Sermon Transcript — August 6, 2005
How to Overcome Loneliness
by Mr. Ken Martin
This afternoon I'd like to address a topic that certainly impacts all of us, as many times the word
of God certainly addresses subjects that are pertinent to all of our lives. As human beings, we in
the church of God have been called out of this world to become overcomers according to
scripture and overcoming covers a wide variety of areas. Not just one area, but a wide variety.
And Jesus Christ overcame this world and he told us the same way that our purpose, our function
would be to be overcomers and to overcome the world as he overcame the world. And in this
world the struggles that we go through are very common. Anyone who tries to tell us as human
beings that, well, you just don't know, you just don't understand, well, that's not true. Everybody
goes through the same set of circumstances, maybe a little different in the trials and tests, but
everyone basically is going through the ups and downs of life together. That is affirmed in the
scripture and that's why there are things to be overcome
It is so easy in this world that we live in to go downhill. The world is charged with negativity, it
goes downhill and we can just give up and quit ever so quickly, but the Bible portrays a different
picture of the Christian man and woman. It portrays us as individuals who are always climbing
the mountain, always reaching up, always going forward because, again, if we don't take that
approach to life then life can over power you and destroy you and this is something that God
does not want to happen and this is why he has addressed this matter of overcoming in the
scripture and he has given us basic ideas to help us understand what the problems that we face
and how to solve them.
One of the problems that we face as human beings and we all experience this to one degree or
another and at different times. Young people experience it, middle aged people, older people.
Nobody is exempt from this, and I'm talking about the subject of loneliness. We are going to talk
about loneliness today and how to overcome loneliness because loneliness is something that
humans experience and it's something that everyone has felt the impact of at one time or another.
For example, have you ever been in a room filled with people and yet feel all alone and the
answer is, yes, we all have at one time or another.
Now it is interesting to me, and I'd like to share with you just a little bit to show you how the
world has punctuated this very problem in the songs that we sing. The world is loaded with
commiseration in this area. So we're going to look at some of the songs. Now there was an
old-time classic, this is a standard from years ago, but it has been done by many different
performers and one that not too long ago was revived was one by Patsy Cline and Jim Reed. And
it was entitled the following...
"Have you ever been lonely, have you ever been blue? Have you ever loved someone like I love
You see, there it is again, there's loneliness involved and people identify with this. Another song
that came on the scene, it was the follow-up recording to the Canadian performer, Paul Henko,
who came out of Canada and made his first US debut, "Oh Diana." That was his big number one
seller, but his second on that made him very popular as well was one that went like this...
"Well, I'm just a lonely boy, lonely and blue, I'm all alone with nothing to do."
And then he's praying and asking that God would ascend from the heavens above, someone's in
love, he's saying, but people experience loneliness. To add to that there was a former entertainer
in the country-western field named Don Gibson, he also is deceased now I believe, but he said...
"Everybody's going out and having fun. I'm just a fool for staying lonely and having none. A
love sick fool that's blind and I can't see, oh happy me! Oh lonesome me."
Lonesome me. And people identify with those thoughts. In addition to that, we have probably the
King [Elvis] come in on the scene and he had one himself called...
"Are you lonesome tonight...?"
You remember how that song went, and of course, the one that captures a lot of people's minds
and he had a very tough life in the country field...
"I'm so lonesome I could die."
I'm so lonesome I could die. Yes, that's Mr. Hank Williams. But then there was another guy that
also kind of summarizes the essence of what we're going to talk about today named Roy Orbison.
When he came on the scene, he said...
"Only the lonely know the way I feel tonight. Only the lonely know this feeling..."
So I thought I'd give you a few impersonations and give you some things to think about, but
anyway it shows you that human beings identify with loneliness and our songs reflect it and
these individuals have sold millions of records because people say, oh there's somebody who
understands my loneliness and if you're in that situation you immediately identify with it. Well,
taking this back to the very beginning of the human family, God addressed this subject in a very
personal way when he said in Genesis 2:18, after the creation of the first man. He looked at man
and saw Adam and Adam was carrying out his business there in the garden and Adam named the
animals and what-have-you, but God watched him and then he said...
Genesis 2:18. "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make
him an help meet for him.
Suitable for him.
Then enters mother Eve. Wow. What a blessing from God. Because she wants to be the glory of
the man. She was brought on the scene because no longer was he lonely. He had someone he
would talk to, share his dreams with, his hopes, his future and that's where womankind has
complimented mankind in a very powerful and a wonderful way because men just cannot reach
their full potential and fulfillment in God's plan without the presence and the exposure to the
wonderful side of femininity as pictured by woman kind. And so what I wanted to do today is to
go over some of these basic areas that the scripture talks about in dealing with this problem
because sooner or later you will hit a wave of loneliness for one reason or another. And you will
have to deal with it and the Christian is commanded to deal with it in a certain way and we'll
address that, but we need a little bit more exploratory background here.
First of all, when people are struggling with personal problems of any kind, any difficulty that
they may be going through, maybe it's excessive drinking, maybe it's a smoking problem, maybe
it's a personal abuse problem. It may be a wide variety of things that people are struggling with.
The scripture reveals to us that people make a terrible mistake when struggling with their
problems and they don't face up to them. And how do people not face up to them? Well, when
other well meaning bring this to their attention and say, you know, I think you shouldn't be doing
this. And what does the person's response? Leave me alone, leave me alone. I can handle it.
Leave me alone, but yet we've already learned what? It's not good for a man or a woman to be
alone. So when you're struggling with problems and difficulties to be alone is not the answer to
find salvation to your problem.
Many times people make a mistake even in the church of God when they're struggling with a
problem and they say, well, leave me alone for a while, I need to just be alone and so forth and
yet that's the very last place, they need to be right smack dab in the middle of the church where
the spirit of God is operating so that they can see the help that they need.
Well, this really shows itself in the volatile teen years when teens are beginning to come on the
scene and young, rather women, begin to have all the juices flowing and you know there minds
are going and they're thinking about things and they're wanting to do things and maybe they want
to step out in an area where Mom and Dad with experience realize this is not a thing to do and so
they no you can't do that. And they say, well, why, why can't I? Or they'll say, no you shouldn't
do that, well, well everybody, why don't you just leave me alone? And that's what they'll say;
they'll thunder that back at their parents. Leave me alone and yet that's the worse thing a teenager
can do at the time when Mom and Dad are trying to reach out and help them with a critical
difficult that they sense the teen is going through at that time. So this subject really does strike
There's an old Jewish proverb that goes like this...
"Loneliness eats into the soul."
And that's true. A person when they're lonely it can have a terrifying, devastating affect. Now
before we get into a little more understanding of the background on this subject of loneliness, I'd
like to site one more group of individuals that we're probably familiar with, they're a popular
mother and daughter and act from the country western field called "The Judds." Meet Naomi and
Wynona Judd. Now they had to break up their career after a period of time simply because the
mother, Naomi, came down with a terrible case hepatitis that threatened her life. Now from my
understanding, the last that I understood is that that has been in remission or she has been healed
one way or the other and that she gives God credit for it, which is smart woman. You give God
credit for things like that. And what ends up happening is that she goes around and she talks to
groups like ourselves and others, anyone who will listen, and she tries to explain the terrible state
of affairs she nearly fell into. And it was a very bad one because when she found that she had
this hepatitis it was like being served a death sentence and her world collapsed.
She couldn't sing quite anymore, she had to finally give up singing with her daughter, which she
loved to do. She was just beautiful to watch on stage, you know, she would just dance up there
with all her femininity and so forth and sing in harmony with her daughter. There's
nothing-family harmonies in songs and singing and they we were good at it. They had many hit
records as a result of that, but now the world had collapsed. Wynona had to go on her own and
what was mother going to do? Well, after she finally came through this crisis she gave credit to
her daughter for saving her life in this way as a contribution. She gave God the ultimate credit,
but she said Wynona saved me in this way, that when I found out that I had this particular
condition the first thing I wanted to is, leave me alone. And she wanted to back away from
everything and everybody.
And Wynona noticed that and right away she begin to say, Mom, you can't do this. You're trying
to isolate yourself. You can't isolate yourself from people, Mom, you've got to stay active, you've
got to stay involved and she gave credit to her daughter in this one way. She said, the way I was
headed would have taken me down and out, but because of what she did, she helped me to
understand the difference between solitude and isolation. I thought I was asking for solitude, but
I was actually was suffering from isolation.
All of us need a little time, as we say, our little space where we can get away and think things
through. It's called solitude or meditation in the Bible where you just have to have time, quiet
time to think things through and figure out what's the best way to handle whatever it is you're
dealing with at that time. Well in this particular case she finally recognized that she had been
drawn away from everyone and saying leave me alone even to her daughter and her daughter
said, no, I'm not going to leave you alone; I'm not going to let you get that way, Mom. And it's
very important that we keep this understanding in mind the difference between solitude and
Now learning a little bit more about this subject. Loneliness is not the same as solitude. So don't
confuse the two there is a difference and let's go through and show you some of the ramifications
of this. Now what does solitude produce? Solitude is getting away, taking time to stop and think
about things. Solitude is time of reflection and it is just being involved in some enjoyable activity
such as writing, drawing, reading a book. Many people like to do things of this nature in their
quiet moments. Or maybe you saw the TV commercial where they have their quiet moments and
they like to have their international cup of cocoa or tea or whatever it may be, those types of
things, they're quiet moments.
But anyway, loneliness has a different reaction. For those of you who find yourself lonely at any
given time you are going to find yourself struggling with a spirit of dissatisfaction and you'll
have to get a grip on that fast and quick because it can really go in a direction that is not good. It
comes in different ways. There are things and I like to break it down into these categories to help
us understand. There's a thing called social loneliness. Social loneliness. We've all experience
this. When a person, say, goes to college like a young person might do or take on a new job, a
new responsibility or move to a new city, you don't know anybody. You don't know anybody at
school, you don't know anybody on the job, you don't know anybody in any place, so you feel all
alone yet you've got all of this that's going on around you. So what's the answer? You find a
friend. As soon as you find a friend it's amazing how the world changes. It just takes on a
different color all together.
It's the same way like in our youth camps. Our young people come to those camps and in sense
it's all these people around them and they maybe not know a whole lot, but as soon as they make
contact with a couple friends, bingo, the world changes. Now they see it from a different
perspective, somebody else to buddy-up with, somebody else to have fun with. So you have the
social loneliness, then you have emotional loneliness. This is something that we from
time-to-time experience and that is what? When you desperately want someone to talk to,
somebody that you can just kind of as we say "unload" and you can't do that to everybody, you
just cannot because it's dealing with emotions and emotions are very tricky things and have to be
handled with tender love and care because, again, when people are pouring out their innermost
thoughts and feelings, they want somebody who will be patient, loving and considerate not
somebody who's going to stand their and judge them, criticize them, and say well you ought to
know better than that. That's not the time they want to hear things, they want to talk to somebody
because they are lonely and struggling with something.
All right the comparison between loneliness then and solitude. What have we learning thus far?
Solitude does what? It enriches, it energizes, it makes us wow, okay, now I've got a new thought
something here can you get excited about it? Now what does loneliness do? It does just the
opposite. It debilitates, it takes away your strength and energy and causes you to feel, oh, oh,
what's the use? And that becomes a very dangerous trend. Solitude can build a desire to improve
your life while on the other side of the coin loneliness robs you of motivation. And I find that
that's quite interesting today that so many people have problems with motivation. They can't
seem to get themselves stirred up. Even the Bible tells that we are to stir up the spirit of God in
us that he has given to us so that we stay motivated in high state of mental readiness to serve
Now the church of God supplies one of these great needs for all of us by God's great wisdom. It
provides for us a support group where we are bound together in the spirit of God so that we
might learn to understand, we all experience these things, we're all having to overcome
loneliness and many other things. I mean we could add other topics, but we're talking about
loneliness alone today. And that becomes a very important area to deal with, it effects everyone.
And you have to get up to deal with it accordingly.
Now how do people react to loneliness? How do they react to loneliness? Well, they react in
different ways. They can react in loneliness by such things as a positive way or what we call
proactive way. They like to use that buzzword today, proactive. Well, how would you do that? If
you're kind of feeling lonely, well, some people go to the music and use music as a source they
turn it on the radio. If you happen to have Paul Harvey advertises a Bose wave machine then you
really get a sound of music like you've never heard before, but the price is too high, I suggest you
stay with AM and FM radio or your stereo system, it's a lot cheaper, but if you could ever afford
it they say it is really wonderful as far as the sound that is brought forth from a Bose wave
Some people enjoy just reading a book, reading a book. Here's a book, for example, that would
be most helpful to anyone it's called A Case For A Creator by Lee Strobel, a former atheist.
Reading a book like this would be very beneficial because what it would do it would give you
biblical ammunition from a scientific point of view. Not only do you know the biblical
understanding of things, but you would have scientific proof to back up shut the mouths of those
individuals who say Darwin says we all happen by accident and then you just merely quote some
of these individuals and say, you haven't got a clue my friend because the scientific community
says you're way off base on that. So that's an important aspect of these things.
I'd like to take you to a scripture first before we get too far into other aspects here. Let's go to I
John if you would. I John 5 is where we want to begin. I John 5 because this sets the tenor of
something that we want to keep in mind throughout this message today. I John 5:4.
I John 5:4. "For whatsoever is born..." or begotten it can be translated either way "...of God..."
meaning you have received the spirit of God, you have come under his guiding hand now
"...overcometh the world: and this is the victory..." Now here it defines the victory for
overcoming and we're discussing the subject of overcoming loneliness when we are confronted
with loneliness. Now notice, it says "...this is the victory that overcometh the world, [even] our
So faith becomes a critical key that has to be utilized in combating these type of things that we're
to overcome, and as we've seen, loneliness is a very powerful thing; it really can work a person
over pretty bad if they let it run amuck. Now how do people deal with it? Well, we've already
talked about active solitude and now I want to talk about social action. Social action is another
way that people deal with it. Now what we're talking about that means when you're feeling
lonely you pick up the phone and you call a friend. That's social action. You interface with other
people. You don't sit alone home, but you get on the stick and you get busy and you call a friend
or a relative, someone maybe who is even less fortunate.
When you find, you know, the old saying, you think you're in a bad state of affairs until you talk
to somebody else and you find out, hey, you're not so bad after all as to what you're struggling
with and what you think you're dealing with. So that's a very important asset, how people deal
with it. Another way is distraction. People deal with loneliness by distraction. What does that
mean? That means it's, I've got to do something to take my mind off of this thing that's making
me lonely. And so what are the kind of distractions people do? Well, some of them go for a
drive. Have you ever gotten in the car and just say, I've gotta go for a drive? A lot of people
have. You know, I got to think; I got to get away. And so they try to get away in a car and just
spend some time away from this thing that is dealing fits to them and that is, of course, what a
Some people go shopping. Have you seen the bumper sticker, I'd rather be shopping? That's a
distraction, why? Because you'd rather go buy something, rather than deal with the problem. You
might want to stop somewhere and have a bite to eat something and that's a distraction. And
people eat to distract themselves from, I feel better when I eat, we all do. That's called comfort
food. Comfort food makes us feel better and it distracts us from the problem and difficulty we're
struggling with. All right now this is the one now we want to avoid by all costs. We've seen these
other ones. See that last one? Distraction is more neutral type of action. It's a neutral action
involved. It doesn't necessarily solve the problem, but it does get you off doing something and
it's better you do something than nothing and that's where we come to the last portion here. It's
what I call sad passivity or a person becomes so passive in his or her approach that they just sit
there and do nothing.
God has not called us to sit and do nothing; he's called us to be active. He's called us to be
moving. This could be defined in the following manner. God does not want us to get on our pity
pot because the pity pot is easy to get one and once you get on it, it's hard to come off. Or you
might end up with what we call, jokingly sometimes, the wo-is-me syndrome. <inaudible>. So
what you see is basically the fact that human beings can get trapped in these areas and what God
wants us to understand is that he doesn't want us when we're feeling bad to get a downward
spiral and do nothing. There are things we've got to do and Christians are in need of responding
in positive manner to loneliness.
So let's take a look at some of these things that we want to discuss here. Now as far as how faith
operates in this whole equation and how you and I as individuals must apply these very, very
principles. When one suffers from loneliness this is a prime indicator at those moments when we
suffer at that for whatever reason that's bringing it on, it's time to investigate our relationship
with God. Why are we feeling lonely? Do we have a reason for feeling lonely? Is there
justification for it? And what am I doing about it now that I feel lonely? How am I handling this
Well, the Bible addresses and that's where we're going to get into some of these things right now,
if you'll turn with me please to II Corinthians 5. II Corinthians 5:18-20. And here the apostle
Paul shares with us a very important principle that it is our understanding of our relationship with
Jesus Christ that brings reconciliation to bring us back to God. This is necessary in our thinking
to grasp this concept.
II Corinthians 5:18-20. "And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus
Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation."
You see God is putting things back together in a harmonious fashion; he's bringing us back into a
relationship to Jesus Christ so that we understand certain basic things. There's a reason why
we're lonely. Without God in our life we're always going to be lonely. We can plug those holes
like the boy plugging the dyke, you know the old story about the Dutch boy plugging the dyke
with his fingers until finally there's too many holes and not enough fingers to go around. You
can't solve those problems apart from God. God has provided through Jesus Christ and he has
given us this wonderful gift of reconciliation through him.
Verse 19-20. "...that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world..."
This is how we are overcoming. It says...
Verse 19. "...to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the
message of reconciliation."
So the ministry is given the purpose of trying to share the understanding that God is reconciling
us to himself and there is no reason ever to feel that God does not want to have a relationship
with us. And there are people in the world and say well God doesn't love me. Oh yes he does.
More than they'll ever know. And when they make a statement like that it shows how lacking
they are to truly understand what it means that God is love, that he gave his only begotten son
and that's the critical key component because with Jesus Christ we find as it says in John, the
gospel of John 14:6, that that, he is the only way. The only way to get back into a harmonious
relationship with God and that's why we need to keep that concept in mind.
We keep Jesus' commandments, and what does that do? In John 14, let's go back there to John in
the gospel accounts in verse 21.
John 14:21. "He that has my commandments and keeps them he is the one who loves me and he
that loves me shall be loved of my Father and I will love him and manifest myself to him."
How does God's son manifest himself to us? Through the study of the Bible. The Bible is the
written word of God carrying the personification of the very life of Jesus Christ as he lived as
human being and how he had to deal with problems and difficulties in his life. Remember it says
he was tested in every point like we are, it means he had common denominators that he faced.
Does that mean that he ever faced loneliness? Oh yes. He sure did. Did he ever have times where
he went out and practiced solitude. Oh yes. Early in the morning he'd go out and pray in the
mountains before he got the busy day going. But what ended up happening in terms of Jesus,
well, he tells us very plainly that we are to keep in mind that he is the one that is our connecting
point, and in this case, verse 23 notice, he says of the same chapter...
Verse 23. "...if any man love man and will keep my words, my Father will love him and we will
come to him and make our abode with him."
That sounds like somebody else is moving in. Abode is your home. Somebody else is coming
there to be with you. To love you, to care for you, to watch over you and these are things that
world denies us today. It does not give us a clear picture of how God does this, only the word of
God gives us this understanding. We get bits and pieces from historical Christianity, but we don't
get the biblical picture from that because they are too busy teaching other doctrines and other
commandments of men that take us away from the fundamental truths of what God is saying that
there is great understanding in this area of life.
Do you remember that very popular song years ago, it starts out with "...climb every mountain,
face every ford..." well, you go onto that one and what does it end by saying? "You will never
walk alone." It emphasizes that. You never walk alone because God is too involved in our lives.
He always has been. The problem with human kind today is they can't see God. All creation
around them is shouting there's a God. Everything around us tells us God exists, but human
beings rationalize and their foolish hearts are darkened by turning around and saying this all
happened by accident. Well, again, that's where this book convinced an atheist, a confirmed
atheist, hey, there's something out there that needs to be dealt with and acknowledged. There's
just too much involved here. And so we see very plainly that God is telling us as human beings
loneliness is something to be combated and the world will bombard you with loneliness from
time to time. But you have to fight as Jesus fought, the good fight of faith to deal with that
Now if you will, excuse me, let's turn to Acts, the book of Acts 2:47. In Acts 2:47, this was the
famous day of Pentecost when a lot of material was really being brought to the fore in the first
time in the minds of many people. They were hearing an inspired message by Peter under the
inspiration of the spirit of God and it so moved those people that they took positive action; they
didn't get on the pity pot. Now you know men and brethren, what must we do if what you're
saying is true, we've got to take action, what do we do? And it goes onto say in verse 47...
Acts 2:47. Praising God and having favor with all people and the Lord added to the church daily
as should be saved."
So it is God who is adding to the church and who is the head of the church? Jesus Christ. He is
the one who is actively heading this on Pentecost and making sure that people who were being
called at that time were added to the body of Jesus Christ, a spiritual organism of which men and
women can become part of. And so down through time God has used that basic approach in
dealing with many other individuals. You and I are brought into a spiritual family for a very
special reason. We are spiritual family that needs to understand something. Notice Mark 10 if
you will. Mark 10:28-30. You know in our day and age today many times people whether they're
doing something, they will put it this way, they say all right I'll listen to you, but what's in it for
me? They want to know what's, what's going to come back to help them. But notice what Peter
said in his particular day. He says, in verse 28...
Mark 10:28-30. "And Peter began to say to him, Lo, we have left all, and have followed thee."
We've given up everything to follow you. He says...
Verse 29. "And Jesus answering said, Verily I say to you, There is no man that hath left house,
or brothers, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or fields, for my sake, and (for
the sake) of the Gospel."
A combination of understanding who Jesus Christ is and what the gospel was all about not only
about salvation, but about the coming kingdom of God whom Jesus said he went into city after
city preaching the good news of the kingdom of God. So people who now understand who Christ
is and the kingdom of God and how it is going to apply are going to inherit things. Why?
Because they will have had to make sacrifices for Jesus Christ and the truth and they have maybe
given up things, maybe relationships with their families that once were very close, but they can't
be as close as they once were. Why? Because Jesus said it himself, I did not come to bring peace.
I came to bring a sword and a man's house shall be divided in these areas. And a person will be
at variance with his own parents and his own brothers and sisters, why? They would look at
things differently that's all they saying.
They would stop and comprehend things differently and because of that difference many times
individuals do not understand where the saints of God are coming from. They think that, well,
you just don't love us anymore or you don't want to be with us that's why it is so important to set
the right example and to demonstrate that love. Not just among ourselves but to everyone we
come into contact. Let that light shine. We just don't love our own. If you do that, you're like the
Pharisees they loved their own, but they didn't love anybody else out there and Jesus kept
commenting all the time about these important ways that we translate the knowledge of his truth
into everyday life.
So Jesus then is doing what? First, by of our acknowledging him we come to recognize that we
are in a reconciled relationship with God. This brings us into a close, personal family
relationship. And that's what Jesus adds us to as we just saw in Acts 2:47. We have become part
of a family, a spiritual family. We are called a temple in some places, we're called the house of
God, but it's a spiritual family, but how would God have us respond in the final analysis in a
positive way to loneliness.
Let's take a Psalm 107. Psalm 107 if you would. The psalmist records something here for our
learning, Psalm 107:19-20. It says...
Psalm 107:19-20. "In their distress they cried to the LORD, who saved them in their peril, sent
forth the word to heal them, snatched them from the grave. "
Now it's interesting to not that when we pray to God it's important to cry out to God. If you're
struggling with problems or difficulties be it loneliness at that moment it's important to cry out,
remember that God said, what, about the Israelites when he talked to Moses. He said, Moses, I
have heard the cries of my people. You see when people cry out to God that means they're really
involved in their prayer. If it's just a passive prayer, Lord, I've got a problem here would you
please handle this, would you help me please? As opposed to Lord, please, I'm struggling with
this difficulty and it's becoming overbearing, I can't stand it, I need your strength. I need your
help. I'm crying out to you. Please Lord hear my prayer.
This is how you read the Psalms and you see how David cried out to God when he was fighting
with problems and difficulties in his life. So here again prayer to be a activating force.
Remember prayer activates the power of God and that's what it says here. When they cried out to
him, he did what? He sent forth his word. What was his word? Heal them! And when they were
in their straights as the count goes through they received healing. And so you know what did
Jesus, what does it say about that centurion? I have this servant, he needs to healed. Jesus said I'll
come heal him. He says, no Lord, just say the word. That's another way of saying send the word,
just say the word Lord, make it happen. You can do it. All things are powerful in your position.
You've got the power to do this. The authority.
So here we see then, very clearly that Jesus would have us respond positively to loneliness and
he does want us then to in any way shape or form allow ourselves to draw back and fall
backwards in terms of not listening to what he has to say. Remember Luke 18:1? It was the
parable given. It says that men might pray always. Why would Jesus keep emphasizing the
importance of prayer? To activate the power of God. If you have keys to an automobile, what's
the key for? The key activates the ignition. Once the ignition has been activated, vroooom,
you've got power now surging through the vehicle. Now it's your responsibility to use it. The
same way that key is like the key of faith and prayer. All of these things can be likened to keys,
the key in this case here we're talking about is faith that overcomes the world. So when you're
struggling with loneliness in this world you activate the key of faith and what does it do? It
causes God's power to come into play and God responds when he hears you crying out for help
through his word and he has the capacity then to do that.
All right. Let's take a look at a few other things here in Matthew 20, if you would please.
Matthew 20. In Matthew 20:25-28. Here he talks about how the world operates, how the gentiles
rule. He goes onto say, but that's not going to be you. He talks about the greatest to the smallest
and then he says in verse 28...
Matthew 20:28. "Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to
give his life a ransom for many ."
So it becomes very important for all of us to do what? To recognize that Jesus Christ took
positive action in his own life to deal with problems and difficulties he had to face. Notice John
16. This is when Jesus was faced with an ultimate loneliness in many ways. John 16:32. It says...
John 16:32. "Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to
his own, and shall leave me alone..." notice you shall leave me alone "...and yet I am not alone,
because the Father is with me."
So here we see again an awareness that the Father was with him. And you and I are told in the
same aspects of scripture that God has promised he would be with us always even to the end of
the age in Matthew 28 in the closing verses. And so you and I have to keep in mind this very
important blessing of God that when you think you're along, the truth of the matter is, you're not.
You may feel like you're alone, but that's only how you feel with the knowledge of God, you're
given the understanding that the spirit of God is with you. That God overlooks and oversees and
watches over you from day to day. He does not want us to ever get into a frame of mind where
we think he has forsaken us and yet it's so easy to do in this world, it gets lonely feelings and
there are various things that can make you feel lonely.
And you don't want to end up doing what? Turning the radio on and listening to songs like, Only
The Lonely, well, wait a second, God knows how that feeling is, he felt alone on the cross, but he
wasn't alone. He understood that the Father was there with him. But for a split second remember
what he cried out in the moment of his human agony, why have you forsaken me? In loneliness
don't people feel sometimes forsaken? Oh, yes they do. But how do you get out of that? You
have to be active. You cannot be given to isolation. I'll just mention one aspect of how the
military operates and they have to train their men in this area that when they get into situations
when they're captured by their enemy, what does the enemy try to do? They put you in isolation
to try to break you. They try to break you. They won't let you be with your friends, your
comrades. They try to pull you off to the side.
Law enforcement practices the same thing with hardened criminals, they have to, they have to
put them in what they call solitary confinement, away from everybody else and that is to do
what? To break that rebellious spirit at that point that that trouble maker is causing in, say, jail or
what have you, or prison. So anyway you and I are told that God is our helper. We're reminded
of that in Hebrews 13:5-6. And I'll close on that very scripture because that says it all. In
Hebrews 13:5-6. "Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such
things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. So that we may
boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me."
Now man can put the fear into you by doing a lot of things, but we are told don't fear men, oh,
yes, even the man that can destroy body and soul, but fear him that can destroy body and soul in
gehenna, namely God. God can destroy the matrix of life. Man can only temporary interrupt the
flow of life, but God is the one is to be feared in all things and God says, please my sons and
daughters, when you are struggling with those moments of loneliness and you'll always have
them facing you in this world, just remember you're not alone. You're not alone at all. And when
you thought you were alone remember the so-called poem that they call Footprints in the Sand?
Who was carrying who? We thought we were alone, but God has always been there because it's
been his intent to be there for us a loving parent and God wants us to appreciate that and to cry
out to him because he knows how we feel.
Jesus is our high priest. He knows exactly that feeling. So when you feel alone, when you feel
like, oh, here's one of those moments again, make sure you cry out to God and thank him for
being there because really you're never alone. You'll never walk alone with God.