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This week has not been a good week. Between trying to have a social life, getting my
next essay done, working on Nouse and writing this article, I think I could fairly say that
right now I am feeling a little stressed. The irony is that that is what this article is about,
stress. That little word that covers all types of causes and effects, and can reduce sane
people to gibbering wrecks in the matter of a few days. It is everywhere, and can affect
anyone, and in fact, everyone has probably felt it at some point in their lives.
Money, relationships, friends, family, a job, degree work, your health, self-image… the
list of worries that factor daily into our life is an exhausting one, and, despite most
people‟s perceptions of students as lazy, apathetic bums who roll around in the
government‟s money and sleep in until four in the afternoon, we get it pretty hard as far
as a stressful life goes. Most people I know feel like there aren‟t enough hours in the day
to please everyone and also have time for themselves. We are expected to have heaving
diaries full of parties and coffee dates, participate in at least a handful of societies and
extra-curricular activities, build up our CV with relevant work experience, not come out
of university steeped in debt, not forget about the family and friends back home which we
have deserted, be as sexually active as we dare, and also, of course, graduate from
university with at least a 2:1. Being a student today is by no means an easy option.
Luckily, stress is now recognised as a mental and physical condition, and, if you feel so
inclined, a great way to start you on the road to salvation is to self-diagnose yourself. and are two great websites for telling you
how stressed you are. Currently I‟m only scoring 11 out of a possible 20, which means I
have „pretty good control‟, but last night I was scoring a creeping 17, just on the
threshold between „Danger Zone. Watch out!‟ and „Stressed out. You may need help.‟
Most stress tests are based on a combination of psychological, behavioural, emotional
and physical symptoms. For example, tightness in the chest, muscle twitches, indigestion,
headaches and unusual bowel movements can all signify stress, as well as a loss of
concentration, lower sex-drive and mood swings. One of the most common feelings
associated with stress is that nagging thought of „I should be able to cope with this, why
do I feel like such a failure?‟ or even an irrepressible urge to run away from everything
and everyone.
Stress is biologically defined as the disruption of homeostasis by the release of hormones
in response to an outside stimulus, which can be anything from a rollercoaster ride to
anxiety about a loved one. In the short term, such stresses are healthy and normal, and
often enhance bodily functions. This is termed eustress, e.g. - a surge of adrenaline which
enables the flight or fight instinct to be effectively activated. Distress, the counterpart to
eustress in Richard Lazarus‟ model, describes a more persistent state of pressure, which
remains unresolved and results in damaging effects. The problem with stress as a medical
disorder is that it is such a wide umbrella term encompassing a huge range of triggers and
consequences, leaving it with no set definition and no set cure. As a result, the idea that
someone is „suffering from stress‟ is seen as something too commonplace and vague to
deserve any kind of special treatment. It is definitely not considered as detrimental as
many other mental disorders, and most feel that it is something to just get on and cope
with alone rather than a sign to reach out for help. It‟s a dog eat dog world after all, and
the early bird catches the worm.
So I set myself to seek out a solution. Who, as my sleeping hours decreased and my
irritability increased, could I turn to for help? My first step, inevitably, was the internet.
Cast your mind back for a second to November 7. What were you doing? More likely
than not you were blissfully unaware that it was National Stress Awareness Day, an idea
proudly championed by the aptly named International Stress Management Association.
Having been on a stress awareness bender, however, I was alert to this fact. So when the
day finally came round, I excitedly checked the internet to see what exciting events were
planned to open up people‟s eyes all over the country to the problem of stress. Television
programmes, I thought, free goodie bags, perhaps even one of those fun stress-busting
games you can play on the internet. You can imagine my disappointment, therefore, when
I logged onto the dedicated website ( only to be greeted
by Stephen Fry‟s face looking pained and confused (should he be my stress busting role
model?) and the rather tacky slogan „Let‟s give stress a holiday‟.
There were two further links on the page, the first was to a list of the top ten ways to bust
stress, each tip punctuated by one of those irritating emoticons, beside which were a few
lines telling me to exercise, make time for myself, and hug people more often. The other
link allowed me to send a virtual postcard complete with an emoticon and my very own
message. I am reliably informed that reception of said postcard did little more than clog
up my friend‟s inbox and take a frustratingly long amount of time to load. There was, as
the final icing on the cake, also a number to call to talk about stress, open only on
November 7 from 8am to 8pm.
I turned instead to the university‟s pages to see what help they could afford me. Three
main services seemed to offer themselves to my cause. Nightline, a „confidential listening
and information service…run by students, for students‟, Duck‟s Life, a „self-help website
where students can share their mental health problems‟, and the University‟s Counselling
Nightline operates on three different levels of communication, face to face, telephone,
and email, and is only open from 8pm to 8am. I sent them an email detailing how stressed
I was - partly exaggerated for research purposes. I got a prompt email back a night later
which was very sweet, but not all that helpful. Their reply consisted mainly of empathetic
statements like „That must be really hard for you‟ and questions like „What do you think
you could do to change this?‟ It was a response, but not a particularly useful one, and
certainly not one that made me feel much better. If anything it made me more aware of
the plethora of problems I had, although what was I expecting? A solution to all my
problems from a stranger who knows nothing about me apart from the fact that I‟m
„stressed‟? The service probably works a lot better as a continuous dialogue, something
which I did not indulge in past the first email. Excellent idea though, and not something
offered at many other universities.
My next call was Duck‟s Life, a site for people to write about things troubling them in
order to get them off their chest. Featuring a forum and a place for posting whole articles,
there were quite a few interesting pieces, especially concerning social anxieties. Some of
the material was poetry, and some of that was depressing verging on the suicidal. I did
feel like there were other people going through similar predicaments to me, but was
slightly put off after discovering a page littered with spam links for soft porn and drug
The counselling service was far more receptive to my needs. They replied to my rather
brief email saying that I was stressed within 24 hours, offering me an appointment over
the next few days and encouraging me to go to one of the specially created relaxation
courses they run. The counselling session was, to say the least, very awkward at first. I
felt shy, and the probing but silent looks from my counsellor left me wondering what I
was supposed to be talking about. Once I got into the flow, however, I soon found myself
talking freely about whatever came into my mind, and the conversation soon wandered
into more specific areas of my life that were stressing me out. I left feeling clearer in my
mind and lighter in my heart than I had felt for a long time. All I had done was explain
my situation to someone who didn‟t know a thing about me, and listened to her pick out
and repeat the main points. Simple, but incredibly effective.
I had also picked up a relaxation CD. For only 50p, I could enjoy my very own 20 minute
de-stress session at home. Of course, in the race of activity and work over the next few
days I completely forgot about it, until one night, trying to finish an essay, the abandoned
thing caught my eye. Sitting comfortably, I found myself closing my eyes and wallowing
in the world created by Lorraine van Donk‟s soothing voice, as she told me to tense and
then relax every muscle in my body step by step, concentrate on the difference, and enjoy
the weight of a relaxed limb. Fairly standard breathing exercises left me feeling sleepy
and calm, and were followed by the best bit of it all, the path to your special place.
Not to be sneered at for its unfortunate name (my housemate was a little confused upon
hearing the line „now touch your special place‟), this was the most relaxing part of the
CD. Spoken in a manner so controlled and soothing the experience was more akin to
hypnotism than anything else, I was told to imagine my special place, visualise the views
and colours, feel the temperature of the air, and finally, reach out and imagine touching a
part of my created world. I found myself peaceful and focussed afterwards, and more
than a little wistful for the realisation of my newly fantasised „special place‟.
However, these are all quite specific services, and of course, will help treat stress if you
have the courage to reach out to ask for the help. Much like going to the doctor or dentist,
treatment is out there, but only if you choose to seek it. But of course treatment of the
symptoms is only one side of dealing with a problem; the other side is preventing the
issue from arising in the first place. And with this idea in mind, I approached the Student
Support Office to see what the university as an institution was doing to address stress.
“Well one of the areas for students we can have the most influence on is money. There is
lots of evidence that money is one the things that students are most concerned about.
Consequentially a series of things go out on York Extra every couple of weeks about
budgeting and use of money, and within that there is a message that if you are in
difficulty there are people you can talk to about it. So we try to help manage one of those
areas that can lead students into stress.” Steve Page, Student Support Services Manager,
looks very calm himself as he talks me through the various ways in which the university
tries to tackle stress. “I mean, we can‟t do much about students‟ academic studies, but we
do have a support structure that hopefully will pick up people who are in difficulty. There
is obviously an element that students need to declare their problem…most students are
over 18 and therefore adult and need to be able to run their own lives, but if we see
someone that is clearly in difficulty I think there are a number of people who will pick
that up. Hopefully academic departments will pick it up if someone‟s work nosedives.
Plus I think the supervisor system is quite good on the whole, they might not see
problems immediately, but they will see trends over time.”
Page, however, is not blind to the problem that I seem to keep on coming up against, the
prospect of creating an environment in which stress is no longer such an accepted and
inseparable part of student life. “We are starting to think: „Can we think a bit more
holistically about well-being and what we as a university can do to approach that?‟ And
to what extent are we able to support the notion of student well-being as a whole. At the
moment I would say we‟ve got some good services, but it would be an additional level if
we thought about it all more holistically. The sports centre, for example, is keen to take a
much more inclusive approach to sport. In the past it has tended to focus solely on the
interests of people who are quite serious about sport, but of course from a stress point of
view some level of exercise is a really good idea. So I think they are thinking about a
sport-for-all approach quite actively.”
It is this kind of attitude which is really needed by both those who are supposed to
provide a support framework for people under stress, and also by the people suffering
from stress themselves. There is no easy cure to stress, although a chat with someone,
anyone, and a space to clear one‟s head goes a long way. The important thing to do is to
change the way we live our lives. So next time the pressure starts building up, think about
what you can change to make your life a bit easier. No-one can have it all, so stop
demanding the impossible from yourself. In the immortal words of Sex and the City,
“Stop expecting it to look how you expected”, and with a few visits to your special place,
you might well find you sleep a bit better at night.

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