The M.I.S.S. Foundation
A Sanctuary for Bereaved Families
Volume 3, Issue 2
Volume 3, Issue 2
Inside this issue:
Life’s Valuable Lessons by Kym Smith, Ohio MISS The World has Fallen
Out of Order
It isn’t often the young face their mortality. I ready had a chance to live. But that was the Legislative Update 4
still think of myself that way…..Young, that is. invaluable lesson his passing began to teach
But of course I don’t like to think about being me. No, death is not fair. It plays by no rules. Baby’s Breath 5
mortal at all. It’s not a pretty subject, actually And so we learned we should make the very
most of us try to avoid it at all costs. We’d most of each day, not knowing how long we Remembering Our 6
prefer to think we just go on this way— have. Being mere mortals, however, we don’t Children
indefinitely. Our rational minds know that always learn our lessons well. We never for-
Memorial Donations 8
someday we won’t be here. But we’d like to get that lost loved one, but time brings healing,
think that someday is very, very far away. For and we begin to take everything for granted Family Survey 9
many it won’t be far away at all. Well, some- again without even realizing it.
times, when we least expect it, death slips up Baby Pictures 10
and gives us a staggering shove...into reality. The feeling came over me again the night I
We feel its stern grip leaving us with an un- received the phone call that one of “the girls Safe Arrivals 12
shakeable chill. It’s a solemn, unavoidable was down and not breathing. Get here now!”
realization that this life as we know it, will It was that night, at midnight, that I lost an- Announcements 13
end. other loved one, this one just as invaluable as
2002 Conference 14
the Little Brother, gone so long ago.
I first faced my own mortality at age 7 ½. After 13 Months, 19 days, and 5 hours on this Bowl-a-thon! 16
My happy little blonde haired brother died af- earth, Cheyenne Autumn, my youngest grand-
ter only 6 ½ years on this earth. He was born daughter passed away. It was devastating to MISS Store 17
with birth anomalies that surgeons had cor- me in a way that is totally indescribable. Once
rected and he attended one week of school. again I was given that staggering shove into Support Groups 18
That week in September 1965, as we played reality. To face life, as I know it now, without
like children should, he fell from the tree. His the little girl I had grown to cherish, who to me
death was devastating to all who knew and was priceless. For over three years now, I
loved him. It wasn’t right. It wasn’t fair. Peo- have carried that lump in my throat, the tears Take Note:
ple like him were not supposed to die. We in my eyes, the emptiness in my heart, of
were sure that was for old people who had al- (Continued on page 2)
• New MISS Chapters are
forming now! See pages
A Kid’s Kindness Project Story by Kate Evans 18 and 19 for Chapter
After my brother Sean died, I tried to think me crazy; I hated to brush it because it had so • Peer contact information
about things I could do in his memory. I many knots. Every time I had to go through available in every issue
wanted to do something that would help other getting the knots out, I had to think – I’m of our newsletter. See
kids. I heard about this organization called growing this in Sean’s memory, I need 10 page 12
“Locks of Love” that takes hair as a donation inches. Well, this past November (my brother
to make wigs for kids that can’t grow their was born and died in November) my Mom cut • Bowl-A-Thon! See page
own hair. I decided that I would grow my hair, my hair for me. You have to cut your hair 16 for information on
since this was something I could do easily. I when it is clean and in a ponytail, and you how to join in the fun.
grew it for 3 years. Sometimes it really drove (Continued on page 2)
Life’s Valuable Lessons (continued from cover) Untitled by Helen Steiner Rice
(Continued from page 1) short. We must make the most of it!
knowing that everywhere I looked, an We give our loved ones
important part of me is MISSing. In Loving Memory of Back to God
Ronald Tice Jr. And just as He did not lose them
Little moving pictures keep running March 28th, 1959 In the giving
through my head: memories we had cre- September 7, 1965 So we have not lost them
ated together, laughter of days gone by, & In returning them to Him.
hugs and mini M & Ms now gone for- Cheyenne Autumn Smith
ever. But scenarios of what life should (pictured at right) For life is immortal,
have been like if there had been a tomor- October 11th, 1997 Love is eternal,
row for she and I remain. November 30th, 1998 Death is only a horizon.
And a horizon is nothing
Once again life had reached out to me Forever Loved, Forever MISSed. But the limit of our earthly sight.
and taught me a lesson, this time, I’d Kym Smith, Ohio MISS Coordinator
never forget. Life is much, much too Submitted in memory of Nicholas and Brittney
Runyan by their Mother, Mindy
My little baby girl,
You were born for love. You were born for us. "God sends children for another purpose than merely to
You have come from my mom. You are an angil keep up the race -to enlarge our hearts; and to make us
now. You have a halow and two wings. You are unselfish and full of kindly sympathies and affection; to
just three years old. You are my young sister give our ‘shoulds’ higher aims; to call out all our facul-
Kimberly. Our family was crying. I hold you ties to extended enterprise and exertion and to bring
only one time. round our firesides bright faces, happy smiles, and lov-
ing, tender hearts. My soul blesses the great Father,
by Kayla Orta, 8 years old every day, that he has gladdened the earth with
December 19, 2001 in memory of her little sister, little children." ~Mary Howitt
Kimberly Deanne, who died April 22, 1998
Submitted in memory of Sarah Vinette by her Mother,
Kid’s Kindness Project: Locks of Love for Sean (continued from cover)
(Continued from page 1)
have to send it to “Locks of Love” still in
the ponytail. We found the directions at
www.locksoflove.org. She showed me
where 10 inches was and I decided for
her to cut it shorter, so she took off 13
inches. So that is what I sent 13 inches. I
have decided to grow my hair again and
keep doing this for as long as I can. I am
so thankful that my hair is so thick and
grows really fast. Every time I donate my
hair it will always be in memory of my
little brother Sean Michael Evans.
By: Kate Evans 1/7/02
Remembering Sean Michael Evans —
November 8, 1997
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The World has Fallen Out Of Order by Katie Hodge
Babies dying. Not seeing the future in my crystal ball?
Mothers crying. Did I fail at not seeing the signs? Or not paying
When does it end? attention to them?
The world has fallen out of order.
The world has been pushed out of order. Or is the truth really that I am failing now?
Unseen reasons lie behind empty-armed mothers. Am I failing him now?
When does it ever end?
In this human capsule we hold so dear to another human Yes, I am alive.
form. And although I cannot yet say I am grateful I survived, I did.
We say: He’s my life! I gave him life!
Didn’t I? I am here.
When did I learn I was separate from you? Blake is not.
When did I learn to fear your departure? Not in a way I can see him with my eyes,
Breathing for only one now. feel his hand wrapped around my finger,
Making decisions for myself only. play with his earlobe between my lips,
Cleaning up after no one but myself. or take a long deep breath of him.
I’d rather clean up after you;
Your empty drink cups, Blake is here in his way.
The disposable plastic cups that somehow I must learn to see him with another kind of eyes.
entertained you for hours…they were blue.
I remember. I see him in the hummingbird that flies close and stares back
The dried fruit cocktail I had to use a knife to scrape at me.
off the floor… I see him in the powerful thunderclouds that race across the
At this very moment, a mother is hearing her child is dead. sky.
What a waste. I see him often in the brilliant, pink sunsets. The ones that
What a failure! take your breath away.
That was my only job! I loved that job! I see him staring back at me every night through the holes in
It was hard but I was complete, I was whole!! the sky we call stars.
Who did this? I want names, addresses, phone numbers!! He gives me the strength of an army every time I am consol-
If I can’t slap God Himself across the face I’m going to do ing a fellow grieving mother.
whatever I can here on this earth! And every time I tell his story, I inspire one more person to be
I want justice! more careful in the deadly weapons we call cars.
I want revenge! To take a little longer before proceeding through an intersec-
I want Them to endure this pain for the rest of their tion.
lives-like I have to!! And to Never, Ever run through a red light.
I want to punish Them!! If nothing else, I hope Blake and I are teaching parents to tuck
their children in a little tighter, and to give them an extra kiss
In the end…Do I? good-night.
Do I ever punish anyone more cruelly, more severely, than I
did myself? With every breath I take, I am created anew.
No. With this breath, I choose to live.
With this voice, I share my son with you.
I was the Mom! With this laugh, Blake is laughing as well.
My one and only job was to keep him safe!
What a failure. I will not fail Blake.
Failure. What a permanently hopeless word. I will Live.
I will change the World.
I will live.
I will live.
But what did I really fail at? I will live.
Not having ESP? or a premonition?
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 3
Arizona, the first state to issue the introduced the MISSing Angels bill on us along the way. Though we have much
"Certificate of Birth Resulting in Still- Tuesday, February 12, 2002. If you are work to do, the unified voices are mak-
birth" for infants who die during or prior in California, please email ing a difference for the children of yes-
to birth, has been issuing hundreds of firstname.lastname@example.org to find out terday, today, and tomorrow.
certificates since the law became effec- where to write for support of AB1929.
tive in August of 2001. Hospitals are At this time, I’d like to remember Tuc-
mandated to offer the certificates to 3. Arizona Congressman, Bob Stump, son, Arizona Democratic Senator Andy
families. Since the Arizona law passed; in Congressional Record pages H10265- Nichols. Senator Nichols along with
66 singled out term, unexplained still- Senators Sue Gerard and Mary Hartley,
1. Utah Senator Ron Allen (D) drafted birth for inclusion in more than one bil- carried the MISSing Angels bill last year
Senate Bill 45, following Arizona's suc- lion in research funds through the Na- as it unanimously passed. Just weeks
cessful guidelines for passage of the tional Institute for Child Health and De- later, on April 22, Senator Nichols died.
"Certificate of Birth Resulting in Still- velopment (NICHD) for the budget year He is greatly missed.
birth." Utah has passed this bill with 2003. This is the first time in history that
unanimous votes in the Senate and the federal government has taken steps In Their Memory,
House. SB45 is law! Utah is the 2nd to fund research for the thousands of in- Joanne Cacciatore
state on board in the U.S. fants who die during or just prior to
birth. Please email your support to Rep. "Never doubt that a small group of com-
2. Indiana Senate Bill 149 is making its Stump at email@example.com. mitted citizens can change the world.
was through the legislature for this im- Special thanks to Richard Olsen for his Indeed, it's the only thing that ever
portant change. Minnesota and Missis- tenacity and hard work. has." -Margaret Mead
sippi recently filed its parallel bill. Sup-
port is gathering in New York! We've come a long, long way on behalf If you are interested in getting involved,
of these families. We are very thankful please email us at
3. California Senator George Runner and very proud of everyone who helped firstname.lastname@example.org
Help Wanted: Volunteers needed for our Community
The MISS Foundation is seeking a volunteer to put together the
MISSing Angels newsletter. Must be experienced in Microsoft
Publisher and have an eye for layout and design. If you are We need people in Prescott, Tucson, Chandler, South
interested, please contact Joanne Cacciatore-Garard (623) 979- Phoenix, Tempe, Mesa, Scottsdale, and Phoenix! Please
1000 or email@example.com if you are interested. Please call Juliegh Fullerton at 623.587.1914 for more infor-
provide samples of your work. mation!
MISS Foundation’s To look into the
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A beautiful gift representing the eternal love between
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Baby’s Breath Healthy Baby Campaign
Research Review Assesses of the grieving family. The research children and adolescents to improve
Progress/Needs Relevant to review reveals the following: quality of care and reduce staff stress.
Psychiatric Aspects of Pediatric • Emotional and behavioral effects of The authors conclude that assessment
Injuries injuries contribute to morbidity and and planning of treatments, based on
"Despite the high priority that injuries mortality in children and adolescents. severity of injury, comorbid
receive in pediatric research and • Progress has occurred in injury psychopathology, bodily location(s), and
treatment, psychiatric aspects are epidemiology, prevention, pain prognosis, are neglected clinical and
neglected," state the authors of an management, acute care, psychiatric research priorities. They suggest that
article published in the October issue of treatment, and outcomes. psychiatric collaboration with
the Journal of the American Academy emergency teams, pediatricians,
• New interventions are being offered
of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. The surgeons, and trauma and rehabilitation
for pain, delirium, post-traumatic
article, part of a series of 10-year teams enhances medical care. They
stress disorder, depression, prior
updates on child and adolescent propose the following areas for future
maltreatment, substance abuse,
psychiatry, presents findings from a research: alleviating pain, early
disruptive behavior, and end-of-life
review of research relevant to the psychiatric case identification, and
psychiatric aspects of injuries in treatment of children, adolescents, and
children and adolescents. • Subgroups at very high psychiatric their families to prevent further injuries
risk have been identified, including and reduce disability.
The authors cite studies showing that those injured by substance abuse,
injuries are the leading cause of violence, or suicide attempt; those Stoddard FJ, Saxe G. 2001. Ten-year
morbidity and mortality among children with catastrophic injuries; and those research review of physical injuries.
in the United States and describe the injured in disasters and war. Journal of the American Academy of
psychiatrist's role as one that extends • Research is beginning to focus on Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 40
from emergency assessment and training for staff who care for injured (10):1128-1145.
treatment through rehabilitation, to care
“I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by
reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience
approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.” --Thomas Paine
Study Cites Need for Improved period. The main outcome measure was • A peak rate of 9.3 intrauterine deaths
Tracking of Traumatic Injury the rate of intrauterine injury deaths, due to motor vehicle accidents per
based on fetal death certificates coded 100,000 live births was observed
to Unborn Children with an underlying cause of death due to among 15- to 19-year-old women.
maternal injury at 20 weeks' gestation or
"Motor vehicle crashes are the leading later, by cause. The authors conclude that the systematic
cause of intrauterine deaths related to
exclusion from U.S. injury surveillance
maternal trauma," according to a study During the 3-year study period : programs of intrauterine/neonatal death
published in the October 17th issue of
• 240 traumatic intrauterine injury has led to a lack of understanding about
JAMA, The Journal of the American
deaths (3.7 fetal deaths per 100,000 frequency, causes, and prevention. They
Medical Association. The authors of this
live births) were identified; assert that improved tracking of trau-
retrospective descriptive study sought to
matic fetal injury deaths is important to
determine the rate of traumatic intrauter- • Motor vehicle crashes were the stimulate and guide research and efforts
ine deaths reported in state's death regis- trauma mechanism in 82% of intrau- to reduce the risks to women and unborn
tries and the types of trauma and physi- terine injury deaths; children from injury during pregnancy.
ologic diagnoses associated with these
deaths. • Reported crash-related intrauterine
deaths exceeded crash-related infant Weiss HB, Songer TJ, Fabio A. 2001.
deaths in three states; Fetal deaths related to maternal injury.
Researchers studied fetal death certifi-
JAMA, The Journal of the American
cates for 1995-1997 from 16 states. • Placental injury was noted in 42% of Medical Association 286(15):1863-
These states represented 55% of live the deaths and maternal death was 1868.
births in the United States during that noted in 11%; and
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 5
March and April
March March April
Juliann Paige Alcorn Joshua Keith Sexton Jessica Nicole French
Jennalee Rose Ambuehl Shannon Lory Smith Matthew Gallardo
Kaylee Dawn Burch Jacklynn Elizabeth Stecker Stephanie Gayosso
Chance Bailey-Leppert Benjamin James Swanson Melissa Godoy
Teighlor Janae Blakemore-Brock Alexander Swartz Azuncion Guzman Jr.
Brandon Michael Boettcher Olivia Monique Swope Olivia Shea Hamilton
Autumn Michelle Cantor Vanessa Jane Tait-Raymond Fabian Eduard Herrera-Lopez
Gabriel Collins Kristiana Faith Tackett Cesar Hoffman
Alexander Culbertson Baby Boy Towler Monica Ann Hudsen
Abigayle Victoria Cunningham Jesse and Nicholas Verde Hunter Michael Johnson
Peter Dannerbeck Erik Andrew Weiss Dawson Thomas Jones
Levi Matthew Dejong Samantha Louise Whitney Jeremiah Kim
Michelle Elizabeth Dickerson Gabriella Elizabeth Wood Cheyenne Elizabeth Kirts
Max Alexander Dingus Reese Alexander Wyrick Emily Skye Kleber
Lucas Darley Dutton Tara Ellen Young Aline Bethann Koerner
Gabriella Faith Fraser Alexander Zeiser Abbi Grace Kontra
Daniel Fritea Dixie Alexandra Lindsey
Alyssa Marie Furman April Ethan Michael Magnuson
Justin Paul Gardner Nathan Marimon
Aiden Gibbs Eian James Albin William McConnell
Angel Gohn Shaun Taylor Bennette Piper McLin Van Middendorp
Chance Michael Harris Cody Bohn Anita Marie O’Kuly
Clayton Alex Haynes Carlie Lynn Brooks Kimberly Deanne Orta
Geneva Elaine Hedman Carsten Cole Buckley Kody Stevens Rye
Esai Edward-Michael Jacquez Guanqi Cao Malcolm Sharratt
Dakota Jones Alesia Dawn Carder Olivia Tatianna Sicilian
Jeremiah Kim Benjamin Joseph Carter Damerio Smith
Allison Rose Kuczmarski Brenton Martel Chevalier Megan Marie Smith
Carina Loren Kurtz Steven Ryan Christie Andrew Travis Sparkes
Lance Gregory Lamere Billy Espinoza Clark Baby Steger
Aaron Wayne Lindsey Max Colbath Nussima Strauss
Amanda Joy Marottek Brianna Conroy Alexander Swartz
Taylor Joy McClure Abel Correa Jordan Lexie Teafatiller
Josef Damien Moeschl III Angela Esther Davenport Andrew Joseph Waden
Tommy Montgomery James Aaron DeLaCruz Jenica Lynn Weeks
Casey James Overacker Gunnar and River Dougherty Teresa Wesley Hough
Mary Palmer Kate Duke
Ryan Andrew Pence Taylor Alisha Dushion
Maria Valentina Rosales Johnathan Edwards
Samuel Andrew Seaney
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March March April
Juliann Paige Alcorn Casey James Overacker Ashlyn Etzenhouser
Ashley Karin Marie Allen Mary Palmer Chadwick File
Jase Allen Ambrose Lili Claire Resnick Jessica Nicole French
Jennalee Rose Ambuehl Maria Valentina Rosales Azuncion Guzman Jr.
Kaylee Dawn Burch Kylie Laine Schuetz Rachel Ann Hage
Chance Bailey-Leppert Joshua Keith Sexton Olivia Shea Hamilton
Rachel Taylor Barberian Keanu Wesley Sobalvarro Hailee Miranda Karen Hildreth
Connor Bentley Jacklynn Elizabeth Stecker Cesar Hoffman
Teighlor Janae Blakemore-Brock Elizabeth Stewart Hunter Michael Johnson
Autumn Michelle Cantor Olivia Monique Swope Macy J. Kelly
Gabriel Collins Kristiana Faith Tackett Jeremiah Kim
Nicomah Patrick-Michael Crowkiller- Harrison Lennon Thiergart Cheyenne Elizabeth Kirts
Scherr Baby Boy Towler Emily Skye Kleber
Alexander Culbertson Amanda Marie Truxell Aline Bethann Koerner
Abigayle Victoria Cunningham Jesse and Nicholas Verde Abbi Grace Kontra
Lucas Darley Dutton Erik Andrew Weiss Braeden Alexander Krosschell
Gabriella Faith Fraser Zane Allen White Annika Jean Lindroth
Daniel Fritea Samantha Louise Whitney Dixie Alexandra Lindsey
Justin Paul Gardner Megan Lee Wondra Ethan Michael Magnuson
Mikaela Gensel Reese Alexander Wyrick William McConnell
Angel Gohn Alexander Zeiser Piper McLin Van Middendorp
Tatum Tea-Ann Hawley Gwyneth Winter Mitchell
Geneva Elaine Hedman April Tommy Montgomery
Lyle Heinonen Emilia Victoria Munoz
Priya Cecelia Jain Mercedes Adame Anita Marie O’Kuly
Sonia Jiminez Hannah Kathleen Bayer Colton Andrew Openshaw
Cody Alan Johnson Carlie Lynn Brooks Kimberly Deanne Orta
Dakota Jones Guanqi Cao Ryan Andrew Pence
Lance Gregory Lamere Jeremy Russell Chepeus Jillian Lane Perry-Armentrout
Jack Wallace Langmade Brenton Martel Chevalier Colten Riley Pitsch
Melanie Lopez Steven Ryan Christie Emmanuel Ruiz
Robert Lopez IV Billy Espinoza Clark Olivia Tatianna Sicilian
Conner Brian Thomas Loughlin Brianna Conroy Megan Marie Smith
Amanda Joy Marottek Caroline-Marie Jordan Cooper De La Andrew Travis Sparkes
Audrey Sinclare Marshall Cerda Baby Steger
Taylor Joy McClure Alexis-Lucille Fancy Cooper De La Cerda Nussima Strauss
Imogen Mighty Meagher Angela Esther Davenport Vanessa Jane Tait-Raymond
Carlos Meneses Jakob Bradley Detwiler Jordan Lexie Teafatiller
Carol Michelle Mickelson Gunnar and River Dougherty Andrew Joseph Waden
Sabrina Mills Jon Dukes Jeremiah Jadon Thomas Wilson
Josef Damien Moeschl III Taylor Alisha Dushion Lance John Zytka
Michelle Nieves Steven Anthony Endieveri
To the families of these children, Our sympathies for your recent loss…
Courtney Begay Jacqueline Flores Makayla McMurtrey
Lydia Jean Boettcher Malena Gallardo Julian Andres Olvera
Veronica Burk Emily Gardner Travis Taron Peters
Baby Burton Maya Hernandez Mirage Trujillo
Wesley Crofford Cardon Johansson Damien Michael Webb
Kate Duke Raekwan Jones Dakota William Young
Erika Xioma Fajardo Ledesma Mason James Marino Shelby Zalanka
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 7
Memorial Donations In Loving Memory of . . .
Cody Elijah Iverson Dana Jane
by Angela, Brian, Christian, and Brandon Iverson Loved by Mommy, Daddy, Sarah, Jack, and Lila
and her Uncle Peter Duncan
by his mother, Katie Hodge Patrick Lanham
by Carol and Sean Lanham
Kimberly Deanne Orta
by her loving parents, Tony & Mary, and her sisters Cheyenne Cacciatore
by an Anonymous donor by Luigi Cacciatore of Pieta, Malta
Abbygale Mary Miller Alesia Dawn Carder
in memory of our precious daughter by her loving aunt
by Donelle Miller
Wesley Allen Crofford
Skyler Kirby Schmidt by Brian and Emily Vaniman,
by his parents, Bruce & Linda, and his siblings, Saw- his loving grandparents
yer, Shayla, and Sidney
Colin Edward Witcraft
Tyler Brandon Lotz by Kelly Witcraft
by his loving mother, Kimberly
Josephine "Jo" Cacciatore by Dawn George
by Rollin and Jody Garard
by Jerry and Carol Garard Tyler Branden Lotz
by Kaye and Dan Jones by Theo and Kim Lotz in loving remembrance of
by Sally Garard Tyler on his 6th birthday
Justin Synan Megan Syverson
by His loving father, Dean by Mike Seigley and Laura Seifert
Brodie Myles Kehoe Nainoa Buchwach Gunnar and River Dougherty
by his parents Brennan and April By their Auntie
Emily Irene Adomaitis
By her parents, John and Mary Beth and her new
baby sister, Kathryn Elaine
by Linda L. Davis
Carina Loren Kurtz
by family friends "To live in society doesn't mean simply living side by
side with others in a more or less close cohesion; it
Charles Samuel Caskey means living through one another
By the Pfizer Corporation and for one another."
- Paul Eugene Roy
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Grieving Family Survey
All information will be confidential. Some of the data may be used confidentially to help educate and inform others at our Passages
2002 Conference. We share in your sorrow and hope that this information will help others in the future.
This is a strictly confidential survey. Your privacy will be respected. There are no wrong or right a
Today’s Date ________________________________________________________________________________________
1. When did your child/grandchild die? ___________________________________________________________________
2. What was the cause of death? _________________________________________________________________________
3. How old was your child when he or she died? ____________________________________________________________
4. Year(s) of birth of other children in the home? ___________________________________________________________
5. Did you grow up in a specific religion? If so, which religion? _______________________________________________
6. What religion, if any, do you practice now? _____________________________________________________________
7. What is your ethnic identity(ies)? _____________________________________________________________________
8. What is your relationship to the deceased child? __________________________________________________________
9. Did you have any sense of any kind about your child’s impending death? ______________________________________
10. Did you have any knowledge that your child was in danger prior to the events prior to the events leading to your child’s
11. Describe the circumstances of your child’s death as specifically as possible: ___________________________________
12. Are you willing to be interviewed by a research volunteer for the MISS Foundation? If so, please complete below:
Your Name __________________________________________________________________________________________
Phone Number _______________________________________________________________________________________
Best time to contact ___________________________________________________________________________________
Please return to: MISS Foundation Research /PO Box 5333/Peoria, Arizona/85385
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 9
Brenton Martel Chevalier
Kaylee Dawn Burch
Alesia Dawn Carder
Alexander Michael Swartz
Gunnar and River Dougherty
Blake Cash Braeden Alexander Krosschell Annika Jean Niki Lindroth
Chadwick William File Josef Damien “JD” Moeschl III
Amanda Faith Olson
Hunter Michael Johnson
Imogen Mighter Moen Meaghen Kaylee Dawn Burch Tara Ellen Young
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Jakob Detwiler Zane Allen White Jakob Jeffrey Ollar Jon Dukes (with Skeeter)
Jenica Weeks Jillian Lane Perry-Armentrout Kimberly Deanne Orta Lili Claire Resnick
Mary Palmer Melissa Godoy Rachel Hage Sammy Seaney
Danielle Marie Hansen
Alyssa Marie Furman Teighlor Janae Brock Brandon Boettcher
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 11
Our Volunteers Matter! Thank Arizona Peer Contacts
Thank you to the Kennedy Family for their donation of Children's If you need one on one support and friendship
Book for our Outreach program in memory of Jared! contact one of our Peer Contacts. Because we
understand your pain. Call if you need to talk.
Glendale Active 20-30 Club for their generous donation to our
Family Support Program Angela Iverson 623-572-0334
Juleigh Fullerton 623-587-1914
Special thanks to Angela Iverson for working with the MISS Lee Ann Morlan 480-963-9844
Foundation to develop an interactive Funeral Planning Sheet for Kellie and Nathan Gatewood 602-866-3645
newly bereaved families. Now available online. Thanks to Linda Tom and Traci Johnson 602-789-8068
Schmidt for her assistance in our billboard program! The MISS Alan and Karen Wondra 623-412-9806
Foundation now has 10 informational billboards in Phoenix! Andy Castellanos 623-780-9546
Linda Schmidt 602-362-8838
Thanks for the General Donations: Ed and Robin Kennedy 602-547-1244
Tina Ball Anne Rumps (Tucson) 520-795-4712
Pfizer Pharmaceuticals Jim Nibali 480-814-7013
Any Charity Unlimited
Dr. Abby Garcia, LLC (Toddler Contact):
Heather Lewis 623-334-4044
Tell your friends and relatives: The MISS Foundation is a write in
Ed and Robin Kennedy 602-547-1244
agency (you can write us in the blank) for their employer's United
Way Designee Program. Please ask them to choose us as their
(Subsequent Pregnancy/Family Planning):
Anna Kennedy 602-439-9025
Margaret Abarr 623-872-8082
"If I have learned anything it is that life forms no (Drowning/Accidents):
logical patterns. It is haphazard and full of Katie Hodge 602-571-8758
beauties which I try to catch as they fly by, for
who knows whether any of them will ever return." (Spanish Contact):
Alicia Cunningham 623-772-1358
—Margot Fonteym Mindy Runyan (Kingman) 928-757-2348
Submitted in memory of Claire Nibali, by her dad, Jim Support groups and contacts for areas outside
of Arizona can be found on page 18 of this
Safe Arrivals …
Elizabeth Brooke Hargis Claire Elizabeth Kaneshiro Elizabeth Brooke
January 14, 2002 October 30, 2001 Daughter of Brandy, sister of Ashleigh
To Stephen and Brandy, sister to Proud parents Ernie and Patti, little sis- Marie
Meghan and Ashleigh Marie in Heaven ter to Helen (8-15-00 to 10-29-00)
Sophie Elizabeth Kelly Aneesah Qahwash to Fai and Roger, sibling of Colleen P
and Emme Elizabeth Kelly December 4, 2002
Twin daughters of Curtis and Charmin Proud parents Nader and Angela Lindsay Brown
Sisters to Kristopher and Heaven sent by Deceased Sibling: Ahmad daughter of Harold and Cheryl, sister of
big sister Macy Joy Living Sibling: Yasmeen Courtney
Charles Bailey Haynes Maegan Renee Grace Loomis Ethan Eric Jacobson
January 10, 2002 to the Loomis family, watched over by to the Jacobson Family, brother of
Welcomed by parents Kerrie and Trip big sister Maclaine Harley and Hayden
Haynes, and watched over from heaven
by big brother Samuel
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New Kentucky Support Group News From Idaho
Facilitator: Kelly Nicholls We are delighted to have an email address and phone line dedicated to
Date: First Thursday of each month (first meeting Feb. 7) The MISS Foundation Idaho for Idaho's families.
Phone number with 24 hr voice mail back up is: 208-861-2407
Address: Heartland Worship Center
4777 Alben Barkley Drive in Paducah MISSFoundationIdaho@msn.com is the e-mail address. Thanks to the
Directions: Take exit 7 of I-24 onto US Hwy 60. Will see generosity of the Idaho Perinatal Project, MISS was given a display
large church with a lot of flags. Enter church through main table at a 3 day winter conference held at Boise State University this
entrance (by fountain). Several support groups meet there past February. The 200+ attendees were from medical communities
on Thursday nights and an attendant will be in the lobby that care for pregnant women and their babies in Idaho and the North-
for assistance. FREE CHILD CARE is available. This is western states. Our goal was to inform this group about The MISS
an infant/toddler support group. Please contact Kelly Foundation and to encourage these professionals and medical centers
Nicholls at (270) 395-7668 if have questions. to establish bereavement policies and after care programs for their pa-
tients / parents that have had a baby die. March of Dimes - Idaho dis-
played next to our table and has been very supportive of our mission.
Tucson, Arizona Infant Death Support Group Their mission of Saving babies, together has our support as well.
Starts March 27, 2002
MISS mom, Tisha Grant is facilitator for the MISS Idaho's pregnancy
Wednesday at 7:00 p.m.
and adoption after loss support group. Contact Tisha at 208-345-8112
102 N. Plumber, Early Childhood Office
Facilitator Anne Rumps at 520-795-4712
Meetings will be the last Wednesday of every month
MISS Continues its Transnational Expansion
We have a new peer contact for Chinese speaking families. Mei Zhou
Nepal: has volunteered her time to the foundation. Mei, a member of the
Imprisonment for Stillbirth MISS Foundation, is working on her Doctoral Thesis and many of you
have already participated in her research.
The ancient laws of garbhabat (destruction of life) call for Alicia Cunningham and Carla Hoffman continue to expand their
mothers who abandon their children to be put in jail. How- outreach to Hispanic families in Arizona, South America, and through-
ever, they also put a woman in jail if she has a stillborn out the world!
child. Authorities take these women and their living chil-
dren to jail to serve lengthy jail terms in flea-infested pris- Thank you all so much! Grief has no cultural boundaries!
ons. To help get the garbhabat laws repealed contact:
Ambassador Bhech B. Thapa, Nepalese Embassy, 2131 Research Study Call
Leroy Place NW, Washington DC 20008 (202) 667-4550. Mei Zou, a doctoral candidate, is studying parenting styles of women
Click http://www.paulawalla.com/letternep.html for a who have had successful subsequent children after the death of another
sample letter you can paste into your word processing pro- child. If you are able to participate in the study, please email
gram, personalize, and send to the ambassador. To help firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll send you the survey. Mei Zou got
feed and educate the imprisoned children of these perse- her Masters in Linguistics and Applied Linguistics in China. Upon
cuted women, write or send donations to Director, PAM graduation in 1995, she taught English at a university. She came to
Nestling Home, PO Box 1649, Katmandu, Nepal. America to pursue her Ph.D. degree in Educational Psychology and
(Source: Good Housekeeping Magazine) Methodology at University at Albany, State University of New York
on September 18, 1999. One month later, Mei was pregnant. The fol-
Don’t miss out!!! We sold out last year, don't lowing nine months were the happiest time in their lives. But their
miss out on this great event! world crashed when the doctor could not locate our daughter’s heart-
beat on April 9, 2001, her due date. Their daughter is a precious gift
2nd Annual who has taught them to be tolerant, patient, to love and appreciate.
Children's Memorial Golf Tournament They will miss her and love her forever.
Kierland Golf Club
September 14, 2002, 8a.m. tee off
Cost: $65.00 per golfer “If you begin to live life looking for the God that is
Registration via web: missfoundation.org/events all around you, every moment becomes a prayer.”
Registration via email: email@example.com --Frank Bianco
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 13
The Culture of Grief: When a Child Dies
May 23, 24, and 25, 2002
Scottsdale Paradise Valley Doubletree Resort 5401 N. Scottsdale Road 1.800.222.TREE
Track A: Creative– Healing Workshops
Track B: For Professionals and Families who Volunteer/Paraprofessionals
Track C: For Professionals– May be Sensitive Content
Plenary: All Attendees
Thursday, May 23, 2002
“The Power of Compassion: A Phenomenological Approach to Child Death”
Speaker: Joanne Cacciatore
8:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Breakfast and Luncheon Provided
(Optional 60 page manual available for additional $25.00 for professionals)
For professionals, educators, and para-professionals, this day long workshop includes the following topics: Profes-
sional and Business Ethics, Enhancing Crisis Communication Skills, Facilitation of the Bereavement Processes, Rituals
and Ceremonies, Cross Cultural Diversity: How Other Cultures Cope with Death , Helping the Grieving Child, Com-
munity Resource Awareness, What Families have Taught us About Organ Donation, Gender Grieving Styles, and
more. This class will help enhance awareness and sensitivity during a crisis situation.
Thursday Evening Optional Reception for Conference Guests and Speakers
Friday, May 24, 2002
7:30 a.m. Registration and Breakfast
Dr. Victor Shamas, University of Arizona
“Death: The Enigmatic Teacher”
Dr. John DeFrain, Professor of Family Sciences & Author
“How Strong Families Endure the Death of Their Child: Research and Observations since 1975”
Music by Paul Alexander: GriefSong
Track A Track B Track C
Creative Expressions: Healing Thru Poetry Grief in the Workplace: A Community Tragedy Professionals Grieve, Too:
Kara L.C. Jones Dr. Bud Leikvoll Judy Harmon, MS, RN
The Power of Meditation: Crying with Crayolas: The Grieving Child Unknown Child Death:
Reconnecting Your Power The Grieving Child The Difficult Investigation
Paul Alexander Dr. Chip Finch Sgt. Randy Force
Memorial Websites: Design and Maintenance Unspoken Connections: Intuitive Bonds The Autopsy Scene
of Your Child’s Memorial Between Parent & Child (Sensitive Photographs)
Jami Garrison Dr. Victor Shamas Dr. Mark Fischione
6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Messages Revealed in Our Dreams- Dr. Marlene Shiple
7:30p.m. to 9:00 p.m. “Scrapbooking to Remember” Creative Workshop (Bring Photos)
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Saturday, May 25, 2002
Breakfast 8:30 a.m. to 9:00 a.m.
Sessions 9:00 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.
Track A Track B Track C
Transforming the Loss: Sharing Couples Child Death Investigation : Q&A Forum Caring for Critically Ill Children
Paul Alexander Sgt. Randy Force Lisa Burns, RN, BSN, CCRN
The Caring Physician: From Idea to Law: Legislative Changes Suspicious Child Deaths
Dr. Guillermo Gutierrez Richard K. Olsen Dyanne Greer, J.D.
12:30 p.m. to p.m. 2:00 Luncheon Provided
Honoring Our Heroes: Families Remember their Caregivers
“The Healing Power of Song and Ritual”
7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.
Candlelight Children’s Memorial Ceremony
Kids in Sympathy & Support Bring the Kids,
Children’s Program: For Grieving
Children ages 5-17
From 8-5 on Friday and Saturday During Adult Sessions
In the Flagstaff Room
During Regular Conference Hours
Activities include: Music Therapy, Writing and Art Expressions, Power Talk: Group Discussion, Visits from Phoenix Fire
and Police Departments, Adventure Sam Magic Show, Play Time, Balloon Release to Remember
C ONFERENCE R ATES– I NCLUDES B REAKFAST, B REAKS , AND L UNCHEON
C HILDREN’ S R ETREAT : O NE D AY $30.00 T WO D AYS $50.00
O NE D AY P ER P ERSON: $50.00 F AMILY M EMBER $90.00 P ROFESSIONAL
T WO D AYS P ER P ERSON: $100.00 F AMILY M EMBER $145.00 P ROFESSIONAL
T HREE D AYS P ER P ERSON: $150.00 F AMILY M EMBER $190.00 P ROFESSIONAL
T HURSDAY E VENING O PTIONAL R ECEPTION D INNER ADD $15.00 PER P ERSON
C ONTINUING E DUCATION P ROVIDED FOR P ROFESSIONALS
S OME S CHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE B ASED ON F INANCIAL N EED Today!
C ALL 623.979.1000 FOR F INANCIAL A ID OR S CHOLARSHIP APPLICATION
Check Paid: Specify Day 1, 2, 3, or ALL DAYS Rate
Deceased Name and Date of Birth and Death Child Name________________________
Method of Payment Visa
Return to: MISS Conference Registrar
P.O. Box 5333
Bill Agency Peoria, Arizona 85385
Credit Card # Thursday Optional Reception Add $15/person
Signature PROFESSIONALS: Add Manual $25.00
Volume 3, Issue 1
Issue 2 Total:
8724 N. Black Canyon Hwy. Phx. (602) 995-5135
Crossroads/Dunlap Ave. at Black Canyon Hwy.
Saturday, April 27, 2002
Adults & Teens (14yrs & up) $10.00 per person
Children (6yrs-13yrs) $6.00 per person
(includes 2 games, shoes and bumpers for the kids)
Proceeds to benefit The MISS Foundation
“Passages 2002” Conference
For information or tickets contact:
Deborah Brooks (623) 487-4275
Angie Kramer (602) 973-1837
The MISS Foundation is a nonprofit, volunteer-based organization committed to providing
emergency support to families after the death of their child.
For more information call (623) 979-1000 or visit www.missfoundation.org
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Support Our MISSion!
ITEM DESCRIPTION SIZE QTY PRICE TOTAL
Kindness Cards, please indicate quantity and price: circle:
10 card set for $2.00 10 $2.00
50 card set for $7.00 50 $7.00
100 card set for $11.00 100 $11.00
250 card set for $23.00 250 $23.00
Circle Type of Card: For Parents - or – For Everyone
MISS Foundation “Angel” T-shirt $15.00
Avail sizes: Kids, S, M, L, XL, XXL, XXXL
Kaleidoscope of Grief—Children’s Grief Workbook n/a $5.00
Kaleidoscope of Grief—en espanol n/a $5.00
Angel Pin (please specify boy or girl) $5.00
Newsletter Annual Subscription voluntary DONATION n/a $15.00
Dear Cheyenne Grief Book n/a $8.00
Passages — Memorial book of Angels $10.00
Sacred Hearts—MISS Foundation Logo Necklace 20” chain $60.00
ADD $4 SHIPPING TO ALL ORDERS $4.00
TOTAL ORDER ò
I would like to include an additional donation of $________________
My donation is in memory of
Please send a memorial card to:________________________________________________
For a larger selection, please visit our online store at information about you:
Send order form along with
your Check or Money Order to:
The MISS Foundation—Volunteer Store
P.O. Box 5333
Peoria, AZ 85385
The MISS Foundation is an All-Volunteer,
Non-Profit 501c(3) Organization Zip/Postal Code:
All Donations are Tax Deductible!
Phone: ( )
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 17
MISS Foundation Chapters Outside of Arizona
California—Riverside Idaho - Boise Ohio
2nd Monday of each month, 6:00 p.m. 1st Tuesday of month, 7:00 pm 1st Thursday of month, 7:00 p.m..
Hunt Park Community Center The Cathedral of the Rockies Church 16195 State Rt 170
4015 Jackson St Nancy and Peter Grayson East Liverpool, Ohio
909-686-2686 Mia (208) 861-2407 (330) 385-8774 Kym Smith
California—Arcadia Missouri—Hannibal Kentucky
3rd Thursday of each month, 6:30 p.m. Last Wednesday of each month, 7:00 p.m. First Thursday of each month, 6:30 p.m.
Arcadia Congregational Church Holiday Inn Express, Meeting Room Heartland Worship Center
Prince Erick Hall 4000 Market St, Hannibal 4777 Alben Barkley Drive, Pacucah
626-357-4816 Jana Vorhis Tscscorpio@homestead.com Tamela Cole Kelly Nicholls (270)395-7668
California—Ocean Side New Jersey– Galloway Twp Virginia, Wash DC and Maryland
For information on this group contact 1st Tuesday of each month, 7:00 p.m. First Wednesday of the month, 7:30 p.m.
760-806-9812 Alisa Detwiler Galloway Twp Fairfax County Government Center
Alisa@missfoundation.org Municipal Building, Historical Room 12000 Government Ctr Parkway
609-601-0563 Kathy Evans Fairfax, Virginia
Illinois– Chicago New York– Yonkers Washington—Vashon Island
Beginning soon! (Call or email for times/dates) 3rd Monday of each month, 7:30 p.m.
Email Mary Geitz The Plymouth House Library meeting room or
Mary@missfoundation.org 1730 Central Park Av, Yonkers Member household, call for info
Jennine@missfoundation.org 206-251-6706 Kara Jones
914-378-1613 Jennine Jo Shull or Kara@missfoundation.org
Illinois—Sandwich Maryland — Westminster If you are interested in starting a group,
4th Monday of each month, 7:00 p.m. 1st Monday of month, 7:00 p.m. email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Salem Lutheran Church Church of the Brethren in
Lower level dining area Westminster, Maryland
1022 Main St, Sandwich Info: Lisa 443-415-4445
Pictured at right… The MISS
Foundation receives a generous $500
donation from the PT Cruiser Owners
Club. Special thanks to Steve Hyslop,
the Northern AZ Director of the PT
Owners Club for thinking of the MISS
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MISS Foundation Support Groups
Phoenix Monthly Meetings Subsequent Pregnancy Support Group Prescott
Infant Death Support Group 2nd Thursday of each month, 7:00 p.m. 3rd Thursday of each month, 7:00 p.m.
3rd Thursday of each month, 6:30 p.m. Church of the Beatitudes - meets in nursery Prescott Public Library Mtg Room
Heritage Church 555 W Glendale Ave Bonnie Mari
5830 W Greenbriar Road (SE Corner 7th Av/Glendale) Bonnie@missfoundation.org
(59th Ave, North of Bell Rd) Babies are welcome at this group!
623-979-1000 (24 hours) 602-439-9025 Anna@missfoundation.org
Phoenix Christian Support Group KISS—Kids In Sympathy & Support KISS—Kids In Sympathy & Support
Term Stillbirth thru 2 years of age For Kids in Grief NorthWest Valley For Kids in Grief SouthEast Valley
Meets every 6 weeks 4th Saturday of each month, 10:00 a.m. 2nd Saturday of each month, 2:00 p.m.
Pure Heart Christian Fellowship Heritage Church Dayspring United Methodist Church
17855 N Black Canyon Hwy 5830 W Greenbriar 1365 E Elliott, Rooms 201 and 202
Pre-register with Kellie Gatewood (59th Ave, North of Bell Rd) (between McClintock and Rural)
602-866-3645 602-547-1244 Robin@missfoundation.org 480-814-7013 Jim Nibali
Tucson Begins Wednesday, March 27 Central Valley Infant Death Meetings East Valley Infant Loss Support Group
Last Weds. of each month at 7:00 p.m. 2nd Thursday of each month, 7:00 p.m. 1st Thursday of each month, 6:30 p.m.
102 N. Plumber, Early Childhood Office North Hills Church DaySpring United Methodist Church
Call Anne Rumps 15025 N 19th Ave, bldg C 1365 E Elliott Rd, Room 201
(520) 795-4712 (19th Ave and Greenway Rd) Facilitator: Lee Ann Morlan
Anne@missfoundation.org 602-841-4114 480-963-9844
Letters From Our Mailbox . . .
Dear MISS Foundation, Dear Nancy Grayon (MISS Foundation of Idaho),
My name is Donna Carder. I am the secretary/public officer of a Thank you for your donation to the Botanical Gar-
support group and not for profit organisation in Australia. We have den's Winter-A-Glow event for our families at the
recently had a member contact us about the death of her baby. I was Idaho Ronald McDonald House. Three of our fami-
looking for something to put in a card when I came across your site. lies were fortunate to be able to attend the event and
thoroughly enjoyed it. The opportunity to experience
I think that it is a very good one. I have also heard of random acts of a world beyond the environment of a child's illness
kindness on an Australian Charities web site here in Australia. was very appreciated by these families.
The reason for my mail other than to say how good I found your site The Hope and Hug tickets, as part of the Kindness
was to ask could I propose to my committee that we consider plac- Project, is a wonderful idea! They are even more
ing your site as a link on ours. We are not big enough to currently meaningful when given in loving remembrance of
have our own bereavement councilling services and I think it may Joel Grayson, a child, and Jo Cacciatore, a Nana.
be helpful to some of our members to be able to look at your site.
Thanking you again for your friendship and sup-
If you wish to check us out our Internet address is www. port…
heartkidsnsw.org.au. I am hoping that you would also write a little
blurb about your organisation so that I may present it at our next Sincerely,
meeting in the new year. Carol Hagan
Volume 3, Issue 2 Page 19
New Name—Same Site!
www.MISSChildren.org is now www.MISSFoundation.org
We’ve changed the name of our website. While the old name will still get you to our site, please make a point to change your
bookmarks to reflect the new website name as we transition from the old to the new!
Walk/Run to Remember
Shop and Support!
The MISS Foundation is in the process of
Shop for those special gifts at
our MISS Store online! All
planning a Walk/Run to Remember. This is
proceeds directly benefit the a great time for children, parents, and grand-
Foundation. parents to gather together. If you are willing
to help volunteer for this or would like more
We now have wonderful chil- information, please contact Katie Hodge at
dren’s t-shirts available with
the quote, “If children are old
602.571.8758 or Katie@missfoundation.org
enough to love, then they are
old enough to grieve.”
Picture at left, Tom Johnson, father of Hunter Mi-
Visit our online store at
chael Johnson, running to remember his son at last
year’s Great Human Race
The MISSing Angels newsletter is published bi-monthly by the MISS Foundation, a non-profit corporation. Letters, articles, and pho-
tos may be submitted to the MISS Foundation, P.O. Box 5333, Peoria, AZ 85385 in word or jpg format. For address changes or to be
added to the mailing list write to the address above or email us at email@example.com.
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Because all the Children Matter...
I have learned that it is the weak who are cruel and mean-spirited.
It is the strong who are humble, unassuming, and nonjudgmental.