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									           Wise Coaching
             Tim LeBon
•   Why Wisdom, and why Wise Coaching?
•   Wise Therapy
•   The Wise Therapy Toolbox
•   From Wise Therapy to Wise Coaching
•   What is Wisdom anyway? Philosophy+
•   The Wise Coaching Toolbox


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           Why Wisdom?
       Why Wise Coaching?
•   Wisdom, encompassing both theoretical
    and practical wisdom, has been said to
    be the pinnacle of human excellence.

•   Wisdom is more than a worthy goal –
    without it other values and virtues may
    do more harm than good

•   It’s possible to be a wise coach and to
    help your clients become wiser
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Wisdom –not just a “nice to have”
• Plato’s Euthydemus – Without wisdom, the
    other virtues might even do us harm

                   “That would be a very courageous
                    decision, minister”.
•   Are the foolish better off without courage?

• Could qualities like courage & self-confidence
    that are often thought to be desirable in
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    The Wise Therapy Project
•    What are the wisest theories about
     well-being, the emotions , right and
     wrong and the meaning of life?
•    Given these answers, how in therapy
     can we best enhance people’s well-
     being, emotional state, decision-making
     and meaning?
•    Output -> The Wise Therapy Toolbox


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    The Wise Therapy Toolbox
•   Decision-Making PROGRESS
•   Values/Well-Being RSVP
•   Emotions          Stoic Therapy,
                      Existential Analysis
• Insights from philosophers
Bibliotherapy /introducing ideas
/guides for clients

•   See Wise Therapy for complete toolbox
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From Wise Therapy to Wise Coaching

•   All of these tools are relevant to Wise
    Coaching
•   Example of Danny, who had been made
    redundant and was helped by Progress
•   Helping people find their path using
    RSVP [values clarification and beyond]
•   Philosophy+: More tools for coaches


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           Wise Decision-Maker?



• “Big Phil” Scolari (a Brazilian football coach)
• Head-hunted by FA after he led teams that beat
    England in 2002 and 2004
•   Initially agreed to accept the lucrative post of
    England
•   Changed his mind after a few days exposure to
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          Wise Decision-Maker?




• William Hague, Conservative politician
• Made national news when spoke at Tory
    conference aged 16
•   Was he wise to accept the Tory leadership in
    1997?
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   Wise Decision-Making - Method

The 5 steps of Progress are:-

1) Understand the situation
2) Understand what matters
3) Search for options
4) Evaluate options in terms of what matters
5) Implement the decision

Each step is informed by philosophical ideas and
methods such as critical thinking, theories of the
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                     experiments
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    Wise Decision-Making – Case Study
    [Danny as featured in The Observer]
1) The decision: Continue career in city after
redundancy?
  The situation: Danny felt a range of emotions,
include relief about being made redundant.

2) Danny explored what mattered most through a
series of RSVP-like thought experiments
Perfect Day                    Work/home balance
Who do you admire?             Contact with ‘real’ people &
                               helping them
Rocking chair question         Learnt skills & taken on
                               challenges
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    Wise Decision-Making - Danny
  [illustration of life coaching by Tim LeBon and David
    Arnaud using Progress Decision-Making Process]
3) Danny came up with a new option, teaching
business skills & economics to sixth-formers

4) This option satisfied all of what mattered most

5) 1 year on, Danny teaches economics and loves
it. “It’s a much better lifestyle”



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RSVP – Values Clarification and
           Beyond
• Exploring values a key element to help
people find the right path

•Already a lot of good ideas in personal
development/coaching books
  e.g. Covey’s funeral oration
•RSVP integrates a lot of good ideas and
thought experiments about values into a
comprehensive and philosophically robust
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RSVP – The Good Life according
       to philosophers
• Epicurus – improve your state of mind –
happiness, feeling good

Experience Machine objection – states of the world
as well as states of mind are important

•J.S. Mill and the utilitarians – other people’s
happiness matters

• Ancient Greeks (Aristotle, Stoics) – your
character matters – what sort of person are you?
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RSVP – Coaching with Epicurus,
      Mill and Aristotle
 •J.S. Mill – What difference do you want to make
 to the world?

 • Aristotle – What character qualities would you
 like to have?

 •Epicurus – Design your ideal day in the
 Experience Machine

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 RSVP – Intregrating what’s right
     in competing theories
"If, as I believe, nearly all ethical theories
contain some elements of the truth, the best
way of constructing a viable one is to pick out
the true elements in each and build them into
one's own theory." (R.M. Hare )

Each of the 3 theories of well-being (Epicurean,
utilitarian and Stoic) took as sufficient things
that were instead necessary
Ie a good life needs sufficient happiness,
contributions and character.
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  RSVP – Creative and Critical
          Thinking
•Creative Stage
•Brainstorm candidate values

•Critical Stage
•Is there anything missing?
•Have you covered experiences, contributions and
character?
•Can your blueprint survive the following test…?


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Nietzsches’ Eternal Recurrence Test
What, if some day or night a demon were to steal
after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to
you: 'This life as you now live it and have lived it,
you will have to live once more and innumerable
times more' ... Would you not throw yourself
down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon
who spoke thus? Or have you once experienced a
tremendous moment when you would have
answered him: 'You are a god and never have I
heard anything more divine.'


                  Friedrich Nietzsche
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Groundhog Day

 Would your values survive
 reliving over-and-over again
 as in Groundhog Day?
 What would you like your
 Groundhog Day to be like?



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       What is Wisdom anyway?
                Philosophy+
a) Aristotle
• Theoretical Wisdom (knowledge, including
    knowledge of human nature, meaning and what
    matters)
• Practical Wisdom (know-how and understanding
    specific situations)

b) My Definition of Wisdom
   “Wisdom is the possession of knowledge about wha
    matters and deep understanding about the univers
    & the human condition and human nature,
    combined with good judgement and the dispositio
    to put this knowledge into action”
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       Dimensions of wisdom
• Values Wisdom
Wisdom about what matters
• Practical Wisdom
Wisdom in action
• Existential Wisdom
Wisdom about the universe & the human condition
• Emotional Wisdom
Wisdom of the emotions, motivation and attitudes
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       The Toolbox for Wise
            Coaching
1.Insights not just from philosophers but from
    psychologists and personal development
    classics. We add
• Psychology esp. positive psychology
   – E.g. coaching people to achieve flow
• Self-Help Classics – client guides
e.g. Stephen Covey, Bertrand Russell,
     Viktor Frankl, Daniel Goleman

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           Life Coaching Topics
Suggested by participants at Wise Coaching seminar, Oxford Brookes,
                             June 2006



• Letting Go- Frankl, Zen, children and animals –
    modelling attractive examples
•   Responsibility/duty
•   Stress
•   Life balance
•   Meaning
•   Emotional awareness –labelling feelings

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           Life Coaching Topics
Suggested by participants at Wise Coaching seminar, Oxford Brookes,
                             June 2006

• Assertiveness -negotiation skills,
    communication skills,courage – ASSERTIVE
    COMMUNICATION Back & Back
•   Self-awareness
•   Self-confidence
•   Fulfilment
•   Authenticity- being open, facing life – stories,
    religions, fairy stories, films

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       Life Coaching Resources
Suggested by participants at Wise Coaching seminar, Oxford Brookes,
                             June 2006

• Go Mad! Go Make a Difference - Andy Gilbert
Theme: Improving performance

• Assertive Communication - Back & Back
Theme: assertiveness/saying no

• The Power of Talking - Deborah Tannen
Theme: Women dealing with “powerful” men
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       Life Coaching Resources
Suggested by participants at Wise Coaching seminar, Oxford Brookes,
                             June 2006

• Buddhism Without Beliefs - Stephen Batchelor
• Dalai Laama (e.g. Book of Wisdom)
Themes: fulfilment/work-life balance/stress

• Krishnamurti (e.g. Total Freedom)
Themes: Challenging the self

• Lesley Garner -Everything I’ve ever done that
  worked
Themes: comfortable in own skin
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      Wise Life Coaching Books
Suggested by participants at Wise Coaching seminar, Oxford Brookes,
                             June 2006



• Now, Discover Your Strengths Marcus Buckingham,
  Donald O. Clifton
Theme:Self-awareness

• Jaworski
Theme:Authenticity

• Co-Active Coaching - Laura Whitworth, Henry Kimsey-
  House, Phil Sandahl (esp. chapter on “The Gremlin)
Theme:Building self-esteem
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         Wise Coaching



   THANK YOU
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 E-mail: tim@timlebon.com

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