTERY
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• How does adultery "happen?"
• People don't just decide one day to hop in bed and be
unfaithful to their spouse
• Adultery is the culminating act of a dozen or more tiny
steps of unfaithfulness
• Each step in itself does not seem that serious or much
beyond the previous step
• Satan draws a person into adultery one tiny step at a time
• And he does this over time so that our conscience is
gradually seared
• This makes it easier to take "just one more step" thinking
such a tiny step won't hurt us
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• The following "15 steps” which analyze how adultery
"happens” are based on scores of interviews, counseling,
and correspondence with church folk who fell into
unfaithfulness
• Our question: "How did this happen... what were the tiny
steps which led to this mess?"
• While the order varied from case to case, the following is
the general progression which surfaced in most incidents
• This is not some sort of theoretical list
• These are the actual steps taken by scores of church people
who wound up committing adultery and regretting it later
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• Some of these people sobbed deeply as they shared, hoping
that their own pain and failure might save other marriages
• This information comes to you at great expense
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1. Sharing Common Interests
• "We just had so much in common, it was uncanny.”
• "She and I both enjoyed music, and we were attracted to each
other.”
• "He was so spiritually-minded... I'd been looking for someone to
share my spiritual struggles with.”
• "We both loved horses, and started riding together.”
• "We both shared a burden for the church and especially
children's work.”
• "She was the first woman I'd ever met who liked the outdoors,
even hunting and fishing -- I was fascinated!"
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2. Mentally comparing with my mate
• "My husband wasn't interested much in spiritual things, but this
man knew so much about the Bible.”
• "She was slim, attractive, and dressed sharp -- quite a difference
from my wife who didn't take care of herself much at that time.”
• "She was so understanding and would listen to me and my hurts
-- my wife was always so busy and rushed that we didn't have
the time to talk.
• "My husband just would never communicate -- he'd come home
from work and just sit there watching TV. I finally gave up on
him. Then this man came along who was worlds apart from my
husband -- he was gentile, loved to talk, and would just share
little things about his life with me."
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3. Meeting emotional needs
• "He understood how I was feeling and offered me the empathy I
was hungering for.”
• "She was there when I needed her.”
• "My ego was so starved for affirmation that I would have taken
it from anyone -- I guess that's what started the whole thing.”
• "No one had ever really believed in me until he came along. He
encouraged me, inspired me, and believed so deeply in what I
could become.”
• "My wife was busy with the kids and not at all involved with my
work. This girl admired me and treated me like I was really
somebody. It felt so good."
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4. Looking forward to being together
• "I used to dread going to work, but after we started our
friendship, I would wake up thinking of how I would see him
later that day... it seemed to make getting up easier.”
• "I would think of being with her the whole time I was driving to
work.”
• "I found myself thinking of him as I got dressed each morning,
wondering how he would like a certain outfit or perfume.”
• "I looked forward to choir practice every week because I knew
he would be there.”
• "Every time I drove by her house I would think of her and how
we'd see each other that Sunday."
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5. Tinges of dishonesty with my mate
• "When my wife would ask if she was with the group I'd pretend
I couldn't remember... right there I started building a wall
between us.”
• "I would act like I was going to practice with our ensemble, but
actually I was practicing a duet with him.”
• "Once my wife asked about her, but I denied everything, after
all, we hadn't done anything wrong yet. Now I see that this was
one of those exit points where I could have come clean and got
off the road I was speeding down.”
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5. Tinges of dishonesty with my mate (cont.)
• "Whenever we got together as couples I would act like I didn't
care about him, and afterward I would even criticize him to my
husband. I guess I was trying to hide my real feelings from my
husband."
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6. Flirting and teasing
• "I could tell from the way she looked at me. She would gaze
directly into my eyes, then furtively glance down my body then
back into my eyes again -- I knew then that she was interested in
more than my friendship. But, I was so flattered by her interest
that I couldn't escape.”
• "Then we started teasing each other, often with double-meaning
kind of things. Sometimes we'd tease each other even when we
were together as two couples. It seemed innocent enough at first,
but more and more we knew it really did mean something to us.”
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6. Flirting and teasing (cont.)
• "We would laugh and talk about how it seemed like we were
"made for each other" so much. Then we'd tease each other
about what kind of husband or wife the other one would have
been if we'd married each other.”
• "He had those killer eyes. When he'd look at me in that "special
way" I would just melt. It was hopeless fighting my urges -- he
had me."
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7. Talking about personal matters
• "We would talk about things -- not big things, just little things
which he cared about, or I was worried about.”
• "We'd meet together for coffee before church and just talk
together.”
• "I was having problems with my son and she seemed to
understand the whole situation so much better than anyone else I
talked with. I'd tell her about the most recent blow-up and she
would understand so well. We just became really deep friends --
almost soul-mates. That's what's so weird about all this -- we
never intended for it to go this far."
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7. Talking about personal matters (cont.)
• "I had lost my Dad just before we got to know each other and he
had lost his mother a few years earlier. He seemed to understand
exactly what I was going through and we would talk for hours
about how each of us felt.”
• "I was so lonely since my husband died and hungry for someone
to share life with. Then he began to call just because he cared. I
loved hearing his caring voice at the other end of the line, even
though I knew he was married.”
• "We spent so much time together at work that I swear she knew
more about me than my wife ever did -- or even cared to know."
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8. Minor yet arousing touch, squeeze, or hug
• "He never touched me for months. Then one night after working
late, we `were walking toward the door when he said 'You're so
special, thanks for all you do..." then he turned and hugged me
tenderly, just for a second. I loved how I felt for that moment so
much that I began to replay it over and over again in my mind
like a videotape. Now I know that I should have stopped it all
right then. I never intended to ruin my family like this.”
• "She was always hanging around our house and was my wife's
best friend. Often she would stay late to watch TV, even after my
wife went to bed. She would sit beside me on the couch and I
was drawn to her like the song says... like a moth to the flame.”
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8. Minor yet arousing touch, squeeze, or hug (cont.)
• "He would often pat me on the shoulder -- you know, in
appreciation for a good job I'd done. But I knew it meant more
than that.”
• "The first time she touched me was when we were doing
registration together. We were sitting beside each other. I'd say
something cute or funny and she would giggle, then under the
table she'd squeeze the top of my leg with her hand. That was
really exciting to me.”
• "Every time she shook hands with me at the door she seemed to
linger, sort of holding my hand more than shaking it. No one
else would notice, but I knew there was more to her touch than
appeared to the eyes. She knew too."
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9. Special notes or gifts
• "He would write these little encouraging notes and leave them in
my desk, pocketbook, or taped to my computer. They didn't say
anything which could be traced. If anyone found them they
wouldn't suspect anything. But we both knew what was going
on, we just didn't want to stop yet.”
• "I would sometimes call him and leave a short message on his
answering machine. He would leave little notes in my Bible.”
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9. Special notes or gifts (cont.)
• "He would buy me a little gift -- not that expensive, but it always
showed he had taken extra thought to get exactly what I liked.
Of course everyone else thought he was just being a good boss.”
• "She started leaving unsigned notes to me in my desk sharing
her feelings for me. It scared me at first, because I thought
someone would find one. But after a while I found myself
looking forward to the next one, even though I knew the risk."
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10. Inventing excuses to call or meet
• "I started figuring out ways I could drop off something at her
house when her husband was gone. He and I knew each other
and I would always return borrowed tools in the afternoon when
I knew she'd be there alone.”
• "I would wait until the end of the workday then I'd call him just
before closing time about something I'd made up as a 'business
question' and we'd talk.”
• "The more entangled we got, the more I planned times where he
and I could practice together. We started meeting more often."
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10. Inventing excuses to call or meet (cont.)
• "She started arranging her schedule so that her husband dropped
her off at committee meetings. I would hang around and offer to
take her home, acting with as much nonchalance as I could
muster up.”
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11. Arranging secret meetings
• "By now we both were so far gone that we started meeting
secretly at the mall parking lot. It know now how foolish this
was, but I was driven by something other than good sense at that
time.”
• "We started arranging to work evenings on the same nights, then
we would leave early and meet each other in the dark parking
lot."
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11. Arranging secret meetings (cont.)
• I started making sure he knew my travel schedule so we could
attend the same conferences. We still weren't involved physically
at that time, but there was such excitement and romance to it
all... even the secrecy seemed to make it more exciting.”
• "She would sometimes call me just before lunch and we'd sneak
through a drive-up together, and then spend the rest of my lunch
hour talking quietly to each other."
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12. Deceit and cover ups
• "Once we were meeting secretly I had to invent all kinds of
stories about where I'd been to satisfy my wife. By now I had
built a towering wall of dishonesty between us.”
• "Pretty soon my whole life was full of lies. I'd lie about where I
was going, where I'd been, and who I'd been with. The more
suspicious my husband got, the better liar I became. But he
knew something was going on. It's hard to lie without people
suspecting it.”
• "I joined several groups so that I would have an excuse to be
away in the evenings."
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12. Deceit and cover ups (cont.)
• "She would ask when I'd gotten off work. I'd simply lie about it,
and she never knew what hit her. How can I ever regain her trust
now?”
• "We agreed that if anyone saw us driving around we would both
tell the same story: that my car wouldn't start, he stopped to
help, an we were going together to get a new fuse to replace the
broken one he'd discovered.”
• "By now my whole life was a lie, so I began telling them
regularly to cover up our little meetings."
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13. Kissing and embracing
• "The whole thing seemed so exciting by now. I was such a fool.
We were meeting secretly and both of us were fearful of being
caught. But that only seemed to increase our common ground.
When we'd meet, we would embrace as if we'd not been together
for years -- like in the movies when someone comes home from
the war.”
• "Once we started meeting secretly the end came fast. We kissed
and hugged like two teenagers going parking for their first
time.”
• "It just felt so good to be hugged and loved by somebody who
really cared about me."
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14. Petting and high indiscretion
• "At this point my glands took over. I forgot reason altogether
and was willing to risk everything for more.”
• "It was like I was a teenager again -- going too far, then
repenting and promising to do better; then just as quick I was
hungrily seeking more sin.”
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14. Petting and high indiscretion (cont.)
• "When my husband and I were dating we struggled with 'how
far to go.' Well, here I was again struggling over the same issue.
Friendship with this guy didn't seem so wrong. But now were
we're going further than I ever intended. But, I felt curiously
justified going exactly as far as I had with my husband when had
been dating. In a way, I think some of my resentment against my
husband's constant pressure on me started coming out. I'm not
saying that it wasn't wrong. Just that I kind of felt justified.”
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14. Petting and high indiscretion (cont.)
• "At about this time I began fooling myself into thinking I was
heroic for not going "all the way." That's what I wanted to do.
But by doing "everything but" I fooled myself into thinking I
was successfully resisting temptation. What I didn't realize was
that, not only was what I was doing wrong, but that eventually I
would take the next step. It's just not possible to freeze a
relationship -- you have to go ahead with it, or break it off
totally."
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15. Sexual intercourse
• "Soon I quit resisting and was swept into outright adultery.”
• "One thing led to another and finally we ended up in bed with
each other.”
• "Though we never intended it to go that far, we eventually went
all the way and had sex.”
• "One night we couldn't seem to stop ourselves (at least we didn't
want to) so I completed my journey of unfaithfulness to my
husband -- I had sex with this man."
Preventing Adultery
• Marriages that meet a spouse's needs are less vulnerable to
an extramarital affair
• However, the failure of men and women to meet each other's
needs is due to a lack of knowledge rather than a selfish
unwillingness to be considerate
• Meeting these needs is critically important because in marriages
that fail to meet needs, it is striking and alarming how
consistently married people seek to satisfy their unmet needs
through an extramarital affair
• If any of a spouse's five basic needs goes unmet, that spouse
becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair
• Therefore, the best way to prevent adultery is to meet all the
needs of your spouse and make your marriage strong
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s first need is for affection
– To most women affection symbolizes security, protection,
comfort, and approval
– When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the
following messages:
(1) I'll take care of you and protect you
(2) I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am
with you
(3) I think you've done a good job, and I'm so proud of you
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s first need is for affection (cont.)
– Men need to understand how strongly women need these
affirmations
– For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them
– A 15 second hug can communicate all of the affirmations
– But, affection can be shown in many ways such as: kisses,
cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding
hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone calls--there are a
thousand ways to say "I love you"
– From a woman's point of view, affection is the essential
cement of her relationship with a man
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s second need is conversation
– Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to
them; they need lots of two-way conversation
– In their dating life prior to marriage, most couples spent time
time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn't
be dropped after the wedding
– When two people get married, each partner has a right to
expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed
during courtship to continue after the wedding
– The man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an
inside track to her heart
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s third need is honesty and openness
– A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security
is the common thread woven through all of a woman's five
basic needs
– If a husband does not keep up honest and open
communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and
eventually destroys her security
– To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her
accurate information about his past, the present, and the
future
– If she can't trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation
on which to build a solid relationship.
– Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance;
instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s fourth need is financial commitment
– A wife needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs
financial support
– No matter how successful a career a woman might have, she
usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow
her to feel supported and to feel cared for
The Five Needs of a Wife
• The wife’s fifth need is family commitment
– A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a
family commitment
– The vast majority of women who get married have a
powerful instinct to create a home and have children
– Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership
role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and
educational development of their children
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s first need is sexual fulfillment
– The typical wife doesn't understand her husband's deep need
for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his
wife's deep need for affection
– But these two ingredients can work very closely together in a
happy, fulfilled marriage
– Sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough affection
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s second need is recreational companionship
– He needs her to be his playmate
– It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join
men in pursuing their interests
– They find themselves hunting, fishing, playing football, and
watching sports and movies they would never have chosen
on their own
– After marriage wives often try to interest their husbands in
activities more to their own liking
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s second need is recreational companionship
(cont.)
– If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands to
continue their recreational activities without them
– But this option is very dangerous to a marriage, because men
place surprising importance on having their wives as
recreational companions
– Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time
with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s third need is an attractive spouse
– A man needs a wife who looks good to him
– In sexual relationships most men find it nearly impossible to
appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone--there must
be more
– A man's need for physical attractiveness in a mate is
profound
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s fourth need for a man is domestic support
– He needs peace and quiet
– So deep is a husband's need for domestic support from his
wife that he often fantasizes about how she will greet him
lovingly and pleasantly at the door, about well-behaved
children who likewise act glad to see him and welcome him
to the comfort of a well-maintained home
– The fantasy continues as his wife urges him to sit down and
relax before taking part in a tasty dinner
– Later the family goes out for an evening stroll, and he returns
to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s fourth need for a man is domestic support
(cont.)
– Then he and his wife relax, talk together, and perhaps watch
a little television until they retire at a reasonable hour to love
each other
– Wives may chuckle at this scenario, but this vision is quite
common in the fantasy lives of many men
– The male need for his wife to "take care of things"--
especially him--is widespread, persistent, and deep
The Five Needs of a Husband
• The husband’s fifth need for a man is admiration
– He needs her to be proud of him
– Wives need to learn how to express the admiration they
already feel for their husbands instead of pressuring them to
greater achievements
– Honest admiration is a great motivator for men
– When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that
inspires him to achieve more
– He sees himself capable of handling new responsibilities and
perfecting skills far above those of his present level
THE ADULTERESS
NKJ Proverbs 9:13 A foolish woman is clamorous;
She is simple, and knows nothing.
14 For she sits at the door of her house, On a seat by
the highest places of the city,
15 To call to those who pass by, Who go straight on
their way:
16 "Whoever is simple, let him turn in here"; And as
for him who lacks understanding, she says to him,
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
17 "Stolen water is sweet, And bread eaten in secret
is pleasant."
18 But he does not know that the dead are there, That
her guests are in the depths of hell.
NKJ Proverbs 30:20 This is the way of an adulterous
woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says,
"I have done no wickedness."
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Proverbs 2:10 When wisdom enters your heart,
And knowledge is pleasant to your soul,
11 Discretion will preserve you; Understanding will
keep you,
16 To deliver you from the immoral woman, From
the seductress who flatters with her words,
17 Who forsakes the companion of her youth, And
forgets the covenant of her God.
18 For her house leads down to death, And her paths
to the dead;
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
19 None who go to her return, Nor do they regain the
paths of life --
NKJ Ecclesiastes 7:26 And I find more bitter than
death The woman whose heart is snares and nets,
Whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God
shall escape from her, But the sinner shall be
trapped by her.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Proverbs 7:1 My son, keep my words, And
treasure my commands within you.
2 Keep my commands and live, And my law as the
apple of your eye.
3 Bind them on your fingers; Write them on the
tablet of your heart.
4 Say to wisdom, "You are my sister," And call
understanding your nearest kin,
5 That they may keep you from the immoral woman,
From the seductress who flatters with her words.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
6 For at the window of my house I looked through
my lattice,
7 And saw among the simple, I perceived among the
youths, A young man devoid of understanding,
8 Passing along the street near her corner; And he
took the path to her house
9 In the twilight, in the evening, In the black and
dark night.
10 And there a woman met him, With the attire of a
harlot, and a crafty heart.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
11 She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not
stay at home.
12 At times she was outside, at times in the open
square, Lurking at every corner.
13 So she caught him and kissed him; With an
impudent face she said to him:
14 "I have peace offerings with me; Today I have
paid my vows.
15 So I came out to meet you, Diligently to seek
your face, And I have found you.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
16 I have spread my bed with tapestry, Colored
coverings of Egyptian linen.
17 I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and
cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love until morning;
Let us delight ourselves with love.
19 For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a
long journey;
20 He has taken a bag of money with him, And will
come home on the appointed day.”
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
21 With her enticing speech she caused him to yield,
With her flattering lips she seduced him.
22 Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the
slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks,
23 Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the
snare, He did not know it would cost his life.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
24 Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay
attention to the words of my mouth:
25 Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not
stray into her paths;
26 For she has cast down many wounded, And all who
were slain by her were strong men.
27 Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the
chambers of death.
NKJ Proverbs 22:14 The mouth of an immoral woman is
a deep pit; He who is abhorred by the LORD will fall
there.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Proverbs 5:1 My son, pay attention to my
wisdom; Lend your ear to my understanding,
2 That you may preserve discretion, And your lips may
keep knowledge.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her
mouth is smoother than oil;
4 But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a
two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
6 Lest you ponder her path of life -- Her ways are
unstable; You do not know them.
7 Therefore hear me now, my children, And do not depart
from the words of my mouth.
8 Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the
door of her house,
9 Lest you give your honor to others, And your years to
the cruel one;
10 Lest aliens be filled with your wealth, And your labors
go to the house of a foreigner;
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
11 And you mourn at last, When your flesh and your
body are consumed,
12 And say: "How I have hated instruction, And my heart
despised correction!
13 I have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, Nor
inclined my ear to those who instructed me!
14 I was on the verge of total ruin, In the midst of the
assembly and congregation."
15 Drink water from your own cistern, And running water
from your own well.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
16 Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be only your own, And not for strangers with
you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the
wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts
satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with
her love.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
20 For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an
immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of
a seductress?
21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD,
And He ponders all his paths.
22 His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is
caught in the cords of his sin.
23 He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the
greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Proverbs 6:23 For the commandment is a lamp,
And the law a light; Reproofs of instruction are
the way of life,
24 To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering
tongue of a seductress.
25 Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, Nor let her
allure you with her eyelids.
26 For by means of a harlot A man is reduced to a crust of
bread; And an adulteress will prey upon his precious
life.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
27 Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes
not be burned?
28 Can one walk on hot coals, And his feet not be seared?
29 So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever
touches her shall not be innocent.
30 People do not despise a thief If he steals to satisfy
himself when he is starving.
31 Yet when he is found, he must restore sevenfold; He
may have to give up all the substance of his house.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
32 Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks
understanding; He who does so destroys his own
soul.
33 Wounds and dishonor he will get, And his reproach
will not be wiped away.
34 For jealousy is a husband's fury; Therefore he will not
spare in the day of vengeance.
35 He will accept no recompense, Nor will he be
appeased though you give many gifts.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Exodus 20:14 " You shall not commit adultery.
NKJ Exodus 20:17 " You shall not covet your neighbor's
house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his
male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his
donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's."
NKJ Matthew 5:27 " You have heard that it was said to
those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' 28 "But I
say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for
her has already committed adultery with her in his
heart.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ 1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world -- the
lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride
of life -- is not of the Father but is of the world.
NKJ James 1:14 But each one is tempted when he is
drawn away by his own desires and enticed.
15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin;
and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
NKJ Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the
gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Malachi 2:13 And this is the second thing you
do: You cover the altar of the LORD with tears,
With weeping and crying; So He does not regard
the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill
from your hands.
14 Yet you say, "For what reason?" Because the LORD
has been witness Between you and the wife of your
youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet
she is your companion And your wife by covenant.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant
of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly
offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And
let none deal treacherously with the wife of his
youth.
16 "For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates
divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence,"
Says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your
spirit, That you do not deal treacherously."
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are
evident, which are: adultery, fornication,
uncleanness, lewdness,
20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies,
outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions,
heresies,
21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of
which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in
time past, that those who practice such things will not
inherit the kingdom of God.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ 1 Corinthians 6:13 Foods for the stomach and
the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it
and them. Now the body is not for sexual
immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the
body.
14 And God both raised up the Lord and will also raise us
up by His power.
15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of
Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and
make them members of a harlot? Certainly not!
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with
Him.
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is
outside the body, but he who commits sexual
immorality sins against his own body.
19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of
the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from
God, and you are not your own?
20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God
in your body and in your spirit, which are God's.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ 1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you
are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God
dwells in you?
17 If anyone defiles the temple of God, God will destroy
him. For the temple of God is holy, which temple you
are.
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ 1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God,
your sanctification: that you should abstain from
sexual immorality;
4 that each of you should know how to possess his own
vessel in sanctification and honor,
5 not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not
know God;
THE ADULTERESS (cont.)
NKJ Proverbs 31:3 Do not give your strength to
women, Nor your ways to that which destroys
kings.
NKJ Hosea 4:11 " Harlotry, wine, and new wine enslave
the heart.
NKJ Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is
passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall
be praised.