SAME SEX
MARRIAGE
Lucas Mtimkhulu
INTRODUCTIONS
Same sex marriage is the marriage between
people of the same sex.
Man marries another man=gayism
Woman marries another woman=lesbianism
They are homosexual couples.
It is a great threat to the family and institution of
marriages.
The topic is inevitable as the Scripture is
undermined.
DEFINITIONS
Another word for “gay” is homosexual.
Lesbian is a female homosexual. As an adjective
“lesbian” may also describe a sexual and/or
romantic relationship between two women.
Homosexuality is defined as a deficit in the child’s
ability to relate to the parent of the same sex in
general (coupled with) a corresponding drive to
make good the deficit- through the medium of
same sex or homosexual urges.
FOUR DISTINCT STAGES
There is a change in behaviour.
There is increased self-esteem.
There is a deepening same-sex
relationship.
There is also the discovery of the
heterosexual or complementary-sex
relationship.
LEGALISATION
It is true that it has been legalised in S.A.
If same-sex marriage is legalised then
people can marry their pet.
Words like “husband/wife” “mother/father”
are meaningless
This means there is no more adoption.
No consideration is given to birth of babies.
GOD’S WORKMANSHIP.
Gen 1: 27- Created in the image of God.
Male and female He created them.
Not male and male/female and female.
He commanded them to be “fruitful”.
Male and male cannot be fruitful.
Female and female cannot be fruitful.
Male + female=multiplication.
WHAT IS VERY GOOD?
Compare Gen 1:25 with Gen 1:31
After the creation of plants and animals He
said “It is good”!
After the creation of male and female He
said “It was very good”!!
Very good because it was male and female
and not male and male or female and
female.
WHO SAID IT?
Genesis 2:18-25
The Lord God said it, no one can change it.
Rev 3:7
“It is not good”-The Creator speaking.
“I will make him an helper comparable to
him…”
Animals were brought…to no avail!
WHAT A PLAN!
Since no helper comparable was found,
God came up with a plan…Jer. 29:11
He came up with “…thoughts of peace not
of evil…for the future (creation) and hope.
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep…”
That was the first operation conducted by
God Himself.
Adam responded positively.
GOD’S FIRST OPERATION
“He took one of his ribs and closed up the
flesh in its place…” Wow!
And He made a woman (He equiped her
with a womb) and took her to Adam.
Adam acknowledged her (maybe the drug
was still on) “This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh…”
“She shall be called woman… for a reason”
A WOMBED MAN!
Womb + man= wombed man in short
woman i.e a man with a womb.
Adam gave her the name woman because
he saw a womb in her.
Reason for the name “…because she was
taken from a man.”
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and
mother and shall cleave to his wife…”
INSEPARABLY LINKED!
Mat 19:4-6- So they are no longer two…(of the
same sex)…but one (of different sexes)
“…what God has joined together, let not man
separate.”
Don’t separate (put asunder) man from woman.
“Because God created this organic union of the
two sexes, no one should desecrate His art by
cutting them apart.” (The Message)
WHAT A DISTORTION!
(Jer.29:11)
Homosexuality, fornication, adultery and
prostitution are all in the same group.
God came up with a “plan” for sex.
Animals decided to obey God’s plan.
Man decided to go his own way and defy
his maker.
This is a distortion of the Maker’s plan!
SODOM AND GOMORRAH.
Gen 19, 2Pet 2:7, Jude2
“The men…said; Where are the men that we may
know them carnally?” (v4-5)
Lot said “Please, my brethren, do not do so
wickedly!” (v7)
Lot said “I have two daughters…you may do to
them as you wish…” (v8)
“Only do nothing to these men…this is the reason
they have come under my roof.”
“Escape for your life! Do not look behind you!
Escape to the mountains (Calvary)!!. (v17)
GOD COMMANDS!
Lev 18:22
“Do not lie with a man as with a woman,
that is detestable.”
Mark 7:20-23 All these evil defiles a man!
Mat 5:27-28 You better cut it off!
We have to quote the whole Bible for
clarity!
Lev 20 Penalties for breaking the law!
PAUL’S VIEW ON
HOMOSEXUALITY. Rom1:18-32
Watch out “The wrath of God!” (v18)
They changed the glory of the incorruptible
God. (v22)
They dishonour their bodies among
themselves. (v.24)
They changed the truth of God for a lie.
V25
Lesbianism and gayism. (v26-32)
HOMOSEXUALS WILL NOT
INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD
1 Cor.6:9 “Do you not know?”
“The unrighteous will not inherit the
Kingdom of God.”
“Do not be deceived!”
Fornicators, idolaters, adulterers,
homosexuals, sodomites, thieves,
covetous, drunkards, revilers and
extortioners are all in one basket!
WHY HIV AND AIDS?
It is not necessarily a direct judgment from
God.
It is, but a devastating consequence of sin.
It is as a result of sinful behaviour.
JESUS’ SILENCE.
His fulfillment of the law is recorded in Mat
5:17-19
Adultery in the heart. Mat 5:27.
Homosexuality is the only exception for
divorce.. Mat 5:31-32.
His teaching on celibacy. Mat 19:11-12
HOMOSEXUALITY AND DEMON
POSSESSION
It is caused by demons which still exist
today, hence the existence of problems.
A person can be demon possessed.
In Greece: daimonizomai= demonized.
They can invade a Christian’s life.
Hammond says there are 53 types of
demons.
HOMOSEXUALITY AS CONDUCT
DISORDER
An impediment of psychosexual development.
This is a sign of undeveloped aspect of their
personality.
Homosexual behaviour and homosexual
orientation.
Biblical passages: Deut 23:17, 1Kings
14:24;15:12, 2Kings 23:7.
Not genetic. Dysfunctional family relationships.
Sexual abuse, incest or gay lifestyle.
HOMOSEXUALITY AS AN
ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLE
A homosexual Christian?
Caused by discrimination by society and
church.
The different cultures and periods of time.
Some churches accepts them and allow
them to worship God.
The Christian gay theology. The gay
pastor?
IS THERE A CURE OR
TREATMENT?
For the demonic possession, the cure is
spiritual and instant.
Change is possible through the grace and
the power of God.
For the emotional and/or psychological
origin, the cure would be psychotherapeutic
For a lifestyle, there is no reason to be
cured.
THE FOUR STAGES OF HEALING
1.CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR
The first step is change in behaviour.
It will produce a new perception of who you are.
Gen 4:6-7: “Why are you angry for your brother?”
A complete cutting off of all associations with gay
friends.
Eze 33:11,14,15: Obedience is very important.
Making these first steps can be traumatic but God
is faithful if only we obey.
2.SELF-ESTEEM
Establish self-esteem for yourself.
Remove the guilt of the past.
The love of God embraces you.
See the love , grace and forgiveness of
God in your life.
Accept yourself who you are.
Learn to see yourself as God sees you.
ESTABLISH SAME-SEX FRIENDS
Establish good friendship with good friends.
It is needful to heal the hurts of the past.
Forgive those members that were hurt and
ask for forgiveness from those you have
hurt.
After the heal achieve full health.
ACCEPT THE REALITY
Accept the reality about the
heterosexuality.
This can only happen when the same-sex
need has been addressed.
After accepting yourself as a member of the
same-sex gender then attraction from the
opposite sex will begin.
THE SOLUTION
Jer. 8:22, Jer. 46:11
Is there no balm in Gilead?
Why then are the daughters of my people
not healed?
Go up to Gilead and get a balm for the
healing.
All else will be in vain.
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world…”